TTC after MC, ERPC anyone want to join me??

[nurse47]

Hi ive been posting on the miscarrage forum but now feel ready to start all over again!
My story, Had my first MMC in nov 2007, followed by an erpc (worst moment of my life) this was my first pregnancy and i felt robbed. Waited for two periods and got pg with my little DD in feb 2008, i had a great pg and birth but was on constant knicker alert. We decided when she was two we would like another baby to add to the familiy, we decided to try in sept this year and got pg first time! (very shocked) I was so hoping this would be my time to have a stress free pg and actually enjoy the experience! How wrong i was, i started to spot at six weeks had a scan which showed a sac but no baby, i then enjoured the worst two week of my life by having scan and blood tests. I was told on the 8th on nov the pregnany was not going to continue and i had a blighted ovum, and on the 9th i had a erpc. I have recovered well and stopped bleeding the day after the procedure. I went to see my doc last week who told me i could start ttc asap as long as i feel up to it?? anyone else ttc straight away, last time i was told to wait and i did but this time i have read that there is no lit to say wait apart from to date the pg?? Im hoping there are some people who can share there experiences and someone who wants to join me!

Any advice ladies about what I should do about my screwed up body. (will post on the board too)

Last month if you remember I was really stressed about having something wrong with me as before I got my AF on 22 December I had light spotting starting about 9 days before. I had been doing ovulation tests and this was 4/5 dpo (smiley face). I had blood done 7 dpo and the progesterone level was 36.1 -so normal. I put it down to first cycle post ERPC and was pleased that I had a heavish period to clear out and continued ttc

Well the same spotting has happened exactly the same time post ovulation 4/5dpo - today I am 9dpo and still have some spotting and if it is like last month it will continue until AF on Wed. I have done a first response test yesterday and am not pregnant.

Shall I go to the Drs once AF has finished and explain the above or should I be brave and give it one more cycle and see if the spotting comes again and do some sneaky bloods at work

Arghhhh - so frustrated - the mmc was one thing but to have totally messed up your body is another.

morning ladies

first sorry for the self obsessed post yesterday, I was on my phone so couldn't write much and just felt so depressed/frustrated when I realised I had more days of this agonising to go. wombat I kind of feel a bit tender and achy in the area which is a normal sign for me that af is on it's way although I am still clutching tightly to straws.

kitkey I'm really sorry I have absolutely no idea. i would go to see the doctor as soon as you get your af just because the stress and worry is not good for you and hopefully the doctor can either put your mind at rest or set you on a course of action. I've still got my fingers crossed for you

manamana glad the sickness is not too bad but I can understand you feeling fragile as just over 5 weeks is no time at all. We're all here to hold your hand so talk to us!

worm don't you dare go anywhere! We're all in this together, I'm sure many of us will still be trying by the time you join us!

sparkly I don't think you're evil at all re mushrooms, I would just put them in anyway and the person can pick them out!

mrsB33 when are you going to test again?

wombat so you must be 6 days late now, how annoying with the thrush and everything. Hope mine doesn't mess me around like that! Glad the party was good, i love a bit of air guitar but i'm more of a guns and roses specialist. At one Xmas party I did an Axl perfomance with tatoos and everything. And there is a video to prove it! It is horrid for people when they go to the effort of planning a party and people don't turn up, it happens in London a lot....I think people think oh it's fine everyone else will be there.......just rude really! (one of my pet hates, can you tell?)

such a grey and miserable day here today, think I will go to the gym and then have nap!

kitkey - sorry to hear that you are feeling so anxious and frustrated and not surprising. I second what yellow has said about seeing doc as soon as AF arrives - at least you will feel as if you're doing something about it, even if they say just to give it another month. I think it really can take our bodies a while to get back into their strides.... Thinking of you x

yellow - clutching at straws for you too and keeping fingers crossed. Would love to see your axl performance sometime! If I searched for yellow tomato axl rose on youtube, would I find it?!! Did you make it to the gym today? I had an extraordinarily active day - 8k run this morning (beauuuutiful weather for it) and then squash (unplanned before run) this afternoon with our great mates who also cooked up a gorgeous stew which we don't get too eat too often here as it's usually too darn hot!

