Hi teacake you have my full sympathy, its an absolute nightmare waiting for your body to catch up and get back to normal, I really hope your wait doesnt turn out to be as long as mine!
I agree that the 6 month wait is nonsense. I was told the same by my GP after the birth of DS when I had no periods, what it really means is that it is policy to refer you for investigations after 6 months, but from a health point of view that is not right at all. In Costa Rica when I saw a private gyne, she said that it was very important to kick start periods because having a long gap (more than 3 months) could cause other secondary problems, like cysts, endometriosis amoung others. One loophole that GP's have is that if it becomes a health issue rather than purely a fertility matter they can do more, so you could either lie and say you have unexplained pain that needs investigating which would get you a scan (not much good for you as you have just had one) or cry and say it is effecting your mental well being.(I am sure it IS so you probably dont need to exaggerate too much there!)
You still have two more weeks to go before you hit the 12 week mark, when I would really start to investigate/push for treatment, but in the meantime I really recommend that you start charting (DS wakes me up in the night too, just try to take it as soon as you wake whatever time it is) Sorry to use the scary word, but I am going to have to mention Ashermans here, you really need to rule that out and your GP wont be any help at all and probably wont even know what it is (and if they do they will say something like "its extremely rare, but if you do have it you will be infertile forever!" NOT TRUE! DONT LISTEN!! There are two good ways of getting more information to see what the problem might be:
The first is, chart for a month and see if you are cycling normally or not. If you find that you are ovulating all over the place, there may well be a hormonal cause and you can push the GP for blood tests. If you find as I did that you are ovulating normally and the sore boobs and period pain comes when you would expect a bleed, this is an indicator of AS.
The other thing you could try is going private and getting a prescription for progesterone, if you have a hormonal problem you WILL bleed after the 10 day course, if it is AS you will not (as the problem is structural and nothing to do with hormones). If you cant get the progesterone you could also take the pill for 21 days and you should expect the same results.
Sorry if all this is very scary and depressing. I just want to pass on what I learned because in hindsight I wish I had done more and sooner. I really hope that AF is right round the corner for you and you have neither hormonal problems nor AS!
Finally, the other (depressing) piece of advice I would give you is to use contraception and keep doing HPT for a couple of weeks so that you can completely rule out pregnancy as a possible explanation. This is important to your state of mind and it will help the GP take you more seriously, otherwise they may just say "lets wait and see" because the answer could be pregnancy. I am sure you are sick of waiting already!
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