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bebejones · 17/11/2010 20:25

Old thread here

Make yourselves at home everyone. Jake & George are just loading everyone's 'baggage'! Wink

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bebejones · 23/11/2010 08:59

JBells - that's exactly what I did (with the coupon) really annoying!!
Good Luck with the scan, hope everything is ok & you get some better pics this time.

DD is still asleep! Shock Really need to get her up (hate waking her, makes her really gtumpy), need a shower and we have to go out in an hour!!

Hope everyone is ok :)

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WYorksLass · 23/11/2010 09:30

Argh, snow! I normally quite like it even though it means getting the train to work instead of driving. I also think it might be nice on the wedding pics. However, i hope it doen't stop our wedding guests getting here on Saturday :(
We live quite high up on a hill, although not as high as the village where i used to live, it was always 3 degrees colder up there than the rest of the district!

Well, anyway, AF arrived last night, 1 day late! I'm pleased as it means it will be over before the wedding and this is the cycle where we start SWI Grin

100years · 23/11/2010 12:34

jbells, good luck with the scan, hope it goes well. :)

WYorks :) Yay, will keep fingers crossed for you for the weather allowing everyone to get to the wedding on time.

I'm still going crazy in my 2WW, plus there is a lot of other things in my head at the moment, so a lot to think about, which I'm not really enjoying. The only think I am certain about is wanting to be a family with my gorgeous OH, other than that I am so very confused, and wish I knew of other things I could possibly do work wise, buying a house, etc etc My inner thoughts are not too pretty right now. But hey, maybe it's a hormental thing I am going through. Sorry if I appear to be on a downer, I have this amazing thing going on with someone I'm going to spend the rest of my life with and I'm in a bit of a rut. Meh Confused

Don't worry about weight, I haven't been doing anything strict or following a proper plan, but I have lost 2 stone since June, so I am pleased with that :)

JustShaggingForNow · 23/11/2010 15:28

Good luck with the scan jbells!!

100 - sorry to hear you are having a tough time at the moment. I hope that you manage to sort out everything in your head and that your 2WW doesn't drive you mad!!

AF has arrived today (3 days early) and I've got really bad cramps :(

My cycle is all over the bloody (no pun intended Shock!!) place at the moment and having just put it all on paper it looks like I have a pretty short Luteal phase.....Confused Not an expert on such things but is that bad?

My cyclescycles have been:

  1. Length 30
  2. Length 29
  3. Length 35
  4. Length 30, LP 11
  5. Length 27, LP 12
  6. Length 31, LP 14
  7. Length 27, LP 10
bebejones · 23/11/2010 16:02

JS - Sorry ur in pain, it sucks!!
I have been confused by short LP too. I have had LP of 4 & 5 days in recent months (as well as 10, 12 & 13) anything over 10 is normal/good I think Confused

100 - sorry you are in a bad head space right now :( Try and focus on the positves in your life & take time out just you to relax & hopefully the head fog will lift & a solution to the problem (whatever it is) will present itself! We are all here for you if you need to rant! :)

As Christmas creeps ever closer I am getting broodier than ever. Everytime I get it right in my head how I want to 'present' things to DH he has a bad day & comes home in a foul mood. We barely talk at the moment & it's really getting to me. Yesterday DD was angelic all day & we had a fab day. She asked to see 'Daddy' all the time though & when DH came home he went straight upstairs to do work & she started acting up. So he gets in a grump about how difficult she is. She isn't, she is just doing a typical toddlery 'any attention is better than no attention' thing. :( Doesn't help my argument for having DC2 though!

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JustShaggingForNow · 23/11/2010 16:09

Oh Bebe - that really sucks. If he isn't talking to you then maybe the idea that AC came up with (the counselling) might be a good option. The last thing you want is this difference of opinions to come between you and have a negative impact on your relationship long term.

jbells · 23/11/2010 16:49

hello everyone, just a quick one will catch up better later once DD has gone to bed

scan went well was a lot clearer than last time everything looks fine, im measuring at 14 wks 1 day which makes my due date the 23rd of may, the pic wasnt great agen tho as baby was being uncooperative and facing my tummy so u can see a nice skull and jaw that looks like a skeleton from halloween lol

next scan is booked in for the 6th of jan, dont know y but afta seeing this scan now hav a feeling its a boy altho cud b completely wrong

bebejones · 23/11/2010 17:01

Bugger! Wrote a massive post then the site crashed!!! Typical! Will be back later!

