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[AmandaCooper]

Welcome to another thread everybody, George and Jake are standing by to do our bidding and have pina coladas for the waiters and sick buckets for the upduffed!

For anyone who is wondering "what the blazers is a WIIT?", the back story is that we all waited to ttc together for a long time and we are now variously still waiting, actively trying or upduffed.

Old thread here"

Great news mrsW!!!! I'm so glad to hear everything went well and you managed to find out that he is a little boy :)

Birmingham is a great city WW- I go to a conference there almost every year and it has great shops, nice bars etc. Good luck with your application.

Even getting an interview for such a competitive course after only two weeks prep is a great achievement so I'm sure you will be accepted next time :)

AC your OH is infuriating! I don't blame you for turning to the drink! You know though, I think he will be one of those OHs who is really unsure and keeps blowing hot and cold until you actually get pregnant and then will be over the moon and more exited than you. Maybe once the decision is made and you are upduffed he will be able to relax and just enjoy it! :)

Bebe how horrible for your friends. I had a collegue whose OH had to produce a sample for their IVF who had a car accident a few days before and injured his shoulder badly and they were really worried about him being able to 'perform'.

My friend was in the hospital after having her eggs harvested (lots of lovely healthy ones) waiting for him to come back from another clinic (where he had to do his stuff) and he took absolutely ages. She was thinking "Oh no, this is it, all that build up and preperation and hormones for nothing, he hasn't been able to do it"

He calmly sauntered in a few hours later and she found out he had been for a Macdonalds on the way back from the other clinic as he felt a bit hungry! he nearly lost his baby making equipment that day!

They got pregnant though and now have a lovely 9 month old daughter :)

Fab news MrsW! :)

Feel so bad for my friends coz if there is a problem they won't 'qualify' for IVF on NHS as they already have a DD. :( I know how much it means to my friend!

Yes Nannyl, where are you? Hope you are ok? x

wyorkslass hooray for the scan :) I think that no matter how relaxed you are, being able to see the baby wriggling is such a comfort! And quite amazing too, at my 10 wk scan it was only 3cm long, but still really detailed :)

mrsW your scan sounds great too :) I'm looking forward to the 20 week one now, only 3 weeks to go!

Amanda Your DH sounds lovely playing with the kitten! I also think that after all he's said, he will turn out to be a super excited and devoted dad :)

bebe hope your friends have some luck, things like that just remind you that it's not always straightforward.

whywait are you applying to b'ham now, or next year? Good luck with it!

nannyl and 100years hope you're both feeling ok with the sickness.

I agree that 'other stuff' sounds like it might be the best place for this thread. Not sure if we can move it, or if MNHQ will be able to?

I'm happy today as I have tomorrow off work!! We are headed to a family thing in the early evening so I have the morning to laze around at home. Tonight I'm off to see Black Swan (even though I'm a bit worried that it'll be too heavy and depressing!)

hello

thought id update you....
not been on here as have been really very very poorly with morning sickness / hyperemisis.

just back from hospital now

as well as morning sickness i have a kidney infection, (due to not weeing enough cause too much vomiting) and also OH's man flu / nasty cough, and i cant describe how poorly / ill / "near death" i have been feeling the past few days... and just getting worse and worse and worse.

was FINALLY admitted to hospital yeturday (having been at my drs every day this week) and have had 5 litres of fluids pumped back into me.

a couple of days ago I could take NOTHING, not even ice cubes or anti-sickness tablets.

Care in hospital (or lack of) was dire.... am even more dead set on a home birth and never having to go to that horrible place again... at least at home someone will make me a drink, pass me some food!
it was also filthy.

not read thread for a while but ill catch up later when i have some energy.

Oh Nannyl, that sounds grim! :( The threat of hospital was enough to get me to suck on a boiled sweet & an ice cube & I was spared! (Even if I had to not move whilst doing it & do it lying down!!) Really hope that you start to feel better soon. People don't understand how miserable 'morning' sickness can be. Hope you are being looked after now you are home? x

Oh that does sound awful nannyl :( I felt bad enough from just nausea, so I really can't imagine how you've been feeling. Glad you have been treated though, and I hope that things ease off for you soon.

Poor you nannyl! Whereabouts are you? Is there another hospital you could go to instead? Not sure if this is fair as I am judging from news reports, which is never entirely accurate, but based on that I wouldn't touch one of our nearest with a barge pole. However we're lucky enough to live in the middle of three so hopefully I could choose one of the others... if I ever get pregnant!! How many weeks are you now? Hopefully it will wear off soon. [sends lots of get-well vibes to nannyl from all train passengers]

Oh poor you Nannyl, I really feel for you and 100 with the morning sickness!

I think that realising how debilitating morning sickness can be has made me think about our TTC timetable TBH and I'd appreciate some advice from you all...

I've got a very big month-long job in June which I've been working towards for 18 months, and I'd be gutted if I couldn't do it because I had terrible morning sickness...which I've realised means that I'd either have to aim to be past 12 or so weeks before June (ie TTC NOW effectively) or wait until the job is done and TTC in the summer instead...which would mean the added complication of DP possibly being away a fair bit. Oh dilemmas!

