Beanies, bumps and bikinis (all by next August please) :)

[homemama]

New, combined thread. Welcome all!

Hello everyone! I'm still here, been on holiday, back now (obviously), lot's of BDing on hols, but don't think it's achieved anything!!
Had coil out before we went away, no AF yet, but no BFP either!!
Have really heavy achey boobs, feel tired, and just wish something would happen either way!!

sorry about all the afs everyone. its awful when you get specific non-af type symptoms too, I have had every month and its so annoying getting your hopes up.

Jen I'm having some blood tests too but mine are day 5-10 and then day 21. Fingers crossed for you.

sorry Jag about af turning up i know what you mean your body can be v cruel on the ttc journey and your head even worse.
Jen it sounds v promising doesnt it.How long are your normal cycles? ill keep my fingers toes and eyes crossed for you.

Hello can I join in! Been almost ttc for 5 months - kind of relaxed approach - no contraception, etc but just stepped up a level this month using opks - great novelty! Got the two lines today
Stats - I am 36 and DH is 39 - already have DD 3.5years and today is CD 14 so in the mood for bding!! Not sure if hubby knows that yet!
Hoping to conceive asap as don't want to pay for holiday childcare next summer LOL!

I'll keep you posted!

Welcome andy! and hi to everyone from the other thread that I don't know. I'm hoping not to be here too long as I've just gone through the archives and everyone from my original thread is now pg. Whilst I'm so happy for them, it's made me realise I have to get a move on. As it happened first time last time, I'm not sure if we're really fertile or whether we were just so lucky.

Jen, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you

Morning everyone, such a lot of us now!! Good luck Jen, keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Good luck everyone.

My stats as we seem to be posting again

me 34
DH 39
DS 15mths

About to start TTC when AF arrives in 2 weeks!! Hoping for an Aug/sept baby.

Morning all!

I've just stumbled across this thread after having been otherwise engaged over the weekend looking after my godchildren. Three days of a very high maintenance 4yr old and extremely mischievous 2yr old. AF arrived yesterday and I had quite a weird reaction to it. Something along the lines of 'Oh thank God'. I'll explain...

Spent Saturday feeling very hormonal (af clearly due), was crotchety, tired and a bit fed up. The godchildren have just been through their parents breaking up after a very volatile and unhappy period and are duly unsettled and confused. Unfortunately manifesting itself in bed wetting, causing deliberate damage to anything around them and being very mean to each other (each one is desperate for the undivided attention of any passing adult). They were extremely hard work and after they had gone to bed (after the eldest had 'wet' two pairs of pyjamas in 15mins) I got quite tearful and broke down telling dh over the phone (he was away working this weekend) that I couldn't do it and I'd make a lousy mum. Felt upset, irrational and confused.

When af arrived Sun morning, I just thought it was probably for the best as I had been beating myself up all night for being mean, crotchety and fed up- didn't let the children see it, just felt angry, found myself having to go in the kitchen away from them and take deep breaths after they mashed porridge into the carpet and danced in it etc.

Some advice needed please. I love both of them dearly and largely enjoyed looking after them, but I'm losing confidence in my ability to do this. DH said all the right things and made me feel a lot better about it this morning, but after they left, I (very guiltily) thought 'lovely, some peace and quiet'. How awful is that? I really want to be a Mum, but feel so guilty about this weekend. It's not a 'normal' situation for them I know, they're going through a tough time but I couldn't even handle three days of it without breaking down.

Anyway, I'm rambling, just needed to offload a bit before I go to work. This ttc business is just a bit big and scary at times.

Hello to all, I'll try and make the next few posts a bit more light-hearted.

Best of luck to all, bfps here we come...
Kleg

Hi Kleggie

I know how you feel, it is easier when they are your own (most the time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) as you have been with them since birth and they have got to that level gradually not all of a sudden as you had this weekend. You don't normally get two at diff. ages all of a sudden IYKWIN!

Hope this helps.

I have doubts about coping with a new baby and what will be a 2 year old who at the moment is hyper! without sleep, etc.. But, know that if I don't I will regret it. I am told it gets easier.

Good Morning Ladies, It's monday and the sun is shining amd I am off to the post office shortly to pick up a mystery parcel - i am hoping that it is a christmas present I've ordered.

Well I spent several hours on saturday going through the entire previous thread and making notes on everyone so that I could post some sensible questions for everyone and then failed to do the post on Sunday - oops! Will try and do that tonight, after customer calls and sorting out samples for tomorrow and hopefully a new customer .

A couple of bits I can remember from all my noseness yesterday, congratulations to the graduates on the last thread, I hope you are all thriving and beanies are being good and not giving you too many symptoms.

Homemamma - did you get an offer on your house or have you moved already?

Jag and Stacey {{hugs}} to you both and so sorry about AF's . On wards and upwards for this month.

Jen when is your first blood test booked for? is it soon?

Beth - sounds like you had a good holiday - where did you go, local or abroad?

Andy - welcome, there are a lot of us that are new to this thread, as you may have seen we have merged 2 threads - I'm from the other one , hope your stay is a short one (in the nicest possible way).

Kleggie - it is different when it's your own little ones. Yes they can be as hard work and frustrating etc, but you know them and know what works to distract them, how to calm them down and they know you too and when you say No and it means NO!! . The little ones (and everyone else) is in an incredibly hard position their world is crashing down round their ears everything is changing and they don't know and can't understand why so are trying to get attention - and behaving the way they are behaving at the moment is getting attention so they continue - Gosh listen to me ramble LOL, . Oh Thanks for the tip about Pride & Prejudice - I love the BBC adaption so will probably give it a miss, I really wasn't sure that this one would live up to the 'orignal' anyway.

