Good things come to those who wait...and wait...and wait!!! All aboard, we're IIT!

[bebejones]

Old thread here

Make yourselves at home everyone. Jake & George are just loading everyone's 'baggage'!

Welcome Astro! I have no words of wisdom, but if you find an approach that works please let me know! My DH is still resisting & we already have a DD! (I think it's because he knows/remembers what it was like in the early days whilst I am blissfully ignorant skimming over it & donning rose tinted specs!!)

Well, some good news, we have tenants for the flat. On a reduced rent as we need to fit a new kitchen! But still it's better than nothing & very welcome just before Xmas!

DHs baby nephew is very poorly & is being tested for meningitis (sp?) He is a poorly baby anyway with a heart problem, so it is really worrying & DH is very quiet & out of it this evening :( Really hoping that everything will be ok!

100 - It's funny how every little thing becomes a symptom isn't it? Little niggles that normally you wouldn't think twice about suddenly start alarm bells! Got everything crossed for you. Glad work has been better today! :)

hello all. hope everybodys had a nice day
i took DD swimming again today was lovely just hard work getting ready b4 and afta, my head cold wont shift either then in afternoon went for lunch with my stepsister who is 38 wks pg, it made me really look forward to having a nice big round bump and being able to see and feel the baby wriggling around

oooh 100years that does sound promising, when i was pg with DD I cudnt even touch my boobs they were so sore and prob TMI but nipples went darker and boobs felt really hard. fingers crossed 4 u :)

AC- wow congrats on 2nd interview when is it?

squirral- it does seem like such a long wait fom when u find out till first scan but thewks up till xmas r going to fly past, my nnext scan is on the 6th of jan gettin nervous/excited to find out what im having

bebe- i understand how u feel, DP has been working late every nite the past couple of wks with his new job, i used to get really worked up about it but im trying to be more relaxed as i know theres nothing i can do about it, its so hard when all u want to do is have them spend more time with there family, but u also know that they r doing there job and trying the best they can its not like there down the pub drinking all nite and all wkend :( its just so much harder when theres a child who wud like to have there dad around more. i hope things settle down for u soon

welcome to the thread astro- this is a place where we all understand the waiting game and a lot of us have had reluctant DP's. i think tthat like 100years sed best thing to do is make time for a proper discussion let him know how much this means to u etc

waves to everyone

bebe- xpost i hope your nephew is ok poor thing :(

Oh also meant to say DD has a place at pre-school (woohoo) she will probably start after Easter. DHs comment:
'That'll be good, you can get a job!'

Erm....I want to be 3 months gone by then thank you very much!! I give up!!

hello all

bebe grrr at your DH, and really hope your nephew gets better soon. How frigtening

AC congrats on 2nd interview

welcome to the thread astro (pleased you found us)

Exciting news here... Our condoms have now GONE . We are no longer using any contraception at all, and in my next fertile time we will officially be trying for a baby

Am not happy about the current weather forcast, Heavy snow is forecast for tonight, as well as the weekend, with temps not rising above freezing
Living high up right on the edge of the peak district this is NOT good news, especially as the roads round here are so steep, with realy tight bends (often combined) which are not snow friendly. (how i miss being down south where we hardly had any hills (or any snow!!!)

Dont like the idea of being snowed in in NOVEMBER, + i need to get to the market on Saturday... its too far to walk but who knows if i'll (or even the stall holders) will be able to make it there, and now i have got used to my local meat and veg, i dont like to get it from the supermarket any more.

Hey AstroZola, yes this is the TTC thread - this is my first post on it as i've just spent the last hour following it from the beginning which I think was 5 threads ago!! It makes for good reading :) and I really hope everyone on here gets everything sorted (I know that's very general but you all seem like lovely ladies and there's a lot of stuff on here!). I left a post under your original one if that helps! Basically... give him time. People take a while to digest things (if he's anything like my DH, who has always wanted children but I still only managed to have a serious conversation about the when with him last week).

Good grief, I've got to get faster, about 4 people have posted in the time it took me to write that!!!

Oh... hang on... I just hadn't gone right to the last page...

taylorsatsumer- welcome to the thread and wow u managed to read thru all that must hav bin like a book :)

welcome taylaor satsuma

wow that makes 2 new people in 1 night

Eeeeeeek Nannyl that is SO exciting for you!

Welcome TaylorSatsuma! :) That is a lot of back reading, we do waffle on don't we?!

Thank you! If I'd known this existed I would have been on here months ago :) have just realised I might need to shorten my nickname though - bit of a mouthful (or fingerful, to type)!

WW - I didn't get sore/achey boobs with DD, so it isn't a sure sign! Still keeping things crossed for you!

