Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your leathers, black nail polish, air guitar and jump in the mosh pit for some serious metalling. All welcome! (Part 18)

[Summerbird73]

New thread for some serious metalling. We are ramping up the amps and churning out some Metallica, Nirvana, ACDC, Stone Temple Pilots... with the occasional 90's rave music!!

If you have miscarried and are ready to TTC again, come and join us in the WTF cycles with the odd VIP ticket to the padded cell for some serious mentalling (now known as Metalling)

Welcome!

Hi All!

Just back from a lovely week in Northumberland. Will catch up on the thread over the next couple of days! Glad scan went well eve!

I have turned in to a total obsessive knicker checker! Am crapping myself that I am going to start bleeding again :(

Hope everybody is a-okay, speak soon!
Pie x

hi can i join you? miscarried 5 weeks ago at 12weeks(but embryo stopped at 8 weeks), i stopped bleeding 2 weeks ago and got a neg preg result the same day, have since been using cheapie ovulation tests but am not sure if i have ovulated yet (got a nearly as dark as test line result but then when next tested ,no 2nd line at all) . I keep trying to be busy and get on with life with my other dcs but its hard as all i can think about is being pregnant again, I also really need to know the abbreviations used on this thread ,AF? BFP/bfn and swi??

Hi frazzled
bfn big fat negative
bfp big fat positive
swi shagging with intent
Af period I think?

eve glad the scan went well

Hi everyone, and a special hello to the newbies.
I have been unable to get online all week as the internet has been playing silly buggers - we could access some sites but not others - hence the radio silence. I see there is masses to catch up with so better get reading in a sec. Am currently at home alone while DH takes the dog out as I feel far too tired - well, I did walk all the way to the, er, cafe and back (approx 10 mins there and then the same back ) Ridiculous really, what the hell will I be like in 7 months?! (If this one sticks, of course - no, still not relaxed about it all)

Evening all!

eve at scan and all being well!! So glad you got to see your bean...it's not easy to relax at all!

pie glad you had a good week away and still going ok - hang in there! There's a nice soft padded seat for you in the post-bfp-metalling area so make yourself comfy!!

baby good to hear from you...was startign to worry that something was wrong! The tiredness is so crazy, not sure I've ever been so tired...except maybe when I had glandular fever but that was quite a few years ago so can't remember too well!

Hi frazzled so sorry you need to join us but please come and find yourself a nice home in this lovely thread!! Af = Aunt Flo = Period

marthas will miss you!! But I can totally see and understand why you need a break, you relaly have had a crazy year! Feel free to lurk and drop by any time you fancy some homemade cake, a sit in the padded area or a bounce around the mosh pit...or even just a and a chat! Take good care.

I've been trying to stay calm this weekend - 10 weeks today but feeling a bit better...tryign to see this as a good thing but can't enjoy it as I just worry that it's not good and that it's just that it's all gone wrong again! We're off to New York on weds for 5 nights which is also on my mind at the moment as not sure how I'm going to cope with the flight, time difference etc etc but hopefully it will be a good break and a distraction from all the metalling! next scan in 16 days...and counting!!!

Hope everyone is ok and had a restful weekend before the week starts again in the morning!

glad you had a nice break pie. thats another week you can tick off now! i think a little holiday is good when you are trying to just get through the weeks. same for you too bluecrane by the time you get back from ny it will be nearly time for your next scan. so much better than just waiting at home! take it easy in ny if you are tired, jetlagged etc.

i have a bit of exciting news - i am going to australia for three weeks at christmas! we have been invited by friends who moved there this year but we weren't sure whether to go or not. i was getting a bit fed up of waiting to ttc and dh wants to wait until xmas so i thought it would be something to look forward to and we are going to start ttc when we are there. hopefully this wil be the last chance we have to do something like this so we are making the most of the opportunity.

Yeah pebs Australia for Christmas will be fab!! And yes, think it's important to keep doing some of the things you might not get a chance to do once you have a LO...partly hence our going to NY!

