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Freak out room for those newly updiffed after MC to hold hands and support each other...

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DachshundsWantPuppies · 30/01/2011 08:37

Hello!

Newly updiffed and freaking out about spotting, cramping, the wait until your first scan and each little twinge? Settle in for lots of hand holding and supprt until you're ready to move to grads

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nickstermum · 02/02/2011 16:22

and of course everyone else on the TTC fred!

Wombat33 · 02/02/2011 16:24

Hello Chccie and welcome. Feel free to fret away in here with us - as you will no doubt have picked up - we're all mad as a box of frogs Grin (never quite knew what that meant but given how jumpy we all are it seems apt) Grin

PinkIsACheeseAddict · 02/02/2011 16:54

I have given myself a talking to and am much more zenned. Thanks ladies, you are absolutely sanity savers Grin

PinkIsACheeseAddict · 02/02/2011 17:19

Hello to silver and choccie! Silver, I've been eating loads and not healthy stuff either..... Can only face junk which is weird as normally don't touch stuff like crisps! Choccie a private scan sounds like a fab idea, anything to keep the sanity going!!

Mamapower · 02/02/2011 17:24

Hi Choccie I would normally save the pep talk for after I've known you for at least, oh 2 posts, BUT, read the post I left for pink : Stress (and for that matter sleep deprivation) will not help your bean. yoga? acupuncture?

Good work pinkster

Righteo, I am being a domestic goddess tonight, must dash, the fish awaits my undivided attention Grin

nickstermum · 02/02/2011 18:17

had to read that post a few times ha ha ha Grin

Me and you are like the witches of the thread today!! Grin

Welcome chocs..chill out Grin xx

hairyfairylights · 02/02/2011 19:45

dachs my sister, who's lovely son is now five weeks old had ivf and never had any symptoms at all during her pregnancy. not a single one. Just a wernt glimmer of hope, hope it helps.

tonythetyger · 02/02/2011 20:35

Dachs the only symptoms I have is my breasts are slightly sensitive (but only in the sort of situations that lead to SFF) and my skirts feel tight - but I'm not sure if that's due to a big meal on sunday night and general fatness Grin

I don't know if the hcg is more with twins but I got 2 negative and 2 positive tests so it can't have been that high. I've thrown out all my cheapy opk and pg tests as none of them gave the right answer.....

Pink the dr thought they might be identical as it looked like it was only one egg. No twins on either mine or dh's side.

I know what you mean about people sharing things like that. It's not helpful. I was freaked out to be in an AN clinic at 5+2 with a whole load of pg women. A mixture of feeling I don't belong and I don't want to be around them. I think I'd better get over this feeling.

I have had people share experiences of mc with me who've then gone on to have a healthy baby. It's all very well initially but at the end of the day everyone's situation is unique and their particular challenges are not yours nor yours theirs. For example the pain of recurrent mc is different from the pain of failing to conceive. The worries and anxieties someone in that position feels are centred on different things which might be why I'm more relaxed at this point.

As far as I'm concerned it's a miracle that I've finally conceived (and a double one at that!). It's a further miracle that I've got past the point when I mcd last time. In fact, the whole of pregnancy from conception to birth is a miracle and all I can do is hope and pray and try and look after myself in the meantime.

Yes we are both terrified of having SFF (him more than me). We meant to ask about it at the scan but the twins put it completely out of our minds.

OrangeGloss · 02/02/2011 22:10

Pink I've discovered boiled sweets, so the jelly makes sense to me. A colleague who knows my story was telling me about the kicking, I went home and cried, thinking it seems so far removed from me and my stage of pg
Welcome Silverangel I'm not an expert, but wonder if it's just still a bit too early?
Hairy I hope a day off helps, good that you have the beginnings of symptoms, which will hopefully develop into full on barfing Grin
Welcome too Choccie sorry for your loss, glad you are having some early scans for reassurance

I managed to be fine when I got up, got into the shower, and had major puking - in the shower Blush Grin got out of shower continued puking in toilet to which DH started talking to me about sandwiches - mid-puke!

Could one of you more experienced ladies give me some symptom advice? I know from Nix that sore boobs ease off and should stay big, but what about sickness? I'm paranoid it'll all go before next Friday

PinkIsACheeseAddict · 03/02/2011 07:19

Hey Tony and orange it's good to hear that two people who I'm sure are usually substantially more rational than me have felt similarly about pregnant peeps!

Tony identical twins would be even cooler!!! It sounds like you're managing to stay v chilled about things which is fab!

orange that sounds like a gruesome start to your day!!! Not sure I should share this really but my mum had full on day and night barfing which continued all the way, and she was still puking while in labour!! Think thats v v rare though! From lurking around some of the other pregnancy threads, it looks like theres a common scary patch around 16 weeks where symptoms disappear but you might not feel any movement r anything for another few weeks. No personal experience though as this is my first! Thanks for sweets tip, will give it a try. I am v worried that yesterday I must have eaten about 10,000 calories and not good ones!! DHs eyes were like saucers when I told him what I'd eaten but at the moment I can only stomach junk food like pizza and crisps Blush will try harder on fruit today as that seemed to work ok too.

