Good things come to those who wait...and wait...and wait!!! All aboard, we're IIT!

[bebejones]

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Make yourselves at home everyone. Jake & George are just loading everyone's 'baggage'!

Hi bebe - thanks for the welcome!

So, DH and I are 25 and been together for nearly 6 years. We got married this year, but also this year found out that DH had testicular cancer. He had his operation and he's been A-OK since then, undergoing lots of surveillance for the next two years. Have been told there shouldn't be problems when we want children, but have banked sperm (on the day before our wedding!) as an insurance policy.

I recently started a new job (which I love) and DH is currently applying for jobs that will start next August. We don't know where in the country that may take him, so it's going to be wisest to wait until we find out in March what the situation will be. Hopefully it will be in the area where we are now (because I really do love my new job!)

Really should wait, but at the same time it feels like we've been waiting for ages already and want to prove there's life after cancer in the most obvious way!

Evening all.

welcome to the thread fancyalittle. So sorry to hear about DH's illness, but then looks like you have got it covered . I assume youve read Lance Armstrongs books, i think he proves that testicular cancer really isnt the end.
What an emotional roller coster you and DH must have ridden. Its lovely to here you are happy in your job, and will keep fingers crossed that DH stays close by.

and WYORKS.... how exciting... HUGE congratulations. That really is wonderful news. What a lovely Xmas present for you. Was this your first month of trying? (I have a feeling it was and im closely following you)
Have you worked out your due date yet? Im guessing end Aug? (mine will be 14th sep IF i get pg this month.... so bizarre that if i get pg your child will probably be in a year above mine at school, unless he / she arrives late)

Well in the last few days i have been getting better but poor OH has been really poorly (I shared my cold).
I couldnt beleive our luck, and TBH was really upset and frustrated it all.

That said im on day 13 and have managed to SWI the last couple of days (though i think it nearly killed DH yesturday , but he kept going lol)
OH is starting to get better now though and is feeling well in himself today so i guess thats a good thing.

Dont know why but i just have a feeling im not gonna get pg this month I really hope i do and we are trying. If we dont can put it down to both of us being poorly!

Bebe sorry to hear you are stuck. Amazingly here in yorkshire we have hardly any snow at all. I reckon we got 1mm early sat morning and thats it! The pavements are still icey though as that 1mm has turned to sheet ice and the pavements still look white!
Dont want any more snow as wanna travel boxing day and the journey is bad enough when the weather and traffic are perfect!... and we have 45mins of cross country 'last of the summer wine' roads (in good driving conditons) before we even make it to the motorway! Really dont wanna be doing that in snow / ice!

mrssatsuma had to lol at practising doing a pg test! Have fun practising!!!!

Hope everyone else has had a good weekend and not been to put out by the snow...
Im now officially on my 2WW (although right now its 15 days / 2W&day!)... although ill rpob test a few days early so will call it my 2WW!

wyorks can i ask what brand of pg test you used please?

wow another BFP, this thread is getting luckier and luckier lol congrats WYorks,cant believe there is already 3 of us pg on here now, try not to worry yourself to much and enjoy the best u can,how many pg tests have u done i did bout 5 before i was convinced, think i just liked peeing on a stick hehe

bebe- i really hope the snow subsides for u soon and u manage to get back to DH wot a horrible situation :(

nannyl- keeping my fingers crossed u will join us on the luvky thread to a BFP :)

fancyalil- welcome to the thread, seems u have been thru quite a lot like someone else sed musthave been an emotional rollercoaster, i am also 25 with baby no2 on the way, wot does your DH think about waiting/trying does he want to wait or start now?

i have a raging headache tonite, been argueing with DP this wkend my hormones r going crazy and i just feel all over the place at the mo,i was the same last pg i dont think the hormones agree with me im emotional at the best of times

wyorks that is fantastic news, congratulations!! How exciting to have another bfp on the thread, and just in time for Christmas! Like jbells, I remember doing far too many pg tests early on because I just couldn't believe it.

jbells sorry to hear you're not feeling so good :( It is rubbish feeling awful due to hormones knowing there's not much you can do to feel better other than wait for it to pass.

bebe sorry to hear you're stuck. How far away from your DH are you? I reckon it's best to stay put if you're able to, unless the journey is easy.

nannyl I will keep my fingers and toes crossed for you this month!

fancyalittle welcome to the thread :) Sounds like you've been through a lot, and I can see why you just want to get on with ttc.

100years sorry to hear your weekend was cut short because of the weather, but hope you had a good one anyway!

mrssatsuma hope you enjoyed the party.

Things are good here, I'm feeling quite normal today (except for a nap this afternoon!) and have taken the chance to do all my xmas wrapping and cook a nut roast for xmas dinner. It's currently in the oven and making the house smell lovely - I'm really tempted to eat it tonight instead . We are off to my parents for xmas day, but as I am the only veggie I normally do my own main course as my mum has enough to do already! And The Apprentice final is on tonight, so I'll be watching that too.

