Learner driver is charting a May minibus for the April drop outs

[Bleats]

Let's face it May 2012 is full of bank holidays leading up to an extra day off thanks to the Queen. We are all bound to get updiffed and miss the time off -(where we should be in the pub) looking after our new babies.

A bus for those who find it difficult to remember new names. Ting ting - no getting off untilk a BFP.

Starting the stats Bleats (31) TTC#1 af due 31st Aug ish

Spuddy I'd feel the same. But men can just be thoughtless at times without realising quite how important things are to the women in their lives. Go home and shag him tonight instead. Send him filthy texts for the rest of the afternoon...remember the end game xx

well we did it this morning so tonight will be a no go. But we have arranged a romantic meal tomo (he's cooking it - well marks & spencer are perparing it but he will re-heat it and plate it nicely!) and we have planned to dress up and have all our fave toys out.

i suppose the reason i don't want to have the conversation is we have already argued about this before - and he doesn't get it. It will mean i will have to call him a lier by saying the 'research' he said he did was bollox. And i just don't want to ruin the prospect of sex tomo.

Don't call him a liar, just have a google and find something contradictory to show him, all innocent like, so he "doesn't have to worry about it next time" ;)

I totally sympathise Spuddy, my DP is really touchy about sex for some reason (although then gets all moody and says "it's only sex" when I complain I can't do some mad acrobatic reverse cowgirl headstand manoeuvre)!

I want it waaaay more than he does (not just because we are TTC) most of the time, but can't ask for it, and can't sort myself out (there and then) or he gets in a huff. Bloody men!!!

He keeps telling me to stop worrying about it all and "if it happens, it happens". Well that's alright for HIM to say - he's already got a kid! And he's not got a sell by date . Sometimes I just want to slap him.

Id better get some tonight or I'll be very grumpy!

So it's not just me that wants sex waaaaaaay more than my partner then? How is it that men have this reputation as studs when I know so many women who want it much more than their partners? I can't help feeling as mine is 14 years younger than me, he should be able to keep up with me!

I've got to wait until next Saturday night before I get any again, cos he's away from tomorrow morning. Mind you, given how sick I feel at the minute, I don't think I'd risk anything too...errr...bouncy! :o

Hi Spuddy I would be annoyed, as you say more about the timing than anything else. I think I did read somewhere about sperm degrading after a period of time being left, I think it was 3-4 days and should be replaced with a fresh supply. Tues - Thurs should have been fine though but men don't always think ahead and probably did not consider it may be problem later on. Typical bloke but annoying to say the least.

Oh I forgot to add - I also want sex more than my dp and mine is 8 years younger, so as you say thought he would be able to keep up!! Problem with us is when he is interested it is usually in the mornings (which mainly means the weekend) and my interest is usually of the evening :(

Hahahaha...trouble with me is I'm interested pretty much any time of day. I'd spend all day every day jumping on him - I think some days he just feels like a sex object - everytime I walk past him I have to have some kind of grope LOL! :o

Spuddy I've had a bit of a google and it does appear that there is some truth in the idea that if a man doesn't ejaculate for too long, the sperm are of less good quality.

though still think the appropriate way to "use up" the sperm he had would be to SWI rather than wank...

Thanks guys i feel better now. I want sex everyday and my DP would be happy with once a week. He is 4 years younger than me so i thought he'd want it more :(
If i come on to him he often accuses me of bullying him into sex - when all i've done is kissed him or squeezed his bum.

We plan sex in advance (because of this disparity) otherwise i would go crazy not knowing when it was going to be, or waiting for his instigation. And then he knows not to wank (usually) and to not act annoyed if i suggest bed.

Times of day are also bad as neither of us are night people (just too knackered when we go to bed) and the mornings are too rushed (and he cant concentrate if he feels pressured) as we have a 2 hour commute each way to work. So the afternoons are the best, but that just means weekends :(

He is a real prima-donna about sex and it has caused many arguments in the 2 years we have been together. it always seems like hard work.

I just have never met a man like him who doesn't like a quick spontaneous shag!

Hi all,

Wow, this bus has been busy since I posted yesterday!

Sorry to hear about your DH problem spuddy. I would have been really annoyed too! Especially as you are probably doing all the other TTC nonsense that we put ourselves through. DH only has to do one thing! Don't want to add fuel to the fire though, so I will move on!

We are doing fairly well with swi at the mo, managing every 2-3 days. We are coming up to the frantic every day Ov window though! I reckon we should do it sun-wed for good measure, but it is difficult to muster the enthusiasm after 3 days straight!

Good luck to all!!!

Hi All - quick update. DP txted me on his way home last night and asked if he could take me out for dinner (he could tell the frostiness in the morning i think) i was all ready to be angry but when i saw him it dissolved (bloody hormones!).

We went out for a nice dinner and a couple of drinks and spoke about stuff. I lightheartedly brought up that his worries 'about dead sperm' were unfounded - he'd got it into his head that if the sperm wasn't good the baby might have disabilities .

Anyway i said anything over 4 days was okay but as we were doing it every other day this month 'sorting himself out' was totally unnecessary and selfish. He agreed.

So woke up this morning all cuddly and now spending a lovely day together and a romantic night in (he has bought me the most beautiful agent provocateur undies)

www.agentprovocateur.com/new-in/info/thora-waspie~grey--red

Hey Everyone!