PinkIsACheeseAddict · 03/02/2011 07:46

dacha any news on your bloods? Xx

Wombat33 · 03/02/2011 07:47

orange from talking to friends and my doc the other day, the puking can start to ease as soon as the hcg levels start to fall as the placemtb takes over, but some women get lucky and their bodies just get used to the hormones. Can start to stop as early as 10weeks - apparently it gives lots of women a panic before there scans. Hope you're one of the lucky ones because it doesn't sound like fun at the moment!

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DachshundsWantPuppies · 03/02/2011 07:57

pink monday's reading was 727, I get yesterday's reading some time this morning so I'll let you know when I hear! :) (FX it's doubled, otherwise I'll be a mess...)

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nickstermum · 03/02/2011 08:33

Orange the sickness and nausea comes and goes and from reading your post it sounds like its pretty full on iwth you at the min. Dont forget as you near 12 weeks the placenta kicks in and many of the symptoms disappear anyway! Grin

PinkIsACheeseAddict · 03/02/2011 08:43

dachs remember it takes 48-72 hours to double so don't panic if it's not quite there!

silverangel · 03/02/2011 08:58

orangegloss - the rational part of me says its too early - its the 90% irrational part of me worrying!! Have booked a private scan for a couple of weeks when I will hopefully be 8 weeks and then maybe will be able to put my mind to rest! Puking in the shower, now that sounds like a good start to the day!!

Dachsunds - fingers crossed for you.

Hope you all have a good day.

Ladybee · 03/02/2011 09:04

Hi ladies - I've been reading but just miserable at the moment and am finding difficult to stay awake to post. But I'm completely amazed by the bouncy one's news!!!!!! It's like some bad joke about buses Grin
you really are giving me a lesson in zen too - really fantastic attitude. Good luck I'm looking forward to seeing how you progress through this journey Smile

Great tips for easing the nausea, I tried the salt & vinegar crisps and nearly cried they were so good. I also remember fruit-flavoured sweets from DS and I also found anything cold and crunchy helped so carrot sticks, apple slices from the fridge and cold fizzy water.
owlbooty I have the belching - had it with DS, it lasted until indigestion kicked in Sad.

So far this pregnancy has been the most similar to DS, which I'm finding a little reassuring, but now that the nausea is established I'm finding myself remembering that last time it stayed still about wk 15. I'm torn between hoping it goes sooner this time but being terrified it will as my symptoms dropped off with both mcs last year.

Had another consultant appt yesterday and will be scanned again in about 3 wks when I'll be 10/11 wks. Not sure if I'll crumble before then and try to get a private one in-between - I'm 8 wks today. Still I now have plenty to take my mind off all this, DH has just been offered and accepted a new job... in new Zealand!! We will relocating in may assuming all the paperwork goes through, so will have to get house ready to let, sort and pack as well as try to figure out what I'm going to do, in the next 3 months. Eek!

Hope everyone is feeling ok, and finding ways to deal with nerves/worries if not. Hugs to all

Wombat33 · 03/02/2011 09:08

yep, I was told it should increase at least 66% in 48-72 hrs but it slows down as the numbers get bigger xxx

nickstermum · 03/02/2011 09:18

OMFG BEE! thats incredible news about NZ.....WOW! Congratulations on that and also reaching 8 weeks Grin

digitalgirl · 03/02/2011 10:03

hello. can i just come in here and hide please? Am somewhere between 12-14dpo. Had crampy symptoms two days ago so tested and got bfp, so started taking junior aspirin and all crampy symptoms have disappeared since. Had buzzy boobs and very faint nausea yesterday, temp even went up today...but have lost that reassuring heavy, crampy feeling. Sad

Trying to think happy thoughts, but I'm feeling ever so sad that I might not even get to see this bean on a scan...

And i have a weird symptom that usually happens just before AF/mc, my hair falls out. And a load of it came out this morning in the shower. Sad

Please please please let this one work. I thought I had at least two-three weeks of pretending everything was ok before I officially started freaking out (previous 3 mcs all happened around 6-7 week mark).

hairyfairylights · 03/02/2011 10:11

Hey Digi welcome! and congratulations. I too am on 75mg aspirin prescribed by consultant.

Have got everything crossed for you hon.

owlbooty · 03/02/2011 10:33

Digi - please come in, make yourself comfy and freak out as much as you like. I also am crossing everything for you, even my toes. Tis v.lovely to see you in here but v.shit that you are fretting so much already :(

Bee OMG! That's going to be an amazing change, you're going to be super-busy for the next few months. Good news about the belching. Grin Belching is always a good sign, if completely gross.

Orange I haven't puked once (neither did my Mum in her 3 pregnancies) but the nausea definitely comes and goes - one day I'd feel fine and the next day grotty then fine for a week or so then grotty. Completely random and designed to make one panic.

Tony - couldn't have put it better myself. It is a bloody miracle putting together another human being.

Dachs hope your bloods come back looking good x

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DachshundsWantPuppies · 03/02/2011 10:57

I have a number - 1765 :)

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hairyfairylights · 03/02/2011 11:17

Dachs big sqeeze to you.

I am wondering about asking for a repeat HCG test when I have my scan tomorrow.

I am really, really, really scared. I wish I could just go to sleep for the scan.

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DachshundsWantPuppies · 03/02/2011 11:30

oh hairy I know it's scary

But if it's good news (which there's no reason to think it won't be) you'll be really pleased to see it :)

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