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JustShaggingForNow · 23/11/2010 17:10

Mee too bebe - very cross. Probably good though as it was a long ranty post about the ILs!!!

nannyl · 23/11/2010 17:14

evening all

100 years, sorry you are down in the dumps. hope you cheer up soon Smile and that your 2ww doenst drive you too mad

JS, agree that as long as LP is 10 days or more than its fine Smile

bebe sorry to here about DH... grrr Sad

jbells glad you had a healthy scan Smile how exciting (one of my best friends with baby due end of may had her scan today too!)

I had a better ish day... given that Tuesday is the day of the week that i always hate / dread...
It wasnt too bad really (if you forget that fact i spilt my tea and cereal at breakfast, had printed out loads of important paperwork (so it was all 'done') this morning and the printer broke and printed a layer of black over the top of everything Angry, and i was on "waiters" duty (where you wait for 45 mins with children who have siblings in prep / seniors)

On a plus not my temp shot up today, so im pleased about that. I'd quite like a 29 day cycle this month as i really dont want an Aug baby, and will be aiming for a due date of sep 12th, but adding on an extra day would make sep 13th, giving me an extra day, so baby would have to be 13 days early ro be an aug baby, as opposed to just 12!

Really not liking the fact that we have snow forecast tonight / tomorrow and really really dont want it at all. will make getting to and from school (or evn just out my front door) very difficult

Have a boring evening tonight, waiitng for tesco to deliver my shopping and OH is out running.

On a plus note tomorrow is wednesday and i usually like wednesdays!

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100years · 23/11/2010 17:53

Thanks everyone for the nice wishes. I don't know if it's hormones or just lack of exercise or a whole host of other things.

WhyWait, if it's spotting possibly it's implantation bleed as opposed to period? I don't know though, but glad you got things out in the open with your DH.

With regards to my 2WW the symptoms appeared to be less so yesterday, and this morning, but I'm off my food a bit today and still got weird mild cramping, the down in the dumps could be related or it could be totally unrelated. Who knows. If your LP has to be over 10 days, does that mean I can test when I think I am 10 DPO???

Great news about the scan jbells. :)

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100years · 23/11/2010 18:05

I think I'm due next monday or Tuesday, so still got 6 days, but I am working for 5 of those.

WhyWait, well I'll keep my fingers crossed for you and that it is implantation bleeding. Hugs if it's not.

AmandaCooper · 23/11/2010 18:58

Lucky, lucky train! I have a second interview!!! Yipee!

bebejones · 23/11/2010 19:45

Ooooh AC! Well done!

WYorks - hope it doesn't snow too badly & spoil your day, although it would look lovely in photos! (We got married on 1st Dec, and it was sunny, was miffed we didn't get snow!)

WW - Hope the spotting comes to nothing, fingers crossed for you! It took one of my friends 6 months to conceive her 1st, she is super fit & healthy & active! It can happen, try not to worry!

100 - At least working will occupy you over the next few days! Try not to test too early!

Nannyl - crossing fingers for you on dates!

Right, will try & rememeber my long 'rant'!

I'm not sure counselling will work (or when we would have the time Hmm). DH is just sooooo busy with work that he spends most evenings & weekends on the computer. Of an evening he just sits with me doing emails & playing his game. I know it's tough for him right now, but being self-employed in his line of work is really difficult at the moment. I'm very surprised he hasn't completely lost it with his dad who seems to just pile all his crap onto DH, especially at weekends. He asks why he is pissy & DH just says he wants to spend time with me & DD but his dad doesn't really 'get it'! Hmm DD is missing time with her daddy, and when he does spend time with us/her he is so tired & stressed he is really snappy, especially with DD. Yesterday she was angelic all day, we had a lovely day together even though she was asking for daddy. When he came home he went straight upstairs to work & she started acting up. He got so grumpy & said how difficult she is. But really it was just typical toddlery 'any attention is better than none' behaviour! :( At any rate it isn't helping me convince DH that DC2 is a good idea when all he sees at the moment is DD being a handful! We really need some family time, and I just don't see it happening. DH rarely comes to bed before I'm asleep even at weekends, and in the week always gets up & leave for work before I'm awake. He's not even going to be able to come and visit my family before xmas! :( Things are really starting to pick up work wise, and it's positive stuff but just means he is even busier as they have less staff!

Sorry that is really long and ranty!! Blush

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squirrel007 · 23/11/2010 20:02

Hi all!

AC congrats on the second interview, hope it goes well!