Sorry to hear about your DP Spuddy but sounds like things are on the up :)

Minipie DS1 is 8 years old and DS2 is 10 months. I left a large gap between DS1 and DS2 as I was only 15 when I had DS1. This time round and with a new partner I want to have them as close together as possible so that they can play together etc... As I feel that although DS1 loves his little brother they are never really going to be proper playmates :(

Don't want DS2 to be another "only child". Which is how I think of DS1 really!

Well AF has stopped so I'm now going to start OPK testing. Have been doing a bit of SW/OI but looking forward to TTC this month. It's weird I find that my partner is much more into sex than me. I am 2 years younger and only 23 but to be honest I'm not all that fussed. Rather have a cuddle, but when we do have sex it is FANTASTIC

BTW LOVE the underwear Spuddy only wish I had the figure for those types of things

Cheers harmony i doubt i'll fit in it again after dc's, so i best get the use out of it while i can

I'm glad it worked out for you Spuddy

I'm gagging for it! if I get pregnant this month, it will be a bloody miracle. We did it the day my period ended, then four days after that. Then I was away for five days, and we did it the next two nights. NOTHING since MONDAY! Technically I should be ovulating sometime this week, but god only knows if any swimmers were in the right place at the right time.

Now, he's invited friends to stay over tonight which means that baba will be in our room in her cot tonight. And it's actually our anniversary - I NEED TO GER LAID!

Phew. Glad that's off my chest .

Yeeehaaaa!

Floydie...do I understand from your last post that you got yer leg over?! Bwahahahaha! Good for you :)

My DP is away until next Saturday and, like you, I'm gagging for it, even if I feel like gagging most of the time. I'm sure a bit of nookie with gorgeous toy boy would take my mind off the almost constant nausea! :o

Spuddy what fantastic pants - a bloody good way of making-up (but what a sill bugger in the first place!).

I am just back from a frankly fantastic week of sex - god bless a holiday. DH had a bit of a melt down at his folks. TMI alert (but tame - no viscous fluids). We stayed there for two weekends on the trot but they gave us there bedroom and therefore bed as his brother was staying and insisted on his bed (which he shared with his mum!!). Under duress DH commenced dtd the first w/e, which freaked him out and he refused this w/e. Now I didn't care, but do any other adults actually get freaked out to the point that they wouldn't at least have a quickie? Normally he can't bring himself to do anything under their roof so perhaps I should be grateful...

Anyway in the round the concept of kids seemed to have spurred him on so I am going to enjoy this series for as long as I can. Have a funny feeling that he may just stop if I get up the duff!

Indeed I did desperate Though fat lot of use it will probably have done!

Funnily enough, my DP is also a toyboy - 7 years in our case. He should be raring to go at 25 years old!

Nice one Bleats

Blimey Floydie - it's 14 years in our case - now I really DO feel like a cradle snatcher! Bwahahahaha! But he's all young and beautiful and he cracked on to me (not the other way around), which somehow makes it better :)

Glad to hear you're getting some...wish I could say the same! Roll on next Saturday night! Yeeeehaw :o

And Bleats...? I really do wish people would stop rubbing it in about the rumpy pumpy! :o

LOL

Hi all, not been on for a while. Was feeling really ill last week - long story short, on and off I get fatigue, joint and muscle pain, hair loss, brain fog amongst other symptoms... I think it's hormone related (oestrogen dominance) as I've been charting it and my symptoms seems to tie in with cycle - my doctor wasn't convinced and ran a load of blood tests to test everything except my hormone levels which have all come back clear so now she's told me it's just part of being a woman and all women feel bad from time to time (in other words, it's not as bad as you're making out, just deal with it). I am so pissed off it's untrue - I bet if it was her quality of life being affected she'd do something about it!

Anyway, rant over - I'm feeling much better now and more like the old me after ov'ing on wednesday and, even though it took every ounce of the little energy I had, we still managed to get some swi in.

Spuddy - I'm so glad you got things sorted with your dp (and some v nice underwear into the bargain!)

Good job everyone else too - what a bunch of sex maniacs temptresses we have on the minibus this month...

On the topic of libido me and dh have discovered something a bit strange - neither of us have a particularly high sex drive but we have just noticed that my dh gets frisky a couple of days before I ov every month without fail. He usually beats the smiley face on the opk by about a day. What do you reckon - proof that pheromones really exist?

Hey all,

Glad to hear things are on the up spuddy - such silly men!!

That's an interesting theory cats, I like it

I got my smiley on CB digital ov tests today. It pleases me when I ov on the exact day the on-line calculator predicted. It assures me that my body is working despite the amount of time it is taking to conceive!

We are doing well with swi and have managed 4 times in the last 7 days . Just have to dtd today, tue and wed now so that I feel we've covered all possible conception days. Wed would be just for good measure

I shall have to get out the sexy undies, little outfits etc to spur DH on!! x

Blimey Byrnsie...get to it gal! :o

That's really interesting Cats...I'm wondering if my DP is the same...cos he proper jumped on me a couple of weeks back, so maybe it IS the pheromones. Maybe I ought to try sexy undies a bit more often though, just for good measure :o