Sixth Form Common Room part III - post mc ttc & pregnancy

[ZamMummyInGabs]

Hoping to continue the trend of the lucky thread....

Ooh, tina and zam good luck with the SMEG.

zam glad to hear that you've got a diagnosis, and a plan of action, at least. Are you at liberty to disclose which West African country? I have visited 2 and loved one and didn't love the other . Hope you have recovered from the Bronchitis now.

dachs so sorry you're in limbo. I was quite lucky with the ov sticks as I always got a fade in, but I don't think that's usual. How long's your cycle usually? On my first cycles after WTF I was ovulating on day 27ish and having AF on day 40, although I usually have a 31 day cycle. It settled after roughly 3 cycles like that.

tina it is quiet isn't it? I thought I had killed the thread on Monday. Hows the BBT and charting going? It seems quite random at first, IIRC, but seems to settle.

Gym last night, loving pilates at the moment. Friends coming for tea tonight and a lovely pal who has just split up with her long time BF is staying at the weekend. Cue crying, drinking (her) eating (me) and talking shit until late at night (both)

mouse and velvet are you on a work wind down now?

Hope everyone else is well. waves to you all.

yrmotb Usually have 28 day cycle, and would assume I ov on about CD14. WTF was strange, where I had about a 33 day cycle but then got +ve OPK on CD28. So prob just my body being odd, but still frustrating!

Have my first physio session today, and then meeting someone from work for the first time since I lost the twins.

Good morning!

yrmotb the charting's going well, apparently today I'm 'possibly fertile'. No ewcm yet though. I started the opks this morning. My temp chart is all over the place though, I'm putting it down to shift work meaning I take my temp anytime between 5 and 2! It seems steady when I ignore the out of time range ones though. I think I might abandon smep though because I'm working on Friday night too so I think we'll just take whatever opportunities we get!

I'm glad you've got a plan of action zam. if you move will you still be able to see a midwife or doctor regularly for checkups?

Waves to dachs and collie and everyone else x

yrmotb it's Sierra Leone (Freetown) for DH's work - exciting and terrifying in equal measure!

I feel bad as haven't been on for ages so contributing to the quietness. Have been lurking though. I WILL do a proper catch up tonight, have to sleep now while DD her 'quiet' time - I can hear her having a party in her room

lurking also. DS still on school holidays so there just isnt enough time in the day to get everything done. Big waves to all. xxx

Mostly been lurking too :)

zam DP nearly went to sierra leonne last year with work, but turned it down when we realised I couldn't go with him. Not good when TTC! Also - I have factor v too so I have to inject. It is not too bad once you get used to it. ladybee does it too xx
babe Well done for the gym thing. I am going to try to start running soon again, but presently I am full of cold - of course I am just when I am on leave!! I have the bloods when I see Mr S, but I have had lots already so I hope to keep the cost down xx
tina I am a charter too, and once I start charting again I will be able to talk to you about all things temperature related!
dachs sorry your cycle is being crap. I hate it when your body doesn't do what you want it to.....

In my news, I have my appointment with Mr S in 2 weeks. The first appointment cost £250 without any tests, but as I have had most blood tests and scans I am hoping that it won't be much more after that. Especially as we are trying to move house too! It has been over 3 weeks since my erpc and my hcg yesterday was 50. God my body is so slow. Come the f**k on body!!!! Sort your self out.

Wave to everyone else xxx I know I have missed hundreds of you xxx

must dash - off to view a house, Dp is very keen - of course he would be, it is way over budget so I hope he has his haggling head on!

Evening ladies

where to start....

Dachs glad your legs are beginning to heal but it sounds horrible. I feel for you. And of course, sorry your cycle is not behaving. Unfortunately, it might be expected but that doesn't help. I can imagine having to think about work is pretty awful too. It's like things are moving on without you allowing it, and in some ways you would never want to move on. Really thinking of you.

Battery that's great that your appointment with Mr S is coming up so quickly. Is your GP sympathetic? As they might be able to arrange to have most of your test on the NHS where possible. A friend of mine managed to do that, (but wasn't seeing Mr S just another private dr). The house move sounds very exciting. I love going to see new houses. Have you had any interest in yours yet? Must be great to have DP back. Will it feel wierd after a while, having him around all the time?

