TTC after a miscarriage - Ready to try again, we can do it this time!!!

[Diddle]

Well I think after all our chatting its about time we had a new thread, as the previous one was very lucky for us, lets hope this one remains just as lucky.

Remember ladies - Our time will come, but our bodies have to be ready, and we are all here to support each other.

For those new people please feel free to check out our Stats thread, to see some info about us and leave you details if you want to.

GOOD LUCK!!!!

What does SAHM mean?

oh I get it.

Stay
At
Home
Mum

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See you tomorrow girls.

Have a nice evening!

See ya mums! byee

so quiet on here again

Hi anyone who is maybe still around, I just tried to do a catch up and correct me if i am wrong,but it looks like testing is like this.....diddle and slinkstah testing tomorrow and saturday? Hellkat, Humphreyscorner and me testing on 17th? Are we still waiting for the bfp before starting new thread?

For the record I totally don't feel pg and have bought an early pg test to do on mon but after all the press etc don't see alot of point. I also have only had one af since mc and only 3 af since dd born so have no real idea of cycle and probably totally missed the boat. I need to get dh into check and get going again properly next month....tee hee

feel a bit wrecked today as dd being a total nightmare and started hitting me in the face when she doesn't get own way!! i hope it is her age and all the little angels, supernanny etc etc tricks work or i may have to settle for one baby as it all seems too much.

sorry what a moaner,helps though even if no-one listening.....sorry if i sound less warm than most others, it is hard to get emotion across I find and everyone else sounds really nice and i wish my messages sounded more like i mean them.....another moan i know,please ignore and i look forward to reading all your chat soon...sleep tight

Took DD to the Drs and waited 50 mins to be seen. She has got a virus that will go away on it's own along with copious amounts of Calpol!

babybloos-good luck with your testing and remember, say whatever you want to say and we will all listen. Good night hun ((xx))

Good night all and sweet dreams. Don't forget to keep sending those men in
xxx

Hi everyone.x
Just wanted to say hello to you all,have been reading your messages over the last couple of days.x
Not really up to writng lots,but wanted to let you know i'm doing ok,and am thinking about you all lots,especially c.p,and my dear maddyd...what can i say to you hunny!?i'm so sorry,look after yourself ok?.x.x.xThere has been so much pain and sadness this year,i can't wait for it to be over,and to start a fresh in the new year.x

Shelly here,have changed chat name to the above(or w.b),want to start a fresh.x

welcome back wannabump, glad you're doing ok, was jut thinking about you yesterday, its good to hear from you. take care xxx

babybloos - yeh me and lottie are testing saturday, slink is testing tomorrow. gonna wait a few more days before i do a new thread, would like to hopefully get a bfp on sat and start a fresh new thread after that

Morning all.
Great to see you WB!!! Love the name.
Not sure if I'll bother testing tbh. I'm leaving it to see whether or not I come on. I'm due next Friday and have my smear Thursday so if I am going to come on, should be bang on time (always do after those), if I'm late then I'll test a few days later.

Morning all. Hope everyone is good.

Morning WB. Glad to hear from you.

I'm not feeling too good today. Getting really peed off with my DP at the moment. He's told me now that he wants me to keep going with my pill so that we can have a holiday in the summer. I'm really depressed and upset. Esp seeing as I was so happy about being able to get started. I spose its my own fault for asking him what he wanted to do. I should have just gone on what he first said and waited. If he had that big a problem I'm sure he would have said on his own terms, he found a way out and took it. I know I'm not making much sense but I really dont know what to say or do. I'm really sorry, just had to tell someone.

Morning mums.
At the end of the day, it's your body. If you want a baby, you have one. I can sort of see his point about a holiday though. once the little rugrats come along, bang goes romantic hols lol.

I know we wont get romantic hols with beans but we can have them while I'm pg. My parents have said they'd look after while we go on hol (even if its just for a wk) We can afford to go on hols now. But thats not even good enough for him because its all closed (end of season) ARGH!! I feel like just hitting him a few times to see if there is any sense in there. He was even talking last night of putting it off for another year!! he knows how much this means to me I've waited with him for a year since the mc when I really really wanted another baby and now he's asking me to wait longer again. I just dont know. Hes giving me so many mixed signals and when I try and talk to him about it he just makes jokes and doesnt take it seriously. I feel like just walking away from it all and surely thats not good.

