Sixth Form Common Room part III - post mc ttc & pregnancy

[ZamMummyInGabs]

Hoping to continue the trend of the lucky thread....

Ouch dachs! I got bitten to pieces last summer in France, my feet swelled up into huge red welts, the itching was unbearable. The local pharmacy gave me some antihistamine cream that helped a little, have you tried anything? If they look infected though it's worth a trip to the gp. You have my sympathies!

Good luck mouse !!! You'll be busy in a few weekends time then

Good luck phoning round when you're feeling up to it mummya

Im feeling all sorry for myself...I found out recently that one of the mums I used to see a lot when dd was a baby whose dh shares an office with mine is 37 weeks. And another friend keeps going on about how excited she is that a friend of hers has just had a baby. And I feel a bit cheated as I should be starting mat leave at the end of this month and I'm not even pregnant yet to soften the blow

I know how you feel - I was meant to be starting mat leave at the start of August and there were two other pg people at work, both of whom have now had their babies and there's no chance of me being pg before I was due to start mat leave.

WHOOOOO HOOOOOOOO!!! Back to business again Mouse!!!!

(we will all be here for hand holding on that first two week wait, I know will be a rough one after such a long wait xxx)

Thank you ladies, you are all very lovely [hsmile] xx

hello everyone :)

There has been a lot happening! mummyA A hysterectomy sounds very extreme. Surely that is worst case scenario and they are just planning for the worst? Hopefully it will not come to that and you can get a second opinion xx
mouse whoop for AF. Of course that is that last time we want to see her in this room!
dachs sounds like you have had a really bad allergic reaction. Have you got it sorted yet?
tina I know how you feel lovely. We were at work the other day talking about xmas and all I kept thinking was that I would have been on mat leave by then so shouldn't even be at work. Sigh.

Big waves to everyone else xxx

I have booked an appointment with Dr Shehata. I have decided that we could get pg with number 4 and if we Mc again then we would kick ourselves for not seeing him. My own consultant has written to me saying he will see me when the results from the baby come in, but really that could be 3-4 months. So we have decided not to try until I see him (which is awful as we want to try now!) am slightly worried about the cost as a girl on another thread said her first appointment and bloods cost £9620 but I have had lots of bloods already so I hope to keep the cost down more than that!

Good news is that DP is home for good from germany!!!! We are snuggled up with a bottle of red :) Love to all xxx

yay for battery having DP home for good and bottle of red

battery Have got antibiotics and antihistamine pills from the doc and instructions to go back immediately if it gets any redder or more sore, so hopefully the drugs will kick in overnight and it will be better tomorrow. :)

Good luck with Dr Shehata

battery £9620?!! was that a misprint? £962 maybe...

If you want some references the guy I saw in London charged about £205 for a consultation and £250 for a scan. (compared to £35 + £20) I have only ever had bloods done in CR, but I think the prices for these are similar, the hormone ones are more expensive than others, a set has cost me about £100 + but it does depend which ones you do (each test is between 5 and 15 quid)

If anyone is going to charge you nearly 10 grand, please bear in mind for that you can fly first class to costa rica, have a zillion scans and blood tests and a 3 week, 5 star holiday with change to spare!!

mummy erm yes you are right it was £962 not £9620.....damn red wine

battery I nearly fell off my chair then...£9620?!!! Glad to hear it was a typo . Yay for having dh back and enjoying some together

dachs I really feel for you, I react badly to mosquito bites too and it's miserable; unfortunately dd is the same. And yet they always go for me and dd on holiday - never dh or ds who don't react at all; why is that?! Hope yours have gone down a bit now x

mummya have you looked into any other consultants yet?

Strange day here...am exactly 20 weeks today and baby is nice and lively, which is fab, but it's a year to the day since that dreadful 16-wk scan when we found out the last baby had died. Don't get me wrong, obviously I'm happy with how things are going so far this time, and am v grateful to be getting another chance, but can't help feeling a bit sad about the one we lost. And obviously dh hasn't a clue what date it was, so is oblivious and it just feels like that poor baby doesn't matter to anyone else and that's

Luckily I'm not going to have a chance to stay maudlin for long, since we are hosting all the ILs this weekend - better go and tidy up a bit!

Izzy in my (admittedly limited) experience of men and mc, men just don't react the same way. My DH certainly seems less sad about my mc than I am. Not because he wanted the baby less, but because it's all at a slight remove for him. It wasn't his body after all.

Sorry you're feeling .

battery mind you £962 is still a lot of cash to part with for tests. I am assuming that you wouldnt have to do the same package your friend did though, can you not start with just some things you think may be relevant to your situation? Do you have an idea what those might be?