So, still no sign of AF so did another test today which was a BFN although I was tilting it back and forth for quite a few mins as I thought I could see a bit of a line but only at the bottom of the window. Snapped it in half after a while for being so pathetic! I think I'll wait another week before going to doc. The frustrating thing is that we haven't even been able to SWI as thrush can be passed on during sex - agh! I'm pleased to say that it definitely seems to be calming down so hopefully we can get going again in a couple of days, but sod's law, DH off on a 2 night conference mon and tues night - grrr....

Hope everyone else is having a stress-free weekend! x

winterwombatland here - have just name changed as this is what I seem to be doing for most of my time these days!

Sounds like you are all having a tough time, it is so frustrating when you are doing everything right and your bodies arnt playing ball.

I am very jealous of what you have been up to today wombat I have spent pretty much the whole day on the internet reading various different forums and totally wasting my time and thinking too much. I even found myself reading up about breast feeding!! I need to get a grip I am not even SWI!!!I did find this thread :-

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/legal_matters/1113418-Adoption-fostering-and-a-bit-complex

which is astounding! if you have half an hour to spare, poor woman is amazing!!

DD is now 11 so spending more and more time in her room. And DS is taking all day to write one page of homework whilst daydreaming about what he would sooner be doing!
One of my facebook friends posted this on her facebook today....."has seen her baby boys face, he's the most beautiful thing I've ever seen and has perfect rosebud lips! I'm even more excited now, can't wait to hold him :-) XXX" after going for a 4d scan, I am so jealous!!!
Tomorrow I am going to take the kids swimming and out for lunch, DH is away at work. I always go stupid and maudling.

laters xxxxx

No spotting since yesterday pm. Not sure if I am over seeing this spotting as I have become a bit obsessed with checking cm and check it internally every day using a tissue (TMI). Literally three spots of this blood have made it to my pants and I have only seen it on internal inspection mixed in with the CM. DH jokes that surely if I poke about that much I must be getting the blood from my wisdom tooth extraction!?

I'm not doing any more POAS until Thursday.

I am feeling very hormonal and emotional - yesterday I had both my kids in the double buggy in a lift and a pregnant woman with say a 2 year old started talking to me and rubbing her bump, telling me how she is going to get the same buggy as me. The bump rubbing went on and on. I'm sure she didn't think why I would be a bit and as I had my 2 young lovely boys with me but I was. As I work on cancer unit treating young people and because I got told I had PCOS (?) 12 years ago I have always been very aware of how difficult others find pregnancy to witness. That said I am very lucky to have 2 children and should just look at 3 as a bonus. But I WANT

I know what you mean kitkey I had to shake myself yesterday to be happy with what I have, especially when there are so many people who I read about on here who don't have any DC's yet, and I am happy but I just want this it last forever. (midlife crisis anyone) DD is sharing my shoes now! we went all gooey yesterday over some baby trainers. I bet the lady didnt even realize she was bump rubbing and you never know, she may have been trying for ages for that bump......

Could the spotting be linked to your PCOS? x

I suppose the PCOS could be causing the spotting but I have now got preg 3 times with no problems so trying to ignore the diagnosis as when i was diagnosed I was 7.5stone, surviving on the calories from alcohol, my dad had just died and I was at uni. I went to drs as my periods were amiss and I was losing weight -thought that this was the problem. I I had a blood test and scan though. My day of reckoning has come I suppose.

kitkey I just did some googling, and there are loads of stories of ppl having mid cycle spotting after M/C. One lady said she had it for all of the 5 months until she got PG again. Apparently it is just hormones being a bit heywire and doesn't affect ovulation at all.
xxxxxx

hi ladies hope your all well. kitkeyNot sure if this helps or any words of advice, as im a mear novice, no kids yet and only one pg that ended in an mmc, oh well here i go!! after my mmc in sept, i got a normal period 5 weeks later, 9 days after that i had some spotting which lasted for 5 days, this happened for my next cycle and has now all gone on my third??

Kitkey sorry your having to go through this, its frustrating enough but I agree with worm i does take us all a little while to recover after an mc,after visiting my doc he daid it can take upto 12 weeks for everything to return to normal after the mc but i still feel my hormones are all over the place, been an emotional rek this week...
My parents dog died friday (in my car may i add) and i must of cried most of the weekend!!

