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Freak out room for those newly updiffed after MC to hold hands and support each other...

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DachshundsWantPuppies · 30/01/2011 08:37

Hello!

Newly updiffed and freaking out about spotting, cramping, the wait until your first scan and each little twinge? Settle in for lots of hand holding and supprt until you're ready to move to grads

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Mamapower · 08/02/2011 20:39

dont worry about the list either hon, it's not one that is a regular updater so won't even appear that often, just a reference for knowing who has scans etc coming up so support can be offered.
If it's any help, freaking out, tiredness are 2 pretty good symptoms... stay strong Smile

hooragh for Choccie bean Grin

Wombat33 · 08/02/2011 21:22

yey for choccie!! Hugs to all who need them tonight especially barbie xxx

SillyCalamari · 08/02/2011 22:00

Hi and thanks to those who answered my message yesterday re not knowing what the hell is going on with me post-miscarriage!

Well the spotting has stopped and today's preg test still showed up a faint line but of course I'm still none the wiser as to whether this is a new viable pregnancy or not. I called the early preg unit and she didn't seem that receptive to getting the hcg levels tested but I'm booked in for a scan on 16th so I'll just wait til then. Wish I could be relaxed about it all but it's on my mind all the time.

Thanks for all your support, and good luck for those of you who have scans coming up over the next week or two

BarbiesBeaver · 09/02/2011 11:02

Thanks for those asking about me - sadly I had another m/c yesterday. Will be starting the fertility treatments again as soon as we are allowed and hope we get lucky this time. Best of luck to all of you, remember the odds are in your favour and this pregnancy is different to the ones you had before. Good luck x

Mamapower · 09/02/2011 11:11

Barbie I don't know how you manage to sound so composed, although we all know how you feel inside. I am so very sorry and Sad for your loss. Look after yourself and good luck with the fertility treatments Smile x

silly well that is not overly helpful but at least they have agreed a scan, fx for you, keep us posted Smile

hairylights · 09/02/2011 11:18

Oh Barbie I'm so sorry. Take gentle care and hope to see you again here soon.

nickstermum · 09/02/2011 12:29

ME alert

Terrified

spent the morn in a&e having had a very wet brown bleed in the night which smelt of amniotic fluid.

Unhelpful gynae we saw sent us home and cant get a scan at EPU til fri morning

On bed rest :(

and very very scared

PinkFondantFancy · 09/02/2011 12:35

barbie I am so sorry. I really hope next time is more lucky for you.

((( nicks ))) can you afford to go private and get a scan quicker?? You poor thing, HUGE hugs-I'm thinking of you honey.

digitalgirl · 09/02/2011 12:41

barbie very sorry Sad

nicks feet up in case its an incompetent cervix, get your DH to HARASS the EPU and/or your GP to fit you in for an emergency scan TODAY. Your GP might be able to get you a scan at another hospital. A&E gynaes aren't necessarily pregnancy experts.(((((((HUGS)))))))

nickstermum · 09/02/2011 12:41

Sorry barbies hadnt read back, am so so sorry for your loss xx take time to rest and grieve xxx

Private is fully booked also til friday...may as well wait out nhs on friday morning.

I dont know itf its mc starting or losing amniotic fluid or what....

anyway, sorry probably not reassuring the rest of you very much either x

owlbooty · 09/02/2011 12:43

Oh hell, Nix :(

You poor thing. Are you still bleeding or has it settled? Did the unhelpful gynae say anything useful at all? Tis utterly shit that they can't get you a scan until Friday :( Huge, squishy hugs coming your way. x

nickstermum · 09/02/2011 12:49

Stopped bleeding, the gynae said brown blood was good(!) and said the only way they could tell if it was fluid was a scan. (!!)

Said also good not cramping, just tender. (then again has been tender all the way through)

Then he did a urine, blood pressure, palpated me and stuck a canula in my arm without taking blood!!! Fucking useless twat Sorry that was harsh. Inspected my pad which was clean and basically made me feeli shouldnt be there.

The nurse was shocking... why have you come here....why not epu...? Cos i dont want to wait 3 fecking days for a scan and midwives say present yourself at a&e

Thansk dig didnt think of inc cervix, will call gp today.

