The 6th form post mc ttc and pregnancy common room Part 2

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Getting us started on a new thread; this one is gonna be a lucky one!

Hello.

Cycle 8 it is, came on with a vengeance today, and the brown goo started badly last night. Feel ok today. Just gonna book a holiday for the end of june to Portugal.

zam so sorry to hear that. Hope you're ok.

loola cycle 8 buddy- lets hope it's lucky for both of us.

battery let me know how the film is, I've read the book, but not seen the film. Is it the Hollywood one or the Swedish one?

had a look for a reflexologist too last night, to feel as if I'm doing something. Can't hurt can it? mouse let me know how yours goes if you will

No picnic here battery but a delicious lamb henry and glass of red dh prepared for me Am not getting my hopes up for an implantation bleed, I made that mistake last month when started bleeding a week before AF due, just think my body is a little bodged up at the moment for some reason, hoping to God it isn't my endometriosis flaring up with avengeance

yrmotb we are planning a holiday for july time but I am really reluctant as don't want to be anywhere away from home in first 12 weeks should I be lucky enough to get pg and knowing my luck I would book it then get a BFP! Come to think of it......where's my nearest travel agent?!

Hi all, sorry not been around much last few days but just checking in to let you know I'm reading and thinking of everyone

Hope you are ok ladybee x

yrmotb sorry she got you. A holiday sounds like a great idea.

chloe your dinner sounds wonderful - I wish my dh could cook!

Hi bee hope you are feeling ok.

Evening all,

Thanks for the calming words of advice izzy - hope you're feeling well

I thought he must be battery ! I have quite a few friends in the different forces so I have a fair idea of how difficult ttc in different countries must be. Good luck. Has he got another posting in June or is he leaving?

I'm v jealous of your dinner chloe I'm secretly hoping DH has sunday lunch plans for us next week but I won't be holding my breath!

Zam I'm so sorry for your cp - you must be feeling v sad so I'm sending a huge, unmumsnetty hug your way xx

Gutted for you too yrmotb We don't have a holiday booked for this year as (obviously) I thought I'd be grappling with a newborn but we might have a UK break instead - although that seems to be a bloody fortune too! Centre Parcs was going to be £900 for 4 nights in the summer. Needless to say, we did not book! Now I have serious holiday envy!

I'll definately let you know how the reflexology goes - fingers crossed it helps me to ov sooner rather than later.

No news here, have had some crampy pains so I hope I'm gearing up to ov. I'm not getting up at a regular time at the minute but I might have to in order to temp again - I feel lost not knowing what's going on in there!

Does anyone have an opinion on what to do re work?

My sick note runs out just before the easter hols.

Should I...

a) go back then
b) extend and go back after the hols
c) extend until after my next scan so I know whether I need further treatment

I'm worried if I go back then need more time off it'll look worse than just staying off until it's completely sorted...

x-posts!

Hi lady nice to 'see' you! xx

mouse what do you want to do? Would going back to work benefit you in anyway at the moment? Would it help take your mind off things? If not, then I would get an extension on your sick note and go back after your next scan (when is that?) I don't think it would look bad you going back to take more time off but if you do not feel ready then work will always wait, your health is priority.

mouse I would extend sick note until your next scan. I'm a teacher too and I say this because I think its best on both sides. You don't need the hastle of dealing with work on and off and the kids will be less unsettled than if you go back and go off again. I'm sorry you are having all these worries, it's so unfair :(

Ooh thank you ladies.

I have to admit that I'm enjoying the freedom of not worrying about work and just focussing on myself. It seems strange to say that after forcing myself to go back so quickly after esch loss and op but deep down it's the truth. It seems so selfish to actually write that down

Forgot to say, I think the scan will fall in the first week back after the easter hols x

That does not sound selfish at all, I am sure most people would feel that way in your position.

Hello ladies

Sorry I never did a proper catch up last week, and won't be able to now either but I just wanted to say have been lurking.

Mouse I agree with Chloe and Velvet, go back when you are ready and not before. Don't feel guilty either about not worrying about work. That's the whole point of sick leave. If you were worrying about work you wouldn't be using your sick properly.