Decided not to test again ladies, kinda know this month isnt the month, have a really high temp today, slight under lying headache, terrible wind and an unmistakable rubbeling tummy and bottom!! Af is due tuesday night!!!
So looks like im back to my ttc action again, my poor dh!!!!!!
Waves to all x

Hey chickpeas, sorry to hear so many of you are feeling down this weekend, even the 70's party made me feel sad; it's a great fear of mine that I would host a party and no-one would turn up, mortification! I have images of me stood in my kitchen next Friday crying over burnt scallops as one by one everyone texts to say they can't make it. Someone log in just incase, there will be lots of virtual wine for you!
I had a nice day yesterday, spent mainly in Ikea with sis and baby niece. She is adorable, all pudgy-faced now with the cutest gummy granny grin. I hadn't had any contact with babies before sis had a couple, but I'm quite smitten now. My umpteen cheap purchases inevitably tallied up to quite a sum (damn jubla candles!) but it felt nice and nesty. Today I am practising most of my dishes, and will probably make a big batch of the main course to re-heat on Friday with a refresher glug of wine.
Anyhow, enjoy your Sunday ladies, be happy, our time will come!

sparkly im sure all your friends will turn up, especially given the menu!! I wouldnt anyway, sound delic.....
Planning a nice day today, my mom found a puppy online yesterday so were off to go view her this afternoon, let the broodyness commence!!!
Trying to think positively about my af,s arrival, as my body repairing so hopefully next month will be the month as that would be 4 months post mc..
Also when i think of dates, next month would be better as it means i get to go on mat leave b4 xmas, (working in retail thats a pure bonus!!!), maybe im thinking about it too much!!
And sparkly completly get the ikea candle think, im obsessed, need to go visit again tuesday, candle top is required!!!

Afternoon ladies

sparkly I am certain your dinner party will be a success, I'll be st theatre so won't be able to login but will be thinking of you.

waitingwombat yes I did go to the gym but I am very impressed with all your activity. So do you know if you ovulated this month? You have had an af since erpc haven't you?

The lady on my course is 20 weeks pg and seemed to me to be 'showing off' with a tight top and excessive tummy rubbing but I'm sure that was mainly in my head.

Still no af here but still rumblings, am really getting hopes up so will probably be v upset when af eventually arrives. This is so hard!

Well ladies I caved a did a first response - faint line but def there and a clear blue digital - pregnant 1-2 weeks. AF not due til wed so the next chapter of worries begin.

I am shaking....

Argghhhhh great stuff kitkey!!! first hurdle possibly overcome !!!! everything crossed for you!!!!!xxxxxxxxx

Congratulations kitkey that's great news. Nervousness is only natural, I'm sure you're also still in a bit of shock. Hurrah for another bfp!

Ohmygoodness how very exciting kitkey! Congratulations that is brilliant news.
Just snuck a look on here pre bath time, will be back to read up properly but just wanted to say a little woo-hoo. Understand the shakiness, it's v weird. Take care of yourself, my head is still mostly doing a roller coaster of emotions.

Not getting too excited as had 2 x local anaesthetic this week plus taken a truck load of paracetamol and codeine for my tooth. Eek - they are all safe in pregnancy though. But still I feel a bit chuffed.

Of course you are chuffed kitkey and so you should be!!! with you and manamama we have 2 successes to cheer for. Certainly gives us all hope!!xxxxx

Yay!!! another BFP!! who will be the third???
Benn so busy with uni work, but always check the thread, sorry to hear a few of you have been feeling down, i think we all go through times like them.
Im off next week so will have time to chat away thank god!
Im goin to have a name change to in aid of my stupid blackberry!!

I say do you get it? Do you get it? well it made me laugh! lol

I say Ashley!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Kitkey forgot to say although im sure you know i meant a big congratulations! i hope you stick around too with manamana! x x

OMG!! Just logged on, congrats kitkey isnt this turning into being a lucky thread!!! My af is due tomorrow so feeling very sad today, have to starting symptoms of my af and flu!!! So feel crap!!

Congrats kitkey - bet it feels slightly weird though, we're all here to hold your hand. It is absolutely fab and gives some encouragement to the rest of us!

Sorry I haven't been around much - we're off down under at the end of the month so things are absolutely frantic, last week we were finishing up work which was mad in its own way but glad it's over now!

My sort of good news is that I can feel that AF is on the way 5 weeks after ERPC - good news in the sense that things are getting back to normal and my body is doing what it should! And then we can start ttc again after it's out of the way - going to try (famous last words ) not to over think it and just to let nature take its course, took us 6 months last time, so I'm in for the long haul and will be hanging around with you ladies to hold my hand!