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Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 10)

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youremindmeofthebaubles · 01/01/2011 18:50

Had a miscarriage and ready to try again? This is the place for you, support in the form of virtual wine, chocolate and a great big shoulder to cry on (tears not essential). The new year beckons us, lots of BFP's for everyone

UCL= Usual cycle Length
CD= cycle day

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PinkRabbitFood · 13/01/2011 06:50

mummya that sounds like all round fab news!! Could he tell you which side you'll ov from? Don't know but I think TCOYF says lots of people have cervical cysts and think she had info but sorry can't really remember. Really hope HSG results just as good xx

DachshundsWantPuppies · 13/01/2011 07:34

mummy I had a naboth cyst when I had a hysteroscopy a couple of years ago. They were so unconcerned they didn't even tell me about it. I only know it was there because I got the notes from it for my fertility doc. So I wouldn't worry.

IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy · 13/01/2011 07:38

bee yay! for a good scan andwell done for fighting your way through all that bureaucracy and rude pharmacists to get what you need, you shouldn't have to but at least you've got it sorted now. Big (((hugs))) after a stressful day x

mummya fantastic news on the scan Grin fx for good hsg results now. That's step one taken anyway! I haven't heard of the cyst but I'm sure they would have said if it was a problem x

choccy well done on the 1.1kg! I've got my weigh in at slimming world tonight after the first week on the diet, but don't feel like I've lost any weight at all! Confused

Fx for everyone due to host af today, that she doesn't turn up - let us know!

GetDownYouWillFall · 13/01/2011 08:41

Just a quick wave for wombat - did you temp this morning? My symptoms still haven't returned, but the good news is my temps were up again today, so am clinging on to that fact!

Hope you are ok

Wombat33 · 13/01/2011 08:51

getdown that's good news! I did temp this morning too (sorry nix Blush) and mine went up too, but I was wakeful and tossing and turning a bit for an hour before my alarm so I don't know how reliable it was. Fingers crossed though!

OrangeGloss · 13/01/2011 09:12

I've realised my last post didn't happen and now I have loads to catch up on so I'm starting again!

Mamap how did the dentist go? I hope you get your offer accepted today, that'll be a nice start to the year and a good distraction
Whoop for Cep, let the SWI commence! Top points for location too! Ladybee what an awful day, but seems like good news and you're being looked after. Pink I hope you had a good night? You're right, I need to stop thinking the worst, and listen to your MIL. How insensitive of your colleague, I have one that rings me at work whilst holding her newborn and asking me how I'm doing after mc - after me asking her not to as it upsets me! :( Velvet I have my fx it was implantation Choccy well done on weight loss, that's a really good start

Thanks Mummya, Cep, Ladybee and everyone else who replied about the scan. I think I'll wait for my NHS one on 23rd. I want reassurance with a private but don't think I'll get it as still so early. I hope I'll be in the position to have one in a few weeks

I'm trying to take a day at a time, and just be thankful that whilst I have this wait, I'm lucky to be pg - and still pg so far. Oh, and DH commented unprompted last night that my boobs had grown Grin

BackOnceAgain · 13/01/2011 09:33

Morning all Smile

Ladybee Well done, that sounded like a mammoth and relentless ordeal y'day.

Mummya Yay, fx for you this month then Smile

Nicks I love the phrase 'diffed-peeps' Grin

YRMOTB MamaP let me know how it goes, fx for us all.

Choccy well done for 1.1kg loss. I think I have put on around half a stone over xmas Blush but finding the motivation to lose it in crappy cold January is commendable. (And that goes to anyone else on a diet)

To Everyone discussing private scans, I will DEFINITELY be having one next time, even if it is for bad news. I am convinced that if I'd have been scanned privately last time at 12 weeks they would've picked something up so at least I would have been able to get my head round it and not spend the next month thinking I had a healthy pregnancy, Sad

Gotta go as have a date in a soft-play centre with ds-wish me luck Wink

youremindmeofthebabe · 13/01/2011 09:59

Is laziness a symptomGrin I am feeling very lazy re replying and name heckling everyone, so many apologies, please don't be offended and I'll post a proper message not off the phone tomorrow.

orange that was good of him to noticeGrin I have no experience of private scans so am sure that the nhs one will be fine.

