TTC after a Miscarriage - Love and Luck to all who need it!

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Well its about time you had a new thread.
I wanted to wish you all the best of luck with your trying to conceive and say that it might take weeks months or years, but you won't find a better group for support.
We have all been through the same experinces and talking to someone who has felt the same makes a world of difference.
You will all get your BFP's soon and in the meantime, lets try and keep as calm and de-stressed as possible.

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She is amazingly strong and an inspiration to us all. I just hope that her good state of mind isn't just a wierd hormonal thing, like when you have given birth in normal circumstances. I pray to God that she is okay, genuinely okay and not just braving it. I am so sad for her, and still like you say, crying floods. Her husband seems very supportive, which is wonderful, but I hope he is being looked after too. I posted her a message but I just didn't say wat I wanted to. I didnt know how to say what I was thinking. Poor poor lady

nikki - it is still early days and you will worry about it happening again, but we've all got to take our chances if we want a baby and we all do, so even tho we worry we're compelled to do it, x. As long as u r ready. It's amazing how many women have gone thru this experience and u only find out once you've been thru it yourself. I found out my mam and nanna both lost their 3rd pregnancies as i did.

i've not read desperatehousewife's thread can u do a link?

certainly mygarland

just caught up on the desperatehousewife thread, i knew she was going to lose the baby at the beginning of the week but never checked on her over the last few days, how terribly terribly sad. Tears are coming here too. How awful.

FirstNikki - so very very sorry to hear of your loss, we all know the pain, and sadness you are feeling and are very much here for you to share whatever you want to with us.
You should try again whenever you feel like it, it might be worth waiting for one period, but if it is quite a normal one when it comes, then if you're upto it then by all means try again.

you've all made me feel very "mature" thought i was the baby of the group at 25 yrs, glad to hear i'm not the youngest.

Hi all. Hi FirstNikki, sorry to hear about you m/c I'd wait for everything to calm down, have a relaxing Xmas and see how you feel about ttc then.

TBH i think she is aware that this could be hormonal and i know what you mean about wanting to say something but not being able to. I just hope the strength they both have now continues and they get through it, although i dont doubt they will. Sound incredible couple and i take my hat off to them

why thank you ASH will have a look now

just read it, it brings it all back, im glad they decided to see their baby and say goodbye properly. i think she is probably still in shock, i know it took me a few weeks to not wake up in the morning and wonder where the bump had gone.

oh slink, hope u r ok too. i've just read the poor woman's thread and added my support

Slink - have you posted on her thread? She might be able to draw some comfort from you.

Wow, what an amazing thread you pointed us to ASH. The amount of posts in response just shows how wonderful mn is. Everyone is so caring. Makes me feel happy and sad all at the same time.

slink thinking of you too xx

For all the bitching and "parping" and awful htings that can happen on MN, its times like these that make us all, and thats all of us realise just what MN is for - the support of fellow mothers, soon-to-be mothers, and those tru=ying to be mothers. It is so wonderful that something so sad can bring us all together - is that what is known as bittersweet?

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Slink - {{{{HUGS}}}} to you too hun xx

Slink- perhaps you could offer to CAT her. Al though she may be coping now, who knows how she will be in the next few weeks. She will be able to comfort you too. Sharing your experiences is a two way thing. Sorry if I am coming across wrong but I'm sure you know what I mean

Wonder where MXW has been today....

your right ASH i will ask her to cat me if she wants to.
people cope differently though, i think i lost the plot and drank vodka every night for ages, i didn't leave the house for ages and didn't talk to anyone. the kids behaviour got bad as i was goving them no attention etc- glad to say all back to normal now, well i don't think i will ever be back to normal but as much as is possible.

well ladies im off up my mums for tea (basically cos i cant be bothered to cook ) i will try to get on later xx

I would certainly agree that the help and support shown on here is fab. I don't remember how I found this site but I am glad I have. x

Have a lovely tea Carly mwah xx

Slink - you're right everyone does cope differently, but just knowing somebody out there has suffered the same terrible thing as well is comfortin itself. And I find comforting others helps me come to terms with my own sadness. I think you are a wonderful person to have dealt with this and come out the other end, sane and lovely as you are! xxx

Nikki xxxx you'll be an addict now

oh slink - so sorry you're going through ti all again mentally, its so hard when someone else is going through what you did and you know just how they feel. makes it all come back to you.
i hope you're ok, and if you fancy a chat feel free to cat anytime

aw thanks guys i dunno about sane though coathanger- maybe you should wait til the meetup to judge that one lol

I have just been chating to another MNer on MSN and I said this and I thought I should share it with you lot as well:

we are all stronger than we think. we have all been faced with life's challenges and we have all survived them. Its what builds us, makes us grow, and become the people we are today

It makes us sympathetic to others and loving and understanding. Just look at us (me and other MNer). If I hadn't met you and * and all the others that helped me, I would have had no help or support at all. And its your support that has made me able to support others that come along.

Does that make sense? Its how I feel, anyway

ASH you know what i think!!! i totally agree, wihtout mumsnet and all of you guys, i don't know how i would have made it through the months and weeks of heartache and stress.
Even now, i still get unquestionable support from so many of oyu, who i know in some ways are longing to be in my position. You're all fantastic people, and i love you to bits, can't wait to meet you all.
I feel like i know you all so well.