All still hypothetical of course - but WWYD?

i live on the edge of the peak district national park... in good traffic this hospital is 35 - 40mins away, in rush hour make that an hour plus.

i have no other hospital where i can give birth any closer or even nearly as far away.

so in reality i dont have a 'choice'

i would have Leeds / Manchester but they are a good hour away in decent traffic, further in bad, and given i want a home birth, will only be going in an emergancy, its the only place i can realisticaly go.

while there
i was not given a name braclet
they never took my next of kin / emergancy contact
was not given folic acid... you would have thought i was asking for illegal drugs when i suggested that at 8weeks pg i should have some
my 1st place to 'go' was a chair in a stock room cupbaord thing (there were no beds)
then when someone left i was allowed to sit in the comfy chair next to bed (with dirty sheets)
after an hour sheets had still not been changed so MIDWIFE did it as she could see i was desperate to lie down
at 9.45 my GP and obstetrican on the ward decided i needed rapid rehydration asap.
Didnt get any til 1430.
was not even given a jug of water til 8pm DESPITE BEING DEHYDRATED
i had to ask if they wanted a wee sample as thought they would.. they didnt even ask me, i could have flushed it away if i hadnt asked, they needed to monitor how much was produced yet didnt even tell me this.
all food = self service in coridoor... slightly difficult impossible to manage a heavy door, drip trolly (with hand painfully attached) and a plate of food and a drink and a pudding... NO HELP AT ALL

please let me have my home birth!!!!

Nannyl, that is horrendous.

Have you informed the Patient liaison people (is it called PALS?) I put in a complaint when my friend had atrocious care after breaking an ankle and the hospital staff all fell over themselves being exemplary from then on til he was discharged. I know you're no longer in but it's definitely worth complaining about your care - maybe it won't happen to the next person?

That sounds awful! Definitely complain. You need somebody higher up to know about this. That's really just not on!

Nannyl - You have to complain, or get your OH to do it on your behalf if you aren't feeling up to it! That is horrendous! What a complete disgrace. And not giving you a id bracelt is dangerous for a start as well as being completely irresponsible. You could be anyone, if you lost consciousness or were asleep & they had to give you treatment...how would they know you were you?! IYKWIM?

I hate going to hospital, but I thank God I have never been treated like that. Am appauled!

new home here

hi all, well i am finally starting to feel more or less back to normal apart from the ever expanding bump! im around 25 weeks now and cant believe how big i am wud be interesting to c wot im measuring at the midwife :) went to aqua natal today which i love but it doesnt half take it out of u

and i really need to get organised i have been working 2 days a week and i am really falling behind with the housework with the few days i took out being ill, still need to get everything organised and loads off stuff thrown out b4 this baby arrives or there will be no room for anything (toddler and organised/tidy do not go well tho) every time i turn my back she has caused mess or mischief mayb 2 years was a bad age gap lol

right now to try catch up with everyone

mrs- fab news on boy :) i wish i knew 4 sure whether we were having a boy or not really need to start getting names and things planned

nannyl- i am so sorry your having such a tough time of pregnancy i hope it improves 4 u soon

ok started writing this at 6pm then have been argueing with DP eva since and seems he is now ex DP so i will try and catch up properly tomoro :(

Are you OK jbells?

im really sorry...

i still havent caught up and i really need a hug.

OH is understandabley finding it difficult to deal with me being so sick at the moment...

when i came out of hospital on thursday afternoon i felt really quite well "un sick" (had man flu / cough & back ache as well, but the not feeling sick bit was bliss)

thought my anti sick tabs were woking and id be back to my normal self...

if only.

By lunch time was feeling poorly and by the afternoon was feeling sh!t. Had been dry heaving.

I didnt actually vomit until 5mins after OH arrived home though...

apparently its attention seeeking, all in my mind etc. i was being sick "for him"
He made it quite clear and he thinks its rediculouse and all in my mind.

spent all evening vomiting (joy) and was DESPERATE to keep down my anti-sick tab

so at 11pm i took it, and did the lie absolutely still / dont move a muscle thing. (I think unless you have been this sick you dont understand how important it is to lie COMPLETELY still, and just concentrate on breathing....)

a while later but within the hour OH came to bed... i didnt couldnt move, and when he started to try and cuddle me i had to say "no" (couldnt say more than "no" as it would have induced vomiting)

managed to keep my tablet down and my morning one down at 7am too (though feeel no better for it)

I suggested i try travel bands round my wrists, and could OH go and get me some... they are in the next town 3 miles, 5 min drive away but OH cant drive.
He was very cross as 'all im thinking about it me' and i did snap with the "its not my fault you dont drive" which really really upset him.
He has man flu and just wants to sleep it off and he has to think about me....

i made him come and sit next to me, and tell me whats wrong.

he thinks its rediculouse that i am sick... that i am sick because i have read it can happen, and that is why. "placebo effect of knowing it might happen"
he said "1st you felt sick... then you were sick, then you were sick lots... then you had to go to hospital... JUST LIKE YOU HAVE READ MIGHT HAPPEN"
The drs at hospital said to expect to be sick again and even to be going in for a drip again.... and now you ARE being sick again

he GENUINELY believes i am somehow making it happen and its happening cause i read about it

he even said "i bet if you didnt know you were pg you wouldnt have been sick at all"

I feel so hurt.... he does NOT understand that i have no desire at all to feel so poorly and its NOT in my mind and theres nothing i can do.
Its NORMAL BEING PREGNANT FFS.... so he goes on... "trust me to be in the 1% that has hyperemisis"

Id do anything to feel better riight now. anything at all.... hence wanting to try some travel bands...

so i was saying "ALL my friends and family are 250 miles away, YOU are the ONLY person ive got to help me" (he thinks i need to just get up and live normally... no moving makes me sick... i CANT)

so he thought perhaps i should just go home....
would he like to arrange me to go home?
Said no but he seems to think thats the best place for me.

he is so cross. while i can understand that its very frustrating for him, i just cant deal with the fact he thinks im somehow ill on purpose / its my fault that im ill.