JSing viroids, on your marks, get set, shag!

[JosieSmith1]

The (updated)(again)(again)(again) 'rules' from our Just Shagging Originator for the Viroids:

Maintain a relaxed attitude at all times - drink if you want too, especially on your birthday (or when you've had bad news). Thread precedent dictates if you drink to excess you will get a BFP (but not recommended). (But it does work).

Covet thy husband and enjoy every minute. Shag at every opportunity - shag-capes and awesome superpowers optional.

Keep acronym-age to a minimum! EWCM is now to be referred to as 'pant snot'. Try not to get sucked in by Fertility Friend (at least for a while), but knowing where you are in your cycle and furkling for pant snot is most definitely allowed.
OV is ovulation - I'm allowed to forget what date I've OVd, feel free to join me on that one!

Bunting is to be put out for any small victory, thread-parties are held regularly and hugs are always welcome!

Once you have your BFP, feel free to hang around and share your wisdom and virtual cocktails with the JSers.

Keep us up to date with gossip!

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Most of these rules are well and truly broken!! But we try to chill - honest

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Part 1 Graduates:
Tanmu82 - BFP
PrivetDancer - BFP
OnlyWantsOne - BFP
Frankenfanny ? BFP
Notso - BFP
knittakid - BFP
loopeylu - BFP
PinkFondantFancy - BFP
Grannyapple ? BFP
Fuzzywood - BFP
canoe - BFP
janedoe - BFP
StarflowerGirl - BFP

Part 2 Graduates:
ihaveaplan - BFP
lovemylulu - BFP
shitforbrains - BFP
gormers - BFP

Part 3 Graduates
Bonkerz - BFP
Kitten - BFP
Cowboylover - BFP
takingtheplunge ? BFP

Part 4 Graduates:
NoMoreChocBiscuits - BFP
Milanomum - BFP
Cremegg - BFP
BrassicaBabe - BFP
Dynababy - BFP

Part 5 Graduates:
TakeThatLady - BFP
Vallinna - BFP
SingingMog - BFP
aDarkStarWithStrangeWays - BFP
Eskarina - BFP

Part 6 Graduate
Reality - BFP

Part 7 Graduates:
Katiepie - BFP
CaramelGirl - BFP
Nickelbabe - BFP
Panpie - BFP
Brightcopperkettles - BFP

I would love to be a SAHM but I wouldn't be able to afford it. Even part-time wouldn't work as we have the horse topay for and, selfish though it may seem, I won't give her up. I thought about mam looking after the child and she says she'll do a couple of days a week so that's a bonus, but I did wonder how I'd feel about missing first crawling, words etc becuase I probably would miss it, depends how old they are when they do those things as I'd be taking about 9 months off work starting from just before I was due if I could

That's just the problem Josie - we can't afford for me to be a SAHM either. I have been applying for part-time jobs, looking at jobs I could do from home etc, but I really don't want to miss any more of DS's life. I even asked him how he would feel if I went back to work again and he said he's be sad. Sometimes I get so bitter, as my SIL is a SAHM with 2 kids, will never have to work, doesn't want to work, and yet whinges constantly about how "stressed" she is, when all she does is swans around going out for lunch every day, buying takeaways every night etc. Bah!

That would grind on me too Bam

I'm fed up viroids. Why does it take at least a month each time!
No matter what stage I'm at in each cycle there always seems to be at least another week to wait, either for the fertile time or for ERTD time! I don't do waiting And it doesn't help that my pg colleague can now feel the baby moving, makes it all the more real, I can't really pretend she's just fat anymore

Hmmmppphhh

Oh Josie I'm with you on the rubbish waiting all the time. Time just seems to trundle on.

I have mega-heavy ERTD at the moment, but at least it will be gone in a few days, and we can get the shag capes back on. Feel quite bleurgh at the minute though.

Listening to everyone's advice re. SAH or not SAH - it is SUCH a hard topic that I just can't find an answer to. I suppose each family is different, and even then what works when your child is a baby might not work for you by the time they are a toddler? I suppose all any of us want is to be the best mum possible and maybe I won't know what that looks like for me until I'm a mum? (when? If? wobble?)