I was wrong, ff says due tomorrow. Let me know how you all go on. velvet that's a Good long lp you've got going on there Envy all I can feel is achy abs from pilots and a Dicky tummy, so am not that hopeful. Relatively happy though, god knows why. Feel a bit like I'm coming down with a cold, which I really don't want, urgh.

Waves to all. Promise I will be back with mammoth postage tomorrow. I need a keyboard!

youremindmeofthebabe · 13/01/2011 10:01

Name heckling?? That would be name checking. And I forgot to say ladybee glad you got sorted, but angry on your behalf at delays and v insensitive pharmacists.

youremindmeofthebabe · 13/01/2011 10:03

And pilots would be pilates.

Wombat33 · 13/01/2011 10:44

Can't remeber where I've got to on the news - LadyBee well done on your epic day -glad you got the meds sorted!

Mamap I think i must have missed you saying you've put an offer in on somewhere!!! Where is it? Is it fab??

YRMOTB dicky tummy is def a symptom...

Orange well done DH for noticing and gald you are trying to stay positive! Only 10 days until your scan so not long noow!

Morning Izzy how are you doing this morning? Your posts recently seem very cheery.

Dachs hope work is less stressful today and those follies are growing nicely ready for tomorrow.

Mummya that all sounds very positive! No idea on the cyst I'm afraid but if the docs say not to be concerned that sounds good to me! Good luck today.

Choccy whoop for laid back-ness!! Happy SWIing too!!

Pink can I get a little bit excited about your vein?? Please?!?!

Velvet well done on getting through the exam!

Mamapower · 13/01/2011 11:09

me me me alert!!

Having pre-dd meltdown!!
yesterday one of my friends had her baby, another went into labour this morning and another 2 are due next week and when I just saw my lovely lovely beautician who knows the story she asked me if there was 'any news' and it was all I could do to hold it together!!
The stupid cow selling the restaurant has told the agent in respect of our offer 'I don't know' WTF???? Yes or No!
I waited in the dentist for an hour and a half last night to get my crown fixed and have woken up this morning with massive tooth ached in another place and to cap it all...
yes, yes, I am a stupid cow and i did poas this morning and as I bloody well already knew it was going to be I got a negative!!
rant over and sorry! Is 2011 going to be any better than 2010 I ask myself!!

Wombat33 · 13/01/2011 11:15

Oh Mamap big (((((Hugs)))). A pre-dd meltdown is no bad thing - better than bottling it all up. I'm sorry the test was negative. Maybe still too early..?? 2011 WIL be better than 2010, it's just taking a little while for the good stuff to get started xxx

owlbooty · 13/01/2011 11:27

Bloody hell, Bee what a day - hope you're feeling alright now it's over & done with; onwards & upwards, eh? You were absolutely right what you said a few pages back about little goals. It's the only way to stay sane, I think. Today I have my booking in appt, which was my next goal so I am feeling fairly upbeat today for a change!

MamaP YES, 2011 is absolutely going to be better than 2010 but possibly needs a month or so to warm up first? Massive GRRR at the daft cow and the toothache and the impending DD - far too much shite for one day. Wombat is right though - definitely better to vent than to bottle. x

YRMOTB I've booked some pilots classes Wink , excellent stuff.

velvet am definitely hoping that was implantation :)

Pink sounds promising, fingers crossed :)

Emoo · 13/01/2011 11:35

Morning all!

I am feeling very pleased with myself today, as I seem to be gearing up for ovulation with a lovely steady looking chart and a DH who is on-side, for the time being at least... with 2 shags in the window of opportunity so far, and hopefully another tonight? (Yes Nix, I know FF would still class it as a "poor effort", but it worked for you!) I'm hoping I ovulate soon though or I'm not sure we'll be able to keep going...! Cep and MummyA - he is still claiming that he doesn't want any more children, but says is going along with things because it will make me happy - don't know if this bodes well for the future, but am much happier now than when he wasn't co-operating at all. Cep - hope you are enjoying your SWI! Agree with others, GP is wrong, my LP has always been 12ish whenever I've charted. The principle is correct though - there's a lot more variability in 1st "half" of cycle compared to second.

Izzy - hope it goes well at the weigh-in... at some point I may join you with trying to lose a bit, but I'm not quite ready yet .

