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Freak out room for those newly updiffed after MC to hold hands and support each other...

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DachshundsWantPuppies · 30/01/2011 08:37

Hello!

Newly updiffed and freaking out about spotting, cramping, the wait until your first scan and each little twinge? Settle in for lots of hand holding and supprt until you're ready to move to grads

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PinkFondantFancy · 07/02/2011 13:19

Hi barbie love your name!!! Make yourself at home. How far along are you?

PinkFondantFancy · 07/02/2011 13:22

Hehe great minds think alike!!

mamap I was in Kent this weekend-whereabouts is your pub?

hairylights · 07/02/2011 13:27

Hi Pink

Test : test your thinking (eg: I want to get in to the car to go to London)
Operate: make it happen mentally and physically (eg: get in to the car, and drive it)
Test: Am I now in London? yes
Exit: Get out of the car.

so it's the same for pregnancy

Test: I want an ongoing pregnancy
Operate: have a scan and an HCG test
Test: Did they tell me I have had a miscarriage? No
Exit: Stop thinking about it.

Also reading a really good book by Byrom Katie about 'the four questions'

so for my scenario:

Step 1 Is it true? NO

Step 2 Can you absolutely know that it's true? NO

Step 3 How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought? I feel less stressed

Who would you be without the thought? Much happier, and creating a happier environment in my body for my very much wanted child

digitalgirl · 07/02/2011 13:37

Pink (smile)

hairy that's really useful, I'll have to remember those.

nickstermum · 07/02/2011 13:39

Oh hairy im sorry i didnt mean to fuel the fire of doubt with my comment earlier. Like the others say, its also a sign of increasing hormones. Try to relax a little and find something to keep your mind occupied!! (otherwise you will drive yourself mad!)

My DH bollocked me for constantly thinking about MC... told me i would become a self fulfilling prophecy if i wasnt careful.. harsh but had a point Grin

BarbiesBeaver · 07/02/2011 13:41

Hairy I really like the Test, operate, test exit. I will try to remember that.

Thanks Pink and digital I am 5w3d today. I've got an early scan on the 22nd as part of my fertility clinic to make sure everything is looking ok.

All this baby making business is very hard eh? Seems a lesson in trying to learn that TTC doesn't always = pregnancy, and Pregnancy doesn't always = baby. Fingers crossed for those waiting for tests and scans, especially if the scans are in the same place as you have received bad news before.

nickstermum · 07/02/2011 13:44

pink meant to add... what EXACTLY does your consultant say about bad tummies and it being a good sign?!>!>!>!>

BarbiesBeaver · 07/02/2011 13:44

Hairy I know I've just arrived in this thread but do you do meridian tapping? I did this quite a bit during fertility treatment, you basically reinforce a positive message by tapping areas of your body and repeating a statement. I can go into it a bit more if anyone is interested.

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DachshundsWantPuppies · 07/02/2011 13:47

barbie - you're my cycle twin! 5w+3d today, scan at clinic on 22nd (2nd round of ivf after 1 unsuccessful iui and an unsuccessful ivf)

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Emoo · 07/02/2011 13:59

Triplets!! Barbie and Dachs I'm 5+3 today too - except I don't know when my scan might be and I didn't have a fertility clinic. Maybe you two can be the identical twins and I'll be the fraternal triplet hanger-on!

Mamapower · 07/02/2011 13:59

ooooh dear! Hairy

owlbooty · 07/02/2011 14:01

Yay!

Barbs I was hoping you would run into Dachs at some point as I was desperately crossing my fingers and sacrificing goats for you both during latest rounds of IUI/IVF. I like to think the goats worked their magic. Grin

Hairy I wish I could switch off your brain for the next four days. I bet you do too.

