Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 10)

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Had a miscarriage and ready to try again? This is the place for you, support in the form of virtual wine, chocolate and a great big shoulder to cry on (tears not essential). The new year beckons us, lots of BFP's for everyone

UCL= Usual cycle Length
CD= cycle day

orange thanks for the luck! when do you get the exam results?

re: scan - I wish I had some useful advice for you - I know I'd be feeling the as you. If it were me I think the stress of just sitting there waiting would be worse than paying for a scan, even if I didn't see much - you're not losing anything by having a sneaky peek. It might put your mind at rest. But if you don't see much, which you probably wouldn't at this stage anyway, would that stress you even more? In which case, I'd say wait for the NHS one.

In my experience of scans, if you have a private scan they spend more time looking at it and seem to take more interest in their patient than the NHS, where I've always felt like more of a chore than a patient, but I'm not sure how indicative that is in general because I've had some v bad experiences with the NHS so my view is probably more than a little skewed!

Hope things work out for you whatever you decide. :)

Thanks Wiggle these positive stories are really helping get me through the day!

Ooh yes, more positivity. Who's turn is it to get updiffed next?! I'm looking forward to more BFPs for you lovely ladies (so you can show me how to do it and not go mental

Dachs that's the perfect solution to the holiday issue ] [

orange I agree with Izzy that the NHS is better if you have something complicated/dangerous, they can whizz you off to the right department, get you on the right machine etc. BUT for a simple early pregnancy scan where the main goal is reassurance I would say private is better. As Dach said, you get treated differently. You are more of a client than a patient. 8-9 weeks would be better than 7 though, as at 7 it could still be too early to see a heartbeat. Dont forget to ask how fast the heart is beating if you do get to hear it. Best of luck xxx

Thanks Dachs it's something to think about. Maybe if I wanted a second opinion I could book myself in after. My results are out 15th Feb which is my birthday :(

I do hope you can't go on hols, for the right reason :)

dachs your boss is unrealistic, total control freak and a complete and utter arse! Go off sick... You'll be stressed for sure, book the hol, go to gp day or so before turn on taps and say you can't cope and hey presto one sick note will be yours! I wouldn't normally advocate this sly behaviour but u must look after number 1 sometimes! Also, because you'll be signed off with stress, if she found out you'd gone on hol u can say u needed it to unwind!!

Sat in dentists as temporary crown flew out in middle of a board meet! Happy days!

Just popping in, sorry not to name check you all, but just wanted to offer some solidarity to wombat as I am in the same boat - newly pregnant after MC, and terrified by my lack of symptoms today (have been feeling quite sicky up until now).

Wretched MC, making this preg so much more anxiety-filled than when I was pregnant with DD! (don't think I'd even tested yet by now first time round!)

Hugs Getdown. I'm hoping both our symptoms will return with a vengeance tomorrow (plus the belching, bloating, puking and other lovely things that have been wished on me tooday!!)

Orange Beard Mill was absolutely lovely - the doctor is incredibly nice and sensible and her equipment is top notch - I even got to see the bean in 3D and got lots of piccies. Highly recommended :) BUT - if you can hang on until 8 weeks or so you might get a better idea of what is going on. You could always ring and ask if you can have a quick chat with her to work out best time to visit. I hung on until 9 and a half weeks.

thanks wombat me too. I keep worrying when I go to the loo, that I am going to wipe and find red

Trying to think positive though. Apparently chances of MC after implantation is only 10%.

Hope your symptoms come back soon too. Are yuo feeling anything today? Did you have symptoms before today?

10%? That sounds good. I just hope it implanted properly! I was going to the loo lots and my boobs became a little bit sore and possibly a bit bigger, but seem to have deflated again over the last couple of days. I also had uncomfy [implantation?] pains for a few days over AF due date and a very little bit of nausea about a week ago. but nothing now. My temps have also dropped steadily 5 days in a row (from 37+ to 36.74, which is still above the coverline but looks quite a dramatic sustained drop on my chart!). FX it's just still too early!

Oh and I had some brown CM two days ago but nothing since.

Oh I know what you mean! My temps had gone up to 36.95 but were down to 36.67 today I really hope it's going to be ok.

Getdown I'm sending you very positive, sticky vibes!

thanks wombat you too! Do you think you are going to carrying on with the temp taking? Don't know whether to or not as it's stressing me out!!

Not sure, I thought about not doing it this morning but then did anyway. That said, I'm getting so little sleep with worrying that I'm not sure they are valid readings anyway. I keep thinging I might be better without the themometer, the pee sticks and possibly MN, but on the other hand they are also the props keeping me sane! In the same way, I keeping wondering about going private to get blood tests and find out if everything is going as it should so far, but then wonder whether if it's not, I'd rather not know. would allow me to start putting things in order to get tests/investigations done though... I have generally concluded that I'm a bit of a hopeless individual when it comes to this I think the people who know me in RL would be astonished as I'm normally relatively sane together.

Thanks Owl I'm worried I'll have my scan on 22rd and they'll tell me it's over because they missed something I could always wait and keep it as an option for 2nd opinion if I'm worried

Wombat and Getdown I don't know much about temps, would it be worth having a break from it? Sorry, just a suggestion x

Well TTC does have the tendency to drive even perfectly balanced, sensible normal people into obsessed crazed lunatics (or is that just me) so you have my sympathies. It's very stressful.

How many MCs have you had? (if you don't mind me asking) I think after 3 you can get investigations on the NHS can't you?

Orange stopping is probably the sensible thing to do! Re scans - only you can know whether you can hold out for 22nd. If all is going well by then then you should be far enough along for the NHS and the private sonographers to see that clearly. and as you say, if there's any doubt, you can get the private one done as back-up (even book it now if you think there's going to be a waiting list and the cancellation policy allows you to cancel and avoid getting charged?). If you feel you can't hold out that long then maybe it's woorthwhiole for your nerves to have the private one a little sooner.

Getdown 'only' one MC. But I'm the one with the 50/50 chance of genetic abnormalities in any pg that sticks, so I think that's making me even more antsy. The rather blunt geneticists kindly told me they have no idea 'what else might be wrong with me' so of course in my mind I've translated that into 'maybe I'm incapable of carry a pg to term' Honestly, writing it all down I sound like a complete lunatiic even to myself!!

Right, I'm sorry for hogging the thread today ladies but you have all made me feel heaps better than I did earlier

Sorry to hear about the chance of genetic abnormalities wombat but remember 50-50 means you've just as much chance of things being ok as not. So try and think about the "glass half full" side of things IYSWIM.

You don't sound like a lunatic by the way

at the cow pat.. chicken shit smells worse!

Wombo a lady on another fred has just been to epu with no symptoms, time booked off work as she was convinced she had MC and is expecting identical twins....so you never know.....!

MummyA yay for list magic, glad there is a silver lining and all And yes you are right I am a cheapo tester, prefer them to be honest, but I was just...so..tempted...but...I..put..CB...back..on..the..shelf

YRMOTB Ahh, a sign! I have bad guts too but seriously the boob thing is a pmt sign for me, 10 months out of 12 I get it. When are you poas? No testing for me til Sat or I'll be waiting for the foul stench and slimy scales of the aquatic one. It is simply not worth it for me until then.

DAchs what a foul boss

Wombat gah, 'they' don't know everything, but I feel your worry nonetheless

Merry evening all

wow nix that really is a positive story!