keeping sex fun.......

[NinjaChipmunk]

how do you do it?? at the moment it all seems geared toward conception and then i go off-mood as it were once ov has finished. I need to pep up my non fertile time libido and am having trouble as it all gets a bit mechanical. anyone got any suggestions?

Give up trying to conceive and concentrate on having fun. That worked for us. 'Productive' sex is desperate :(

its funny, this is the first month i've used ov sticks and i've been a lot more relaxed about the whole thing but i still don't have a very high libido. poor dp, his is stronger than mine and for once i'd like to be the one to initiate it but i just don't feel like it by the time i go to bed.

you mention "by the time I go to bed"

Does it always have to be then? Try varying the time and the place to make things more interesting.

I find I am terrible last thing at night - way too tired to enjoy it really. But during the day on a weekend, or maybe just after you put the kids to bed on a week night, that can work for us.

I admit it's difficult though to keep the passion alive. It helps to laugh together along the way and not be too serious.

Morning sex is much better and sets you up for the day.

May not appeal to everyone, but I find getting the sexy underwear out really helps. Both him and me! Gets us both in the mood a bit more. Easier to act sexy when I'm not in my slobby tracksuit and unbrushed teeth saying "come on then darling!"

For him:

yesterday I 'went to the loo' and came out into the living room completely starkers That did it for DH.

For me:

Tell him how brilliant he is at giving oral sex and how 'I've read somewhere' that if a woman climaxes before intercourse she's more likely to conceive

Although we've only just started ttc so I may have to revisit this thread in 6 months time.