Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all, laughing. All welcome (Part 7)

[MamaPower]

A comfy little corner for those who need company in the post mc ttc journey!

To POAS or not to POAS? That is the question!

All welcome

Hello girlies,

Just back from a surprise baby shower It was supposed to be a surprise for the mother to be (DH's sis) but it was also a surprise for me as clueless DH didnt know it was a baby shower unitl a couple of hours before hand (he said he thought it was just "a lunch" - men!) So I had to sprint round getting and wrapping a present, making the whole family presentable and digging out the camera. Luckily all the rushing around meant that I didnt have any time to worry about whether it would make me feel sad or not, and it all was all over quite quick. So Phew!, thats that done with at least.

chocky hope that nasty bug disappears soon and you start feeling better. xx

Pink, temp jumps are exciting arent they? I know what you mean about charting making you feel all proactive. I credit it for helping me identity my current problem, if I hadnt been able to identify ovulation I would still be letting doctors fob me off telling me to wait a bit longer for my cycles to come back. If you want to share your chart I'm happy to over analyse it with you.

apples good news about the scan! I'm glad for you My appointment with the gyne is on Tuesday, I am starting to get nervous about it already. I dont know when doctors appointments became such huge scary ordeals for me, but each one has a three day stress build up before hand and then it takes about a week to wind down from the news after! Exhausting!

Jamface I would definitely keep up the SWI if I were you. I think OPK's have a downside in that they can give you a false sense of security and make you stop SWI too soon. The instructions say ov is 12-36 hours after the positive but this is not guaranteed. Stress, ill health, travel, exercise can all delay ov for days. So remember you have detected an LH surge, but you havent detected ovulation, so dont stop the SWI! (if you want you can use temping or cervix checking to know when to stop)

wonderif sorry for your loss. I remember your name from other threads too, hello again. Make yourself at home here, these ladies are all so lovely and supportive, hope they help you as much as they have helped me. P.S. Hope it is implantation! xx

Nix pretty interesting symptoms there... FX for you xxx

Hello wonderif sorry for your loss :( Sorry, I am of absolutely no use on what the new bleeding means, but I have got everything crossed for you for ovulation or implantation!!

nix I too am very excited about your symptoms! Peeing lots has to be a good sign, surely??!?! Heheh maybe if I tell my body I'm not dieting but I'm actually xeroxing maybe it will leave me alone with the constant daydreams about chocolate cake?? [hhmm]

mummya you poor thing with the surprise baby shower! Hehehe about DH having no idea what the party was about, lucky you found out otherwise could have been soooo embarrassing! My temp is back down low again today, trying not to get too worried about anovulation yet, especially as I know for a fact I sleep with my mouth open so reckon the whole thing is likely to be meaningless...... DH is feeling quite victorious this morning about his decision to withhold services yesterday and stick with the every other day rule - lucky he's sensible otherwise we would have peaked too soon again. I would love to share my chart with you - it's here: www.fertilityfriend.com/home/318e86 hehehehe would love to see what you make of that! I'll have to wait and see what the evil shag dictator machine has to say about things later on today (I made a hash of setting it up on day 1 so it only accepts pee sticks from 7:15 onwards, so I have to pee in a plastic cup and be patient when I get up!!) Good luck with the gynae tomorrow - I have everything crossed that they will be Dr House-esque and know exactly what the problem is and how to fix it xx

Have a lovely day everyone, even though it is Monday..... xx

Also, meant to say mummya were you ok after baby shower? Hope it didn't upset you :( xx

That would be photocopied cake fondant!

Heheh nix I'm thinking of changing my name to rabbitfood.....

hello everyone,

Welcome wonderif, sorry to find you here but I hope we can help. It does seem a bit early for an implantation bleed but tbh who knows!? One thing (apart from the obvious ) that we all have in common on this thread is that post mc our bodies don't do what we think they're going to do when we think they should do it. I have had one ovulation bleed in my life and that was shortly after my mc but fingers crossed yours is implantation.

Good luck for the doctor's appt mummy. It's really no wonder you get worked up before, you've had such a lot of them recently and none if them have resulted in reassurance or a solution, so I've got everything crossed that this one gives you some answers.