And so much for metalling about symptoms easing...brought half my breakfast back up this morning and still feeling quite (NB. emoticon used for colour rather than the usual meaning!) Sorry TMI!

missg are you back from hols as well now? How was your trip?

Now to try and do some more work...my boss asked how I was getting on this morning with xyz work things, I gently mentioned how I was feeling and that I was doing my best and he backed off at that point!! But I still could do to get through my list before the end of tomorrow if I can!

Hi everyone!

Sorry for being MIA for so long, work was manic before stopping for FILs wedding, then our holiday, so I had no time whatsoever to sneak on here! And, I had been so tired, my brain couldn't keep up with you chatterboxes!

So pleased to hear that all those BFP beans are still going strong. Eve so glad your pain turned out to be nothing. You must've been going out of your mind.

And a warm welcome to the newbies (who are probably not really newbies anymore at all!) Sorry you find yourselves here, but this thread (well, the fabulous women on it!) really helped me through some difficult and confusing times, so I am glad you found it, although sad you had to.

I can't even remember when I last updated. Am 13 +1. The chat at my FILs wedding was that my DH's surname (not very common at all) will stop with him if we don't have a boy. Oh, and I am due on his late gran's birthday - no pressure then!! And, my FIL mentioned his new Grandad-to-be status during his speech, so lovely!

Holiday was good but I sat in the shade most of the time, as the heat made me feel a bit sick. And I was a bit bored tbh. As my MIL, SILs and their partners were getting rat-arsed pretty much every night, they were hungover the next day, so spent the entire week lounging around the pool. I prefer to go out and do things, shopping boat trips, sightseeing, anything. Have never been one to sit about for long. DH had a couple of nights off the booze (which was good as it meant less snoring ). He always acts a bit different around his Mum and sisters, so seemed reluctant to break away from the group for us to do our own thing. However, as I said I was going slowly crazy, we walked to the nearest town one day - took almost an hour, but the walk was right along the coastline so it was lovely (and cloudy, otherwise I may not have survived!)

Summer/Martha, I know I haven't been on for ages, but I have been lurking occasionally, and I will miss your chat. Totally understand why you feel the need for a break though. Best wishes to you, and hope to hear from you sometime in the not to distant future. And, well, I wouldn't be me if I didn't suggest it .... just use this time reconnect with DH without the pressure of TTC, and to shag shag shag with no fecking intent whatsoever! Treat yourself (and Mr Summer/Martha) to some sexy undies and toys and go for it! I'd recommend some harmless role play, sexy gardener rescues damsel in distress maybe? (if you have a garage you can retreat to that is. Perhaps 'treating' the neighbours in the garden is a step too far! )
Take care x

Blue NY!! Whoop whoop. Bet you can't wait. I recommend taking plenty of your own snacks on the flight, because sometimes baby just doesn't want to wait for flight attendants to get round to you!

And Pebs Oz! Amazing! Sounds like a trip of a lifetime.

baby hope it helps to tell you the exhaustion doesn't last for ever. From weeks 6-12, I actually felt like someone had injected me with a sedative! But, now I have my energy back, so hang in there

Quick wave to everyone else, and sorry for not namechecking. Inbox is pinging, I'm scared to look but suppose have to! The joy of the first day back to work.

Afternoon all just a quick hello from me.

Welcome back Pie hope all is well and you are relaxing a little bit?

Frazzled - so sorry you have had to join us, but you will get some great support from the ladies here who fully understand the highs and lows you have experienced.

Baby - gad you are back with us, hope the tiredness has passed. I have been in bed by 9 most nights. Although I do like an early night so am enjoying it.

Blue - 16 days will fly by. Enjoy NY and make the most of it.

Peb - Oz how exciting for you. It will soon come round and you will be enjoying the sunshine and having a fab time.

Miss G - sounds like you have had a lovely time with the wedding and holiday. I know you were a bit bored but it does you good to relax and put your feet up.

I have the midwife this afternoon. Good to know all is ok, but still anxious about next few weeks as we all know it can change in a instant.

