Feisty Fabulous Forty somethings - part 2

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woohoo over here

Oh Nicole don t know then???? Maybe cervical erosion,maybe implantation??????

Hi Shandy welcome X

I m fine Diege you ok?

Spoke with EPU i ve got a scan 2 weeks today to see if they can see the sac.If so they will start the pregnanyl as soon as.Here we go again.

Hope everyone is well XXXXXXXXXXX

Hello and welcome shandybass, I still like to drink shandy once in a blue moon.
Got blood tests results well not all of them but what I got so far were normal, which is good news I suppose. Bur Dr wants me to do another blood test on cd21 again and she also mentioned about DH having his sperm tested......mmm I shall be broaching that subject in the next 30 mins after he's had his shower and he's relaxed etc Dr also said that after that result she'll refer me to a gynaecologist to do further tests for sub fertility as it's not called infertility anymore . You learn something new everyday eh.
Sorry about self indulgent post....need to talk to someone

curly my dr told me that dh was unlikely to go infertile if he had already produced children. Not sure how accurate that is, but she seemed sure of it and didn't test my dh's sperm!

diege I think I'm out - this is following previous months patterns, and am only 11 or 12 dpo. I would expect af to turn up tomorrow on previous months experiences. Of course until it does actually show up, you can't help letting a tiny little bit of hope keep creeping in. aargh.

I haven't poas yet this month though - perhaps I'll waste one tomorrow!

Hi all, just coming in to say hello.

louise so glad to hear they are looking after you, fx that the next 2 wks go by very quickly for you.

diege well done lovey, huge congratulations, may the next 8 mths be calm and boring for you, (in the nicest possible waY)

beatie fx for you, as we know it's not over till fat lady sings.

hippy hi, and bollox to bloody period . Keep at it, remember how despondent I was. xx

curly again, good they're prepared to get some tests going.

Hi to everyone else. Got a sicky dd (3) down here with me, dh away on business and my eldest dd is 16 tomorrow. OMG, she could get married . Tjis time 16 yrs ago, I was in a lavender bath.

Beatie I know what you mean about a tiny little bit of hope. I actually poas yesterday, after AF because my AF was over so fast this time, and i felt so wiped out tired yesterday. I knew it was 100% unlikely, but wasted a stick anyway and had the expected bfn. I know...I sound like a complete nut. Oh, yeah, that's right, I am! I must be, to be ttc at 44 when I already have 5 kids.

But, really, I'm not totally mad, just sure that it is the right thing to do for our family.

However, the last couple of days, I have been trying to be calmer about it all.To be less negative and to try and let go of the fear surrounding my age, the miscarriage etc. It's the fear that is holding me back,in a way, making me feel stagnant. I realise I must continue to live, to enjoy what I do have.

As you all know, it's difficult to live like that when you live your life in 2 week increments. It kind of stagnates everything, while you wait... I guess the trick is to "keep moving" whilst waiting IYSWIM.

Deige how are you feeling lovey? I was glad to hear about the yucky taste in your mouth.That was always reassuring for me. Will you get an early scan?

Lou, glad to hear you are being closely monitored. I hope it helps you to relax.

I spoke on the phone, yesterday, to my friend who just had a brand new baby. He's a week and a half old. I could hear his little baby snuffles as we talked. God, that tugged at the heart strings. She had a rather traumatic birth - lots of bleeding, which no one can explain to her. Baby was born in 1 hour and 40 mins (total labour!!!). Luckily they are both fine, but she's very tired and emotional at the moment - very understandable.

Beattie and Hippy, sorry to hear you are both out. Fingers crossed we all get up-duffed this month.

Beattie, did you have the vaccinations? When we were planning our trip to Bali I was ttc and was advised to have some vaccinations to protect me and baby (if i had gotten pregnant by then). I got the script and asked the pharmacist if it was safe. He said yes and I bought it ($140, 3 years ago). I took it back to my workplace and the school nurse was going to give it to me. I did some research on the net and found out it was contraindicated for women ttc - that I would have to stop ttc for 3 months if having the vaccine. I was surprised my doctor and pharmacist didn't pick that up! I took it back to the pharmacy and got my money back thank goodness. In the end I didn't get any shots, nor did the family (too expensive for 6 people) and I didn't go(too pregnant) and the rest of the family were fine. I'm sorry I can't remember which vaccine it was. But when you get it done, it might be worth checking it in relation to ttc.

Sorry, that was bloody long winded!

Italian, when will you start the egg donor process? It must be getting closer. How exciting.

Hi to everyone else.

Oh Deige, so nice to hear of a 49 year old preggo. What's you EDD by the way?Is it around my birthday(10th)?

shandybass welcome.

Hippy I know what you mean about not judging others. A friend had a baby recently and I was so jealous but now I find out the baby has some health problems and I realise it is not all as easy as I think when I see people with their bubs!

Sorry, too tired to post. Must get off to bed.

Love to all, and arrow prayers for any who want them.