Ladybee hope you are feeling better. Any news about the car yet? what are you getting?

Zam sorry to hear about the bronchitis, sounds nasty. Glad you have a plan for TTC, but must have been a bit to get the diagnoses. Sierra Leonne sounds exciting and a bit scary too. My sister worked out there for about 18 months, it was quite full on.

Tina good luck with the SMEP (you too Zam), am impressed with the charting especially on shift work.

YRMOTB very impressed with the gym again. I've been so knackered I can't face it, but I suppose it might help. However, my MS gets worse when I'm tired so trying to save energy wherever possible. Am off to bed after I finish this post . I saw you on the grads thread, I was going to join too but can't manage much more than 1 thread at the moment, and my heart is still here.

MummyA sounds pretty busy with you. I don't suppose you've managed to speak to any other doctors if you've got your hands full already. Good luck when you manage it. Always thinking of you though.

Mouse waves to you, although I hope you're too busy to read this

Izzy sorry you are feeling down, but actually I think it rather lovely to remember even if sad, IYSWIM. I haven't remembered exact dates, and I feel that I am rather heartless sometimes.

AandR great news that things are moving again on the house, and congrats on getting more work at higher rate.

News from here - not much actually, but I have my first consultant appointment tomorrow. I think it's just routine since I'm consultant led but glad that it's this early, I'm pleasantly surprised. We also haven't heard back about our nuchal tests, which is positive as were only expecting to hear by now if high risk.

I know I haven't name checked everyone, but waves to you all Knitter, Tomboy, Velvet, Collie, Freelance, Digital, Loup, Stitch, Jolls, BBB and any other lurkers

Hi All - just done a quick read - Dachs nasty Venetian bites - the only bites should have been lurvvveee bites!

MummyA what a pain to have to keep battling but a uterus is worth the fight. Just adds to my man hating fury at the moment - possibly should suggest chopping off his bits as a solution for him being a knob head!

I am on CD2 - which on the whole is a relief as the thought of the mammogram would have just added to the stress but af was two days late - which has never happened to me before and freaked me out. I am feeling rather aggrieved with the working world at the moment. I have had to fight incredibly hard to get over the double whammy of being female in a very male world (just realised the other day that I have never worked in a team with another female consultant) and of being a mother requiring flexible working hours. Over the last two months I have managed to turn my manager's very patronising tones into something more on an equal footing and have pushed my rate back up to something more in line with my male colleagues. A former (younger - well connected) ex-colleague is now joining the team as my new manager and is being anticipated with reverential tones and it just makes me so disheartened and angry with the world that despite our talents being definitely comparable I have to start from the assumption of youth, support staff, requiring mentoring status and he starts from a god-like status - I should have been born a male! Rant over grrr

Strong feminists waves to all - good luck with the SMEGging!

I'm another one guilty of contributing to the quietness [promises to do better emoticon]

aandr sorry you're feeling so fed up re work - I can empathise a little, all the full-time men I work with earn way more than my pro rata'd pittance and I was told uncategorically when I went part time that I would never be partner . The joys of parenthood...

battery yay for the Dr S appt, fx you can get some tests on nhs. I love house hunting - hope you manage to haggle something good.

ladybee how did you get on with the car?

yrmotb you put me to shame going to the gym, although I have now started antenatal yoga, which is really good. Looking for something else to do as well though, when I had dd there was a fab ante and postnatal aerobics class nearby but it seems to have closed now

dachs hope the legs aren't too bad now and your cycle starts behaving soon x

freezing sounds like all's going well, are you feeling really tired? Hope the consultant appt goes well

tina hope you're doing ok this cycle...temping is hard esp with shiftwork. I still think it's helpful but the trick is not to get too hung up on it otherwise I'm convinced it gets counter productive!

mummya any luck finding a less dramatic dr?!

Anyway thank you all for being so lovely when I was feeling down...I knew you would understand. Today was 20 week scan, nerve wracking as I hate scans, it was anniversary of erpc and first time I've been back to that hospital since then...however it all went really well, such a relief . I know we've still got a long way to go but it does feel like a big hurdle over with!

Hello, glad to hear our pregnant ladies are all doing very well.