Josie - i completely understand if you don't want the office gossip knowing your personal details - I would feel the same. I'm sorry you haven't got great HR! In RL I must confess I'm an HR manager - if you have any questions etc I can tell you the basics, feel free to message me.

Has anyone got any good news to help relieve the boredom while we wait out our 2wws?

Not really Lucy! I have a big bar of whole nut and some vodka to myself, as DP is out tonight, if that counts as good news?!

Fabulous news!!!!! It's certainly good enough news for me!

In fact - let me help you celebrate - I'll pour one for myself!

Cheers Lucy! It's as good as it gets really!

Any other takers out there?

Evening Viroids

I've been lurking but a bit manic to post. Good news? Well it's Friday, isn't that good enough .

Not much else going on here, other than work :(. Well, except I've been symptom spotting like mad. Which is, well, mad, given we had maybe one JS in the window . Still I've had period like pains less than a week after ovulation, and all manner of other made up things, such as swollen ankles, bad moods and the like. More realistically, I'm probably just lining up an early ERTD, but it's the wishful thinking that keeps us going :)

Oh and just to include my views in the debate - I'm intending to keep riding as long as I feel safe and comfortable (if I ever get a BFP). Of course I don't know if that will be one week or 8 months! And much as I think I'd like to be a SAHM mum, we couldn't afford that right now, so nursery it'll be. Though I might be able to reduce my hours a bit?

Anyway have a nice weekend ladies! Get shagging .

I'm bleeding again ...

What day are you on now Babylann ?

9 I think(?) Started getting cramps now too...

That must be even more confusing hon - I have no rational explanation to offer! Have you had a cycle like this before?

I can only suggest to open a bottle of wine and a tub of Ben&Jerry's?
(I'm no doctor - but I think this is pretty sound medical advice)

Oh babylann are you okay? I think you have to get back to the doctor if it continues and find out what's going on with your cycle. Hopefully it'll stop again soon though. I know it's a stupid thing to say, but try not to worry.

Thanks!

Lucy, I've not had a cycle like this before DD was born (she's 1 in 1 week). It was always a tiny bit irregular, but generally around 35 days, lasted about 4 days, usually quite light and rarely dreadful cramps. Since she was born, I've had 4 periods. 2 were just spotting, 2 were very heavy. I get a lot of pain in my pelvis, even when my period is nowhere near due, particularly on the left side.

My doctors, , they won't do anything for me. Unless it's for my pulse rate or blood pressure of course, then they will happily send me for ECG after ECG, MRI, chest x-ray, any other terrifying test, despite me telling them I've had this test, I've been through this before within the last few months and results always came back fine, and I have horrible almost crippling anxiety which could explain everything. I never see the same GP twice, they are always rotating, bringing in new doctors, losing the old ones. None of them speak decent English, or remotely close to it, which makes every appointment an annoying chore. They don't seem to care, to be honest. Last doctor, "You're not having periods? I can't do anything about that!" Doctor before that doctor, "Are you trying for a baby? What's the problem then!" (before we started TTC ofc)

I'm sorry. I'm so wound up. I don't see why every time I have a period I think, "Ah! I must be fixed now. Time to move on." It never works out that way. 85 day cycle, followed by a 96 day cycle, followed by a 9 day cycle! My mum keeps complaining about her periods, how they are too close together one month, too far apart the next - but she's just reaching the menopause! I should be in almost the prime of my fertile life. My baby is almost 1 and I haven't breastfed since she was 2 months - there's no reason why I should still be so irregular.

I would have had some wine but I have a horrible headache :( and can't eat ice-cream - sensitive teeth, argh!