Thanks also for advice re. swi and opks! I was wondering how useful the OPK was because I'd already decided to try (if Dh is feeling obliging ) to dtd every other day during fertile period, so have so far on day 8, 10 and plan to tonight and wednesday (oh nothing like a bit of spontaneity ). Then I saw that positive OPK and got thrown. Then again, I don't think I could do without them as like everyone else on here I'm pretty obsessed with what my body is doing and observing it gives me the delusion of control when of course it is almost entirely out of my hands! Oh for the days of just shagging and seeing what happens...

wonderif sorry my reply to you last night was so short and i hope not sounding blunt or insincere...why do i always post when falling asleep from a phone that cant spell? So... i wanted to say a big warm welcome to you, its rubbish you find yourself on here, and i am so very very sorry you have suffered your loss. I hope you are muddling through and are able to look forward. I hope your bleed is implantation, i really do! I am probably not the best person to ask about dates, as mine seem twice as long as everyone elses! The reason i mentioned mid cycle bleeding is because i got that for the first time ever this month just gone! around day 13/14 spotting!... i then didnt ov for a few days...delayed by stress though i think! Seconding Jam i have never had OV bleed before, and this is my first proper cycle post MC... so body is just doing what it wants!!

Anyway, i hope it is implantation, that would be wonderful :) If it is OV and you are wanting to TTC then it could be just the right time to catch the egg, if thats what you are ready to do :) big squeeze

Mummy you are so knowledgeable and eloquent on here! AKA oracle with an incredible manner! Thankyou for being so knowledgeable and helpful to me, and to everyone :) Its really helped me reading TCOYF... and starting to temp... having said that i have bought a celsius thermometre that i dont know whether is working as temp is pretty static! Flat line chart... mmmm maybe not. may have to upgrade to a farenheit then at least i can compare it with the others in the book [hgrin]

mummy big slap on the back for being supremo organiser for getting sorted last minute and so well done for going and not getting upset :) MEN what are they like?!

fondant still new to temping but either my thermomertre is broken or i am the same temp every day ha ha ha ! Jam the days of shagging and lets see have never been in my world - sadly....!! My spontaneous shagging is normally planned a week or month in advance!!

Obsessed? Never!Ha ha [hgrin] I cant remember the last time i wasnt on knicker watch...... [hhmm]

Symptoms - hmm!
Who the hell knows i think i am making them up!!! Desparate imagination is creating them in my brain sending me delusional!

wave to everyone!

izzy where are you chicka? are you worn out from your SWI efforts? Hope so... hoping for some good news from some this monthxxx xx

nix maybe that's what happens when you take you temp rectally.... [hgrin]

God, I'm knackered. DS hAS A COLD, A HORRIBLE ONE, HENCE NONE OF US ARE SLEEPING (fricking caplock) well, or getting any more swi done as ds slept in our bed las night keeping us awake and kicking us in the head continually.. And now I feel like i'm coming down with something. Never mind, probably over swi days now anyway (17 with long lp).

How are you all? the Iphone looks to be a little confusing spelling wise, hey nickster? and Americanised??{grin] I want one when my contract's up in January.

Well done mummya on the babyshower. Very proud of you over here.

Who's due for testing?? I think October will be a good month!

How did those of you with small children manage to take your temps accurately? or maybe your dc sleep better than mine[hhmm]

waves to all!

afternoon all - was at an 80s party Saturday night where I drank too much and stayed up way too late, thus spent most of yesterday in Hangover Land. Seriously think I am getting too old for all of this...

nicks I do think your symptoms sound promising!!! My temp sometimes looks pretty static, so try not to worry, main thing at this time of the month is you don't want it to dip, so I guess static is actually good. Will be watching for news [hsmile]

wonderif welcome to the thread, although I'm sorry you're here. I remember you from your mc thread at the time because it was only a week or two after my mmc at 16/17 weeks. I hope things settle down for you soon and you get some good news. Fwiw, I had implantation bleeding in all my pregnancies, so wouldn't rule it out.

pink I also got a similarly scary list of forbidden food from my acupuncturist - I have to admit I'm not getting too carried away with it. I'm vegetarian so limited enough as it is and I do think a certain amount of eg dairy products are good for you. I'm looking on it as guidance, but am not going to follow it to the letter. Anyway, having drunk my own body weight in wine on Saturday, there seems to be little point in trying to treat my body like a temple now (unless it's some kind of Bacchinalian temple where everyone just gets pissed).

mummya sending you lots of good luck vibes for the appointment tomorrow, hope you get a good dr this time and some good news to go with it.

cd20 here and CBFM has just gone to peak. Seeing as my usual cycle is 28-29 days and last month was 26 with spotting from day 24, this is pretty crap. Still I'm ever the optimist and so the shagathon continues...