I'm cd19 and a scan revealed today that my ovaries have no follicular activity. So another horribly long cycle on the cards. And probably won't result in a bfp. Very depressed about it all. But I've been given a prescription for a clomid type drug to take next cycle which will hopefully bring on ovulation a lot sooner. Just have no idea when that next cycle will be. Could be end of August could be end of September. It's the unknown that is frustrating.

AandR you keep flying the flag! Totally hear you on the inequality of pay and ridiculous worship of young male upstarts who aren't particularly more talented than us grand-dames. Glad to hear you're on a welcome new cycle. Is that it for mammograms then?

battery pleased to hear your appt is coming up. You prob only have three tests to do which will cost another couple of hundred. Hopefully. I with you on the 'come the f**k on' chant - you to get your hcg down, me to pop an egg.

mummya how are you getting on with finding a less extreme consultant? Do you think you'll have to fly back here for an elcs?

dachs sorry to hear of mozzy bite woes. I've had similar and it can really spoil a holiday. Hope your own cycle sorts itself out soon. I guess my wait for superovulation is a bit like your wait for ivf. I'm pretty sure you'll get there first though. Wishing you so much luck for that too.

zam is this the first time you've been diagnosed with factor v? Must be good to know there is treatment for it. Good luck with ttc.

mouse best of luck now you're back on the ttc wagon. Hope it's a short ride.

Waves to all. Getting tired now.

Xposted izzy - v pleased to hear scan went well!

Yay for good 20 week scan izzy, so happy for you

Hello

Yay for great scan news izzy!!! I hope that you will be able to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy now that that milestone has passed

digi how frustrating! Fingers crossed that this cycle isn't too long and that the new drug leads to a lovely egg next cycle.

AandR your work situation sounds extremely unfair and frustrating, I don't blame you for having a good moan!

battery £250 sounds a bit more reasonable than £1000 - I hope that you can use your previous test results to keep costs down.

Good luck with the consultant today freezing.

I'm enjoying some peaceful sunshine whilst dd's at nursery, bliss! Ff tells me that I'm at my fertile peak today so best get busy later , still no on an opk though, I'm hoping that it will wait until the weekend due to work tomorrow, dh is meant to be going to a party on Saturday but I've given him his orders first! . A friend at work has just announced a pregnancy, she'd been trying for a few years and had fertility treatment (not sure what but I think iui) so I'm very happy for her and it gives me hope! What's annoyed me this morning is the lady who's just started her mat leave already complaining...

Got :) on OPK!!!!! Yay! Lots of activity in the dachs kennel then. Although DH is going away tomorrow and won't be back until Sunday night. What do I do. Is there any chance if I jump him tonight and tomorrow morning and Sunday night that there will be any way it might work? Am really worried that we're going to miss our chance...

I would do exactly that dachs!! if you think about it you will probably ovulate tomorrow, in which case you'll have some swimmers ready and waiting! And then Sunday would seal the deal . I have to fit things in around work so I'm used to taking every opportunity! Go for it, have a lovely evening

dachs that sounds a good plan to me - best get on with it! Yay for the !!

So pleased your scan went well Izzy I hope this means you can really start to relax now and enjoy the rest of the pregnancy with much less stress.

Action stations Dach! All systems go go go!

lady how are you feeling now, are you getting better?

Not much news from me, keep putting off making more appointments, I have one with Dr Hysterectomy on Friday but will cancel it, and one with New-Lady-Doctor who-hopefully-will-turn-out-to-be-my-saviour in August (Funny how Dr Hysterectomy had loads of free appointment spaces, but other ones have a long waiting list) Should make some more really. I am still getting monthly checks for urine/blood pressure/bloods/doppler etc on the state system and everything seems fine so I am not too worried. They gave me a tetanus injection a few days ago - its mandatory here - left me feeling quite knackered and like I have been punched in the arm, so its lots of sofa time and chocolate for me

have turned completely paranoid now. Given that I've always had a 28 day cycle and last cycle and this cycle I've not had +ve opk until about CD21/22. I'm now wondering whether the mmc we had last year was in fact just a pg dated a week or so later than my lmp would have suggested. So if I'd left it for a bit and had another scan, could there have been a baby and a heartbeat? And is the only reason I've found it so hard to get pg because I've got a v short luteal phase? And thinking like that is totally unhelpful and I don't know why I'm tormenting myself. I am in desperate need of chocolate but I don't want to put back on any of the weight I've lost, so I'm starving, miserable and desperate for DH to get home!