Back to work for me :-)

Hi everyone, my keepsake box has arrived today that we are going to keep all Jacobs pictures, scan photos etc in. I'm ridiculously happy at the arrival of this box

It has now been 5 weeks and still no appointment to see the consultant , don't know if I should phone the mw and ask her or try to ring ante natal clinic where I should be having the appointment and see what they say?

Af still hasn't arrived but think we will probably not start ttc untill around Xmas anyway

How long have people had to wait for af to return after mc

With my last 2 mc it was back after 4 weeks, same after I had the dc

Posted this in a different thread in conception to much tumbleweed so hopefully I'll get a warmer reception with fellow TTC post MCers!

My AF iwas due yesterday after an ERPC in September. My cycle might not be back to its usual 28 day cycle (first post MC AF was on 2 Oct- ie 28 days ago but as it lasted 8 days rather than the usual 5 i'm not sure when i ovulated hence whether we DTD at the right time) did a test yesterday which was BFN but no sign of AF. could there be hope for me yet?! hope so! If it's not here by weds i'll test again. Was like clockwork pre-MC but there is no sign of it. Can you get a false BFN if you test on the day AF is due? Is it best to wait. Conceived straight away last time but I know that might not happen again. Was kind of hoping it would though!

Moomins my AF was about 26 days after ERPC but can take longer.

moomins think it took 6.5 weeks for me to get AF following ERPC (but then it took 4 of those weeks to get a BFN)

millonthefloss it can unfortunately take a while for your cycles to settle down post MC. I think waiting until weds is a good plan before testing again...sorry the waiting is so awful though!

Hi Peeps!

I'm metalling big time and constantly trotting off to the loo to knicker check! The thought of actually making it to 12 weeks doesn't feel plausible right now.

Hope everybody is well. We had a lovely hols with lots of coastal walks (DS nods off in the backpack!) visits to petting zoos and walks around Alnwick.

blue yay for NY, that sounds amazing! how long are you going for?

missg I can't believe you are now over 13 weeks! Where did that time go?!

martha (or summer as you will always be known to me) you will be missed from this thread! I totally understand why you are taking a break though, it can sometimes all get a bit much and you don't get a breather from thinking about TTC at all which can be so all consuming! Please drop in from time to time xx

pebs woweeee Oz for Chrimble! That will be fabtastic! I have never been but would love to go. DP & I did a campervan trip around NZ a few years ago which was brilliant :)

manda how are you? I am still sweating over the amount of vitamins i'm taking. I know the GP will tell me all I need to take is folic acid but I'm too scared to stop the B6 incase it's giving me a much needed progesterone boost! And need to stay away from googling any nasty side effects it might have on the baby!

moomins, millions it took me 8 weeks to get AF and 6 weeks to get a bfn! It's so horrible waiting for things to get started again. My cycles were all over the place post m/c though so I went for acupuncture which really helped, apparantly it can help bring on AF after a m/c. moomins I would deffo chase up an appt, please let us know how you get on. Jacob is such a lovely name xxx

eve was that your booking in appt today? how did it go? they like to see you at 6 weeks here but that's just far too early for me to go as I started miscarrying last time the day after my appt. I think i'm going to wait until after 8 weeks when i've hopefully had a positive early scan.

welcome frazzled sorry you have found yourself here but it is an amazingly supportive thread xx

The clocks going back have thrown DS's body clock out somewhat! We were lucky on Sunday AM because he was exhausted after the journey home so didn waken till 8am old time, 7am new time but this morning he woke just after 5am, yawn!

Hi to everybody! xx

Hi PieMistress

Thanks for your reply. I had a post MC AF just over a month ago so everything's back to normal for me but we were TTC a few weeks ago (when hopefully OV-ing) and now my AF is a day late. I got a BFN with Clear Blue yesterday (when due on) but have my fingers crossed as there is no sign of AF and my cycle was 28 days like clockwork pre pg and MC. Will test again if not here by Weds/ Thurs. My AF lasted 8 days this last cycle (usually 5 days) so don't know if that means I OVd later and that next AF will be due later than usual.

Congrats to all of you with BFPs! I hope to join you soon!