Was worried as had strep a at 7 weeks which i had abs for (strep a can cause pre term labour) but the hops said my swab results showeda little something that didnt require treatment. Will call gp and see if i can strong arm them

nickstermum · 09/02/2011 12:51

and he also said no stress... so i shall stop ranting now. Feet up, signed off work til after fri scan, (had a v stressful day yest, and he did say that wont help)...so i suppose he wasnt that useles after all... im just emotional :(

owlbooty · 09/02/2011 12:55

You did the right thing to go to A&E - I asked my MW about this and she said if you have any problems that should ALWAYS be first port of call so don't let them make you feel guilty over that.

I also got cannulated when I rocked up at A&E last time and have made mental note not to fall for that one again as they did it without asking which I thought was shocking. And it bloody hurt too!

Sure he is right about the brown blood though - maybe you just dislodged some that had been there a while? Putting feet up sounds like excellent plan in teh meantime - get some movies and a good book to distract you if you can.

I agree with Digi it's worth trying to strong-arm the GP, if you feel up to it.

HongKongBaby · 09/02/2011 13:25

Barbie so sorry to hear your sad news.

Nix, how worrying for you. I hope you really do have your feet up and are getting a proper rest. Hope you get some clarity over what's going on soon.

Sorry everyone that I do not get a chance to post much, am usually on (crappy) phone which is okay for lurking but hopeless for writing anything.

youremindmeofthebabe · 09/02/2011 13:34

((hugs)) for nix. Lots of love and positivity from over here. xx

Mamapower · 09/02/2011 13:57

Oh nix what a nightmare, big hugs hon. They cannulated me as well, must be standard a&e procedure... wankers! I can't believe they can't scan you until Friday... that's terrible. Glad you are signed off until after the scan though and it's good the bleeding has stopped, you must do as you've been told, feet up and do nothing.

hairylights · 09/02/2011 13:59

Nicks sorry to hear of this and glad you are now on full rest. Will keep things firmly crossed for you.

Wavve to HKBaby

I am reading some quite heartening stuff.

It turns out that I was scanned right on the very day that I was technically at 4 weeks gestation. At that point it is highly unlikely that anyone would see a yolk sac, as it's only just whem the pregnancy sac becomes visible.

If I ovulated later than I thought (and I think it was probably the 9th of Jan ish) then I could only have been 3 weeks and five days gestation (depending on how long it took the egg to travel and implant), at which point it's not likely to see even a pregnancy sac.

Hmmm. [hopeful smiley]

Not sure why I suddenly seem to have found some hope and I sure hope it isn't false hope.

chocciechip · 09/02/2011 14:03

barbie - I'm so very sorry Sad.

nix My blood boils when I hear of that kind of comment. I've just got back from my booking appointment and I was explicitly told by my midwife that first port of call for anything worrying is A&E from now on, and that they might refer me to EPU from there - but to call them first. Agree with the others to try bully your way for quicker help ... I was turned away from the EPU with my first MC but phoned my GP, who flipped out and phoned them, and I was seen that afternoon. And don't apologise for not being reassuring: there's feck-all anyone can say to reassure me that my pg is going to go well all the way to the end Smile.

hairy To be honest, I feel the same way about lists. But yesterday I was on a high after the scan and thinking 'I must start trying to think and behave positive' so stuck myself on the list. Today I'm back to fearfulness and thinking 'What the feck was I thinking of - I've jinxed it'.

silly I'm wondering if this is this one of those occassions where a digi done in a few days time might be helpful? What do others think....? I'm not a serial tester myself, but think I might do digi's spaced a week apart if I was in your shoes. I do hope you get clear answers soon; it must be so frustrating.

I have no symptoms at all, but I am very very tired. Can't figure out if that's because I'm pg, or if I'm not sleeping at night from worry: both are true.

