With angel babies in the sky, some of us expecting rainbow babies, others still ttc and definitely swi!!

[Bluetinkerbell]

started new thread! we do talk a lot, don't we?

Chin up green we are all very strong ladies and we will all get the happy ending we deserve xxx

green take it easy! maybe you could make the swi-ing a bit more fun/kinky and try not to think that you are trying to make a baby?
a lot of admiration here for your FIL!

spilt enjoy your time with Freya! How long have you got maternity leave? I hope a really long time! you deserve it!

dachs take it easy! bleeds do give you a scare! glad everything is ok though!

Too I know that feeling of being super emotional! it's so overwhelming at times! When I was pregnant with DD1, before I knew I was, I had a massive argument with DH about where he wanted to put the scissors! We still laugh about that one now!

Mel period almost over I hope? good luck this cycle!

ciwi try to stay positive!

waves at razz, cheese, angel

DH has had manflu this week, he seems better now, but has passed the throatache on to me.
CD44, no AF still! don't know how long to stay patient still, whether I should change test, whether I should go to GP to talk about it.

blue I would wait till your in the 50th days or so of this cycle and if still no AF then go see the doc. I did have this once myself went to 49 days with out AF then the next cycle had a 41 day bleed! Not nice. I was told later it could have been a hormone imbalance but nothing came up on later tests. Hope something happens for you soon.

may have shouted too soon! went to the toilet and had some whitish mucus with some pinkish blood and now I can feel it, so might be start of my period. Although normally it starts with bright red spotting. we'll see! I'm glad something is finally happening!

Hello everyone
green your story about your FIL running for his girls choked me up, how very sad but also inspirational. My dh HATES swi, yes, seriously. People always joked with me when I was ttc that dh would think it was his b'day and xmas at once. Couldnt be further from the truth!! It really turns him off and he moans that I just want his sperm (quite often true ). I just stopped telling him when it was the 'right' time.
too I actually verge on the point of evil when I am pregnant, how anyone puts up with me I will never no!!
blue boo if it is AF but hooray that you will no where your body is at
spilt so nice to still hear from you on here and see how well you and Freya are doing.

Thank you for the sympathy sent regarding my sickness, still horrific . I am now 9 weeks. I have some anti-sickness meds that I just dare not take. I took them in my last pregnancy, and my sane brain knows that they made no difference to Thomas's condition but the anxious part of me does not want to risk any side effects. Im a bloody nurse aswell, so should no better . Probably won't get on all weekend as working so wishing you all a good one.

razz Im glad Im not the only one with a DH who feels like that. I sometimes find that when Im on AF, he wants me more. Men aye you would have thought they would want it all the time, jump on you every night. Ive had this converstaion with him numerous times before, I think last night brought back some memories for me, stressful memories and I thought we had sorted it out. Its funny though coz often its him who says to me 'do you want to ttc?' and I say oh how romantic but I always say it as a giggle. And it just wanst that way last night.

blue boooo for AF but hooray for AF all in the same go.

Green, I had similar issues with DH when we started ttc - at first he was fine, and then when we got closer to ov time he suddenly couldn't perform. It was awful - we would start trying and he would get more and more wound up and eventually have to admit defeat. I felt ugly and unattractive and I was so frustrated but trying not to show it because I was afraid of making him worse. We discovered that he was fine with other means, such as blow jobs - it was only full sex that was affecting him. He said he couldn't relax into it because he was too worried - worried about what would happen if I got pregnant, or if I didn't. I suggested that we take some time off but he said no, and it just gradually got a bit better. We tried some new things, such as me taking complete charge during sex, and it worked, and luckily I ovulated later than I thought I would and hey presto! I think men just find it difficult to explain why if they are scared of having sex - it's such a taboo for a man to admit that he's not up for it 24/7, and it comes across as grumpiness sometimes.