Izzy for scan date blues. I think all of us will always carry a bit of sadness with us for all the little ones we lost. xxx

izzy sorry you're today. Totally understandable though. Remembering is still partbf the grieving process I think. Just because you have a new baby growing doesn't mean you don't wish you'd and the chance to meet your other one. It's good you have family staying though, a distraction I think is for the best. I think Tomboy is right, men react differently and I know for my DH dates don't mean much to him, when it cones to loss. Even with family he has lost, he doesn't feel the need to remember the days the past and Mark them, he says he dies it thought the year. In contrast, I do and I couldn't not mark an anniversary of a death.

Tina I'm sorry you're so about your looming dd too. It must be very hard as mine is also looming next week which makes me so too, bit I also know I am so lucky to be updiffed again, and am very grateful for that as I know makes it easier. (that doesn't come across as rubbing it in, just want you to know I know how you feel and I'm just sorry it's not been made that liirke bitbeasiee for you)

battery I nearly spat my tea out at nearly £10k!!!! £1,000 still a lot of money but hopefully if you need less that will reduce and I think if you can afford it, it's money well spent.

mouse YAY for cd1!!! Good luck!

Sorry not to name check everyone.

ps, had my 20wk scan on weds! All ok, and we're having a boy! Xx

dachs how are the legs today? sounds painful and very irritating!

whoop whoop for cd1 mouse

izzy sorry you are i still look at our friends dd and think about what i lost too (we were due around the same time) so i know how you feel. My DH hasnt got a clue about stuff either.

Yay for the DDs aandr that would make me too!

hellooo everyone else

Hi all, just a quick one to battery. Well done for booking the appointment! Dig out all the Nhs tests you have had do far and hopefully the only one you will need to pay for is nk cells. I did actually have a couple ones missing but knowing I had a very receptive gp I asked mr s wheger I could get them done via her and he said yes. First appt therefore cost £250 plus £150 nk cell test. Follow ups, have so far had just one for results and to be told treatment, cost £150 a time. Again, see if your gp is receptive to giving you Nhs prescriptions. He told me to come back and see him after one cycle of Pred, have no bfp yet and 2 days to go before the minimum of 14 days in it so I guess I need to make an appointment. Not sure what will happen there. Am a bit scared if telling him how my ovaries have been clanging for weeks as am sure an expensive scan might ensue, but best to get things checked u guess. My prescriptions are Nhs but on a bfp I will have to start intralipids at £300 a month. Good luck with the appt and let us know how it goes! Come join us on the Pred Thread too :)

Doh, sorry for annoying typos. Stupid iPhone

Phew battery I was worried there! Although that's still a lot of money, I really hope that you get some answers and it leads to a beautiful baby for you.

That's great news collie

izzy it's so so hard isn't it? I really want to be pregnant by my dd to have something positive to focus on but i'll always wonder about the baby I'll never get to meet

I've been at work all day, I'm ready for my bed! Waves to everyone, have a nice Sunday x

Hi just checking in again, still suffering a heavy cold and now have got to look after DS by myself for the next 3 days as DH has just flown away on business. Fortunately I've checked my diary and he should be back at the crucial time this month am really really bored of the cough and grotty nose though - the only silver lining I can scrape out of this one is the thought that if I had high NK cells, then surely I would be over this long ago?? my immune system seems to be frankly slothlike, not hyperactive.

Dachs those bites sounds really really painful. I had just one bite go septic and I still remember the hot/swelling/painfulness of it, so I have enormous sympathy for you suffering with it all over both legs. I hope the meds are doing their job, and you're keeping a close eye on it. That London is overrated anyway

BatteryHen glad you've got a plan sorted, the money is daunting (even without the typos). Maybe just take it one step at a time, be frank with him about tests and results you've already had and take the results then make the next decisions.

Izzy big hug for the memory of your loss, and for the loneliness of it. I think I've written before about how hard I find it knowing that DH will never share the grief with me in the same way. I hate having something like that be between us but it's just another facet to the pain of pregnancy loss. I'm very pleased that you had a good scan for this pregnancy, but the one thing doesn't cancel out the other. Don't feel bad for feeling bad.

waves to everyone else...oooh ooh, before I forget! we (nearly) bought a car this weekend. 'Nearly' because we haven't heard about finance approval yet, but I'm very excited - I'm the main driver in our family. It's nothing special all we could afford but it's the one I wanted and it's the first time I've ever had a car I've chosen.

bee sorry you're still suffering

The meds appear to be kicking in a bit but the legs still look as if someone has randomly attacked them all over with a sharp knife [hsad]

Hope the car finances get sorted out soon and you get your nice shiny car [hgrin]

Hi ladies,

Hope the poorly people are feeling a little better tonight (your NK logic has me pondering my immune system lady ) Has the rash settled dachs ?

