Freak out room for those newly updiffed after mc - Part VI

[CollieandPup]

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
6. And the presence of symptoms.
7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.

10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the old thread.

lily it's def normal to want to poas imo. I have a stash of about 10-12 sticks (which I still have) plus 2 cbdigis!! glad all is going ok for you. How far do you think you are?

welcome to the newbies who joined yesterday.

hairy glad your symptoms are back.

izzy so glad the scan went well x

Dachs Thinking of you and praying everything turns out ok. You poor thing. Will be keeping an eye out for your updates.

Welcome to all the newbies!

NT scan tomorrow and I am bricking it. I have been forced to take a few migane pills in the last 2 weeks so convinced thats had a bad effect :( In other news, my SIL just found out she's 3 weeks behind me!

Morning,

Dachs sorry you didn't sleep well, but glad to hear you don't have a temps and pups are still in situ. You're being so brave, much love to you and dh.

Izzy glad the scan went well.

Hairy I have loads of symptoms and still freaking out too. Nights are def the worst. I have a scan tomorrow and I'll be past my danger time with all mc's by then......

Welcome to all the newbies!!

Can I ask something really trivial?! I'm having a clothes crisis....... I not small by any stretch of the imagination. I was a 14 in Jan before mmc & mc, but am now more of a 16 and really struggling for clothes. It's far too early for mat clothes, and I just couldn't yet iykwim. Any ideas?? Getting fed up with leggings and the weather doesn't seem right for maxi dresses. Or is it?? Can I get away with ballet pumps???

Like I said trivial.....but I'm sat here with my jeans button undone, zip half done and a big belt holding everything up/in!!! Plus a long top..... Sexy??? Oh yes!!

Banana people have taken far worse things and all been ok ! I have a friend who had a kidney transplant 10yrs ago so takes a mega cocktail of steroids. She was told she couldn't get prg so when her tummy bloated up didn't think much of it.....until it got bigger and bigger. Docs didn't have a clue so treated for an ulcer. Then a nurse happened to have feel....... 3 days later she had a c-section at 36 weeks . The little one is perfect! True story....

Just checking for news from Dachs - glad to hear your temps are stable and pups still well. Everything crossed for more good news later x

De-lurking to say thinking of you and hoping you get some good news today.

I've been lurking becuase I'm finding to many things to freak myself about. Am 21 weeks, all going well (i'm having id twins for all the newbies) - now convincing myself that they will get TTTS for absolutley no reason at all!

Harrassed - bump bands got me through the first about 18 weeks - wear your normal trousers / jeans undone with the band over the top to keep them up and keep you looking decent - works a treat. I'm a size 14-16 pre pregnancy too and have only just got maternity trousers - hideously ugly but oh so comfortable!

Morning Ladies

Dachs - you were the first person I thought about before I went to sleep and the first person I thought of when I woke up. Wishing you all the best for today.

We didn't do an updated list yesterday as I think we were all preoccupied but I thought I'd take the plunge and update it for today. I hope I've done it right. Dachs - hoping that in writing the list as usual it will bring you good luck for the day. Izzy - you said you were two days behind so I hope I've listed you correctly. Newbies - please add yourselves!
Tuesday's List (17th May 2011)

Tiggersreturn (TTT) 21+0 EDD 26/09/11
mamapower 20+6 EDD 28/9/11
Emoo 19+4 EDD 7/10/11 next scan 19/5/11
Lovemysleep 19+0 EDD 11/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 17+2 EDD 24/10/11
Onions 17+2 EDD 24/10/11 Next Scan 07/06/11
IreneHeron 17+0 EDD 23/10/11 next scan 3/6/11
CEP 15+3 EDD 5/11/11 - 20 wk scan 22/6/11
Hils74 14+6 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 14+5 EDD 10/11/11 next scan 23/6/11
Haffertee 14+3 EDD 14/11/11
Ninunina: 14+0 EDD 15/11/11
delilahbelle 13+5 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 13+5 EDD 17/11/11
Collie 13+2 EDD 20/11/11 next scan 18/05/11
wombatinwaiting: 12+5 EDD 24/11/11
Banana87: 12+5 EDD 24/11/11 NT scan 19/5/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 12+1 EDD 26/11/11
LaraMi 11+4 EDD 2/12/11 Next scan - 18/05/11
Blackkat 11+0 EDD 5/12/11
Jigglebum 10+5 EDD 8/12/11
Hairylights 5+1

On the grads thread too:
Nickster 28+3 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 24+3 EDD 4/9/11
Wombat33 23+3 EDD 10/09/11 next scan 25/5/11
Daisybell 22+5 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 21+2 EDD 25/09/11
DoubleDiffedDachs 19+6 EDD 5/10/11 next scan 18/5/11
Velvetcu 17+0 EDD 25/10/11 next scan 22/06/11
MummyAbroad 15+4 EDD 4/11/11