I want to echo Mel on the body image/self-confidence front. Your body is still beautiful, no matter what's changed! I have horrendous stretch marks from my bikini line right up above my tummy button and wobbly tummy fat and I'm 2 stone overweight (1 and a half more than pre-preg) but I still feel beautiful naked and walk about in front of DH with no worries. The boobs help - I know perfectly well that DH barely notices anything lower! After all, you're the only naked woman your DH has access to - he's not going to be fussy!

Blue, if that is AF, then at least the wait is over and this could be Day 1 of your next pregnancy! Hope you feel ok.

Razz, sorry to hear you still feel awful. Can you persuade yourself to take the meds? The doctor wouldn't prescribe them if they would damage the baby in any way, and you need to be able to keep some food and drink down. Get well soon!

too thank you for being so down to earth and blunt I love it. I think we are alot alike. The issues you have raised are so what we are going through and have been through in the past. Im so glad Im not the only one. Tried earlier in the week to start with blow jobs and stuff to get him in the mood and then took full charge seams to work, but just last night he didnt want any and it was hard coz I had ov'd the day before. I knew there was something up with him and thats why I asked him otherwise I would have just jumped right in. Normally he talks about his feelings and is always having a go at me for not. But last night it was the other way round. Im sure we shall sort it out tonight. He did say last week that he is terrified of me getting pg again, he worries that I couldnt handle goingthrough what we went through again. Bless him sometimes I think hes been my rock but has suppressed his feelings somewhat to help me through mine, but to hear him say how vunerable he is helps me in a way.
I have no problem perading around naked in front of DH, never have really but I still feel unattractive and I know I need to sort this out in my head. Maybe I shall get the old ann summers stuff out tonight, might help me out. DH is out cycling with his mates so I might pamper myself and get myself in the mood.

It feels a bit strange... it's really not breaking through properly (yet)
But I'm staying positive whatever way!

oh blue that was me two weeks ago. My preiods have changed since Fi so maybe yours have too. FX hunny that something happens, waiting is sometimes the hardest thing.

hmm don't think it's AF now... will have to wait and see!

poas again

haha too oooh if only! I need to go out in 5 mins!

Oh Blue mysterious!!
Ciwi hope u feel less sickly soon.
Green think what you re experiencing is totally normal. We had lots of falling out when ttc and stresses. Since I ve been pg with GILS and before with Georgie we hardly had any sex as Ant is scared something will happen. I miss it but understand where he s coming from( or not!!!) and just think at the moment our sex life is on hold. We re close in many other ways and I try and maintain the intimacy but can see it's a result of all we ve been through. I aim to work very hard to strive to have our good old sex life back sometime in the future. Very difficult
Hi all. Yeh it's Friday ; quick change and shower then off to mum & dads hope m1 is quiet !!!! Love to all xxx

Hi everyone,
razz I hope your sickness gets better soon, it's not pleasant is it? Everytime I felt sick DH said good because he felt it was a good sign - grrr everytime he said it I would say I know it's a good sign but it still doesn't feel nice!
too it's funny that a few of our DH'd have felt the same about us getting pg again isn't it?
angel enjoy your weekend, I am working tommorrow so only have sunday off really
green hope you have a good heart to heart with your DH tonight, either that or just jump on him - lol
Well, I went to my first sands bumps and babies group today, it was really nice and one of the girls is 14 weeks along too. It's a small group so you feel like you can really have a good chat. I only made it for the last hour though because I had to go for bloods and the wait time was an hour and a half! Not happy but had no choice but to wait as I need the results for clinic next week.

Everyone says that to me also ciwi to the extent that today I havent felt quite so sick so started to worry it means something is wrong. Can you believe it!!!

Not been around as ds2 (4 years old) broke his foot on Thursday :( we were in a&e until late just thinking it was a sprain but went to be on the safe side and it's broken! Poor thing :( He was only jumping up and down in the living room (carpeted) and went over on his foot and broke it.

He had a temporary cast put on and we took him back yesterday for a proper one. He's in pain but seems ok with calpol and is being so brave. He can't weight bear at all on it so we've loaned a wheelchair. Having to carry him up the stairs, to the toilet etc and basically wait on him hand and foot!