Definitely need to chat to DH. Although what kind of job he thinks I can get round here 3 mornings a week I don't know! I think it was a joke (clutches at straws) DD getting a place is a real bonus to TTC 'plans'. Would really help if I was to be very sick again & is also good for when a LO arrives. Better than her being at school all the time, want to have some time with 'both' kids at home. If DH really sticks to his guns and say NO to TTC then I will tell him I'm going to do my teacher training which means I'll still not be working....that might spur him on!

JBells - sorry you have still got a cold, they linger when your PG don't they :( (Or maybe you just think/feel they do coz you can't take anything?!)

Hey all, there's been a lot of replies since i posted...DP has had the computer since...thanks for the welcomes and advice...i really don't want to scare him...but reading about your situation 100years and nannyl has made me very excited...even more so and i think it's only going to get even more intense, i do hope you have good news...jbells...i'm so excited to be feeling a little person inside of me too...it's something i've always wanted to experience...i just previously never wanted the child...now i do......and bebe i really hope your nephew gets better...that must be the most awful thing to go through with a child...that's one thing i'm sure i'll dread...
I'm actually finding it quite tricky to catch on with the lingo and the functions etc...bear with me

WW - DH doesn't know that I wouldn't be able to do it til 2012! Ideally I wanted to do my PGCE after number 2, when DD has started school! UWE have a nursery which is free for children of students. Would be perfect to just leave LO there for lectures & then have MIL watch them whilst I was 'working'. That was the plan, although I would actually love to stay at home as long as possible!
At the back of my mind through all of this is I just don't know how many 'good years' I have left with my MS. Could be 20 or 30, could be 2 or 3! Nightmare! I don't want to put anything off in case it doesn't happen at all!

Astro - there is a handy list of Acronyms linked at the top of the page. Although we do have our own as well! :o

I found that thank you....but there are some i see that aren't there...can someone please tell me what AF is? x

Hello Astro and Satsuma! Good names :)

Whywait - I am secretly worried about not getting pregnant immediately when we eventually start TTC so I can really empathise with you. Even though we all know the advice about it taking up to a year even for totally healthy peeps it is still a concern (especially with all the tales of getting pregnant from sharing the same mug etc from the likes of lucky Jbells! :) )

Hope your little nephew gets better soon bebe. Your situation must be so frustrating! It's not even as if your OH can look for another job as he is self-employed/working with family he can't just move on. The last thing you need is for him to burn out though. Maybe things will improve after xmas? If the recession lifts a little then they could take on more staff and reduce the pressure, money would be rolling in and you could be up the duff quicker than a quick thing! :)

Good luck with the 2nd interview AC!

Great to hear about the scan jbells! What a lovely thing, Were you as exited as you were with DD?

100years, glad work is a bit better, Try not to send yourself round the bend with the symptom spotting!

nannyl you make me chuckle with the CAPITALS-' I do NOT want an August baby' etc! it makes you sound very stern but I'm sure you are not really! (I know you just like to have everything planned out) I would like a baby of any monthly variety at the moment but still having to wait for circumstances to be right. HMMPHH!

hi JS, WYorks, quod and everyone :)

Aunt Flo=period x

strawberry... lol
I really dont want an augast baby... have nannied for a couple of children who have been the youngest in the year, and i vowed to myself to make sure i didnt have baby due then...
(also nannied for a September and an October baby, and always thought, what a bit of luck they wernt a little older and at school a whole year earlier!)
but then i guess by aiming for a 12 sep due date i am cutting it fine

Obviously all that really really matters is that its healthy
also i have my heart set in children 1 school year apart (no idea why i just do) so at least if i have 1 at the beginning of the school year, i have a bit of time to get in number 2, and them not to be the youngest either!

as i'm here now can i let you all in on my concerns?

i'm only 27 but will be 28 if DP agrees to let us TTC so will be 29 by the time LO arrives if i'm lucky...i don't want to be much older as a mum...esp. if we have 2?!.

I'm planning on TTC in September/October 2011...so i'll be here for a while too...reason being is i need to finish my training and hopefully pass my exams and qualify to become a vet nurse...also will give us time to save some pennies too....we're not very financially well off...we struggle all the time but as my friend said - who does already have a DS and is trying for another...there's just no right time to have a baby and nobody can really afford them....

however, i digress....i'm more concerned about TTC with my endometriosis, depression, previous bout of chlamydia when i was 19 and the fact that i have a tilted uterus....my dr said i really shouldn't have any problems as i'm still young (ish), there are no lesions on my ovaries from the endometriosis and being tilted doesn't really matter....i'm still dubious though...i should ideally come off the antidepressants and have my coil removed at the end of August, have 1-2 normal periods and then start trying. this is all however if DP agrees...maybe i'll talk to him again in the new year....let him have a few months to think about it and then explain that i need to know asap so i can start preparing for it as there's lots for me to do and consider...sorry for the VERY long msg x

WhyWait - yes please....& thanks...WW???