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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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isn't it annoying? vol.2

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Bexamundo · 24/05/2011 21:19

So the last thread disappeared so here's the deal: I realised it's really annoying to drive yourself mad wondering if you're pg during the 2ww. Newbies welcome!

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havealittlefaithbaby · 07/07/2011 08:11

More bloods today trying to get progesterone level at right time. but fed up with it but not as grumpy as Monday! I think I'm going to get a better reading today, here's hoping anyway!

LisaJayneS · 07/07/2011 08:47

Faithbaby - how come you're having to do blood tests? Sorry for being nosey - tell me to butt out if I am :) xx

NinjaChipmunk · 07/07/2011 10:59

faithbaby hope you get the readings you want. Is this so they can confirm if you are actually ovulating ?

havealittlefaithbaby · 07/07/2011 12:55

Don't worry Lisa I'm not shy about it! We've been ttc for 18 months no joy, I've had loads of bloods done. Basically I had my first gynae appt last Friday where the doc felt my progesterone levels were inaccurate, maybe done too late but its hard to catch it right because my cycles are irregular. They were 15, 20 and 25 before and 30 definitely indicates ovulation. However, I've been charting for 6 months and only had one where I couldn't see an ovulation pattern. It's all looking at if I've got pcos which the doc is skeptical about. Repeat bloods and pelvic ultrasound will give me an indication.
Thanks ninja. I know about the progesterone but not sure what else they checkef tbh!

LisaJayneS · 07/07/2011 14:57

How is everyone today? I've just come back from a nice lunch with my friend for her birthday - only one slight TTC based wobble while there. We were having lunch - me, my DS, my friend and her 2 children (one the same age as mine, one 6 mths) and her other friend - when her friend casually says 'Did you not want any more kids?' Errrrr........ Well.... Ummm.... we'll see????

I know she didn't mean anything by it obviously, but it makes me panic and I don't like lying (nor would she want to hear all the ins and outs of my TTC!!) And just something in the way she phrased it was so final - I think she used the past tense and it just made me feel like if I was going to have any more I should have jolly well had them by now :(

Our mutual friend knows my problems so no doubt she felt a bit funny too (she started TTC after us and now has this 6 mth old). I know I am completely over paranoid about the whole age gap thing (DS will be 3 in Sept) so I am fully aware this wobble is entirely in my head, but still feel a bit glum :( Bit early for Wine so think I'll make myself a nice Brew instead while DS has a nap - bit of TV and a cuppa might help :)

Hope everyone else is ok
Lisa xx

NinjaChipmunk · 07/07/2011 15:02

I can see how phrasing that in the past tense would grate on your nerves a bit. I've just started saying 'when it happens' when people ask me. It seems to stop them asking anymore questions!
I worry about the age gap too. DS is 3.8 so if i got pregnant this month he's be 4 and a half when it arrived and I do worry about it. But equally a large part of me thinks thats daft too. If they get on it will be because of their personalities not neccessarily their ages!
Enjoy your brew Smile

LisaJayneS · 07/07/2011 15:08

I know - It's silly to worry about it cos it doesn't make any difference. Everyone knows someone with a small age gap who hasn't got on and someone with a big age gap who get on like a house on fire! Incidentally, me being thick, but does 3.8 mean 3yrs and 8mths? I assume so.....

In my head, before I knew we would have a problem, I wanted a 2-3 yr gap between them (which is blatantly not going to happen now) so I just need to get over it. It is totally my obsession. I look at people when we're out trying to work out their age gaps of their kids, and when you see celebs who are pregnant I'm working out their age gaps too - stupid obsession - too much time on my hands!!

My only thought is that I'm not that close to my sis and she is 7 yrs older, mind you she is also a bit mental so that might be part of it......

xx

NinjaChipmunk · 07/07/2011 15:16

yes he's 3 yrs 8 months. I'm the same, we wanted a smaller age gap (hence trying for 15 months) but i'm trying to make my peace with it. I've decided to be ultra healthy this month and eat loads of fruit and veg, take my multivits and get out and do a bit more exercise (or at least be out and about more). Hopefully positive thinking and actions will help!

I seem to spend a lot of time wondering about secondary infertility though. I mean, I got pg easily last time, but actually did i really and was it just a fluke? And although I'm older, I'm in a far less stressfull job and more settled at home than I was back then. I guess I want to be able to understand it but since we've yet to have our hosp appt I guess I won't know for a while. does that make sense?

LisaJayneS · 07/07/2011 15:32

Yes TOTALLY Ninja - I am EXACTLY the same. I have wondered exactly the same thing. We got pg 2nd mth of trying but miscarried, then 3rd mth of trying, but maybe we were just super lucky the first time round. I tend to discount the 1st pg because it ended in mc so it may not have been a 'proper' pg - I don't want to use it to make a pattern (iyswim).