MummyA - glad the HSG timing worked out, and hope it gives you some encouraging news. I too have had Nabothian cysts commented on (during a smear) - as far as I was told, it's like a blocked pore, and you get a build-up of CM as a cyst instead. Completely harmless.

Loola - lovely looking temp jump, I agree. It can be so frustrating waiting for ov, can't it? Glad that particular bit of the wait is over for you now.

Orange - I know it must be very stressful and frustrating waiting for a scan, but I think I agree with you that it's better to have a significant gap between scans so you have a good idea about growth, rather than paying for one that may be too soon to reassure you anyway. And three cheers for your DH BiscuitBiscuit comment!

Dachs - your boss sounds like a monster. I hope you get something sorted in the end. It's a really interesting observation that follies don't grow while you're stressed at work, but do when you're relaxed at home. Maybe that's the mechanism for the stress-delyaing-ovulation thing that some of us are prone to?

Ladybee - sympathetic AAAARRRGHHHHH for your crap day yesterday, but glad you got what you needed in the end. I hope you had a good book with you.

Getdown and Wombat - well done on the temp rises.. I have to say, I don't know how much difference the moving about really makes. I used to take mine lying completely still, first thing on waking. Now I merrily get up, go to the loo, take the temp in the bathroom so the beeping doesn't wake DH, and it still seems to tell me what I need to know.

YRMOTB - Grin at name heckling.. seems kind of appropriate! Any exciting news for us yet?

BOA - good luck in the soft-play place, hope you took earplugs with you!

Pink - I too am unfortunately in possession of a pair of boobs with a blue motorway network on them, and they have been that way for at least the last 7 years! Doesn't help that my skin is so pale I'm nearly translucent... Boobs and bloating? Fingers crossed for you!

Choccy - super duper well done on the weight loss, and glad you're feeling laid back.. are you going to post your chart so we can 2ww obsess together? (not that I'm quite in the 2ww yet, but I can live in hope...)

Velvet - I hope your exam only seemed awful because you are setting yourself too high standards, and fingers crossed you pass with flying colours!

MamaP - ((((hugs)))) and an ice-cube to suck to stop you melting down completely. It's so difficult being surrounded by new babies and pregnant people, even if you like them and wish them well. You sound like you're having a tough time, probably not helped by the uncertainty about the restaurant as well. Hope AF is staying away and that it's just a wee bit too early to test.

Waves to tigger, A&R (are you there yet?) Owl, wiggle, HK and everyone else I've undoubtedly overlooked!

hadrian · 13/01/2011 12:16

Hello all, have had a hectic couple of days at work and have now missed two days and six pages of chat so have no idea what is going on. Sounds like all the BFP-ers are just about hanging on in there but it must be so stressful. What a horrid day ladybee. I was just at the hospital having my final MC follow-up scan. They were 45 minutes late for my appointment and I spent the whole time looking at a poster telling me how bad and wasteful of NHR resources it is to miss appointments Angry

Anyway the good news is that I'm all clear, everything looks healthy and I'm back in the game! And my mild imaginary post-MC symptoms have disappeared. Bring on the months of mentalling...

Sorry not to do a proper catch-up, I don't have emoo's amazing skills! And probably should go and do some work x

tunnocksteacake · 13/01/2011 13:12

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MummyAbroad · 13/01/2011 14:24

teacake you will be well missed! Remember we are always here for you if you want to come back and update us on how you are getting on. Your post is lovely and heartfelt. Bought tears to my eyes reading it. I hope you are able to de-stress enough to get another lovely First-month-trying easy peasy BFP!! xxxxxxxxx

getawiggleon · 13/01/2011 14:33

Tunnocks What a beautiful, eloquent post I've been feeling a lot like that recently too (and may have to copy and paste all of it if af turns up in a few days, you've inspired me!)