XXXX

Thank you all for the welcome. It'll take me a while to remember you all but all I can say is that I seem to be in good company.

I'd been feeling a bit selfish for Ttc for a no 3 and feeling so disappointed that it's not happening. Also I'm tempted to poas this am despite having af last week just because I'm feeling washed out!

shandy I don't think it's selfish at all to want a 3rd (I do too). I struggled a bit with this but basically, I feel that I want the people on here who haven't yet had a take home baby to get pregnant and experience it all BUT that doesn't mean that those of us who have children/ a child already can't hope for more.

I try to be as accepting as possible and say that if I don't get a 3rd I will always be grateful for my 2 boys but I still get moments when I really long to do it all again. We vary on here between trying for no 1 and trying for no 6!!! All we can do is shag a lot, take the folic acid and pop on here for a catch up You're very welcome to join us - don't forget to add your name to jolly's list.

well I couldn't poas this morning due to darkness and desperateness to get to the loo. So off the hook.

But actually, even though I do actually know that my af is on it's way, I have the vaccinations this afternoon and it's not arrived. So am slightly worried about risking it. But it's not really worth poas during the day is it on 13dpo?

Beattie, I got my last BFP at 13dpo, and it wasn't FMU. Fingers crossed for you.

Diege and Louise I'm so pleased for both of you!

Hope the run of good news continues a while... though I can tell you that looking after a newborn at 42 is totally exhausting!! Well worth it though. Hope you all get to experience utter knackeredness too

lou Nursey, (I love calling you that - I had a soft toy of a nurse when i was a child and she was called Nursey )I just tried to book my smear for next week. i was gonna do it after I'd finished bleeding but before I ovulate. The receptionist said I have to be 14 days after I've started bleeding. That is no good for me cos I usually ovulate about day 12. If I had ovulated and something was trying to implant would a smear have a bad effect?? I said to leave it and am thinking of just waiting a couple of months but day 14 is never gonna really suit me. I thought you just had to have no blood but she said only a mid cylce scan will give a true result - true???

My first bloody waking thought is that i hope Lou and Diege are still preggers - arrgghh this is gonna be a long 8 months!

ps. Tank I thought of you today as well. I assume no news is good news

alba hello my lovely - good to see you. Give that baby a squeeze from auntie Hippy. XX

Awww, doing it for you now Hippy

Hello! Hippy I'm not sure that's right about the timing of the smear. I think with the old spatula technique mid-cycle was better, but apparently with the new liquid based (brush) cytology as long as there's no blood in the sample it doesn;t really matter. I did ask the nurse last time about this, and while she said that you're less likely to come away with an unreadable sample, there was nothing she knew that said mid-cycle was the only time to get one done. I think I would also have left it for now and had a think. You could always say you were day 14 when you're weren;t? Alba, good to hear from you! (and you too Lia). Utter knackeredness sound good
Gum, I really liked what you wrote about 'keeping moving'; that's the solution if you can do it I think. I am starting to get very anxious about this pregnancy, and I'm not even focusing on an actual baby, just getting wanting to feel sick!
BB might it be worth poas this afternoon before the appoinbtment just in case? I also got late bfps with dd1 and 2, def after day 14 even though that was when I was having very regular 28 day cycles.
ON the symptom front I did feel mildy nauseaus/spaced out sensation this morning, but then I was wishing it so much I may well have imagined it . Boobs sore on and off (some days not) and mouth still filled with metallic saliva, esp after eating. Am just going to carry on as normal I think - will still do my usual high impact classes at gym, but just make sure I drink lots of water!
Bistro tonight girls, get thinking what you'd like

Hippy don t know much about smears as i don t do them.Just know it needs to be mid cycle.Although the new liquid based cytology is being used i haven t heard that it can be done at any time.

Hi Alba nice to see you.

BB my bfp was on cd10 mid afternoon.Why not???Before your vaccinations then you will know for today for your jabs.

Gum hi...i do feel strangely relaxed. I think its more a sense of detachment.

Hi everyone hope all are well.Love to all.Nothing to report here.Just plodding on.

just popped on to wish everyone a lovely weekend! I'm on to cycle 4 now, around 6 days to go until i get my highs I think then it's attack the husband time

alba hello to you am also hoping I get to experience the knackeredness before too long lol

lou plodding on is good - plodding on works - do that for another 32ish weeks

Thanks for the advice about the smear diege and lou - I did think about telling a lie and saying I was day 14 when i was about day 9 - what the heck! But I might just wait til next month (I know how important smears are and am not belitteling them at all). It's just that I'm paying good money (that we don't have) for reflexology this cycle (in a kind of 'not many more tries' way.)

gum You sound much better, Yes keep moving along, enjoy what life is throwing at you now and try not to think too much about TTCing - ha ha Hippy - practice what you preach!!