Morning Viroids! :)

It was my nan's funeral yesterday, seems like we've waited ages for it because of all the bank holidays! It was a lovely day ... I had a tear in my eye as we followed her into the crematorium, a wry smile as they described her life and missed out the 'juicy stuff' and had to hold back a snort as they said she's now with her 'beloved George' - my nan and grandad hated each other and only lived in the same house until they died for convenience ... my nan sharing a room with her mother until she passed away. I can never remember my nan and grandad sharing a room! So, whichever direction she was going in after yesterday, my grandad is sure to be fleeing in the opposite! Someone told my aunt that at least her mother is at peace now, my aunt replied 'at peace?! Are you fucking joking?! She's probably already falling out with someone!' My nan was a bit of a battle axe

It was wonderful to catch up with family and friends of the family I've not seen for years, and to hear stories of my nan. My pregnant sister was there too, and everyone was shocked to know she was pregnant at 37, so I kept quiet about planning to get pregnant at 39! I had a shot glass of guinness in honour of my nan ... she loved it (left behind 60 cans of it!) and used to give us shot glasses of it when we were kids as it was supposed to be good for us!

OH came over after work, and met some of my family he'd not met before, we continued drinking, then popped to another bar to catch up with a friend of mine while we were there. We then planned to stop off at the Indian to grab a takeaway before getting a cab home ... OH said he didn't want one, he'd have a marmite sandwich when he got home - until we walked in the aroma of all the food hit him, and he asked if we could actually sit in and have a meal, so we did. It was lovely! We don't go out much at all, not just the two of us, and this was a nice treat and we've resolved to do this once a month if we can ... but then we usually have his daughter from Friday night through to Sunday, and mine Sat morning through to Monday, so maybe it won't be that often.

Blimey, I've written an essay

Right, best go get ready for my girls and enjoy the rest of the weekend (work for me tomorrow )

Have fun ladies!

babylann - whilst it's not unusual for it to take a year or so to get 'your rhythm' back, this is obviously really worrying you. Trust your instincts and get yourself back to the drs - but I'd strongly recommend changing your GP. Even if you have to drive further it is definitely worth it to see the same GP every time, and develop a good relationship. Someone you can trust, and who trusts you when you tell them something is wrong rather than fobbing you off. It makes such a difference - not only to you but to DD as she grows up - to have continuity in your health care not a string of faceless GPs rushing you in and out.
Maybe ask about friends and neighbours for a recommendation - or try MNlocal? I'm sure someone can advise you of a good practice locally?
They should be able to register you and see you in one visit - and maybe another opinion on your symptoms would help?

(sorry - that whole bit sounds really bossy doesn't it! I haven't mastered conveying tone of voice in my posts yet!)

Sounds like you've had a busy weekend crow - i'm glad the funeral went as well as these things can. And great to have some quality time with OH.

I'm working all weekend too so off to bed now - goodnight Viroids!

Hi everyone. Just thought I'd quickly check in.

Babylann I'm thinking about you and hope you are okay. I know how worried you are and know I would be too. Lucy's advice is good. It's so hard to get a proper "family" GP these days, but even if you think of one that seemed okay and ask for them personally, even if you have to wait for an appointment, it's worth it.

I have had horrible ERTD today, but it seems to be on the way out now. Hurrah! We have agreed to really go for it with the JSing this month too!

Crow funerals are never good, but I'm glad it went as well as it could, and it sounds like you are dealing with it well, i.e. remembering your nan as she really was. Enjoy being with your girls.

Thank you Lucy and Bam. I feel a lot calmer now. Spotting is gone as of the last time I went to the toilet, so I'm hoping it was just a bit left over from the ERTD or something. My mum said since it's been so long since my last one maybe my body just needed to "sort itself out" and - hopefully - get back to normal now.

crowette, the way you wrote about the funeral seemed calm and accepting - it was quite a sweet story and I hope it reflects on the way you handled the day, as it sounds a very strong way to handle grief. I'm nowhere near as good, I spiralled into insanity when my grandma died 2 years ago and spent the whole funeral sobbing like a nutter.

Morning all!

I hope your ERTD is still keeping away babylann. I think maybe your mum was right. There must have been a lot of "build-up" after such a long time, and maybe your body is just getting itself sorted out now. I hope you are fine anyway.

How was everyone's weekend? Sorry you had to be working Lucy and crow. That's never good.