Hi ladies,

Sorry for being AWOL I have had the 24 hours from hell and have only just managed to get back on to MN!!! On Sunday I went out and bought a second hand pram, is in fab condition and a total bargain - was exactly the one I wanted and so was chuffed to bits all evening. I went to make a drink before bed and then promptly chucked up my dinner and about an egg cup of blood (sorry TMI but you need the full and gory detail to appreciate my metalling. Promptly gave out of hours a call and was sent to see a Dr. Took ages and while I was waiting was sick again with blood. At this point I was totally unbothered about myself and just worried about the baby......I think my mothering instinct is kicking in!!!!

Anyway was seen - given drugs and then waited nearly 2 hours for transport to the hospital. After a bumpy ride by ambulance got taken to the delivery suite.....my first thought was "OMG I'm losing the baby" and the first MW I saw was grabbed by the hand and told to explain why I was in delivery as Im only half way. Apparently there was just no space upstairs (whew) and they listened for baby - nice strong heartbeat and was told to wait to see the specialist.

Nearly 17 hours later, one abdominal scan, one obstetric scan, 3 blood tests, 4 urine samples and 3 registrars later - no one knows what is actually wrong. Currently a choice between a hernia behind my belly button which is being 'disturbed' by the baby, a placental abruption, torn oesophagus or extreme ligament pain. Not feeling at my best and currently have MIL staying but she has been very good so not too bad and on the plus side my DSis is coming today so that will be good. And we have the anomaly scan on Wednesday so looking forward to that at least!!!

So enough of my woes and worries - must catch up with you all!!!

Welcome to all the new ladies and hope that you find this thread as helpful as I found it as well as getting that sought after BFP.

eve so glad all looks well with the bean and hope your taking it easy at the moment. It is soooo worrying and then you see the baby and you can actually take a deep breath again but then you get home and start metalling with things like "oh god, I've seen it now - what if I go next time and there is something wrong". Try to stay positive though and keep talking to the LO, that has helped me loads!!!

Martha so sorry your going but totally understand and hope that you are having a nice chilled time away from the TTC madness and metalling. I shall continue to update on my DSis and her crazy ways just in case your lurking. Big hugs xxx

baby the tiredness doesn't last forever but I have found I have less energy in general IYSWIM. The only thing to do is take it all at your own pace and do only what you can manage - pushing yourself will only make you feel worse the next day.

blue NY will be awesome but same advice as for baby. Count down to the scan will also go really quick if you take a few days out of the waiting around time - got 20 week scan soon and have no idea where the time has actually gone.

Pebs Australia sounds amazing - it is definitely on my list of places to go. I think a baby conceived in the southern hemisphere would be very exciting......here's to an Xmas conception. My niece was conceived on Xmas day which is BIL birthday - when she was born my SIL said to my BIL "I know it's a bit late but happy birthday"!!!

MissG glad your FIL's wedding went well, even if the holiday was a bit boring it was time away which has to be a good thing. I would kill for a break - I know I'm currently off sick but it would be nice to actually feel well and have a break away. Ahhh well glad you enjoyed some fun time with DH and YAY for 13+ weeks - just keep hanging in there!!

pie glad you had a good holiday with lots of fun things to do with DH and DS. The knicker checking will last at least until 12 weeks and then you will be anxiously awaiting a heartbeat at the 16 week check and so on. You don't stop worrying I'm afraid to say but you stop worrying about the same things if that makes sense. Big hugs from here and hoping the weeks fly by for you!!!

Right must go as I'm starting to feel a bit tired again and it would be amazing if I could get a little more sleep considering I'd missed so much over the past couple of days.

Big wave to anyone I've missed and love to all!!! Xxxxx

moonmin after my 20 week mc it took 12 extremeley long weeks for af to return. i ended up going to accupuncture and af came the next day! not sure if it was a coincidence but it worked. i had my appointment with the consultant 12 weeks after mc. they told me it would be 12 weeks and it was. did they tell you when to expect an appointment? are you having tests done? i had karyotyping, blood clotting, infections, post mortem - the full works.

iq sounds like you have had a nightmare - glad everything is ok with the baby though.

welcome millon hope you are pg! bet you can't wait to test tomorrow.

