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TTC after miscarriage - A New Start to a New Year x x x

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diddle · 06/01/2006 15:43

Ok ladies, here we go a nice new thread for us to share our fears and smiles on.

Lets keep smiling and positive, and make sure that this is a Happy year for everyone.

Life is far too short to waste, and after such a rough year for most of us last year, lets make 2006 an extra special one x x x

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diddle · 12/01/2006 07:58

morning all.

Hope you're all okay this frosty morning. is it frosty over there in northants HK?? Freezing here.

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HellKat · 12/01/2006 08:01

It is, very bracing this morning. Frost everywhere. Now we need snow

Coathanger · 12/01/2006 08:37

Okay very quick and to the point coz gotta get kids to school.

Bleeding again - a weekafter I stopped last month!!! This means I have had a 24 day cycle and I bleed for 16 days of that. P**ssed off doesn't cover it. The scan I had on Friday showed nothing in my womb - no lining - it was clear. So it looks like my body doesn't allow any lining to build up, just sheds it. So what hope have I got of my body holding onto a baby.

HellKat · 12/01/2006 08:41

Oh sweety. It might just mean your body is preparing itself. Having a total clean out to make sure its perfect for when the time comes. here's hoping it eases xxxxxxx

Carameli · 12/01/2006 08:58

Hi,

only around for a little this morning, going to soft play with dd and to drink lots of tea and coffee with a friend.

CH: hope you are feeling a bit better today.

Jane: hope you are feeling better about the lump. I had a similar thing. Lived with a small one for a couple of years and ended up getting it removed as I was just too stressed. but it was perfectly fine, cannot remember what they called it.

(((((((hugs)))))) to all who need one here...
In a rush this morning, not having a good one either. My temps are dropping, af due Sunday. doesn't help that dh got really upset and starting to get stressed about our dd not being an only child. He is also stressed about his age(41 in a few weeks) arrrrggggg not what I need!!!
and the fact that his job might mean him being on a project away from home soon( although spending a few nights to bd in a posh hotel with him doesn't sound that awful to me
but arrrgggg, he even thought I did not seem to upset this morning when I took my temperature.

sorry to go on just really need to get it out of my system.....

Carameli · 12/01/2006 09:05

CH: just read your last msg, you poor thing. I agree with Hellkat, it might be your system clearing itself out.
Hope you find some answers.

Have to dash, have a good morning everyone. I am off to soft play centre and lots of chocolate.

Coathanger · 12/01/2006 09:08

But HK, mate, how much more clearing out has it got to do! This will be the third month of this and the scan said I was clear. I think i am just broken and quite honestly I think I want the whole lot taken away. Being realistic, there is no way I will ever have another baby. DH doesn't want it and he quite obviously can provide it. So I'm just wasting energy and crying tears every month for something that will never happen. Honest, I think I have got to start telling my self I don't want anymore children and get on with my sad little life

Coathanger · 12/01/2006 09:14

I'm sorry if I am coming across as a bit narky, but I am so upset about this. I really though thismonth was a good one. What with seeing I was about to OV and beig told everything was okay in there. I can't express on here just how I feel about all this. I really, really don't think I can keep this up every month. I will never get my baby and I can't deal with that right now - I'm not in the right frame of mind, I'm not sleeping, I have other things on my mind too and it is all getting on top of me.

Ladies you have a mission coz I am gonna need some serious cheering up next weekend

HellKat · 12/01/2006 09:14

{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}} babe, you have'nt got a sad little life, far from it! You're having a crap time atm, and while it feels like this now, it won't be forever. Your body may have readjusted itself to having a big bleed every month, it does'nt mean you can't get pg. At least you know you can now ov (which is fab) and as long as your dh has at least one little swimmer, and your fertile, there's hope. There's always hope. Life deals crappy, unfair blows darling, but we have to be strong, dust ourselves off and say "Sod it, I can do this". Put the ttc lark at the back of your mind, throw yourself into college work and sure enough it will happen when you least expect it.
No matter how bad things get sweetheart, keep thinking there's so many people out there far worse than we are. Love & hugs my lovely xxxxxxx

HellKat · 12/01/2006 09:14

And stop apologising hun. You've every reason to be feeling crappy. xxxxx

Carameli · 12/01/2006 09:16

ch, what have the Drs said about it. Please don't give up hope. I wish I could say more but I don't know enough about things like this. But sending you lots of (((((HUGS)))))

HellKat · 12/01/2006 09:20

Back in a bit all, off to get the shopping done.
xxxxxxxxxxxx

diddle · 12/01/2006 09:33

CH - Hellkat is spot on! There is always hope, and you know i understand how low you're feeling. Look forward to all the good stuff you ahve happening, and relax about the ttc lark, your time will come.

