What to say to best friend whos TTC whilst im already pregnant...

[clarebear1]

This is my life long best friend, so trying to find comforting words every month is so hard, especially after i concieved after 4/5 weeks.

Anyone else been in this position and has any friendly advice that i dont feel bad saying?

Well however happy she will be for you, she will still feel shit about not being pregnant, so just go with what you think is the most supportive and non, im pregnant your not in your face type of statements.
Not that you would, but sometimes, other people, in sensitive situations take others words the wrong way.

Congratulations BTW!

Also, what advice are you speaking of?

If its to do with how to get pregnant, and i had already been trying for a while etc, then i don't know if i would find 'advice' from anyone helpful or patronising,,, especially if they got pregnant very quickly.

There are not really any 'right' words; when I was TTC and got my period I just wanted to hear "I'm really sorry, that's really shit, I'm here if you want to talk about it". And understand if she wants to turn to someone else for a listening ear - it's not rejection of you as a friend, it can just be really hard to talk to pregnant people (though not always and not for everyone). Infertility is a bit like bereavement in that everyone copes differently - so just let her know that you're there for her but also won't take offence if she doesn't want to turn to you right now.