Hi yeah they said it would be 5 weeks, I've had tests for infection but the chances of that are high anyway with the waters breaking a week before he was born, there was no sign of infection at the time. he will be checking cervical length and talking about what type of stitch he will put in next time so i don't realy need to see him before I ttc again.

The mw has said she will refer me straight to him anyway and they don't usually place a stitch till after 12 weeks. We didn't need to have a pm as we knew the problem was ic, Jacob was still alive up until a few minutes before he was born so they don't think there was any other reason that it happened.

12 weeks must have seemed like a very long time waiting for af, maybe im just in for a long wait x

i would give them a ring then and find out when your appointment will be.

12 weeks seemed like forever - i thought i was never going to get af again! the accupuncture worked miracles!

Well, I'm out for this month as AF just arrived. Was pretty hopeful with being a few days late but I would be pretty jammy to conceive straight away in my first cycle after a miscarriage so here's to next time.

Good luck to the rest of you.

Oh no Mill such a shame, but it is early days as you say. Can't help but be hopeful though can you....Here's to next month! Have a large glass of and plenty of chocolate and think positively towards the next cycle! Your body is getting back to normal which is fantastic news - you are one step closer to your next BFP!

And ladies, please ignore all of the horrible reporting on the news/in the papers about summer babies having trouble at school...personally I would be delighted to have a July or August baby and they will be whatever they will be

Not much to report here - Fertility Friend reckons I am 5 dpo today but I don't think I have ovulated yet - my temps just aren't high enough and I am still getting EWCM. Being ill earlier in the month has completely messed up the chart I think - so no let up with the SWI (sigh) - oh well

IQ so sorry to hear about your ordeal, so pleased that all is well. Do let us know how you are getting on now - are you feeling better? Will they know any more about what caused it soon?

IQ that sounds awful, you poor bugger!

Everyone else, I am really sorry but my poor little brain is too mushed to reply properly. Please remember I am reading, if not posting though.

x

ps had booking in apt on Monday, and there is no chance of an early scan. I'm getting a date sent in the post but guessing it'll be around the first two weeks of Dec. Am 8 weeks on Friday (all being well.)

It's different in Scotland re: schooling as the cut off is end of February so if you are born on 28th February you start school in the August aged 4 (or you can defer for a year if you wish) and if you are born 1st March you start school in the August aged 5.

baby are you considering a private scan?

poppy are you still taking the B6? I am but petrified I shouldn't be!

mill so sorry AF got you, at least you have had one cycle now with a period and hopefully that's things 'back to normal', fingers crossed for this month x

IQ that sounds so scary! Hopefully things have calmed down for you! I can't believe your 20 week scan is tomorrow! Where has the time gone! :)

pebs are you still going for acupuncture?

moomin I would definitely recommend acupuncture. As well as sorting my cycles out I felt so very relaxed during the sessions and the practitioner was so lovely and listened to me (and handed out tissues). I normally fall into a deep sleep when i'm there.

I just don't have a scooby now if I should carry on with the acupuncture now i'm tentatively pregnant? 5 weeks just feels like incredibly early days and I feel so pessimistic :(

pie yes I am - and things have definitely been different this cycle. I would hazard a guess that I will ovulate in the next couple of days based on CM, but then as I said earlier, Fertility Friend reckons I already have so who knows...

Have you asked your acupuncturist about carrying on? I think it is natural to feel pessimistic, just take each day as it comes - easy to say that I know

mill sorry about AF :(

frazzled welcome!

Hi to everyone else.

No news here except a growing obsession with fertility friend, opening my chart any time I go online in the hope of what? clues? I've ordered a proper thermometer as am not sure about the battery on our eight year old digital thermometer any more! It seems I am either 36.8 or 35.5 so far so a new thermometer might help ensure it's a real reading. Of course, the low temp came a week after possible ovulation so that saw me googling implantation dip like mad! Feeling a bit AFish though today so maybe not this month. Plus I don't really know what CD I am after the MC, despite the fertile signs during the month. Sigh. It is madness, this obsession