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Feck off with your babydust - The hut of gl/doom, home of inadequate reproduction

839 replies

wewishyouamerrylissiemas · 22/12/2010 14:05

ok, so the hut disappeared so I decided to open a new one. tis a 20's style gin joint!

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boobellina · 21/02/2011 09:43

Well I took the advice to relax with following Zita's rules and now I'm blaming you guys if my jeans don't meet over my middle.

After 3 months of angelic behaviour in one weekend I managed vast quantities of diary milk, an Indian take away, a steak sandwich and chips, a full roast beef dinner with 4 yorkshire puds, several coffees, and enough red wine and crabbies ginger beer to average out at over my weekly allowance for the last 12 weeks and I didn't take my vitamins once - feel slightly sick, very bloated and happier than I have in donkeys.

Back on the wagon this morning though and a visit to the clinic tomorrow to see if we can have one last go at IUI before we need to decide what, if anything, to do next. Am scared.

Pooch28 · 21/02/2011 12:15

boob sounds like a fantastic weekend -well done. Have been trying to eat superfoods, cut down on alcohol, caffeine, exercise etc etc. only for my DH to start smoking again after a near death experience last week! Great.

hairylights · 21/02/2011 15:33

Bravo Boob sounds like a flipping great weekend :) I have been on a binge since the first MC and am really quite fat.

I quit smoking in July and I really, really, really want to smoke at the moment but know it will just muck things up more.

Best of luck with the clinic tomorrow.

angster · 21/02/2011 16:49

Hey, can I join you ladies- I do dabble in other MN areas. In need of a big glass of vodka but of course I won't because I wouldn't want to jeopardise the non existent bean.

Ttc #1 since April last year. Pregnant by June, m/c'd at 7 weeks in July and nothing since then. I have gone nuts in that time...quite literally. In the midst of madness, I started compiling a list of celebrities who announced their pregnancies just this year. Wanted to stick a pin in Victoria Beckham's picture - the woman doesn't look like she eats, how can she get pregnant!! (sorry...)

Anyway, one of my closest friends told me she was pregnant at the weekend, 2nd month of trying. Amazingly I didn't cry. I have been saying to myself over and over again that I'm truly happy for her in order to block out jealousy, worry about my fertility and god forbit nasty thoughts towards her. As long as she doesn't get smug, I will deal with it.

I've got my 4th acupuncture session tomorrow, in the hope that it can sort out my cycle and strengthen and lengthen it. Amazingly, I'm in a much better frame of mind than I was...

Sorry for the rant and sorrry for everyone else being here!!!

hairylights · 21/02/2011 16:55

Hi angster and welcome. I have found acupuncture great not only in terms of my reproductive system but in terms of feeling good too.

NinjaChipmunk · 21/02/2011 17:09

Hello! Boob your weekend sounds good. I think kicking back once in a while is good, otherwise all the stressy good things we do become to stressy and counter-productive.

'Hi angster and sorry to see you here iykwim?

Hi Hairy how are you doing?

Acupuncture sounds interesting. I've never done it but if things don't start looking up soon I may have to investigate further. How does it actually help?

Anyway, just checking in as I'm about to finish work for the day, will try to check back in tonight.

angster · 21/02/2011 17:58

HI Ninja, this was my last stop shop before going to see my gp. I had read a huge amount of positive results on MN before going. I am going because my luteal phase is only 10-11 days and my cycle is different to what it use to be before m/c. Acupuncture is suppose to help the function of the ovaries and produce better quality eggs as well.
I do feel much better about things since going. But my acupuncturist puts that down to the actual time they spend with you discussing you and your issues. I can't imagine a doctor going in to depth like he did with me. Also, he is so positive which helps tremendously. He talks about 'when' i get pregnant again etc etc and he doesn't think it will be more than 6months. I guess that all helps the frame of mind. I am being cautious of course with being overly optimistic. I hope to see a 12 day luteal phase in 2-3 cycles....

When do you get results for all your bloods??

MrsHende · 21/02/2011 18:15

Hello to all the new Hut residents and old.

I have been trying to stay away in order to stop the obsessing this month (as if...!).

A few pages back you all gave me lovely sympathy and advice about my poor DH's performance anxiety on the vital days. We went shopping for some uncomfy, expensive, sexy undies and they helped a lot.

So, after 11 cycles, blood tests, gp appointments, and a letter from the assisted conception clinic, we got our BFP on Saturday Grin.

We're both delighted and terrified and keeping everything crossed that nothing goes wrong.

Thank you all for the advice, sympathy and company. I wish all of you all the luck in the world - mixed with copious amount of gin cocktails!

Bexamundo · 21/02/2011 18:36

Congratulatons mrsh that's fab news!
Boob I think kicking back every once in a while is the only way to truly be good the rest of the time.
I cant quite believe posh had had 4 (known) pregnanciesseeing how she has pcos and is essentially a stick.figure. I suspect they spent life of money to get their babies...
Angster I recall you asking. I'll be very interested to know how it goes (I really hope it works!).

NinjaChipmunk · 21/02/2011 19:45

Congratulations MrsH indeed! Its stories like that that keep me in a good frame of mind. What lovely news.

DP had acupuncture when he hurt his back and he said it helped then, its certainly something I'll consider if I don't get pg soon. I'm guessing its worth looking up an acupuncturist who specialises in fertility?

angster · 22/02/2011 10:05

Congratulations MrsH - woo hoo, fab news. Ninja - someone who specialises in fertility is best, I think Bexamundo told me that a few wks ago. I am trying to pretend that i am just there to get a better luteal phase so not to expect too much.

bossyboop · 22/02/2011 11:07

congratulations mrshende!