Bee excellent work on the barfing Grin

chocs you poor thing, that sounds bloody awful, not surprised you are still shaky. The bean will be fine as is well-cushioned. Do not worry about absence of symptoms - I have checked back and my symptom diary entry for 7+6 says "I MUST NOT PANIC WHEN I HAVE NO SYMPTOMS, IT IS NORMAL" . At 8 + 4 it says "cooked roast pork and nearly barfed on it". Your time will come, oh yes Grin

hairylights · 07/02/2011 14:04

clutches Mamap's hand tightly. What time is your scan on Friday?

All - sorry for no individual name checks, but thank you ALL for your encouragement. Am writing rushed freakout posts whilst at work.

And Nicks no don't worry about that! All is well.

Another useful thing for you 'visioning' types Louise Hay's mantra for dealing with fear of miscarriage "Divine right action is always taking place in my life. I love and approve of myself. All is well.? I have this on a canvas on my bedroom wall, so that I see it every morning when I wake up.

and yes! Barbie - Welcome! I had forgotten about meridian tapping (going to start that again !)

Im now having hot flushes Blush - fgs, don't tell me I'm experiencing menopausal symptoms in the middle of early pregnancy too Grin

PinkFondantFancy · 07/02/2011 14:15

ooh a big tapping fan here too although Ive been a bit lax of late "I choose to feel calm and confident about my pregnancy"

Mamapower · 07/02/2011 14:58

Hairy in the unlikely event the NHS are running on time I'm in at 1.15pm. DH will be away on business and the last time I was scanned and he was away on business... Sad Anyway, my best friend is coming to hold my hand so at least I won't be alone! What time you and your bean up?

hairylights · 07/02/2011 15:01

I looked for the 'like' button then, Pink Grin

I also have a long-winded affirmation "We have a happy, healthy, normal pregnancy, a happy, healthy, normal birth, a happy healthy normal child and we all live happily, healthily and normally together ever after"

hairylights · 07/02/2011 15:03

MamaP We are doing the dreaded 9am slot - at least then we get in and out early, and hopefully don't have to wait around with everyone else. I'll be doing the 'staring at the spot on the ceiling' thing again.

Mamapower · 07/02/2011 15:08

We'll both be alreeet, I got a good feeling x

BarbiesBeaver · 07/02/2011 15:52

Ah great, get tapping! I do it in the car at every traffic light and before I go to sleep. How brilliant to have due date buddies Dachs and Emoo. Even the same scan dates Dachs! Can I ask when you m/c before? It will be great to have people to hold hands through all this.

hairylights · 07/02/2011 16:20

I so hope so mamap I hope we get to be the ex freaks with babies one day :)

nickstermum · 07/02/2011 16:37

ah hairy, we arent freaks :) we are just normal ladies experiencing a bumpy ride along the way....

Fecking cat... another live mouse! Trying to rest work at home and have had to chase another moose round the hooose! I will be tapping 7kilocat before long... with my boot! Thankfully my 1kilocat is a bit of a ratter and caught it Grin so its now in the garden

nickstermum · 07/02/2011 16:38

knitter will be joining us soon Grin

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DachshundsWantPuppies · 07/02/2011 16:40

barbie I had my mc in August (mmc at 8 weeks, empty sac measuring 5-6 weeks) having tried for 7 long years to get there in the first place. Therefore completely terrified about losing this one too... Trying to be zen and relaxed about this one! Which is about as possible as putting out a fire with petrol, but I am trying...

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owlbooty · 07/02/2011 16:41

I spend a fair bit of my life in traffic jams, will have to investigate this tapping malarkey as I do get terribly bored whilst sitting there. Might as well do something constructive instead of swearing at people and waving fingers. Or finger.

Nix you're making me very happy our cat is a lazy fatpuss who only catches things that basically fall out of trees on to his head. Grin

BarbiesBeaver · 07/02/2011 16:43

Oh Dachs how bloody awful. I think that i/f and m/c together are a particularly cruel type of torture. The odds are in our favour though that all will be well this time. That's what I keep telling myself anyway!