But I often wonder what if we were just lucky last time - there is nothing obvious to prevent us from conceiving this time and of course we never checked it out last time because it happened quite quickly so maybe we were just lucky! And the same re the age and stuff - I'm obv older now (33 and DH 33 too) but I gave up work at Christmas, at most I've only worked part time because of DS so pretty hilled out, overall a bit healthier than last time and DH is slimmer than last time too so would like to understand what the prob is. As I think I said we have our 2nd appt at the clinic next Friday so they will hopefully be able to interpret our results for us - I am hoping that there is some sort of forward plan this time as I'm fed up of being in limbo. xx

izzybizzybuzzybees · 07/07/2011 20:57

Hi can i join?

havealittlefaithbaby linked me to this thread as i'm 8dpo and desperate to POAS. No symptoms really except frequent peeing! i went to the loo before a one hour car journey and had to stop twenty minutes in to go pee!! I do have an overactive bladder tho so could just be that Blush

havealittlefaithbaby · 07/07/2011 21:08

Are your boobies sore?!

izzybizzybuzzybees · 07/07/2011 21:23

Just gave them a wee prod and i guess they are a bit tender!

NinjaChipmunk · 07/07/2011 21:31

hello izzy and welcome. step away from the stick......Grin

well, wish me luck ladies, ds has chosen tonight as the first night to go without a pull up. I do hope he manages it, I really don't fancy a full strip down and rebuild of his bed at 3am. Dp has gone out to see a band so I'm slobbing in front of the telly. On the plus side my parents have finally agreed upon a town to move to so are actually speaking to each other again, and have an estate agent coming round to photograph their house tomorrow. I'm somewhat jealous that they are going to move to the seaside! I know whose house I shall be taking over when they go on holiday!

havealittlefaithbaby · 07/07/2011 21:42

izzy excellent additional symptom spotting, that's essential on this thread. I have boob update, pain has stopped, they are tender but have been worse, also right has been 'tingling' today.
ninja hope it all goes well! Hope ninjaboy stays dry! Where have your folks decided to go to? How far is it from you? We live near the seaside (about an hours drive). Love it! Be nice to go and visit them.

NinjaChipmunk · 07/07/2011 21:51

They are looking at Seaford in Sussex. Its probably about an hour from here, maybe a bit longer. I shall miss them but will also have an excuse to go see them as much as possible. And of course when I am on maternity leave with baby #2 I can go down there all I want....

only on cd4 for me. Have been putting my dates in on futility fiend and interestingly where I thought I had regular 28 day cycles, I am pretty even between 26,27 and 28 days. So Although I don't chart I do like thatit can give me averages for my cycle.

How are your unusual boobs today faith?

Any other symptoms other than peeing and boob prodding izzy?

izzybizzybuzzybees · 07/07/2011 21:57

Nope no other symptoms, not really sure when to expect AF as this is my first period since November!!

NinjaChipmunk · 07/07/2011 22:00

thats a very long time. Any idea why it is so long? I think I'd have lost the plot.

izzybizzybuzzybees · 07/07/2011 22:07

I stopped the pill in October and had a withdrawal bleed, then nothing for months and months. Went to GP who said we needed to be ttc for a year before they would do anything but she prescribed me progesterone. This induced a small bleed then 53 days later i had what i would class as a normal period. This was beginning of June so this is first real cycle since November!

NinjaChipmunk · 07/07/2011 22:17

that must make the whole ttc thing so much more frustrating. fingers crossed its getting back to normal.

havealittlefaithbaby · 07/07/2011 23:04

Let's add reflux and increased urination to symptom spotting to my list!
izzy that sounds tough. Why is mother nature so confusing?! Guess all you can do is keep shagging til yoy know what's going on, no wonder pure desperate to pee on a stick!

PatientGriselda · 08/07/2011 07:18

Wow, you've all been talkative! Hello izzy and Lisa and anyone else new I missed.

Ninja, how did ninjaboy fare?

Faithbaby, excellent symptoms, well done!!

Not much news myself. Hospital had lost DP's test results, so thank God I called to check what was happening. Results now rediscovered, and I should hear from day surgery next week for a date for the drilling.

queenrollo · 08/07/2011 09:19

izzy i can sympathise with what you've been going through. when ttc DS i came off the pill in the March and after withdrawal bleed nothing happened until the end of the June! Had very long and irregular cycles until i fell pg in the Dec. My GP wasn't interested AT ALL Angry
This time i had alternating 35/45 day cycles until i saw a medical herbalist who has got me to a regular 33 day cycle.
As much as i hate AF, being able to predict my cycle is much better than the just not knowing that i suffered before.

NinjaChipmunk · 08/07/2011 09:51

ninjaboy did brilliantly and stayed dry. However it has really made me realise that was the last piece of babyhood now finished, and in a way it has made me really sad. He's growing up so fast and I'm feeling a bit desperate this morning. Must put my positive head on, maybe this will be my month.

princessamz · 08/07/2011 12:22

hey everyone,
have had the most bizarre week!i was ovulating around last weekend according to the ov calculator on ere.tuesday i had stomach cramps which felt like period pains and very itchy boobs.wednesday and thursday i had a headache all day,was too tired to do anything including jiggy jig which is not like me at all,iv been bloated and had dull back ache too.feels like im about to get my period but im not due til 17th.been feeling very anxious and weepy too.is this normal for around ovulation time?? x

izzybizzybuzzybees · 08/07/2011 20:30

OMG! ive gone crazy, just been looking on fertility friend at pics of positive pregnancy tests which were obtained at 9dpo!! Argh! this wait is a nightmare!