Failed IVF attempt

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My poor poor friend who is desperate for a baby has failed at her first IVF attempt. Can anyone tell me what the stats are? She is young ie 31, very healthy as is her DH - who is also 31. I feel so sorry for her, but feel that if I knew what her chances were of being successful, I would at least be able to help in some way and give her some hope.

Also, and rightly so, she feels as though she has had a miscarriage. I have had two and took 2 weeks off work each time. What have other people done re work after such devastating news?

Thanks in advance. I know this is a difficult topic, but would like to do what I can to help my lovely friend.

Incidentally I have 2 DS's and have had 2 losses both at 12 weeks. She was there for me for both of them, but would the fact I now have children affect the way she might relate to me?

Your poor friend, its a horrible time for her, but I can only agree with londonlottie that you cannot judge by one cycle alone and there is no impact on future cycles unless a specific problem has been identified.

I also agree that she may want to avoid people with children for a while, its just too hard.

My advice to her if she wants to continue with treatment is to research, research, research. My DD arrived this year after 10 years of fertility treatment and I truly believe that it finally worked because we researched different approaches, insisted on further tests and made our own suggestions to the clinic. Infertility treatment is still developing and different clinics/consultants have different approaches that can just make the difference.I will I had known that 10 years ago.

Sorry, wish I had known that 10 years ago.

thanks both for your posts. They are a great help and when my lovely friend feels up to it I will tell her what you have told me.

One of the issues is that they have to pay for it themselves, £5,000 a go is a shed load of money just to TTC.