Morning all!

Just a quickie again coz I'm in the middle of the "getting the kids ready for school" routine!

Babybloos - hun, don't worry about how it all comes across. I bet we all read everything in a different tone anyway. For the record, I think you sound very nice! And don't talk to me about Superanny! Think she should be strung up!!! By her toenails!! XXX

HC - Glad you got some joy from the Doctor. I really hope DD starts to feel better soon XXX

Wannababy - love the name! I think your right about a new year. I'm hoping 2006 will be my year too and DH will see my side of our argument! I really hope you get the babby that you really deserve XXX

MORNIG everyone else!! Hope you are all fine and dandy today!
XXX

morning - just a quickie off to school in 2 seconds, must dash, just wanted to say hi.

will ready your posts properyl when i come back.

xxx

Right, back from school but still on the run as i'm taking DS3 to soft play this morning!

Mumswish - you must sit down and talk to your DP. I am having a similar problem with my DH. He doesn't really want anymore children but I am desperate. We have come to an arrangment that we will wait 6 months (now just under 5 and counting!) and think about it again. Perhaps you could wait for a while. You are young and you do have time on your side. And maybe this is your DPs way of saying he wants to get things out of his system before settling down to the very big responsiblity of raising children. Men are strange and never really grow up themselves so don't be too hard on him.

Your time will come to have a child. And I don't mean to sound patronising when I say you do have plenty of time, but you do. I hope things work out for you Mums, but you must talk this one out. Don't bottle up how you feel, tell him.

Phew, sorry that was a bit of an essay!

Really must go and take little one to play!
See ya's later!

Ch- i agree. Mums, you are young, you have plenty of time. Just enjoy eachother for a little while, then you can embark on mohterhood with full gusto!

mumswish - I know it sounds very patronising to hear someone say you are so young, but its just a fact and you have your whole life ahead of you. You're DP is obviously not ready, or doesn't think he is, you definitly need to talk to him about it and make him see that its not something to joke about, maybe discuss it when he can't run away from you, like on a long car journey and try and find out his reasons for not wanting a baby right now.
Also the holiday issue, couldn;'t you take the baby on holiday with you? or is that something that you wouldn't want to do.

Poor Mumswish, its a difficult situayon but one that cant be resolved without you really having a heart to heart. I dont think men get that urge and longing for a baby like we do. My heart lurched last night when dp asked me if i was sure i wanted to try again. Take care xxxxx

Diddle how are you holding out????

ok. I'll start from the beggining and then you can make your own minds up, Cos I am completely confused by him to be honest.

I had a mc last year. I straight away wanted another child and I told him that. We sat down about it and everything. He said that he wasnt ready yet as there was still stuff as a couple he wanted to do. Which I agreed to. We decided to wait a year and do stuff together first. DP decided that he wanted us to get married first and go on holiday together (fine by me)

For xmas Mum & Dad said they'd give us £500 towards a holiday together. I asked him to chose a date (Summer) he then lost his job beggining of the year and had to get a new one. So the date got moved to around Aug/Sept. Ive had my comp money from a crash beg of last year since and asked when we were going on holiday and he's said its too late in the season now we'll have to go next year around June. (Which should be fine to try for baby nowish) When I told him ok he said actually more like Aug/Sept again. (no baby yet then)

Married - There is nothing I can do. He says he wants it the old-fashioned way so he'll ask my dad first and then ask me. I cant do anything to speed that along anyway.

This is just the most recent of a long list of reasons not to have a kid. I could respect that if he didnt keep telling me how he wished we could have kids now as he feels like he's lived his life and wants kids before he's too old to enjoy them (he's 30) He tells me he wants kids before he's 32 which means another 2 years.

My point is that its a lot of what he wants and nothing of what I want even though he knows not having kids upsets me. Esp with so many friends and work colleaugues having them.

Sorry this is so long. I just wanted to see what you lot thought about it, am I being over the top? Please be honest.

I know I'm young but I dont feel it, I feel like probably alot of you girls feel. I've wanted my own kids since I was 16. I knew I wouldnt have them until I found someone I loved tho and he's the one I want them with.

hi everyone i am just about to test - please let there be 2 lines please keep em crossed for me

Good luck Slinks!!

maddyd - holding up better than i thought actually. have a few aches and pains though, not holding much hope.
how you doing?