We had a nice quiet weekend here. I had a couple of horrible ERTD days, but it seems to be going now (I know I said that before but it came back with a vengeance!), so DP and I are going to go for it with the JSing.

Morning!! And what a beatiful morning it is here too!

I really don't like working Sundays, oh to go back to the days when the shops were shut on Sundays we all still managed to survive! but yesterday was an awful shift - they've changed the way we work, again. I'm now having to do the last 2 hours work on my own, when it's manic. Great. Also, they want me to take it in turns to start at 6am on Sundays, which I can't do as there are no buses at that time, taxis are time and half at the time I'd have to leave, it takes nearly an hour to walk there, and I don't feel safe at that time, nor would OH let me do the walk.

I also got told of my colleague getting a file note for something that was out of her control, and it infuriated me! None of us are enjoying the job anymore, they're putting more and more time pressure on us, and we're starting to make mistakes as a result of rushing to get things done. Others are getting away with lots of things, while others are file noted for nothing?! Morale very low and yesterday I had enough and very nearly walked out. OH is getting me an application form for his place of work - it's a call centre, but at least it's full time work!

Other than that, everything else is fab! I'm feeling positive about life, feeling very much loved and well!

Hi crow! Your work sounds awful! Glad that in every other way you seem so happy and positive though! Maybe it's the nice spring weather.

Crow I can totally sympathise, my work is horrendous again now and I nearly burst into tears and walked out this morning. We had an admin meeting this morning whereby the senior admin said (in her words) she was going to become more controlling and that she'd let people in her personal life walk all over her and she wasn't going to have it at work I wasn't aware that we were walking all over her! That immediately got my hackles up. She mentioned we weren't allowed to purchase off the internet at work, and I just know that at my one on one supervision my internet usage will be mentioned. I'm totally paranoid all the time. The signing in sheets for the following day must be done the night before, because of course the office will disintegrate if they aren't done . I panic when she comes in every morning in case I've forgotten to do something or haven't got round to doing something in case I get pulled because of it, it's ridiculous! After here, my next stop is the job pages, I need to get out! Shame we don't live closer Crow, we could have worked together

Anyway, enough ranting, hope everyone is having good evenings

Morning viroids!

Josie sorry to hear that your work is a nightmare now too. I hope that you will maybe be able to find another suitable job.

How are you today babylann? I hope that your cycle is settling itself down.

Today is a bit for me, as it would have been my dad's birthday. He died 11 years ago, and even though he wasn't the easiest man in the world, I still miss him. I inherited a lot of his personality and sense of humour, whereas my brother is more like my mum.

On a happier note, last night saw the first JSing of the new campaign! I feel quite positive this month. I just wish that each month didn't take so long (er, that would be a month!)

Hello viroids.

ERTD isn't back, and we had sex last night so at least the bleeding after sex thing isn't a continual thing. :) New symptom of concern - I had a few chest pains when me and DD were taking our walk yesterday, and I had some blood in my spit last night! None since though, so I'm hoping it was nothing, or at most another chest infection.

We've started week one of our new organised healthy eating plan. DP was a bit unsure (he wants to lose a bit of weight mind) so I wrote out a meal plan and ordered shopping online for the first time so I don't get tempted to buy unhealthy goodies when wandering around the supermarket with a rumbly tum. It's going really well! We really enjoyed both the low-cal meals I made yesterday and DP is worried I've set the bar too high... Especially as today's lunch is lentil salad! I've never made them before, eeurgh, they stunk the house out.

Sorry to hear you have such a hard time at work, Josie and crowette. Hopefully things start looking up, but probably a good idea to start looking for a job before you leave rather than after. My dad's recently been made redundant and is struggling to find a job, and he's extremely qualified in his field and SUCH a hard worker. He's never had a sick day in his life (until this week - he doesn't take well to being made redundant!) and works really hard, but he's applying for jobs left, right and centre, and not even getting a call back.

I hope you're okay Bam. My grandad died quite a while ago too, and my mum still gets very down on his birthday and anniversary of when he died.