TTC after a Miscarriage - Dear Santa, beanies for crimbo, please!!

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Well here we are! Hopefully htis one will take us up to crimbo, althoughthe way we gas, probably not!!

Hears wishing all us TTcers all the luck in the world and all those who are PG already, lots of stretchmarks and piles!!!! hehehee!! Not really, lotso f luck to you too

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Thanks garland. I do order from the internet just a bit wary of ebay, dont know why.

mumsxmaswish - where are you come back, bet you're scoffing your lunch. come back and talk to us we can help you.

sorry, had lunch and had to put all the xmas cards in to envelops! ALL 130 of them, I dont want one its very unpersonal. They've all got photocopied signatures in it. YUK!

how you feeling mums?

Im ok didds,

my stomachs not hurting as much, we're gonna have a quiet night in with a couple of glasses of wine tonight.

Seriously girls, I'm fine. DOnt worry

can't help worrying, we all know how you must feel, and know that you're probably not okay.

well tbh, i feel ok at the mo, it prob hit me later but at the moment i'm just wishing it was over to get back on the horse (so to speak)

Dont know if this is appropriate to say, its still very fresh for me at the mo, but do you ever feel ok. I dont think i ever will, even though i can walk about and do stuff, just feel a little ache in my heart all day long. Can smile and talk to others and say im ok, but even as i am typing now on my own the tears are blurring my vision and i just want to curl up and sob. Still so confused and people keep telling me to give it time b4 we start trying again. But they dont understand, that even if we got pregnant again straight away and had a healthy baby, there would still be a part of me that feels sad for what we have lost. Im sorry rambling and crying at same time, dont know whats come over me. sorry .

ps sorry about self pity mums, didnt mean to be selfish, but i really do empathise.

Feel awful about self pity mums i dont mean to take any importance away from your situation. I think it just brought things home to me a bit more.

G4P - after the first mc, i felt down all the time, like you i could tell everyone else i was fine but alone i could do nothing but cry. Its only in the last few months that i've been ok (ish) and not wanted to cry all the time. Time is a healer just not completely.

thanks for that

G4P - it does get easier although my babies are always with me in my heart it is so hard to realise that they coudl be in my arms now. But each day ets easier, and i;ll never forget them, just learn to live with it. and look to the future.

sorry to change the subject ladies, but you're all full of such fab knowledge. I ahve had an enquiry from a family (i'm a childminder) who have a deaf child, at the moment i have never done sign lanugauge, but I am considering doing the course to beenift msyelf and the new family, they don't need me for a few months so i could fit it in before. I get so nervous doing courses though especially something so practical, ahve any of you ever done one, shoudl i be terrified, whats it like?

sorry about typos.

anyone - have i killed the thread???

please come back!!!!!!!

thanks jingle, never done a signing course but speak several languages and did courses for a few of those. I suppose it just learning in a lightly different modality?! Do i sound stupid? Cause i certainly feel it. Just ignore me dont know what im on about. But id be well impressed if i were the family, shows care and consideration for the childs needs today and in the future. What a great skill to have too. May give you some perception of what difficulties those less blessed have to put up with. "Seek knowledge from the cradle to the grave"

A friend has a deaf son and her mam was a childminder. The mam put me in touch with the childminder I used for dd1, she learned sign language when she found out my friends son was deaf which I thought was nice of her. The course would benefit you personally and professionally, go for it girl. I think u can do well

G4P I was like that for a long time. Time is a healer (the thoughts and experiences you have in the meantime anyway) and it eases but never completely you learn to deal with what's happened tho. Coming on here and talking with these lovelly ladies is what made me sane !
Come on all group(((((((((hug))))))))))

first of all g4p huge hugs to you hun (((((()))))) it does get a little easier day by day but give yourself time xxxx
Just to let all know i wont be testing as af turned up today while i was out shopping of all times .........oh well
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DIDDLE the only sign language i know is basic cos i used to watch cbeebies something special i mean ahem..... my children used to watch it

are you still around mums? have been thinking of you all day hun. how are you feeling? stupid question i know or have you gone home? xx

damn, started bleeding again and this tie with loads of sticky mucous sorry if tmi but though that bit was over with.

oh carly - bloody buggery af, how dare she!!! hope you're alright mate. Now you can have a few drinks over xmas and put ttc on your resolution list, fresh start for a fresh year.

thansk for your support guys, will investigate the course.