Will try and catch up later on, hope you're all ok xx

Mystery solved! AF is definitely here now! Being very positive about it though! Said to DH this could be first day of our new pregnancy! Said he had a tough job ahead with the SWI! He said he was totally up for it! Bless him!
I really feel I need to get pregnant this month though, as I would like a BFP before Sterre's due date on the 3rd of November!
Good luck to all of us still ttc!

Cheese hope the wee man's doing ok.
Blue I think this is our month. I feel really good about it. I did discuss with DH that if it is then the due date will be roughly the same as Ruby's was. He said that we need to look at that as being a good thing as this baby will have a big sister looking after it if that happens.
We went out on a date night and he was so excited about it. By the time we got home, I'd had a bottle of wine and crashed out in the bed within minutes. Oops that's not good practice!! Think I needed that kind of night though. I've been reminded that I really love wine though!!
Have a good weekend everyone xx

Mel yep this has to be our month! I put today in the due date calculator, with 44 days as my cycle length! We would be conceiving around 17th of October and due date would be 9th of July! Said to DH, would be a nice 5th anniversary present as that is the 7th of July

We're going out with a bunch of girls on Friday, so that will be my last time of getting drunk! After that no more booze

Good luck Mel and blue xx
Cheese hope your little boy feels better soon.
Mel & Blue I have read about a lot of " rainbow" babies being born around the birthday of their siblings. As you know. GILS is due 8 days after Georgie's birthday.. Seems to happen a lot. Xx
Hi all; hope everyone is well?? Xxx

Angel yeah it would also not be very long after Sterre's birthday which is the 20th of June! All depending on the length of my cycle this month!

blue sorry AF arrived but I'm glad you're being positive about it.

too I think it was you that asked before, but I'm due on March 17th, wouldn't go that far though and definitely not now I have GD and on insulin.

Mel he's ok at the moment, playing the wii with his brother and sister :) Anything to keep him still and leg raised at the moment! Doesn't help that he also has an infection and can't stop coughing with it and asthma, might need to head back to the drs on Monday for anti biotics. Fingers crossed for you

Angel Seemed to take us ages to conceive this baby, 6 months I think, that's not long realistically but it felt like forever after losing Scarlett. This baby is due in March and she was born and due in December. Everything going ok with you?

ciwi sands group sounds good, must help to be able to chat about everything. We're waiting on nuchal scan results, well the bloods, the scan looked ok but it's a combined one with bloods that the hospital does now.

green we both felt a bit stressed at times when trying for this baby, it felt like we were having sex because we "had" to, especially as I didn't know when I was ovulating so we ended up just doing it every other day all cycle or most of it. When we both spoke about it and said how we felt it did get easier. The month I conceived was the month I first used the ovulation monitor though which is odd.

razz have you managed to take the meds or are you trying without? Hope the sickness goes away soon

Cheese - poor DS2! Hope it gets better soon (and the infection as well!). How long will he be in plaster for?

Blue and Mel, make the most of the while you still can! I have developed a craving for something like prosecco and I am grumpy because I can't have it. I could send DH to buy some, but then he would have to drink the rest of the bottle on his own and it is an unnecessary expense. Plus I am not entirely sure about drinking even one glass. I know one glass won't do any harm but there's a little part of me going what if...

Ciwi, glad to hear that the bumps and babies went well. Hopefully you'll make lots of RL friends to meet up with when bean is here. I am considering going along to my local group with this goal in mind. I am a bit unsure about regular ante-natal classes this time around - I would probably feel a bit out of place and I'd be worried about freaking the poor little innocent first-timers out!

Hi Angel and Razz - hope you're both doing well!

Too he'll be in plaster at least 4 weeks, has to go back for an x ray then and take it from there. Hopefully he'll have healed and be able to have it off but we'll have to wait and see.

Has anyone else posted on the ante-natal group for their due date? I've looked at the March one on and off but not really felt able to post on there. I did when I was having Scarlett and it was so nice when I was able to just enjoy it after the "magic" 12 weeks but now I feel like I'd just be doom and gloom. I'm hesitant.

Hope you're all having a good day xx