Squirrel - glad you are feeling a bit more 'normal' today! :)
I'm about 120miles away from DH :( I want to get DD (& me) home for Christmas! The plan was to go home Tuesday. I just have to hope that they have cleared the roads by then & that it doesn't snow on top of the ice!

Fancy - So sorry about your DH. What a huge event to deal with so early on in your marriage! :( Glad he is recovering now. Fingers crossed for you! Hope you don't have to wait too long!

Nannyl - Fingers crossed for you this month! With all your planning lets hope that it is a lucky train after all!

Congratulations WYorks! Fantastic news! You knew you were pregnant all along didn't you! Hehe! Please keep us all updated with the pg x

Sorry to hear about you being stuck bebe! Hope the roads get cleared soon.

Hello and welcome fancyalittle!

I have finally finished making and wrapping xmas presents, still seem to have loads to do before going on hol on Boxing day- hope the airports are ok by then [hmmm]

In other news (sorry if TMI), I started the first AF since stopping the pill 9 weeks ago- was starting to wonder if everything was alright! If we start TTC this month my due date would be 23rd Sept.........but it's a big IF as OH has not found a permanent position yet and is still doing supply teaching.....

WYorks fantastic news! You must be absolutely over the moon - what an eventful year for you and DH! I was so pleased when I read your news x

Thanks for all the congratulations :)

In answer to all the questions:-

Yep, it was the first month of trying. I guess being relaxed (and lot's of SWI!!!) on honeymoon helped a lot. DH reckons it's all down to his super sperm though

I just used a cheap test from ASDA, i think it was about £3.50 for a pack of 2. They say you can use them up to 4 days before AF is due. I used it 2 days before and the line was pretty strong.

I've peed on 2 sticks so far. I was convinced by the first one but DH wasn't so i did the 2nd one this morning. It was still positive :)

I'm booked into the doctors first thing tomorrow morning. Mainly so i can get the flu jab ASAP.

wyorks, i havnt had flu jab, really dont know wot to do and wether to hav it,

my DP also puts it down to his super sperm lol

Morning all!!

• Firstly massive congratulations to you WYORKS! Such wonderful news in time for xmas!!

• Welcome to all the enwcommers. Sorry if I haven't been on here much to welcome you all individually!

I have tried and failed to get through all of the posts that I have missed so was thinking it might be good (for those of us lost on the news front and for the newbies on here) to do a bit of a summary of what is going on in our lives!

Age: 28

Relationship: Married in 2009

TTC: May/June 2011

Reason for waiting: DH isn't ready

Recent news/updates: New job going well. Slowly adjusting to life outside London. Missing friends but loving living in Bath and in the house!! Missing DH but enjoying some "me" time and having lots of fun at weekends!

We had the ILs to lunch yesterday. I had a migraine from Thursday lunchtime and it continued all weekend. Very tedious and made the preparations for the lunch quite hard. It was all a bit stressfull when they arrived but then after I'd had a few glasses of fiz and they'd relaxed it was actually a very fun afternoon.

DH and I ended up having a bit of a baby chat last night as FIL started saying how we should have a family ski holiday next year over New Year. I kept quite quiet about it but everybody else was getting really excited and into the idea. After they had gone DH asked why I wasn't very excited and I pointed out that I was hoping that I would be pregnant next December and that snowboarding with a bump was probably not the best idea. Think he thought I'd forgotten all about the baby idea with the new job..... little does he know!

He suggested that if I was pregnant then I could just hang out with his Step Mum (not going to happen, as she drives me mad!!!) and not go up the mountain. I pointed out that there was no way I could hack an entire day of just the 2 of us together, nevermind a whole week and certainly not when everybody else is off having fun on the mountain doing what I want to be doing!

He asked a few questions about maternity pay (bit crap here in the new job TBH but I didn't join for that reason and he knew all along that it was a possibility of it just be statutory) and then seemed even less keen on the idea. Think he was hoping that once in the new job I would love it so much that I wouldn't want to leave to have a baby and if not that there would be some ruling on maternity pay that meant we would have to postpone trying!

We've not talked in depth but I am hoping to still work to our plan of trying in May/June. Not too long to go now!

Morning all.

JS, really pleased to here that your move has gone well and that you are enjoying your new job
sorry to read about OH's opinions on having a baby / skiing etc
agree no way would you want to go on holiday to watch everyone else go skiing and have fun!

Thanks for telling me about PG test. Down south my mum lives next to a giant asda, so will have to get some of those. (I only have 5 pg tests here (4 cheap ebay and a tesco, so might get an asda as well)
Plan to test on 31 dec 4 days early, 1Jan 3 days early and 2 Jan (unless of course i get a BFP on 31 dec)...
A got my 1st peak on CBMF this morning
Me and OH now both better so can continue SWI for the next few days!

Ive already had the flu jab (in October) so luckily i donty need to think or worry about that!

Hope everyone has a good monday.
Its -10 up here BRRRR

Poor OH, in his warehouse inside it is -8 both of his forklifts have frozen ad they just dont work in such cold temps.

hes not having a good day.