Thinking of.... ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; harassed; MumTum; Knitter, Kat2504

Hi piglet congratulations on your BFP! I think it's impossible to avoid the knicker checking, I think if you've had a MC it becomes a compulsive habit.....

dachs I will be lurking on here all day for news. I'm sorry you had a bad night, but it is fantastic news that your temperature's not up. I agree with nix, can they give you antibiotics now to prevent an infection? I really really hope today brings you the good news you so deserve. Send our love and thoughts to your DH too.

hairy you poor thing, I went through a phase of having grim nightmares too-I think the hormones make them worse. Is it worth trying something like going for a walk just before bed so that hopefully you sleep a bit deeper?

banana good luck for tomorrow's scan. Freaking out the day before a scan is completely normal-I'm sure you haven't hurt the baby as you hear about people that didn't realise they were pregnant until 20+ weeks and were taking all sorts of drugs in the meantime. I think most of them just say don't take while pregnant because they can't do clinical trials on pregnant women. My blood thinning injections even say don't take in pregnancy which is pretty weird given they were prescribed to help the pregnancy!!!

Wow just scrolled down, harassed that is an amazing story!!!! My best suggestion for your clothing crisis is the linen maternity trousers from JoJo Mamam Bebe-they've got a huge stretchy waistband and have fitted me since about 12 weeks when normal clothes were uncomfortable but didn't have any kind of bump.

silver sorry you're having a stressy time.

OMG harassed what a story! Re the clothes. I think if you'd be warm enough in a dress then go for it, only problem is it's been peeing it down for 3 days where I live so it could drag about in puddles. What about getting a long stretchy skirt, like leggins material? I live in ballet pumps all year round. A pain when it rains though! Would a bump belt help?

Still got everything crossed for good news, lovely xx

Harrassed I went down the tunic and leggings route, couldn't stand anything around the non-bump. That or my usual jeans held up with a hairband which works much better than you would think :)

Nightmares are shitty; I still get the odd one. Long bath and mug of cocoa helped a bit but I think it's mainly the mentalling hormones doing it, unfortunately.

Banana if it wasn't the day before your scan I'd be sending a kipper your way. :) Remember, the odds are massively on your side that everything is okay. Hope it all goes well tomorrow. PFF is absolutely right about the drugs - it's just not ethical to test drugs on updiffed women so nobody dares do it; doesn't mean they are harmful.

Just checking on dachs - and like everyone else have fx for today and the days ahead. Those little babydachs are stickers I tell you. Hi to all the newbies and welcome to the mentalling. It does get easier, it really does (she says hoping she hasn't just tempted the evil mentalling fairy back into her life)...

oh and harrassed how about some maxi dresses and little cropped cardis?

Harassed - amazing story I echo! With regards clothes, I can't recall how far along you are, but I can totally relate to you. My tum has become considerably rounded (am also tall and a 14-16) and every morning is a stress. Outside of work I live in jeggings with floaty tops but dressing for work is depressing. Nothing fits. I hope all goes well with my scan and then I can address the clothes situation more head-on. Am too scared at the mo.

On the subject of scans and fear, I too have mine tomorrow and am so scared, I feel quite ill. I am convinced the result will be negative and am just trying to prep myself for how I will handle it. If I think about it for longer than two seconds I turn into a nervous wreck. My DH sent me the scan pics of a colleague of his and I was too scared to open them because I didn't want to see how my pics "won't look". My sister is 12 weeks ahead of me and I am so scared I won't get to complete the journey with her. Banana - don't stress re the pills. I have been drugging myself up with asthma sprays and hayfever nasal sprays (with the docs approval of course).

OMG - how the hell am I going to get through today?

Thanks ladies. Did some research online and found out that even though they haven't done controlled studies on Imigran, they have collected data which show that 4% of pregnancies were with congenital defect (and who knows if thats due to the med). They say don't take it because there is not enough research. And then I read that it is ok to take ibuprofen in the second trimester. Woo hoo!

Harrassed I think there is some band thing you can buy that helps you stay in your own clothes for longer?? Sorry for the little help.

Hairy I am with you on the dreams, it's hormones! Hope you are able to fit a dream-free nap in today.

Dachs - sorry you had a bad night but glad to hear they're still in there and no temp.

Silver try checking out the twins thread in antenatal clubs and MrsStevo's story. She has had TTTS but they've managed to redistribute the fluid.

Hi everyone and sorry for lack of posting - extreeeeemely busy at work and seem to have quite a bit on in the evenings too - hmmm.... all seems to be ok bar the odd low-down twinge which is new - trying not to focus on them too much though.