YRMOTB sorry about CD1 - it's rubbish

Loola I try not to keep count of which cycle coz it can be abit disheartening sometimes. All I do know is that I'm in double figures on the cycle thing so you're way ahead (or behind me). Sorry that's not really much of a consolation but trying find a positive for you.

Zam so sorry about the CP (squeeze)

Digi glad the appointment was helpful. I'm interested to know more about killer cells. DH and I are talking about getting some testing done but I don't know very much about it. No doubt I'll be asking some more questions very soon

Jolls I couldn't help but laugh with your report from D&V towers - sorry

Not much to report here but have spent most of the weekend shovelling horse shit around the garden - lovely

Big waves to everyone

Hi, can I join this thread too?

As my nickname indicates...I have been trying for ca a year. Had lots of tests done, and have been told to wait, its unexplained infertility, I just have to relax and try again...After all 'I am young and healthy' (I am 32 going 33 and dh is 33 going 34). I am on cycle 11 now and had great expectations this month (its spring after all, no?) but spotting started as usual a few days ago and my Temps have dropped dramatically this morning (14dpo) so I expect af today or tomorrow as scheduled. Ready to enter cycle 12. I cant believe it.

I keep asking myself why it isnt working and whats wrong? Cant be that hard, can it? There are so many kids everywhere. I went to see a friend yesterday who told me how she conceived both within 2 months of trying. And here I am. I had 2 cps (I think) but otherwise very little trace that this whole ttc business is having any results.

I also have 2w holidays in June/July which I wasnt going to book yet. Some months ago I was worried about booking adventurous hols just in case I would be 8m, 7m, 6m, 5m pregnant...but I think I have had enough now and will go ahead and book something crazy. I may as well make the most of the situation. I have been so obsessed with this whole ttc-ing business and its getting me and dh so down.

I may as well get this af now and move on...!

freezing and oneyear I recommend you read Dr Alan Beer's Is Your Body Baby Friendly. Anyone who has 'unexplained infertility' who's either had a miscarriage, chemical pregnancy or failed ivf should read it. It's controversial and there a only a few consultants who follow immunotherapy as a treatment for recurrent miscarriage or infertility following a miscarriage. It may not apply to you, but I think if you've already had every nhs test going it's worthwhile ruling out immunological causes too.

Sorry to be an evangelist for it, but we've been trying 18 months now and I've notched up 4 miscarriages with hormonal, thrombophilial, physical and chromosomal reasons all ruled out.

Am back to work today. Walked to the station this morning as part if my new gentle fitness regime. Feeling so much better after two weeks off. Last time I came back the day after passing the sac and it was hideous. mouse take as much time as you feel you need. And don't feel bad about it. Agree with others to wait till your next scan.

wiggle any news on those results?

Thanks digitalgirl. Will def take a look.

Off to private clinic for an appt on Wedn. I spoke to the consultant over the phone about my results first and he asked me to come in to discuss options. He thinks I shd start drugs first before anything more invasive. I assume its clomid. Anyone used it for unexplained infertility?

Hi oneyear. I don't really have anything constructive to add, but get where you're coming from re the holidays and stuff. I've just made a decision (spurred on by cd1) to book a holiday in June which I had been kind of putting off due to hoping I might be pg. But I'm not, and may as well start acting like I can think of other things as well as ttc. Ds starts school in September so this is our last chance to book a cheapy holiday. I don't really know about the testing and stuff, but plenty of peeps on here do. Nice to meet you, and sorry it's getting you down at the minute.

mouse I would wait til after the scan too. More continuity of care for the kids, and more importantly time for you to recover and see where you're at following the next scan.

chloe have you managed to speak to anyone re the bleeding? I read on the other fred you were struggling to get a hold of anyone, perhaps a trip to the gp or a phone consultation with them, they could maybe get involved and contact the hospital/consultant for you.