Angster it sounds brilliant to be able to talk to someone that understands and is interested. Dh's eyes glaze over when I talk about this stuff, and if I text him with cm updates I have to write everything out properly as he has no idea what af or cm is! Though in fairness I dont expect him to have the same level of interest in this stuff as I do, think its all a bit over his head!

Changing2011 · 22/02/2011 12:56

Bossy - are you on the 2WW? I am waiting until 2nd March so on the countdown....

bossyboop · 22/02/2011 14:47

yes 3rd march according to my chart so it must be right!

ellangirl · 22/02/2011 15:08

Af due 4th March, can I join in too bossy and changing. Feeling positive at the moment, gotta be I suppose!

hairylights · 22/02/2011 15:41

God I feel wretched today. Got some upsetting news about my ex (who has got a lot of problems) and it seems to have tipped my mental balance over the edge.

bossyboop · 22/02/2011 17:49

oh dear hairy, hope you are ok.

ellengirl changing im counting down till I can say its the 1WW its come round quick though think thats because according to the sacred chart it looks like another 25 day cycle. On the one hand the disappointment comes quicker but on the other hand it gets the cycle over with to start over again. I was feeling positive as well and overly excited putting my chart together on fertility friends. I think its because its nice to see what ive read so much about in action, it all suddenly makes more sense. I was initially referred to a gyn to investigate bleeding between periods and pains. I think if I had been charting then I would probably have seen that they occured around ovulation. Had myself worried about having allsorts wrong with me and not conceiving with another symptom but now they are investigating it. But it makes a change to be enjoying each day of my cycle and what symptoms it brings as opposed to being miserable and worried everyday!

NinjaChipmunk · 22/02/2011 19:55

hairy I hope you are ok?

Am on the tail end of the 2ww, due af on friday, get my 21 day blood test results tomorrow, dp should get his sperm count results then too if he actually remembers to call them. Lets see if healthy eating and drinking more fluids makes a difference eh? I have to say I'm doubting it!

Bexamundo · 23/02/2011 06:36

Ninja thinking of you today. Let us know how you get on. I'm also on 2ww due 3rd March. Got to have last progesterone test today. Last chance saloon for a while since we won't be trying again for a couple of months. Pinning all hope on one spontaneous evening 4days before ovulation. Realistically know chances are low but need to hold on to hope for a little longer....
Boobs are getting big but that could just be pms.

Bexamundo · 23/02/2011 06:38

Ps hugs to hairy. How you feeling today??

hairylights · 23/02/2011 10:19

Thanks. How I feel is that my world is crashing down around me. (gl/doomy enough LOL?) I really do. Work is keeping me busy but the minute I start thinking about things I'm in tears, and i tend to go home and just want to curl up and sleep. :(

Hey ho. It will get better.

boobellina · 23/02/2011 10:32

Hairy hope you are feeling brighter today - wish there was something I could say to make it better.

Congratulations to MrsHende

Unfortunately, I didn't make it in to the clinic yesterday DD is poorly sick and as the Consultant is off on his jollies I can't get in to see him until 8th of March!!!

Bit gutted that I'm going to be missing a cycle but means that I do get a bit longer to do the 30 day shred so I might even be a size 12 by my next appointment. If I can keep the weekend binges at bay!

Changing2011 · 23/02/2011 10:46

Morning. I feel as though this month is not the one..... getting spotty and also irritable which points to AF...... DP touched my boobs last night and I went mental.

Just cant take the rollercoaster emotions more than anything..

NinjaChipmunk · 23/02/2011 14:39

emotional rollercoaster is exactly it changing and it gets me every time.

So, dp got his results and 'all is as it should be'. I thought he might actually get a sperm count as in a number but hey never mind. My results are not back and I've been told to call back tomorrow to see if they are in then. Great. Oh and I'm due af on friday and travelling up to see SIL and new baby on saturday, will be staying with the massivley overexcited grandparents. Mil actually said 'I don't need any more grandchildren now I've got one of each'. I think booze may be in order this weekend.

bossyboop · 23/02/2011 16:00

oh ninja, think a well deserved drink may be in order!

I think im losing the plot, convinced I feel a 'kicking' in my tummy. Had a faint bfp in oct, but it developed hours after test was done (so to be taken as neg) and when I noticed it af was already on her way and another test bfn. Then in jan I had another faint bfp also developed hours later, tested again and was bfn. They werent like evap lines, they were lighter versions of test line, could still see them when held up to light and didnt need to squint to see them they were as plain as day, in fact they were more obvious bfp's than some of the ones uploaded onto fertility friends and still had the lines weeks later when I decided there was no point keeping them and chucked them out.

Im trying to be sensible/normal/rational but its hard especially when some days I am so bloated I look 4 months pregnant, but its all soft and squidgy! The only thing rational I have to cling to is my dear chart that shows a clear pattern of ovulation and not pregnancy!

I think I just need to ditch the dodgy one step internet cheapie tests, after all the ovulation ones only gave a faint pos but it says the line has to be as dark as the test line to be pos but then after a couple of days of faint positives there was no hint of a line and my temps indicated ovulation had been and gone. Will use the few Ive got left next cycle but after that wont bother. Only tried them as they came with the BBT thermometer. I MUST NOT BUY ONE STEP CHEAPIE TESTS EVER AGAIN!

They clearly send me insane Grin