I've also just spent £1,200 on IVF drugs, so I'm hoping that it was a complete waste of money and my body will do what it's meant to before I need to start taking them... So everything crossed for me please

mummya Good luck with nice shiny new doctor and boo hiss for dr hysterectomy. How's the driving going?

izzy glad your scan went well

digi I hope the drug helps and that your follicles kick into action asap. Bring on the SWI!!!

tina Good luck with opk :) Hope it appears at the right time for you

Evening ladies. I too have been AWOL due to being busy, etc. "6/10, see me."

Anyway...

Izzy hooray for 20-week scan and all being well.

Mummya dumping Dr Hysterectomy sounds like a very positive step. It's too bad you have to wait til August to see Dr Hopefully-Saner, but it sounds like the wait will be worth it.

Dachs Hope you feel better soon, and that Sod's Law springs into action and you don't need the IVF drugs.

Well, my WTF cycle is WTFing away. Last weekend I turned into Weepy Shouty Unreasonable Harridan B*tch Woman, which both scared me and caused me to POAS as that was the first symptom of being pg last time. BFN. This week I've been feeling dizzy and tired, but unless I get sore boobs I'll resist the urge to pee on any more sticks. The mc was 5 weeks ago tomorrow, but there's been no sign of AF or any of her outriders. Bah.

Dach I had exactly the same kind of thoughts last year, what if it was a mistake etc. I think your brain just desperately wants to make sense of it all and have some information to work with because its so hard just sitting and waiting and doing nothing. I think one WTF cycle gives way too little info about luteal phase etc you could find that next months everything just pops back into a nice regular pattern again. I hope all the waiting is not too agonising though. xx

Driving project and doctor research has all gone up the creek this week. I think realistically I am not going to get much done until DS is back in nursery school (monday) I was supposed to go for a scan today, but rainy season is being particularly vicious in the afternoons at the moment, so i have had to cancel and reschedule. (yes, I have noticed the irony that if i could drive this would not be a problem )

thanks for the chocolate

Oh dachs I don't think that you should think of you wtf cycle as an indicator of what's normal for you, if I did that I'd think I had a 5 day lp, especially as I had 3 stupidly short ones until my body got itself back to normal. I also think that when you had your mc if there had been any doubt about what they saw or couldn't see they would have asked you to come back for a repeat scan so please don't worry about that. On a brighter note I hope that you had a productive night !

mummya if it's that hard to get in to see the new consultant she must be good so fx!

tom I hope that your body sorts itself out soon x

Dh is off to the gp for his results, poor thing he is so nervous! Will report back later!

dach I thought that last year - my first MC when we saw 2 little heart beats at 6 weeks, then later on - nothing. I kept saying to DP 'we did give them a chance didn't we - we didn't have the tablets too early?' I would have hated to think I had got rid of a healthy pregnancy :( I think these thoughts are normal, but you know that you did the right thing at that time, so nothing for you to fret about my lovely. I would not worry about your WTF cycle being normal for you now...remember that is why it is called Wtf!
tina good luck with DHs results......men do get very worried about these things, and who can blame them!
mummyA I no likey Dr Hysterectomy. It does make me wonder why she/he is so keen to whip out your womb without a second thought......seems a bit callous.
izzy hooray for good scans xx did you find out the flavour :)

I had my hcg done on tuesday which came back as 50. Down from 168 in 7 days, and I got a bfn yesterday so I hopefully am back on track. The temptation is to TTC now but in order to see MR S you can't be pregnant. So in order to focus on someting else - We sold our house yesterday and bought abother - all in the space of a day. V v v v scary! :)

Love and waves to everyone I missed xx

Ah, dachs that's entirely the thoughts that went through my mind at the time of my mc, I think it's entirely normal. And don't take the WTF as read, it's been very different to our normal cycles in all cases I think.

ma glad to hear that you have an appointment with your (hopefully) saviour! Hope it goes well, fingers crossed for you.

izz hurrah hurrah on good scan news, I'm so glad to hear it. Halfway there. Eek.

battery huzzah on the BFN. that's really good news.

I have a friend coming for the weekend, so will probably be AWOL. Hope you all have a good one, it's meant to lash it down here..