Hope everyone is well, it's another lovely day here. Running starts again today, I need to feel the pain otherwise I will never manage this half marathon. I am still secretly hoping to be pg, but seeing as now I've only got one more chance and haven't run more than 6 miles in the last 4 months, all I'm risking is serious injury. What a nobber.

oneyear I haven't tried clomid. But then I am ovulating so it wouldn't address whatever problem I've got. It's only useful if you're not ovulating, and I think there's a limit on how many cycles it can be used for as it can thin your uterine lining if taken for too long. Not sure what other drugs they could be referring to. Maybe metformin if you have pcos? Or aspirin if your blood needs thinning? Or steroids if they've tested you for nk cells?

ladybee hope you're ok.

yrmotb well done on getting back on the treadmill. I think I'm going to leave running for a while longer and just walk the 30 minute walk to the tube each morning.

youremindmeofthebabe I love your nickname. thanks for your message. I have been miserable and obsessed with babies lately and feel that dh and I need a bit of 'us time'. I cant control having a baby (I really thought I could..!) but I can certainly control having a holiday so will put my efforts on booking something soon. Good luck with your booking too, if your ds is going to school in the autumn, summer sounds really like the right time to go!

digitalgirl Thanks - that's the challenge! I havent got any ovulation problems either and that's why I am puzzled by the drugs. I have googled 'unexplained infertility and clomid' and it does seem that clomid gets prescribed for 3 months to people with no ovulation problems before anything else is done. Seems a bit of a tick box approach before trying clomid plus IUI (and then everything else). I may just push for IUI but will see what happens on Wedn and whether this period turns up. How long have you been ttc?

oneyear been ttc#2 since aug 09. I was still breastfeeding so had no idea what my cycles were doing but I got a bfp in the nov and promptly started bleeding three days later - a scan showed the sac was 5 weeks. Then mc'ed in April at 6 weeks and Oct at 7 weeks last year. And recently this month at 8 weeks. Getting pregnant isn't a problem for me (and I really don't mean to sound smug about that - as we have to put a lot of effort in with my long cycles) but staying pregnant is. Would love to book big holiday abroad but can't because I might get pregnant again and need to be close to home for early scans and extra meds and monitoring. But still, none of that guarantees a baby . Am v hopeful that I'll be found to have high nk cells and that I can follow a treatment plan for when we start ttc again. I had the test last week and will find out 3 weeks today.

Hello all - sounds like there were some lovely Sunday lunches being had this weekend!

yrmotb - big (((hugs))) for cd1, lovely, sorry this wasn't your month. I will keep everything crossed that cycle 8 is lucky for you too. Don't worry, I am keeping your beanbag plumped up and safe xx

(and btw you put me to shame with your marathon running! The most I've managed post-children is a 10k and that really hurt!)

hope you're ok sweets! Is everything getting sorted for the move?

zam if you're lurking, hope you're all right x

freezing your weekend sounds...smelly! has today been a bit more civilised?!

oneyear welcome, sorry you're having a tough time. The whole ttc thing can get so disheartening can't it? I was not being careful (we had given up actually trying!) for well over two years before my last bfp, then had a mmc at 16 weeks and it's taken me another 8 months to get another bfp so I know how frustrating it can be. I second the not putting your life on hold - booking holidays and events can give you such a lift (although I'm now faced with - hopefully - two weeks camping at 6mths pg in August! But I promise if I get that far I won't complain). Hope you get your sticky bfp soon x

digi good luck for the tests, bet it feels like a long time to wait though. Fx you get some answers at last x

mouse definitely wait until after the scan and do not feel guilty!!!

digitalgirl I am really sorry to hear about your mcs. You must have had such a tough period, and I understand why things are on hold for you. What are 'nk cells'? Its a long time to wait.

Izzy thanks for the nice message. Yes it is disheartening but I suspect I sounded particularly miserable today because af is on its way. Onwards and upwards - ready for the next cycle! Camping at 6mths sounds fun but make sure you take with you lots of comfortable bedding...!

Thank you ladies. Have booked a gp appointment for thurs so I can get it all sorted

Hello all .....Welcome one year :)

Well DP has gone back :( another friend announced on fb she is having a girl, and I am trapped on the sofa as there is a huge spider running around the lounge floor with my cat in hot pursuit. I also have no mobile coverage as the local signal is down. Really? All at once?? Give me a break.

Rant over. I shall retreat to my gloomy place.xx