Lara - please remember to breathe....! Not sending a haddock your way as 24 hour pre-scan mentalling is fine. Only advice I have is to do as much as you can to distract you (and no, that doesn't include googling about scans!)

Izzy - glad to read your NT scan went well - were you private and therefore have results same day?

Have just caught up on the last 2 days and so worried to read of what's happening with dachs and pups - I am so hoping that your little bit of good news goes on to be better news. Echoed by all already, but thinking of you and MrDachs lots.

WIW - hahhaa, have spent a good 30 mins of the first 1.5 hours of the working day googling all sorts of scan-related nonsense!

BTW - how are you coping with the Dubai heat? Must be pretty intense. Low-down twinges are totally fine...

wiw lovely to hear from you. Glad you keeping busy and preoccupied, but not too busy I hope?! I've had various low down twinges too, sone this morning.

I have a question. Today and yesterday I've had loads of very watery ave sone sticky creamy cm/discharge so much so that my knickers have been soaking, (sorry tmi) and am having to go out at lunch for some liners. Is this normal????

Lots of scannage tomorrow, lara banana harassed?? me anyone else??

Morning all,
As everyone has said,dachs we're all thinking of you and hoping so much that things work out ok for you, you brave and kind lady x

Welcome and congrats to all the newbies reallyuseful, mamarara, the mysterious updiffed, lily and anyone else that I've forgotten.

Thanks to everyone who helped with my mentalling about brown cm on Sunday - it seems to have stopped for now so fingers crossed on that front. I had my booking in appt yesterday, it was my first time of making it that far and I found it really rubbish to be honest. So much paperwork, I just felt like a number and despite knowing that I'm under the RMC and my history I didn't feel like at any point the mw asked me anything like 'how are you feeling'. I don't expect to have very long with them but something remotely compassionate might have helped. She also accidentally gave me my hospital notes with everything else and then freaked out after I'd left the hosp and called my husband (who probably pooped himself that something was wrong when he got a call from a mw!) So, I got a good read of my notes and have to take them back next visit!

Anyway, re clothes - I'm also having problems, I hate getting dressed in the morning now! I'm skinny (not out of choice!) and popped out quite a bit for me in the early weeks, although I don't seem to have got any bigger since. I'm too afraid to buy anything remotely pg related so I'm doing the shame as someone else and wrapping a hair bobble around my trouser fastening and then trying to pick a top that covers it!

Congrats on the scan yetserday izzy. Good luck larami for tomorrow. It's been said by the others but I think the only thing that can help the mentalling in advance of the scan is distraction. It's really hard but it does help, so if you can throw yourself into some kind of task at work then it might pass and extra hour or two!

Still thinking of Dachs Hoping there is no new news and those babies are still tucked up safe and sound.

izzy glad to hear your NT test went well :)

Me, well today is the exact point (6+4) where I started to m/c last year. Had an awful nights sleep mentalling about it. This morning I just had a reflexology session to try and destress. I'm in good spirts generally. I'm trying the philosophy of "There is nothing to stress about at the mo, so STOP stressing"... Its not working 100%... LOL

I hope everyone else is having a good day...

Just popping in to see how Dachs is... sorry you didn't sleep much but all things considered I guess it's not that surprising - hospitals aren't great places to sleep in the first place... And well done the pups - you stay in there do you hear....?!?

Collie - I wear pantyliners all the time now...

Doo does passing away the day on MN count as "throwing myself into a task" ahead of my scan???!!! So scared of a MMC.

New mantra for tomorrow's scanners courtesy of Owl - "the odds are massively on your side that everything is okay"... Repeat it ladies... "THE ODDS ARE MASSIVELY ON YOUR SIDE THAT EVERYTHING'S OKAY"

Another one wearing pantyliners all the time now. For me a bfp means oodles of cm!

Lara I'm trying hard not to mental for tomorrows scan...... trying.

Thanks for all the clothes advice! You'd never guess I'm a grown woman and a grandmother no less . I've got some wrap around dresses, but I'm quite conscious of looking preg when I don't want people to know so trousers, jeans, leggings with floaty long tops are good. Also my maxi dresses. I think I'll invest in a bump band or two if everything's good tomorrow.

Mw has just changed my booking in appointment tomorrow. It was 7.30pm which was ideal, but now it's 3pm which isn't!! Trying to sort someone to pick up dd, and don't know if dh will be able to make. Never mind.

"THE ODDS ARE MASSIVELY ON YOUR SIDE THAT EVERYTHING'S OKAY"

Silver sorry just saw you're already there and I replied to your posts last week. Mind is definitely going...