100years sorry you're feeling down :( If I have any advice it's to get everything in your head out in the open before getting pg, as the hormones really do knock your emotions about a bit.

wyorkslass bet you're really excited now! Maybe the snow will start during your wedding, and everyone will come out of the ceremony to find it's turned white... very romantic!

nannyl don't worry too much about the 1lb - that's only a pint of water, or two cups of tea! My weight normally goes up and down by more than that on an almost daily basis.

bebe sounds like a great xmas present for your dd :) But a bad situation with your DH at the moment :( It is horrid when someone close to you is stressed out, but it's really not fair on you.

jbells glad the scan went well :)

What they don't tell you is that after the 2ww you then have the 12ww Confused I have a scan date for mid December now, but it seems like such a long wait and I just want to get there and have everything be okay!

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bebejones · 24/11/2010 13:09

WW - I really wanted to wait to tell people after the first scan with DD, but I was so sick, most people knew before then! :(

Trouble with the DH situation is I know he feels the same and wants to be with us. Because he is self-employed it's really tricky, he will always have to bring work home with him! If he doesn't work, he doesn't get 'paid' and we just can't afford for him not to work the hours he does & put the extra time in at weekends/evenings. Just really hoping that it'll calm down (in a good way) after Xmas!

Making a chocolate & nut torte, hope it comes out ok! Confused

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WYorksLass · 24/11/2010 13:18

Squirrel, that's exactly what i said to OH last night re: snow. He laughed at my "very specific requirements"!

Well done on the second interview AC, that's great news.

Bebe, i'll taste it for you if you like, just to make sure it's ok before you eat it Grin

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squirrel007 · 24/11/2010 13:44

whywait not too much in the way of symptoms, a little nausea but mostly I just feel a bit grotty, like I'm recovering from a cold.

bebe the torte sounds lovely :)

We told my immediate family already and will tell DH's next week when we see them. Far easier to do that than make excuses about not drinking because I'm feeling a bit ill. Everyone else will have to wait till after the scan.

bebejones · 24/11/2010 13:56

WYorks - Eeeek how exciting! Not long now, hoping the snow holds off for you! I doubt that we will see any significant snowfall here :( (I'm the only person I know who actually wants it to snow!)

WW - Don't know really how it afects plans to TTC, I'm planning, DH is still resisting! Plus seeing as we are hardly in the same room let alone same bed when we are awake SWI would be a bit off the menu at the moment!!

Squirrel - It'll be so lovely to get the scan before xmas, at least it'll be all 'official' why you aren't drinking!!

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AstroZola · 24/11/2010 18:21

Hey all,
Is this the waiting to TTC thread?? I swas directed here because of my thread earlier:

'Since deciding i want to have a baby...i've obviously told my other half about it...however, even though i was more against the idea than him in the past, he needs time to think about it. Now, i can totally understand this...it must be a bit of a shock for him...however, i've said i ideally want to take the coil out next August and start trying then as i'm nearly 30...i think he thinks he can wait until then to give me an answer...however, i feel i need more time to prepare for it and to be honest i feel a little impatient...i know i can't rush him, after all it's a big decision and he's only known about this sudden development for a month...but how long should i expect to wait before i ask him for a firm answer?? and what if he says no?! thanks for any advice or words of wisdom...x'

100years · 24/11/2010 19:17

AC well done, good luck for it :)

bebe, sounds like you are going through a lot at the moment, I hope something right happens for you, wish I could give you some words of advice, but I don't know enough about your other stuff to comment on what you should do. Hang in there, and do talk about things when you can.

Thanks Squirrel. Yay for your scan coming soon(ish)

Whywait, how you doing?

WYorks, how is the snow doing for you?

Welcome to the thread Astro, we are the formerly waiting to TTC, we are now a bigger group as some of us are TTC, some are pg and some are still waiting, but we like each other and so won't leave here. Re words of advice, tell him you would like to talk about it again, discuss things properly when he feels he has had chance to think about it, but prepare him that you will want to chat soon to make sure you can sort things out in your head, healthwise, money worries yadda yadda yadda. But most of all good luck.

Right then ladies. Update on me.

The 2 ww goes as follows, nausea still on and off, off food a bit, tired - still, boobs super sore, now I'm gassy bloated and constipated, and can't work out if the niggles now are crampy pains or constipation cramps. Hoorah, just a few more symptoms to build me up, ready for AF disappointment LOL I so hope I don't get AF, but you know what it's like, all the symptoms probably just imagining it, except the sore boobs, which hurt when I move my arm, and feel like they are bruised.

Head space is a little better, today at work went well, and I've almost put the shitty shifts from last week out of my mind.

Hope you are all OK.