TTC while breastfeeding - Part 2

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This is the place to come to share the frustrations of ttc while still nursing.

Many of us are sleep-deprived, some of us don't even know if we're ovulating and none of us know whether taking agnus castus is a good idea or not. We all just want to do the best by the children we already have, but would really like to be pregnant again. Quickly.

Part 1 had plenty of graduates . Here's hoping Part 2 will be equally successful and supportive!

Hey Inukshuk -very sensible to chart this way. Then you wouldn't find yourself in the frustrating position I am in!
I did a sensitive test today and still BFN so really do have to come to grips with just no ovulation this month.
Well, now I say QUICK HURRY UP AND COME AF!!!!!
I'm primed up for next month. 3rd day of
no caffeine, pre-natal vits, no feeding between 11 and 6....got to help!!

CD42 and counting....

Marthamay commiserations. I know that BFN feeling. Just to say if you haven't ov'd yet you could still at CD42 if you haven't already, just very late. So keep an eye out for ov feelings as well as AF - as we've said BF can mean cycles are very erratic!

inukshuk I'm another one who looks at 'charts like mine'

Hello everyone. Can I join? I'm on CD5 and feeling like poop.

Damn AF.

Hi Tweedledee! I know the AF feeling... How old is your little one? How long have you been trying?

AF arrived here a day early today, and actually started spotting yesterday. But calling today CD1. That makes my luteal phase 11-12 days... And my temps were fairly low in the 2WW this cycle so I wasn't optimistic about getting preg. So I've decided to drop one feed (we were at 4 feeds, and dropped the post nap feed today so now 3 feeds) to see if this does anything. She didn't even seem to notice but its the weekend so DH got her up from her nap. Hopefully in the week when its just me here she won't notice either! Plus DH is taking over bedtime! I'm still going to give her some bedtime milky but then DH will actually put her into bed (which is when she usually starts demanding more milk as a bedtime delaying tactic!). She wasn't impressed with this last night but we're going to stick at it! She's 23 months now so I don't feel too bad about it, but I didn't like hearing her cry for mummy last night we'll see if I have the motivation to stick with the new bedtime routine!

Got some good-ish news! DH has agreed (again ) to TTC #2 now rather than waiting. His only condition is that he gets time each day to meditate, and I'm fine with that as long as he doesn't pick moments when the house in in chaos.

Realised DS is BFing up to 6 times a day still (at 17.5mo) and it needs to stop! Today got away with 2 feeds. He's slept through 7-7 for over a year now so night weaning had no effect on AF coming back.

Even when I was down to 1 feed a day nothing happened, so I have a bad feeling I will be one of those that can't get pregnant while BFing. I am going to get down to 1 a day again as soon as possible and see what happens.

At moment on CD28 and absolutely no sign I've ovulated. But not surprising, it is only the 1st cycle and the feeding has been ramped up for a few weeks.

Isla, as of last night DH is taking over bedtime routine with a cup of warmed cow's milk. I will hand hold with you on that one!

Isla my DD is 7 months (yeah I know, people have critizised me).

I've had periods since 6 weeks post natal. DD started sleeping through again last week. 7am till 7pm (touch wood!) So no more night feeds.

My Clearblue Fertility Monitor broke today (I'm GUTTED. After just 6 days of using it)

*that should be 7pm till 7am. Doh!

yank my af didn't return with dd until i completely weaned and she was down to 1 feed so I think I might be in that category :( I have day weaned ds now apart from his nap time feed when we are at home.he was not happy about it though so dreading pushing the night weaning.
I did have some ewcm this month which I am taking as a good sign.

Got through the day with 3 feeds, but DS was asking a lot more than that (or rather pointing, shirt-grabbing, and yelling). We seem to be able to make it from the early morning feed around 7am up to about 4pm, and then it all falls apart.

DS refused all dinner tonight but then wanted feeding so didn't feel like I could refuse. Hopefully he won't get up tonight like the last time he refused dinner! I think his teeth are still bugging him, lots of fingers in mouth and grouchyness.

On a brighter note, there was shagging today with no mention of contraception so it seems DH is really, truly on board this time.

Hello all again

Need to apologize as I was away for couple of days, didn't have opportunity to thank you all for your welcome.

FeelLikeTweedleDee, that's really quick to get period 6 weeks post natal! I thought I was quick with 4 months. Now when I think of it, I regret that we haven't started TTC sooner, I wasted those chances given by early period. But on the other hand, I wanted to get to my goal weight before trying for another baby which is only happening now. I have couple of pounds more to lose before I reach the weight I will feel comfortable to get pregnant with. But I wouldn't mind getting pregnant even with that extra fat around my belly and hips . I don't gain much in pregnancy, it is my weight that I gained right before the pregnancy that I am trying to get rid of now..aaarghh

Dear all
I am only just getting used to the results of the hpt I took before the weekend.
A BFP!
Did the cheapie on the Friday, then a digi on Saturday.
Firstly, I think I feel a little guilty at having been successful so soon (first cycle ttc), while there are some of you who've been trying for some time.
I think my age may have something to do with this. My body knowing there isn't any time to waste if it's going to get what it wants!
I feel very confident about this bfp. Though I keep telling myself it is still so very early (only 5 weeks tomorrow). Anything could happen. And I feel less P now than before I took the test.
I don't know why I feel so positive about this. Maybe because I have a perfect ds to concentrate on...? If he can turn out so amazing, then what can possibly go wrong?

