Dryness and bleeding after sex

[WantToGetBackToNormal]

I am a regular but have namechanged for this.

We are not actively TTC at the moment, but I couldn't decide on the best place to post this! I thought that this topic would have the most "shagging" knowledge

Since having DS 3 years ago, I have suffered with a very dry fanjo. This has resulted in DH and I not having as much sex as we should be. I feel attracted to him, and I feel turned on, but where I used to become "wet", I don't anymore .

We need to use quite a bit of KY jelly, and even then, sex hurts and is uncomfortable. I also normally have some bleeding about 2-3 days later. It's not fresh blood, but normally brown stained discharge.

I have seen the GP regularly since my ds was born and have had:

several internals
several ultrasound scans
smears
colposcopy
visit to gynaecologist

I did have some abnormal cells which were removed from my cervix, and I have had 6 monthly smears after that which have all been normal, so the GP is confident that it is not that which is causing the bleeding.

To me it feels as if it is possibly friction that is causing the bleeding, as it is so mild, so I'm just really interested to see if anyone else has had a similar problem?

I know I need to go back to the GP, but every time I bring it up they dismiss it as a minor problem and just tell me to use plenty of KY jelly .

Are you on the Pill? I find this reduces the amount of natural lubricant due to the hormones. Perhaps a change of contraception might be worth trying.

Hi kat

Thanks for replying.

No I'm not on the pill. I was actually wondering whether or not going on it might help?

I've always avoided going on the pill as I don't like the way it makes me feel, and I also don't like the thought of putting hormones into my body every day, but if I knew it would help I would give it a go.

I definitely think it's a hormonal thing, but the GPs just don't seem interested.

Are you old enough for it to be age related? Apparently this does become a problem with age but not until you are old enough to be starting the peri menopause. Could you ask the gp for hormonal tests perhaps, and try a different gp?

Well I'd like to think not - I'm 31 - but I know that these things can happen to women of my age .

It's one of the things I am concerned about to be honest.

Yes, I think I will ask about hormonal tests - thanks for your advice .

Another possibility might be that with a busy life and a young child you are just not spending long enough on the "preliminaries" and your husband needs to spend more time lavishing gentle attention on you and not fast forwarding straight to the good bits. There is a lot to be said for a prolonged snogging and caressing session but this is often lost when you have been together a good while.

Yes, you might have a point there. I think I also find it difficult to wind down after a day of stress!

A lot for me to think about there - thanks for your input