Ok this is now offically a huge post!! so will say bye and shoot off to get my parcel.

Talk to you later.
H x

Ok Really should have previewed that before I posted - i knew it was big but not an Epic
sorry ladies!!

Kleggie,

I understand totally how you feel - the main reason I didn't want kids for so long was that feeling that I just wouldn't know what to do with them. I'd never spent much time in the company of kids, and really didn't know how to talk to them or play with them.

When DH and I decided we should think seriously about whether we wanted kids, we started seeing DH's best friend (who has a 2.5 year old son) every two weeks. At first I felt a bit lost, and had no idea how I would cope with my own, but even spending just one evening a week on a regular basis I have got to know him better, and am much more confident in my ability to interact with him. I have also learned good things to distract him with

And as the other ladies have said, they don't turn up like that - you get a good couple of years to get used to them before you have to deal with that side of things.

Hugs,
Artoo.

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Hi Normsnockers I think the earliest tests are 4 days before AF is due, otherwise the day AF is due. When are you due?

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I think its too early then. The horrible waiting period has started!!!!

hi everyone, i in a brighter mood today! the sun is shining and the world is good, it best that it didnt happen this month as we will be moving out in feb so i might be able to help a bit more if ttc takes a bit longer!

we been at mother toddlers today chloe spent her time sitting in a tray (god knows why!!) and me and the other musm had a good chat and now i feel better!

anyway on CD 2/3 am waiting for af to go away so the bding can commence (dh thinks all his christmas' have come at once!!!) doing lots of excercise to try and shift some excess weight as that wont help the ttc!!! mostly the excercise consists of delivering my avon books out (doing really well this month so very happy) oh and bringing a table and chairs home by hand lol (well we needed one for when we move out and it was a lovely pine set for £15 coz they needed a bigger one) so it was a bargain

anyway chattered on enough about a load of rubbish, so i will take my leave! hope everyone else is ok, sorry i never really comment on other people i try and remember whats going on with everyone but ultimately forget! sorry good luck to everyone!!!!!

must stop talking now byeeeeeee

hi guys...

well im a bit low 2day, just been thinking and loads of things going on in my head. i would be in my 2rd trimester now if i hadnt of mc'd. My little boy keeps asking when "zippy" is coming (thats his pet name for the baby) i just have to tell him its not time yet! its because all his friends at school have new born siblings or their mums are expecting, its just difficult....

the whole world seems to be pregnant! Sorry to rant, im sure you all feel the same....... it can be so isolating, especially when everyone knows you re trying- god they can soooo insensitive! the whole "no sign yet?" really gets to me!- its like " if there were do you really think i would nt tell you after 2 sodding years of trying?!!!!!!"

that was meant to say 3rd trimester! doh!

homemama was your original thread lets get fat for summer? I was on that and am not pregnant yet either. Am in 5th month of trying.

milosmum I know what you mean about everyone being pregnant. I bump into someone and their bump that I vaguely know at least once a week. Its annoying that people keep asking you. I know many freinds who have had problems ttc or had mulitiple miscarriages and I only ask them if they want to talk about.

Normsnockers, am pretty much in same position as you. Got pregnant first time I tried with ds at 36 and now not having much luck at 39. Am having blood tests to see if its still possible.

harriezb am very impressed with your re reading!

Hi Milosmum, sorry you're feeling low. Rant away! That's what we're here for! I know what you mean and for that very reason we haven't told anyone in RL that we've started trying for #2. We've been sort of trying for @5mths but have only really tried properly this month. Finding time and energy with a 10mth old who doesn't sleep isn't easy.

Harrizeb, gosh, such homework! Yes, thank you we have moved but we didn't sell the other house, just renting it out so it takes care of itself.

Hi Jane, no, I was on the spring baby before that and the april baby before that.
Although, admittedly, we were just being lazy about contaception then rather than making an effort.

I was on those too! I was hoping for a March baby as it would be before I was 40. Or before I bankrupt myself buying clearblue digital opks tests!

Thats very impressive trying with a 10 month old. I wanted to avoid a double buggy. At the rate I'm going I won't even need to buy a buggy board!

I know loads of others have been trying for loads longer though and I continue to be impressed by their sanity as I fear mine is on a bit of knife edge.

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Most gps will do tests after 6 months after you are 35. I wasn't quite 6 months but I stretched the truth a bit. My GP was so lovely about it I was dreading it as I thought she would say I was too old/too fat/had a child already. I feel a bit more realxed about it knowing I'm having tests.

She aslso said to get DH to lay off the beer (hes having tests too) and to have sex throughout cycle not just the fertile times. So am going for the every other day thing this month. But a bit tired just thinking of that.

Hello all

Glad your feeling better today stacey
Milomum i hope you feel better soon, i recently miscarried and agree that the whole world seems to be pregnant next door has just had a baby,lasy at house behind us is pregnant and also the house opposite from us is pregnant.

CD14 for me today, feel emotional and it doesn't help when somebody has a go at the way your parked in front of the whole street because i had to park part on the pavement (i know i really shouldn't) but i was near a bend in the road and traffic is hectic there and was only going to be there 5mins while i picked up the mindees from school and besides there was plenty of room for a pushchair to get past oops i'm ranting, sorry

Anyway I'm having dull period like pains, lower back ache, yesterday i was really tired and i feel slightly sick probably ovulation? i suppose my body is still recovering from the mc i had at the beginning of sept.

i hope everyones ok