Still not up the duff

[littlewater]

well I'm still not up the duff. Only been 3 months. Feeling a little blue oh well of to work tomorrow.
Lw

[itsohsoquiet]

Doesn't mean we want it any less or it is any less upsetting just because we haven't been trying as long

[OracleInaCoracle]

itsohsoquiet ?

Wed 06-Jul-11 19:09:06

Doesn't mean we want it any less or it is any less upsetting just because we haven't been trying as long

I'm really sorry, but I have to disagree. Noone is saying that you shouldn't be upset, just that 3 months is nothing considering most women take year. But the pain of ttc for a couple of months is nothing compared to ttc for years. It just isn't.

I hope you all get a bfp and baby soon.

[WorzselMummage]

Of course it's not 'as upsetting' to have been trying for 3 month as to betrying for years and years, don't be so bloody ridiculous.

[itsohsoquiet]

some of you have awfully strange attitudes. I came on here to offload because I can't speak to anyone about it in rl but i'm made to feel like I can't post because I haven't been trying at least 12 months. wtf??? think i'll go elsewhere.

[OracleInaCoracle]

itsohsoquiet, dont be so bloody precious. of course you can offload here. the op and some others are moaning about ttc for 3 months, that its forever.

it isnt. you were told to get a grip.

then you said that ttc for 3 months hurts as much as ttc for years, which quite frankly is bollocks and pretty offensive to those of us who have been ttc for years. at 3 months you have hope, and its exciting. at 6 years you feel like you die every month. so you were pulled up on it. if you cant handle that and you want people to say, "poor baby, a whole 12 weeks, how tough for you" maybe you should find somewhere else to offload.

[itsohsoquiet]

I sympathise with those of you who have been trying a long time but my feelings are not any less valid than yours. I have been waiting to try for a baby for 8 1/2 years. My mother took 8 years to conceive my younger brother and I am being tested for the same hereditary blood disorder that my mum and grandmother have that may mean it is difficult for me to carry a baby to full term. So if I won't apologise for being upset.

[Ariesgirl]

In that case I retract my kind-of apology itsohsoquiet

A bit of empathy goes a long way I think. And don't say "Well, show some yourself then" because long term TTCers have been at the three month mark and know for a fact that it's not in the same league as one year or three years or seven years.

[itsohsoquiet]

I didn't mean to offend anyone and I didn't come on here to argue

[katielouxxx]

wow you ladies are being rather harsh. It's not some kind of competition about who has been trying the longest. jeez!

[littlewater]

Aries, I'm sorry I shouldn't have whinged. Damn hormones! Since coming off the pill I have become more emotional.

I apologise for whinging, I should have thought about it a bit more.

Lw

[InTheSunshine]

I don't think anyone who has been trying for as long as some of us on here would be competitive about it Katielou. It's just that sometimes it's difficult to hear people saying they feel empty, sad, angry etc at the start of TTC. It's completely real to feel these things at any time of course but like a few others have pointed out it never gets easier with time.

We've just got to hope. That's all.

[littlewater]

Bugger,
As for enjoying "my" time, I part care for my parents and my nana. So I'm always thinking about them.

Lw

[InTheSunshine]

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[OracleInaCoracle]

Noone is saying you should apologise for being upset ffs, I took exception to you saying that ttc for 3m is just as bad as ttc for years. It isn'tm its not even in the same league. I've had 13 mcs in the 6y I've been ttc. I refuse to accept that being disappointed after 3 months is the same, because I've been there and know it isn't. It wasn't my or anyones intention to upset you, just to say "come on, its nothing" there's nothing wrong with a reality check

Katielou, no its not a competition, but some empathy (as aries said) goes a long way.

Littlewater, seriously, don't worry. You haven't offended and I hope you get your bfp soon

[Ariesgirl]

See, littlewater! I told you TTC makes you mental! And no, Katie, it's not a competition, you're right. But it's very hard not to feel like a loser when people all around you keep getting pregnant.

I hope you get your BFP soon x

[itsohsoquiet]

I guess some of my comments were a bit thoughtless. I didn't mean to upset anyone. just very emotional right now

[OracleInaCoracle]

Itsohsoquiet, sorry if I was a bit harsh. I know its shit and I wish you luck, I am v disheartened myself at the moment thanks to everyone having babies, including my junkie abusive cousin, and just hitting the 6 year mark. I am truly sorry. What is the blkood thing?

[littlewater]

Lissie,
Thanks I'm glad I havnt offended anyone. I just needed to vent. It must be awful to wait years! All I know is that when that babe arrives it will worth the wait.

Aries, I think that's what set me off, I worked with the two girls that are pg.

Lw

[littlewater]

Yeah your right bugger,
Maybe because I've got family stuff to do, that will teach me to become a good parent.

Lw

[OracleInaCoracle]

Buggerlugs, I am I'm afraid and I really wish I'd been wrong. I spout about agnus castus and other fertilty drugs taken without prescription along with early testing and opks frequently. There is so little info out there and desperation makes you do things you wouldn't normally. Have you seen a gp? Feb is too lkong, they need to start your period asap.

[itsohsoquiet]

APS (Antiphospholipid syndrome)
I can't imagine having to wait as long as some of you for a baby and I really do feel for you. Sorry for posting without taking the time to think about what I was saying first!