Also feeling pretty pissed off - and I know this is off topic - because I was talking to some of the mums from DS's old school at the party and found out that we've been truly screwwmed over (for want of a better phrase) by the priest re schools. I know I've mentioned it before but basically DS had to move schools halfway through year1 in march because DD couldn't get into his (catholic) school because they were baptised CofE. I actually converted to Catholicism a while ago when DS first started school, he and DD went to the catholic pre-school too. They come to mass with me every week and I asked the priest whether they could be received into the church and he said no, because they were already baptised. Have now found out this is bollocks, they could have been received into the church and DD would then have counted ad catholic, and got a school place as a catholic sibling. DS would not have had to move and all that stress and the sleepless nights could have been avoided.

I am so [hangry] that he basically lied to us and was prepared to watch little children be subjected to all that upheaval and disruption unneccessarily just because they were baptised in a different church. It's mad.

Anyway enough of my ranting - sorry. It's just that my faith is one of the few things that's kept me going since the mmc and now I just don't know how I feel about it anymore [hsad]

. Not sleeping us miserable, you have my sympathy there...

Pink Nice looking chart there, I dont like the way FF shows you a different size chart pre-ov so maybe you cant see it yet, but it looks great to me. After a big temp rise/ov detected the chart will stretch out and you get more of a range on the vertical side, its MUCH easier to see whats going on then. Good thing DH is saving his energy, I think ov is a coming!
I am quite suprised with myself at how well I took the baby shower, I had been dreading it a few months ago but it was fine. I think it helped that NO ONE asked me when I was going to have a baby next, dont know if that was accident or design but I was grateful.

Jamface good luck with the opk's. I have just been having more of a chat about them here

Nix does seem a bit dodgey that your temps are all the same. Want to share you chart? I remember someone (Izzy?) on here had a themometer that reverted to the same setting every day if you didnt manually switch it off after use. Could this be your case? It cant be right if it is giving exactly the same temp. Thanks for all your lovely compliments by the way Most people on charters have celcius themometers, I dont think it makes any difference which you have, there are millions of charts on there and on FF that you can compare with (there is a cool overlay button where you place your chart over someone elses)

batgirl sorry you are ill. rubbish. DS wakes me up everynight too. He comes crawling into our bed doing the headkicking thing too. I just stick the themometer in as soon as I wake up, no matter what time of night that is. occasionally I have to get out of bed to see him and then I cant take a temp but otherwise I can still get a chart to work. For the first week or so I tried taking my temp as soon as I woke, and also taking at a set wake up time (6) and then comparing the two. The first waking one was always more accurate as long as I had had at least three hours sleep. I found the more I did it the easier it is to spot an inaccurate temp and discard it, but obviously around ov time when its a bit more crucial I just prey that DS will let me temp properly!

Izz saw your 80's facebook photos! Nice! sorry about your priest/ds's school. Have you got enough fight in you to get them moved back? Or is that silly as it would cause even more disruption? Hope things look a bit better when the hangover has gone. xxxx

TMI alert....[hblush]

Pink discharge!
got that last time day before BFP........

also could be AF starting but you never know ..... oh the suspension.

I think one of the main problems with my temps is yes Mummy i really should think about resetting it! Knowing how to use the tools would help, yes?!

The other thing, like you, and bats i can be up and down like a yoyo if DS so much as grizzles in his sleep, its programmed into me, as a reflex..... and so that doesnt help!

Have been loading the temps into my phone, IPeriod as it produces a chart only cos i keep forgetting FF passwords. Will start to use FF very soon i promise and your help will be gratefully received.

Sorry you all feel like poo. I feel like poo too :( Lurgied up to the eyeballs, but feeling a lot better today. Abstaining from drugs just in case (everything in my life is just in case at the minute) so the most potent i am allowing myself is chocolate digestives and throat sweets!