Big hugs for you izzy all the occasions we've got to go to this summer keep me thinking how old #1 would be now or what size I'd be with #2... ugh

Good luck with the testing battery sending lots of love your way xx

Waves to velvet mummy collie bbb jolls tina stitch tomboy and all xxx

Oh dear dachs. I so hope that your bites are settling down somewhat now. My aunt has the same kind of reaction to mozzie bites, ends up with huge 2 inch welts that look and feel incredibly sore and painful. You have my utmost sympathy. How was Venice apart from that? My mum wanted to take me in September, she has been before.

Hurrah for mouse getting back on the horse! How good just to feel proactive again.

izz hope you're feeling ok today. DH's definitely don't process in the same way do they? I don't think my DP was even aware that my 12 week scan this time was just after the ERPC last year, and that all of it was within the same 4 week period of the previous year.

battery glad to hear that you have the appointment through. It's not even that far off now. When do you need to do the bloods, when you see him, or before?

Hurrah for the new (possibly) car! I would love a car, we use DP's van, and can't really justify another vehicle, but I have a secret longing for a nice little hatchback.

I hope all had a nice weekend. We've been busy here, weddings, friends who've been together years splitting up, visitors for the weekend, all go really. Been back to the gym as well, feel much better for that.

Waves to everyone.

Very quiet on here today...

dachs how are your legs?

ladybee I hope you're feeling better, when's your dh back?

Where do you get your energy from yrmotb? I want what you're having!

In my news dh dropped his sample in yesterday, although he had to deliver it within an hour we don't get the results until Friday . In the meantime smep starts tonight (even though we're starting a day late because I was at work last night) so busy evening ahead !

legs are no longer sore but the bites have left big black scabs about 1 -2 cm across all over my legs. Which the dogs keep trying to lick [hhmm]

Have been keeping quiet as have been having a really bad couple of days. just been feeling really miserable and low. Partly I think due to the fact that i just wish i knew what was happening in my cycle. On CD 19 today and still no sign of positive on OPK (which never usually work for me anyway but for some reason it's really getting me down). I think it's because deep down I was hoping that I could get a nice shiny BFP without having to do the IVF again, and also because if I have no idea when to expect AF I have no idea when the IVF will be starting. Which sucks. Because I need to start thinking about going back to work - which sucks in itself because I'll be going back about the time I was expecting to go on mat leave. And it's really really depressing me at the moment.

Good luck with the SMEP tina [hwink]

Sounds like a busy weekend yrmotb [hgrin]

dachs. I remember thinking that I'd get pregnant immediately after my mc, despite the fact that it took 8 cycles for that baby. I suppose I clung to that hope to get me through it. Especially as I kept hearing about this amazing fertility boost after a mc, which obviously wasn't the case for me. It was my pregnant colleague's last shift last night too, I had planned to finish in 2 weeks time . I hope that your period arrives soon so you can get the ivf ball rolling.

Hellooooo!!!
I am here...
Sorry for the crapness, I've had bronchitis for over a week and not been up to anything.
Went to gynae on June 30th (which turned out to be CD1 after they'd charged me £20 to POAS....) and test results are back: I have Factor V Leiden and possibly antithrombin deficiency & Hughes Syndrome. On baby aspirin & will go on to
Clexane & progesterone at BFP. Am reasonably confident tho since I managed the 2 DS's with no problems, and am crossing all my limbs that this MC & then CP were just my advancing age (I'm 37 & my mother started perimenopause at 42 - and had me at 43)

In other news, we're probably moving to West Africa around Xmas - eeek!! This particular country has almost non-existent medical care so I am assuming that sod and his law will be requiring me to bring in a year's supply of clexane in my hand luggage and have another ELCS in the UK. Must remember NOT to have Ken Bruce on in the background next time
Meanwhile we are in full-on SMEG mode and EWCM showed up yesterday so best back to it

dachs im sorry your cycle is not being helpful. CD 19 is still only early though. Not sure how long your cycles were before but I wouldn't normally ov until cd 23 or later, and I think your first cycle is likely to be different to usual. How's the EWCM? Sorry about your poor legs too! I hope it didn't spoil your holiday too much, especially as it was meant to try and lift your spirits after what you've been through. Re work, how do to feel about going back? After what you've been through you shouldn't rush back and there is no shame in needing longer. I can imagine the timing makes it doubly worse.

Good luck tina with smep! And to anyone else starting the 2ww!!

Night all x