Mamapower · 09/02/2011 14:08

Hairy that's my girl! I do think you will find, like me, that your gestational age is going to be far removed than dates based on your lmp. Based on my lmp date at my first scan I was 6+1 but they only saw the gesational sac and they put that down to late ov in a short cycle... meaning the gesational age was far earlier. Glad your research has reassured you, and I am certain Friday's scan will be good Smile

ALovelyBunchOfCoconuts · 09/02/2011 14:09

barbie - so sorry :(

nix Glad you are resting. You definitely did the right thing going to A&E.

hairy I have hopeful days and days that are not so hopeful - today for instance. Your dates and calcs are reassuring :)

I keep trying to argue with having a scan and not having a scan. I called my EPU and I am not allowed to book my own as they don't do early scans unless you have bleeding or other issues. So looks like I'm waiting another 6 weeks. I am 6 weeks today, by my calcs.

I had a follow up gynae appointment booked for next weds that my consultant has cancelled as he doesn't need to see me now I'm preg so not even a chance of a scan though him now.

Emoo · 09/02/2011 14:46

Hello all,

Not much to report here, had my eyebrows plucked (yowch!), just trying to enjoy the calm before the storm of work tomorrow. The scan they gave me was tricky for getting chickie to school at the same time as having DH with me, so it's now rebooked for 18/2 when I will be 7+0. Ish.

About lists - sorry if it's not to everyone's tastes.. was a selfish move on my part to keep tabs on you all Wink as I struggle to keep up when I'm busy at work. If it proves too obtrusive we could just move it to it's own little chatless thread and those of us who are interested can update/bookmark it.

Nix - what a day.. poor you.. and Angry on your behalf at the nurse. Will be keeping fingers firmly crossed until your scan on Friday.

Silver - how's the dizziness?

Barbie - so so sorry to hear of your loss, and I hope you are getting some good tlc out there in RL.

Love - you are being scanned the same day as me...!

choc - congrats on your scan Grin, and getting as far as meeting a MW - hope it goes well. Remember, each little step is a step closer..

Hairy - that's really reassuring research you've been doing. Hope is pretty much the only thing we've all got to cling onto at the moment, so I am glad you have found some!

Orange - can you play the ukelele? Or are you going to learn?? (Oh, and conception date is best guess at when we were 2 weeks based on LMP/charting/early scan/shagfest/OPK, you name it!)

Coconuts - sorry to hear you can't get a scan. The postcode lottery is clearly alive and well... Frustrating.

owlbooty · 09/02/2011 15:13

I'm going to repeat the first rule of the Freaking Out thread:

You cannot jinx yourself no matter what you do

Repeat whilst imaginging me standing over you with a bucket of sardines. Grin

Chocs my local area is the same. I tried asking the GP and failed there too but might be worth you asking, you might get a sympathetic GP.

I fully expect anyone who has a scan coming up to give me 24 hours notice so I can deliver the required pep talk or in Pink 's case, tell them to go easy on the DH. Grin

lovemysleep · 09/02/2011 15:45

Barbie so, so sorry to hear anout your loss - please take care of yourself xx

Nix Sounds like things are settling down a bit, and I hope your scan brings good news. Rest up xx

Emoo ooooh, scan twin - think I may have lost the plot by then. Think the last week and a half has been the longest of my life so far!

YOU CANNOT JINX YOURSELF NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO........
Am with you on that on owlbooty - there is no rhyme or reason to this pg and mc business. We just have to keep ranting on here, and count off the days until we get to feeling safe. I personally, will not feel fully relaxed until I have my baby in my arms - if I ever am that fortunate.
I've dealt with the fact that I wasn't going to be able to have another child after I decided to stop trying after my 3rd mc. Went through a horrible depression, but I got through it, and made my peace with that.
All I'm trying to say is that, with the right support, whatever we all will go through with these pg's, YOU will manage to deal with it eventually.

Ooooh, check me out - all philosophical in the face of madness and insanity...Confused

banana87 · 09/02/2011 16:01

Hi all!!

Barbie Bless you, so sorry you having to go through this :( Best of luck and lots of sticky baby dust coming your way!

Coconuts Can you go private? Just for peace of mind?

Nix Brown blood is good, so hold on to that. Shame on the dr though, very very unprofessional of them.

Hairy :) at you thinking positively.

I called and booked an appt with Dr. Shehata for the 26th, BUT I am not sure if I want to go thru with it or not. Think I will do a separate thread on it, but a bit dubious about the it all and think I should save my ££ for if it happens again...