Just ate a lemon cupcake which I DID NOT need. Was not hungry and only ate it cos I saw them at the supermarket and love all things lemon. Am now feeling a bit sick and regretting the indulgence.

diege Re; the bistro - I fancy a roast (well I don't cos I feel sick but you know what I mean) - maybe beef but not too rare, heavy on the gravy and yorkshire puds but easy on the horseradish . You choose the pud please [lazy face icon].

Am having a great conversation with my nearly 8 year old about the possibility of going back in time and shooting your own grandfather - fascinating!

tina love the term attack the hubbie - know what you mean.

I've ordered you homemade merangues with fresh cream for pudding Hippy - the ones that are nice and chewy inside Hope this will do!Hi Tina, nice to hear from you
I'll be having chicken I think, fried American style in spices with homemade chips and lots of brwon sauce. Will have this with lots of ginger beer and will nab one of Hippy's meringues for pudd as I'm sure they'll be one left over.
Bye for now x

Evening all.....CM/blood update. It's 10DPO for me of a usual 14 day LP, so nothing should be doing until next wednesday. Today I pressed hard with the Andrex after a wee and got a little brown CM again. Who knows what's going on, but feels like AF will probably come early.

Lou Hope the next 2 weeks go quickly for you and your early scan gives you a positive result/experience. How big is the little bean expected to be by then? Have you really stopped POAS yet?!

Hippy I think you have great taste in property lol! Are you moving to the IOW by any chance!

None of you that have children already are being selfish. The need for a family is a very, very strong one. Whether it be starting out or continuing. It has totally consumed me and I feel so determined that this is what I have to do. I can't imagine suddenly waking up one day and changing my mind.

Diege Hope everything is going well for you. I'd like to place my order at the Bistro please
As it's friday night, please can I have a chicken korma, pilau rice, peshwari naan, 2 poppadums and all the chutneys except lime pickle. I'd like an ice cold cobra beer with that please. Mmmmmmm!

Hello everyone else anyone doing anything exciting this weekend? I'm kicking mine off by watching Come dine with me right now.

love, love xx

BB did you POAS? Am on tenterhooks...

whilst I'm hanging I fancy Chinese... Wonton Soup, some crispy duck and maybe some squid in black bean ... and then randomly some bread and butter pudding and lashings of cream :)

Hi Nicole at 6 weeks don t think we ll see much.Pauline [epu sister] said we may well only see a sac and yolk but thats enough to start the pregnanyl injections then they would scan me every 2 weeks.I stopped poas.....

Hi jollster can I be on your list. Not sure what that means or what I need to do but sounds good.

I've just had a Chinese. Bit of all sorts chicken sweet and sour, beef satay, beef and black bean, and pork chow mein. Yum yum.

Morning Girls!

Beattie, waiting for an update...

Nothing much happening here. I've been ill, I'm starting to think I may have a fructose intolerance to go along with my gluten intolerance. It really sucks having food intolerances, and hard to work out what is causing the trouble. I'm having all the symptoms I had with the gluten intolerance, but I'm off gluten so it seems it may be that I o.d on fructose. I was given a box of fresh pears last week, so have been having a couple of those everyday, and recently started eating high protein bars which have high fructose. I really can't work out what else it might be.

The timing to feel bad is really awful - we've a wedding to go to today. So this morning we have to shop for new trousers for hubby, I'm meeting an old friend for coffee (make mine herbal tea!), she phoned out of the blue yesterday, so can't turn her down, and having my hair done too. Phew, and have to do all this, get ready for a wedding, when I feel like staying in the feotal position in my bed all day!

I bumped into my friend/neighbour on a walk yesterday, with her new little boy. Of course he's gorgeous, and I'm pleased to say I didn't feel sad or weepy or anything, just glad for her. When she described her lack of sleep, I was quite relieved it was her and not me! However, I've always been like that, when it's my own baby the sleeplessness really doesn't bother me.

I got a pm from Rowingboat, some of the older members on the thread will remember her. She is having assisted conception - she's doing an embryo adoption in the Chezc Republic. She was supposed to do it last month but her cycle was screwy, so next month, I think. I really like the idea of embryo adoption - it's nice to think that those unwanted embryos are given a chance.

I hope you preggie girls aren't stressing too much: "For today you are pregnant"

Hi all.

I m fine thanks XXXX

Been swimming then chilling.Nothing to report here.

Hope everyone's well ? XXXX

hi all, sorry I've haven't updated, but nothing exciting i'm afraid! poas yesterday and bfn, so had jabs (ow!) (not good had all children with us, it was horrendous!).

and then af arrived with avengeance today. So cd1 for me and taking clomid tomorrow.

I do feel very cross with my body actually. What on earth is wrong with it? why haven't I got pg for a year? eh? but apart from that, i do feel ok. Went to L today to check out different areas etc.

nicole are you still in this month?

everyone else good luck at the swi and lou and diege I'm so excited for you both!

Perhaps you should form a Fabulous Feisty Forty Somethings Grads thread? I feel sure that someone else will be joining you this month...