Izz i would be so bloody angry if that was my DC affected by unneccessary school move :( i hope you write a stinking letter :)

sorry you are feeling rough Nix It is safe to take paracetomol in pregnancy, although I can understand why you would be extra wary of taking anything next time round. Having said that I would definitely take paracetomol if I had a fever as the temp rise puts the bean at more risk than any drugs.

Thanks Mummy i did take 2 yesterday in desparation :( it goes totally against my grain, but docs have said to me they are safe to take too... i just prefer not to.

Ooh nicks how exciting! >

yes it was me with the dodgy thermometer readings - I got into the habit of taking temp while half asleep then turning it on later to read. Basically I discovered that if I turned it on by pressing button once and letting go, it showed me the default 36.5. If I held the button down it would show me the last reading. Could this be where you're going wrong?

mummya in a word, no, I really can't be arsed to fight it and move them back. Although the old school was better on paper, they like the school they're at now, and so do I. Also, although I know I shouldn't think it, the priest is clearly an arse and is very involved at the old school, and I don't like the thought of them being somewhere where they're effectively seen as second class because they were baptised in a different church. I'm just so cross that we went through all this when ww shouldn't have had to. Grrr grrr.

Well done on the baby shower btw, sometimes it's easier when you don't have to think about it beforehand isn't it? Still stressful to have it landed on you like that though!

Don't hold your breath I think it's the mighty witch starting (damn damn damn )

[hsad]

I was just going to dig out my suspenders too.

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Bats you loon!

Sitting here crossing legs as if that's gonna stop Af..... Doh

Izz def with you re faulty therm user!! 36.5 my temp too ah ha ha ha!!!

Loola.... Did you test yet?

@ suspenders

sorry if it is AF nix![hsad]

Izzy yes it looks like your kids are in the right place, far away from the arsey priest! I feel for you having to go through all that stress, but I'm glad that your DS's have settled now.

Am liking the sussies, Bat

buggeration, Nicks , fingers crossed it's not the red tide advancing. Surely we're due some more bfps in here by now?

MummyA well done at surviving the baby shower :)

I have a splendid non-symptom today: I can't stop eating chocolate.

MONDAYS LIST

Pinkie08 TTC#3 UCL 29
Lottiecrump UCL 27/29
cheepz TTC#2 (round 4) UCL29
Littlemiss72 TTC#1(post MC#2) UCL 29 BFP
BrownB TTC#1 Cycle 15 (post MC#1) UCL 24-26 CD 46
Loola2shu TTC#3 Cycle 2 (post nmc#1) ucl??? (PCOS) CD42
Freezingmyarseoff TTC#2 cycle 3 UCL28 CD37
Nickstermum TTC#2 cycle 1 post MC UCL 30-40 CD36
PrettyVacant1 TTC#1 Cycle 5(round 7)UCL 28-30 CD30
DachshundsRule TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL28 CD30
Tunnocksteacakes TTC #2, WTF cycle, UCL? CD29
getawiggleon TTC#2, MC#1, UCL28, CD26
owlshoes TTC#1, cycle 4, UCL 28, CD26
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 19 UCL24-9 CD 22
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 4 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD22
kat2504, TTC#1, cycle 2 UCL 26, CD21
choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 3 UCL 27 CD20
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 3 UCL26-28 CD20
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 1 (post MC) UCL 31 CD20
youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 3 UCL33 CD18
Inbetweener TTC#3 Cycle 3 UCL 29 CD16
pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle 3, UCL 28 CD14
Jamface TTC#2 cycle 4 (post MC#2), UCL 27 CD12
LadyBee TTC#2, cycle 3 (round 3) UCL27 CD9
velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 3 UCL 35, CD7
sunchild77 TTC#3 cycle 5, UCL 24-28, CD7
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, (round 3) cycle 2 UCL 30 CD6

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Sillyness TTC#1 post MC1 WTF cycle
Jollster TTC #2, MC3 conf 16th Aug
BackOnceAgain TTC#3, MC 17th Aug
Shitforbrains TTC#3, MC 1st Sep
Sarahmia TTC#2, MC2
MummyAbroad TTC #2,(MMC#1 31 Mar, ERPC 7 Jul)
Urbanlolly
? KT
Mousebacon TTC#2 MC#1 4th Oct WTF cycle
barrenbrook TTC#1, MC#4 Oct 2010
Lemonsherbet TTC #1, ERPC 15 Oct 2010, WTF cycle
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delilahbelle TTC#1

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