Like you, I conceived quickly the first two times without even having a clue how long my cycle was/ what the heck ewcm was. Now I analyse my waking temperature every day and take every slight twinge down below to be either a positive thing or a negative thing, depending on which part of the cycle. That then influences my mood for the rest of the day. I haven't joined a gym as I thought I would and haven't looked into going back to work as I should because all along I've thought that I would be pg again by now. It's only now, almost 6 months down the line, that I'm realising I can't put my life on hold like this waiting for that elusive bfp. Good on you for realising that what you have been doing isn't working for you and that you need to try something new. I really hope that the break works for you and brings you what you need/ want. Good luck, I wish you all the best and you know where to find us if you decide to come back and say hello - floating around mn (grads thread) rather than just on this thread, hopefully! xxx

MummyAbroad · 13/01/2011 14:42

emoo your catch up skills put us all to shame Blush

Glad your DH is playing ball. Mine is back on side now, and even pretending to be all interested in my charts and everything (guilt no doubt!) just hope it lasts! Hopefully your DH will get more enthusiastic as time goes on, if all our comments are anything to go by it seems quite common for the men to go through a "cold" stage and then come out the other side.

Thanks to everyone for your lovely comments and reassurance about the cyst.
Right I am off for my H.S.G now .

Wombat33 · 13/01/2011 14:56

Good luck Mummya

And I'm another one getting teary at your post Tunnocks - hope it works and you fiind your equilibrium xxx

Mamapower · 13/01/2011 14:59

Teacake wow, that was such a lovely message and whilst I am sorry you're leaving us I know you are really happy with your decision and wish you all good luck, feel free to drop in some time in the future and let us know if and when you get diffed.

Thank you wombat Owl and Emoo for picking me up today, I really needed the kind words and support and dh has been wonderful too!

Also, after I had melt down I called the agent and told them if I didn't have an answer by close of play I was withdrawing my offer... he called back in half an hour... WE GOT IT Grin Grin Grin We aren't celebrating until the ink is try on the contract but this is the next best thing to a BFP so has lifted my spirits no end! Dh grabbed me and screammed 'finally, a baby will come next, I just know it' I almost burst into tears again!

Will do a proper catch up tonight Smile

getawiggleon · 13/01/2011 15:02

Well ladies, I seem to be having a really shitty very wobbly week. Had brown blood again last night (very dark) but then nothing again today. It's driving me crazy. Dare I get my hopes up and think that it may have been ib or is af just taunting me and arriving in dribs and drabs this month? Sad Confused

Mama I've also got the dreaded dd hanging over my head. It sucks doesn't it ((hugs)) It doesn't help that 2 of my antenatal class friends have just dropped over the weekend and a third is due any day now. I have also found out that another is pg. That just leaves me then...

Next month our dcs will be 2 and they're organising a get together to celebrate - same as last year (it's in a local, child-friendly pub so in fairness it's more for the adults than the little ones) but I just feel like I can't/ don't want to go. I saw the girl who is organising it this morning and was very vague about whether or not we could make it (she looked surprised as she said it was my dh that suggested the idea to her dh at a dad's club they go to!) I then got home to an email she'd subsequently sent (bearing in mind I am now officially the only one in the group that isn't pg or doesn't have a newborn) that read:

Those that can attend party:

So and so (plus three) she has twins, fair dos
So and so (plus three) she was the first to have another
So and so (plus three - Congratulations!!) she's just given birth
So and so (plus two) you forgot the bump
Maybe Wiggles, MrWiggles, and LittleWiggles

There is also another girl who will have just given birth then but has moved out of the area so the talk is inevitably going to be about babies/ newborns rather than our 2yo dc and I would just rather not go and have to put a brave face on two weeks before my dd as nobody will even register that that is why I'm smiling but inside I feel so empty and want to cry. If it was a 'party' party for the little ones then I would go for the sake of dd but it's not really, it's pizza and wine in a pub for us. The girl who sent the email is absolutely lovely and she would be mortified if she knew I was feeling like this. Part of me just thinks I should be honest and just tell her how I'm feeling. Oh, I don't know?..

Sorry for the selfish post. I just needed to offload somewhere and I'm not sure dh will really understand.

cep · 13/01/2011 15:03

hello all,

Apologies i certainly haven't got emoo's skills there.

lady sorry your time at the hosp was a nightmare but happy for your result.

mummya glad your results yesterday were good, and good luck for today.

mamap sorry you're having a tough time.

glad everyone seems ok.

Wombat33 · 13/01/2011 15:04

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That's fantastic news!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So where is it?? Tell us all about it!! (Unless my punishment for missing it the first time is to scroll back through hundreds of pages of chatter to find it!! Grin)