Im gonna make some butternut and sweet potatoe soup for lunch and we have salmon for tee tonight. Also need to do some tidying,
planning my next few days, up dating my sainsburys order and just enuring im all sorted for Xmas and all packed to travel down south on boxing day! (oh and some ironing!)

nannyl- its minus 8 here to :( i hate the cold, about pg tests i found that the ebay ones were really good and they detected my bFP the earliest

Nannyl - such exciting news! Hope that the 2 WW goes quickly and that you get your BFP - what a brilliant start to the New Year that would be!

thanks JS
oh jinglebells so my ebay ones might work then ?

Well its only day 14, just done an OPK and it +ve! I always get my +ve of day 15 but its here now!
Hope that mean if i get a BFP i can see it a day earlier? we will see

am very excited to have a BFP, hope OHs (girl ) sperm are still swimming in there! LOL

nannyl- yep the ebay ones will be fine :) i really hope it was a boy sperm that fertilised my egg, everybody will have to keep there fingers crossed that its a boy for me :)

Congratulations WYorks!! Fantastic news. Am keeping fingers crossed it all goes smoothly for you.

bebe Where are you going from and to? It really depends where you are in the country. One of our friends made it from us in Bedfordshire up to Liverpool via Yorkshire in 4 hours on Saturday and had no problems; DH went to next town (about 8 miles away) today and it took him nearly 2hrs! It might be fine (but obviously don't put yourself at risk!).

JS My DH was the same... has taken about 6 months for him to take the idea seriously even though he has wanted kids for a while. I think it takes a while to sink in for some people - just hang in there!

I'm feeling rubbish today.... needed to SWI yesterday really but was feeling ill! Hopefully today isn't too late although as it's first month of TTC I'm trying not to expect it to happen anyway (yeah... like that's working!!). I hurt all over at the moment and am having horrible sinus headaches... hope am not coming down with something! Poor DH is making dinner yet again for me, bless him. I will be annoyed if I'm ill all holiday!!

Ooh nannyl I don't envy you that on your mind all over Christmas! It would be lovely to get a bfp for New Year though. JS old girl you and I shall have to content ourselves with New Year drinks! JBells I would like a boy as well, if we're putting orders in!

lol AC- im going to put it on my xmas list to santa, im sure i have been good enuf this year for him to meet my demands :)

Evening all!

I'm going to attempt to drive home 2moro! [scared emoticon] Will try & stick to motorways instead of driving my usual route (across the Cotswolds). I'm going from Bedfordshire to Gloucestershire so pretty much right across where the snow has been!

On my Xmas list for Santa I am just going to ask for a baby in 2011! :( Feeling quite desperate these days, almost like there is a very loud clock ticking...it's not my age, it's a relapse clock!

Just to fill in like JS

Age: 28

Relationship: Married in 2007

TTC: Anytime after 24th December, but hopefully Jan 2011

Reason for waiting: DH is reluctant due to work pressure & my health issues (MS)

Recent news/updates: I'm nearly at my 3 month medication free point! Woohoo! DH is still dragging his heels! :(

Must be so difficult all those SWIing with horrid bugs! Would be the absolute last thing on my mind if I wasn't TTC!

AC - I'll join you for NY drinks! I won't be TTC til at leat the 11th Jan (by my calculations) and that's if I can work my womanly charms on DH (unlikely) :(

Anyway, wish me luck for 2moro, hopefully I'll be online 2moro evening if I make it home!!

Oh also, put pics on profile of snow here, it's so pretty! :)

Age: 30

Relationship: Living with OH but no ring yet!

TTC: From this month (and OPK / CBFM says OV today lol)

Reason for waiting: Waiting for a September due date!

Good luck for tomorrow bebe!!

Age: 33

Relationship: Married in 2009

TTC: if I get the job, the end of next year. If not who knows?

Reason for waiting: work problems

Recent news/updates: DH seems to be on board now! Interview tomorrow.

Safe journey, Bebe!

Age: 30

Relationship: Married 3 weeks ago :) (Nov '10)

TTC: Conceived about 2 weeks ago

Reason for waiting: Not anymore, we were waiting until after the wedding.

Recent news/updates:
I went to the doctors this morning and she was absolutely lovely and seemed genuinely excited for me.
My estimated due date is 31st August. I joked that i hoped it (i hate "it" but can't think of a better word at the minute!) would be a day or so late for school purposes!
I asked about the flu jab and she gave me one on the spot, the sooner the better apparently! I have a sore arm now.
Finally, i have been referred to the practise midwife who will contact me in a couple of weeks.

WYorks that's exciting. It's nice that you were given a positive and enthusiastic reception, you do hear worrying stories from people who feel they have been treated as just another conveyor belt case. Does it all seem much more real to you now it's been made official?!

Just had my final interview and really don't feel very positive. There were a couple of times I couldn't think of an answer. It could certainly have gone better.