I have really enjoyed this thread, and wish you all so much hope, and luck, in your swi

awww congratulations Melody!

congratulations Melody! I am sure everything will be fine!

congrats Melody!

Melody Congratulations!!!! That's so fantastic! Don't feel guilty, just fills us with hope. Enjoy every second of your BFP - must be wonderful.

HI Tweedledee and welcome! 6 weeks post natal is really early to get AF back - my mum was the same with me and my brother. I was 5 months. Are you still BF a lot?

bubba hello again. wow, must feel great to get back to goal weight. I am still a stone heavier than pre preg but I find it hard to find the motivation to lose it when I know that I am trying to get pregnant again. the only thing that bugs me about it is that I still can't wear most of my old clothes and I feel like my in-laws are 'tsk-tsk-ing' behind my back about being a fatty! stuff them....

Yank GREAT NEWS - we knew he'd come around - what man can resist a woman begging for a shag!!!! that's really good. You must be raring to go now. Good luck with cutting down the feeds, I hope the results come quickly for you. I'm sure your DS will get the message and get over it quickly, won't be too traumatic for him.

QeenF good to hear about EWCM, any other signs of ov?

My night weaning is going ok but I caved last night and fed at 3. DS is teething and he was distraught, my back was about to crack from rocking him for 30 min and I just lost my resolve...wish I hadn't but oh well. Tonight is another hellish, sleepless night.

On a positive note, I'm finally back on CD 3!!!! Whooooopeeeeeeee....no more waiting and bloating up! Having a very, very heavy AF too.
So I will be very interested to see what happens this month. I thought about charting with temp but I don't know if I can since I never really get 3 hours of consecutive sleep. I think once again I will just go by my CM and libido. Hopefully this month TTC#3 will be my month

sadly now all signs gone :( however I am hoping it was ov.
Ds has also been feeding more again due to teeth. If is getting better at staying in his own bed and self settling

Am on CD31 now, still no sign that I've ovulated, but then again haven't been very good at temping this month (see AIBU for my thread about the fertility monitor if interested).

Last night I would have sworn AF was coming. Eating everything in sight, face breaking out, bloated beyond belief and some cramping. But seems to have settled down today, how odd.

Hi all

congrat melody - lovely to hear of a BFP!

Yank glad you can SWI now! DD has settled into the daddy putting her bed routine ok. First night not impressed, subsequent nights, not impressed but accepting. I was starting to dislike bedtime as she dragged it out so much, but now she accepts she has her milk in one go and thats it. She's been poorly the last few days and had one feed last night, but I couldn't deny her when she was coughing so much with a bad throat. martha don't despair with caving in, sometimes you have to!

QueenF EXCM definitely a good sign! good luck!

have to say I am pleased with my teach him to sleep on his own project. He went to sleep on his own tonight after his sleepy feed and didn't get out of bed once. Also he has been self settling more in the night so he is not feeding as often.
Can't believe I would have a 2.5 yr gap now when I started out it would only have been 18 months. If it gets to 3 years I may change my mind about no 4 so seriously hoping it get a bfp soon.
I had a general belly acid today with felt a bit like cramping so very confused or rather I think my body is!

ache not acid! Stupid phone

Dear all

Thanks so much for all your good wishes

I am sending you all bfp vibes - it will happen!

I mean it in the best possible way, but I hope we don't meet on this thread again!

Loads of luck everyone

Managed just 2 feeds today, had a long discussion with friends at baby group and there was loads of advice on how to give up. However, I really feel like only one person truly 'got' me as far as the fact that I don't actually want to give up now--but I need to if I want another baby.

CD 3-? thirtysomething? Can't remember anymore. My face is breaking out like crazy so I guess that's a sign something hormonal is going on!

Melody good luck!

Yank I know exactly what you mean. Its just unusual I guess to feed past 12 months ... like me, I will give up BF if I have to to conceive, but I don't want to have to. Its tough to have these competing feelings!

QueenF sounds like its going well with DS self settling and going off on his own... I really hope you get a BFP soon too

CD 7 for me. Looking forward to the next couple of weeks. That being said, DH brought up the issue last night and he thinks that if it doesn't happen this month then we should hold off for a few months so that me giving birth doesn't coincide with his contract finishing! Unfortunately he has a point...
Oh well. We will really go for it this month and then if it doesn't happen perhaps I'll just concentrate on getting back into shape, getting healthy and getting DS into a good sleep routine etc. Plenty to focus on.
I do want it so badly though....

yank I know exactly what you mean about not wanting to give up. It's amazing how little support there is for you once you've gone beyond the six month mark, let alone the 12 month mark (that's coming up for me). It seems everyone I know, health visitor included, is dead keen for me to stop bf. WHY????? I thought it was a wonderful thing. Also, it only starts to become really special AFTER 6 months, when you have sorted all the niggles out and your relationship with your baby is deepening. sorry for the rant.

DS has now been a good few nights without feeding and down to about 3 feeds in the day. For me that is perfect and I'd like it to continue just like this if possible. I don't care what HV says, I'm sure my DS is still benefiting.