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TTC after a miscarriage - Jingle Beans, Jingle Beans, Beanies all the way!!

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jinglediddle · 06/12/2005 14:37

A fresh new thread.

Lets hope this one is as successful as the last and we can help as many people as we can to come to terms with what has happened to them.
Lets spread some christmas support for everyone.

xxx

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XmasAngelCrimboKat · 07/12/2005 14:28

Me too but I'm a hard nosed madam. Charity begins at home at I get angry when they show adverts that make me feel guilty as sin and want to give them my very last penny. So many charity adverts make me sad but the worst (and nearly donated to them) was the nspcc one with the abused kids. [sad

mumsXMASwish · 07/12/2005 14:33

I know I feel really sorry for all the kids in the world and things like that but when we give so much money to different people when we've all got our own problems to deal with...

Sorry I'm going off in a rant here but......

When the Tsunami hit (I know it's bad and this is probably a very wrong thing for me to say but) when it hit, our Government gave them millions.... and I mean millions to re-build their lives. What about all the people on our streets? that have no houses? Living on the street? We don't give them money. Instead we give money to people who don't want to work (in britain i mean now) instead of helping the ones that cant work.

ok rant over I promise.... well for now anyway.

mygarland · 07/12/2005 14:34

think i may have heard of that xack quite good idea really. no choc cake I'm afraid but I'm more willing to go out and buy it than do housework myself. done loads this week with the guests we've had/gonna have, still more to do . I've got kit kats and dh's shortbread I'm sure he wouldn't mind if it meant he didn't have to do housework!

XmasAngelCrimboKat · 07/12/2005 14:36

That'll do! god i'm so cheap......ooppss did'nt mean to come out like that
Mums- I agree. Being ex- politics student i'm always on my high horse about what the government does

mygarland · 07/12/2005 14:36

have u seen the box she left the twins in, she must be young bless her heart

XmasAngelCrimboKat · 07/12/2005 14:36

Back little later all. Dp wants on for a bit and I'll get my cleaning gear together for my outing!!

mygarland · 07/12/2005 14:38

right off to shop and nursery/school check in on ya's later, x

mumsXMASwish · 07/12/2005 14:39

awwww poor little things. I've gone through all sorts of emotions going now. I was angry she'd left them, then I felt sory for her, now I'm angry again. lol I really do feel for her tho.

I really want to go back into education. Just for the hell of it you know. How strange is that? I want to learn about politics and also about greek gods and myths! I went through a big phase when I was about 13 of looking up greek gods. How strange.

mumsXMASwish · 07/12/2005 15:32

girls, I've just found out that apparently in greek times, a goddess called tethys was the personification of the fertile ocean, maybe you can all find statues of her and rub them

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jinglediddle · 07/12/2005 16:07

mums - did they stick a needle in your arm? i forgot to check whe you got back, was it ok?

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mumsXMASwish · 07/12/2005 16:09

all ok, no needles, they gone for the p test. Although I don't know why they need to test, my 4 pg tests say I'm pg so i think its fair to say I am.

Got to go bk for results on mon and sort out booking in.

slinksanta · 07/12/2005 16:13

dunno if you got my congraulatins yesterday mums as i think you might have left work. so will congratulate you again
i had the same thing from drs last time, i took all my pg tests in and they said i still needed to book an appointment with the nurse to do a test. dr said she didn't know if my tests were positive or not because she didn't have the instructions!!! i thought everyone knew 2 lines = bfp!!

mumsXMASwish · 07/12/2005 16:15

lol@ your drs! bit dumb eh??

Thanks for the congrats slink!

FirstSaintNikkilass · 07/12/2005 16:21

I have never heard of your drs checking you are pg. ours just say have you tested? "yes" we say so they say congratualtions etc... [surprises me the inconsistency of care]

mygarland · 07/12/2005 16:22

my docs just believed me, however when we moved I had to get a referral from dr to see midwife even tho I was 33wks!
Hi Dr, I think I maybe pg and need to see a midwife D'oh

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jinglediddle · 07/12/2005 16:22

my docs believed me, but i was shocked they didn't test me.

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FirstSaintNikkilass · 07/12/2005 16:26

LOL lots - Mygarland have vision of you entering the drs with a bump and them scratching and shaking their heads saying eeerrm don't know what that can be?

mumsXMASwish · 07/12/2005 16:29

lol@ nikki! I've got that vision stuck with me now! lol

Last time they didnt check but i've switched drs now so maybe its their policy to check at this place. dunno

ahhh well, there's no BIG rush at the mo.

mygarland · 07/12/2005 16:30

I was! can u imagine wasting a dr appointment by saying CAn I pls be refd to the midwife, pls, I really think I might be pg!
PS I was HUGE!

FirstSaintNikkilass · 07/12/2005 16:32

still laughing... now have another vision with you pleading..

Atomicstockinghanger · 07/12/2005 16:44

Well, I survived Argos!! Just!!

I had heard that news report. Those poor little angels, and I feel so sad for their mother. Everyones first reaction is how could she, but then I think how ill she must be. How desperate and how scared. And twins as well. I would be scared of coping with twins with a loving DH and lots of family support. POor girl I think unless you have been there, in that state where you feel you can't cope, where you feel the only answer is to give them away, you can't begin to understand what she must be going through. Plus she has possibly had these babies without the proper medical assistance and could be very ill herself. She could haemorrhage, have an infection, anything.
Your right mums, she could have dumped them inthe toilets or given them in somewhere, but you really don't think straight when you are so depressed that this kind of action is your only hope. I feel so sad for her

Atomicstockinghanger · 07/12/2005 16:47

And here endeth the lesson....

mumsXMASwish · 07/12/2005 16:47

I do feel sad for her but at the same time my ignorant selfish head appears which says.... i had an mc when i would have looked after my child(ren) and she didnt even want hers.

Like I said that's my ignorant selfish head!

Atomicstockinghanger · 07/12/2005 16:50

Mums I've had a MC too but I have also had PND. I had a 3 month old baby and a 17 month old baby, i lost my nanwho I was very close to and I had a major Crohn's flare up and I was desperately ill, and I was so depressed I could have walked out of my house and never come back. I have been in that awful place where at the time you can only see one answer. It took alot to get me out of that state and I know now just how mentally ill that poor young girl must be. She needs as much help from the medical profession as her dear babies do

Atomicstockinghanger · 07/12/2005 16:52

Meant to add also, she might be a perfectly decent person , but this has sent her over the edge. I get more angry when I see women smoking and drinking and abusing their unborn babies. this girl might have wanted her babies more than anything whilst she was PG, but something just snapped inside after their birth. Depression comes from nowhere and can affect anyone, regardless of class, colour, sex etc