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Coathanger · 12/01/2006 10:03

I think my coping mechanism st the moment is to tell myself that I won't have anymore. Kind of a worst scenario kind of thing. Anyway, I have 3 beautiful boys already so perhaps I should count my blessings and move on.

slinkstah · 12/01/2006 10:14

CH- am gutted for you babe especially as you had a folicle the other day on your scan, although this does mean you must be ovulating so thats good news.
you must be so fed up with bleeding for so long have you had tests to check if your hormones are ok- must be a hormone imbalance
maybe you have got estrogen dominance which is aparently quite common and caused by the food we eat and its plastic packaging amongst other things, i remember reading about it a while ago and being quite shocked. maybe you should try natural progesterone cream. i don't know enough to tell you about it but you may want to reseacrh it your self if you haven't before
also maybe you should go and see a herbalist too and see what they can give you to balance hormones.
don't give up, it will happen
(((((hugs)))))

HK hope the pain isn't too bad, well i actually really hope your pain is from constipation instead of mc, i hope you know one way or the other soon as waiting must be awful

HumphreysCorner · 12/01/2006 10:15

Morning ladies

Coathanger-feel free to let it all out-do not keep it bottled up! Sending you lots of hugs my sweet ((((((xxxxxx))))))

HellKat-((((((xxxxxx)))))) to you to.

G4-hope DH gets his job ((xx))

jane-how are you doing? ((xx))

Krackers-have you done another test? ((xx))

carly, Charlee and Carameli-hope you get your BFP's ((xx))

Good news about Slinkstah

By the way, did that personality test. I am depressed etc and am Hitler!!!!!?????!!!!! So watch out girls!

Off to make some soup.

Love to everyone else

Take care

xxx

FirstNikki · 12/01/2006 10:17

Morning ladies...

CH - So sorry to be reading your posts and that you are having a right time at the moment. I hope you take time to chill and recoup. Of course vent your frustrations out thats what we are here for. You are always there giving your support and advice and don't forget that you need some too so don't withold asking for help/support or venting. Can you go the drs and just get further investigations? HK said it well...and agree get stuck into your college course and put the ttc on the backburner..we can get so involved with ttc that it gets too much. lots of {{{{hugs}}}} to you xx

Jane sorry to here your post and good luck with the breast scan.

HK - How you feeling today? Sorry to hear about your lump too good luck for Thursday hope you get sorted soon.

Carly - well done on the course what are you studying?

love and {{{hugs}}} to those that need it xxxx

Coathanger · 12/01/2006 10:22

Thank you all so much for being so lovely to me. But enough now - there are ladies on here with enough on their plates without thinking about my boring troubles. Soooo, no more about me!

A GREAT BIG FAT JUICY {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Coathanger · 12/01/2006 10:23

oops lop sided hug - hers the rest }}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

mygirllolipop · 12/01/2006 10:31

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Coathanger · 12/01/2006 11:41

Ahhh, thats better! Had a nice long hot soak and feel much more human now

Where have you all gone? Is it something I said??

going4potty · 12/01/2006 11:48

Hello ladies, only on briefly today as of to gym. Ch Im sorry for what your going through, it must be horrid bleeding all the time and i hope you find some answers. Maybe trying complimentary therapies may help, im not saying dont keep having conventional medicine, but my mum found them useful for other "lady problems" so its worth a try. Remember your here amongst some lovely ladies who allways want to help and support, so get rid of "im going on guilt" and just say whatever you feel, were here for you .

going4potty · 12/01/2006 11:51

Also thanks for support regarding dh, its a testament to this thread that your allways thinking of others b4 yourselves
Got to go now and sweat of some pounds, also hoping that the exercise will bring on af properly, as its a bit pqathetic looking at mo.

carly82 · 12/01/2006 11:54

aw CH feel free to moan you are allowed and god knows you have listened to me waffle on enough when the time is right your bab will appear xx
Nikki i am studying maths as i need to get a grade c or above and last time i sat it i got a d, so heres hoping xx
HK im still praying for you hun its not over just yet, im sure the nurse was just preparing you for the worst in case am thinking of you xx
Morning to everyone else G4P, mygirl, diddle, caramelli, charlee, kreamkrackers and anyone else i might have missed xx
Oh btw congrats on a little boy for slink

Coathanger · 12/01/2006 12:47

Crikey! this puts my problems into perspective

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