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TTC after a miscarriage - Good Luck, Good Luck, Good Luck!

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Diddle · 08/10/2005 12:28

OK, Brand new thread time. here you go girsl thinks we've waited long enough for another thread.

Fingers crossed for all of you

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mumswish · 17/10/2005 15:11

[picturing coathanger having fun cutting tubes on mens balls] LOL.

I'm sure you're DH might be a little scared of you if you learn to do that

Coathanger · 17/10/2005 15:15

It is a difficult course to get on, and you have to be very comitted. If you have any doubt at all, don't do it. It will involve pretty nasty things as well as the joy of seeing new babies. And nobody should chose to be a midwife because they like babies. that isn't enough. Being a midwife means you have to counsel, comfort, organise, help, women and their families from the moment they are aware they are expecting right through til baby is up to 21 days old (or older if they are scbu babies). And remember not everything goes to plan. You will have to deal with miscarriage, stillbirths, high risk PGs, women with disablilties, abortion and loads more. Delivering babies is only a tiny part of being a midwife.

It is a difficult course - it is full time and most of it is on placement, working all hours, as you would as a qualified MW. If you have any doubts, don't do it.

I am doing a degree in Midwifery but you can do a diploma instead.

mumswish · 17/10/2005 15:21

I didnt know midwives dealt with abortions. I thought GPs or surgeons etc did that. See everything else I wouldnt mind doing. Even the mc's Id like to think that I may be able to help a little as I've been there. My midwife was cack when I had my mc, she just said its one of those things and walked out. Left me to "get on with it" I spose. Just abortions that would upset me I think. But then I spose it would depend on circumstances, I dunno I still kinda want to, but I spose like you said, if theres doubts it shouldnt be done.

Coathanger · 17/10/2005 15:28

They do deal with terms, especially if a woman decides to have one due to abnormalities. If a pregnancy has been pregressing fine, you might have become close to your midwife and many women see them as a sourse of comfort and counselling. therefore MWs do deal with terminations too.

mumswish · 17/10/2005 15:32

See that I couldnt do, Esp if you've had time to see the baby grow with them and then find out something is wrong. I'm in awe of you CH. I wouldnt be able to. Good luck to you girl!

Coathanger · 17/10/2005 15:38

Its something I've always wanted to do. Even before I had kids. When I add together all the things I want to do in life and like to do, it comes out as becoming a midwife. I love helping people, comforting them, and I love medical "stuff", I'm not squemish at all, I don't panic in situations, and of course i like babies, but I like people too. Tos ee a woman through her pregnancy, the most wonderful experience in a womans life (although there are exceptions to that, and that is something else you have to deal with, unwanted PGs) is a gift, and I think I'll be good at it.

Right enough blowing my own trumpet, I think....

Coathanger · 17/10/2005 15:43

Oh and by the way Mums, Urologists do way more than just test people pee - they are surgeons! they deal with everything to do with waterworks!

Coathanger · 17/10/2005 15:50

Where you gone??

mumswish · 17/10/2005 15:57

So not just a peepee doc then (as spub says)

Sorry, had loads of phonecalls to answer and I cant talk and type at the same time. I get confused! LOL

So have you had chance to cut mens tubes then?

Coathanger · 17/10/2005 15:59

No (unfortunately! hehe!) but I've seen plenty of them queuing up to have it done! hehe!! You should se the look on their faces!! Like men waitin gon death row!!

mumswish · 17/10/2005 16:02

I'd love to see those faces!! So evil.

Will you get to cut tubes if you carried on there? Is it as much pain as childbirth dya think. Or are they all being normal men?

Coathanger · 17/10/2005 16:05

I don't work there anymore, and I was never in a job to progress to doing the cutting! It doesn't hurt them to have it done, they have local anaesthetic, but they can be a bit uncomfortable after.

mumswish · 17/10/2005 16:09

so definatly just being men.

My DF has now got my cold but he's dying (of course) I went to work all week with my cold he's just getting it and already had a day off work with it. tut tut. Men just cant handle anything?!?!?!

Coathanger · 17/10/2005 16:15

A sure case of Man Flu!

Its a good job men don't have babies coz we'd all be one child families!

mumswish · 17/10/2005 16:18

See I'm hoping that when I do get pg I'll have twins (runs in the family) cos then I can get both of them at one time. (DF wants 2 kids) then I wont have the pain and be able to say no thats it no more. If I've got 2 in there, they both have to come out at the same time so I have no choice! LOL

Coathanger · 17/10/2005 16:19

See if I had had twins first time round, I would still have gone on to have more.

mumswish · 17/10/2005 16:22

see I like the idea of being pg loads of times but I'm a big wimp when it comes to pain so not sure if I could manage giving birth loads of times. Dunno how Katie Holmes can say shes not having pain relief or screaming.

I dont want pain relief (if it can be helped) BUT I'm definatly screaming. (theraputic)

carly82 · 17/10/2005 16:23

Hi to all this afternoon
just having a read through as not been here for a while and it took ages to get through it all
CH didnt know you were planning to be a midwife, i am currebtly in college doing a maths course, that will then take me on to the access to nursing and then onto midwifery its a long road but i cant wait!!!
finally stopped bleeding after almost four long weeks (dont know what was happening there!) so i am completley lost as to what day i am due i am just bding like crazy
anyway sorry for gabbing hope everyone is well and good luck to all this weeks testers xxxxx

mumswish · 17/10/2005 16:26

Carly - Just bd anyway. Its more fun that way than planning it. Plus it keeps them quiet for a few mins!! Glad to hear your all sorted again with your af. Good luck for the coming month!

Coathanger · 17/10/2005 16:26

Afternoon Carly! Glad to hear I have a future student friend And as for bleeding for 4 weeks - how come??

carly82 · 17/10/2005 16:29

Mumswish- a few mins i should be so lucky !!!!!!
CH i have no idea what happened my last af arrived bang on time, finished after a few days then started again, it kept going like that for almost four weeks one day i would bleed the next nothing, i finally stopped last tuesday but im lost now. have no idea when my next af is due or when i can test

Coathanger · 17/10/2005 16:32

Honestly, no pain relief and no screaming can be done. I had no pain relief at all with DS2 and I tend not to make too much noise anyway. I like to put as much of my energy into pushing rather than sreaming

mumswish · 17/10/2005 16:36

Pushing is good, but surely screaming is theraputic no? LOL

DId you have pain relief with any of the others?

Coathanger · 17/10/2005 16:55

If you are screaming, then you aren't putting all your energy into pushing - thats how I see it! Of course you wil make some noise (especially when you are begging the midwife for a section!hehe!) but load screaming is unnecessary - sorry if anyone disagrees

mumswish · 17/10/2005 17:03

ok - I'll have to remember that. or try to. I dont disagree with you CH. I cant, i've not been there yet. Maybe I'll have a better opinion once I've had one. Then ill argue! LOL

Right all I'm off home. Speak to you all tomorrow. Loads of hugs to everyone.

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