TTC after a Miscarriage - Let This Be Our Lucky Thread!!!

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Right Ladies, lets hope this helps speed up our ability to read and type more messages and help and support one another through these tough times.

This thread is for laughing at, crying at, screaming at, bawling at!!

We've all been through so much, and together we can get one another through it. Lets Do It!!!!!!

Here's to weeks of Bd and legs in the air

Love and positive hugs to you all.

xxx

And my legs...

'get off your horse and drink your milk...'(said in a john wayne drawl..)

Hello everyone!

Oh, Shelly sweetheart, I'm so sorry. I hope you are looking after yourself and taking good care. Thinking of you and sending you lots of love. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Hope the rest of you are okay today. HK you must test if you think you are, y'know. You must be careful.

Having a cr@p day today. I really want to talk to you but I'm not sure you want to hear me moaning, after all I'm not the only one having a hard time. Keep trying to tell myself there are others worse off. But why does that make me feel worse...?

Oh and BTW, thank you all for thinking of me even though I haven't been on much lately xxx

coathanger - moan away thats what we're here for, might help take our minds off ourselves by supporting you. Hope you're alright

CP - you nutcase. have you used CAT now?

Well, if your sure...

Just feel like sh*t at the mo. Its been 5 weeks since I had MC and I'm struggling more now than then. When it happened I could cry and cry, let it all out and people were sympathetic. But now I can't cry, as well as feeling I shouldn't because people have quickly forgetten what has happened, I've found I have no more tears left.
Went shopping this morning with 2 friends and as 1 has a small baby (hard in itself) we ended up in the childrens dept of a clothes shop looking at baby clothes. I don't have a problem being in a kids dept as I have kids, but I couldn't do baby clothes. I was really upset and angry, but I couldn't cry. I was almost numb. I think its healthy to cry, but what happens when you can't let it out.

I also think it was insensitive to take me to that department. Why has everyone forgotten so quickly? I wanted to run, but I would have looked silly. They were cooing over baby clothes and actually saying " OO, look at this". Why do that?!?! They are supoosed to be friends.

And the one with the little baby keeps asking me to hold her little one whilst she does things with her older child. I don't want to hold her baby, it's too much right now. But I feel I can't say no because she would struggle with the 2 of them. So i feel obliged to say yes.

I'm actually finding myself feeling quite resentful towards PG women in the street now. Didn't feel like that at first, but its killing me now.

See i told you you didn't want to hear me moan, I've gone on too long now...

ARRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!

sorry had to do that

Does anyone mind if I join in? I've been sneakily watching but not daring to even think...

Coathanger. It was insensitive, but people get wrapped up in the results not the route. Loads and loads and loads of hugs honey

Hi Wills! You are more than welcome to join us.

How are you?

Anyone else there???!!!

Yes I am on CAT now,sent shel a note so she can contact me.We have so much in common,both had stillbirth,m/c and lost mums at young age to breast cancer.Uncanny.As I now have a dd hoping that she will have that in common with me very soon

CH know what you mean about people forgeting.When I lost Philippa everyone avoided me.Now its like it never happened.Even dh said the other week 'I dont know whats got into you lately..' !!!

I screamed back 'Oh maybe its something to do with the fact that I had to give birth to my dead daughter and then watch you carry her coffin to be cremated??'He has been as nice as pie since.

Yes I know I have Lucy and I know how v v blessed I am.But I dont appreciate strangers telling me this as if it takes the pain away.

Your friend needs to put her brain in gear.Asking you to hold a newie so soon is v v hard.My next door neighbout had a boy three days before I had Philippa and though I went to see him early on I have not held him to date.Going to see another newie next week and I hope she knows to handle me with care!!

Gonna start testing Sun.It will be 10 days since ov and I have the early tests to be used from 7-10 days so heres hoping.Wish I could wait for period due date rather than go through the 'oh its negative,well I might have tested too early' saga but I am crap and have noooooo willpower.

Rant over,gonna go and buy a can of pop and some choc peanuts now before I pick lucy up

Do any of you live in Greater Manchester?

Flippin eck did not mean to type an essay

ChocolatePeanut! How dare they! I have two dds and they're wonderful. I've also had two mcs (+ 1 that I strongly suspect). My gp thinks I should be satisfied. Why!!!! The best thing I have ever ever ever done was create my two girls. Why should I not want more! and why should I be satisfied! AAARRRRGGGHHHHH

Anyway... Want to join in. Have never had problems concieving before, just carrying to term. I'm 36 and scared that as this is the second month of trying (but only first of seriously focusing) that this is not going to be easy. Petrified that between trying to concieve and possibly miscarrying I'm simply going to get too old. There said it! Its been wondering around in my head for days now! Phew feels much better now its out. Go on tell me I'm stupid

welcome wills, just wanted to say hi, very busy with the kids right now but will be back later. CH - briefy read your message thinking of you. hope you're alright, back soon
xxx

CP - why do people feel the need to say that. I'm in the same boat with 3 DS's already. I know I'm lucky but that doesn't make losing a baby easier. As you said Wills, having such gorgeous kids already makes me want another even more.

Sorry, CP, not in Manchester, I'm down Sowf (Kent)

Oh and Wills, 36 is not old!!!! But I know what you mean about it being too late. I'm meant to be going to uni to train as a midwife (if I get my place) and I think DH would rather I wait to TTC til I'm qualified, but that would make me 36 plus, and think I'll be a bit old then. But I suppose lots of women have babies much later than that...

Welcome Wills!
Ch- Awwwww hunny {{{{{hugs}}}}}}. Hope you feel better getting it off your chest! That's what we're here for.
Cp- Northamptonshire here hun! Was thinking earlier (great minds) would've been cool doing a surprise thingy for her. SHhh about choc!!! God I'm desperate for it (not sex, choc ). Ohhhh M&M's, nutty choc from Lidls, Starbars!!! Oh the list is endless!
Think I'm going to have to test, if anything put me out of my misery. Trying not to even dare think I am but it's there, niggling away, little voice taunting me saying "You're pg".

When would AF be due HK? Have you got a test at home?

And lidls nutty choc - YUMMMMMEEEEE!!!!!!

God!!i've missed LOADS since i wrote this morning!!!!....no ones ever around when i send messages most of the time!!(does anyone else get that!?).
Am in lots of pain and have been summoned to the sofa,with a mug of tea,choccies and laptop!!Seriously though,its starting to really hurt,like the real bad period pains i got as a teenager,am afraid of the next couple of days as i feel its going to get alot worse before it eases off
Have just read through the messages.....
c.p:Thank you for CATing me earlier(i'd tried to do the same to u yesterday,but was unsuccessful....figures now as you haven't done it before!!)I will def take you up on your offer,just as soon as i'm feeling better,am ok typing at the mo...but not much else!!...have to keep stopping when the pain takes my breath away!!,lots of love and hugs to you.....(heres hoping a dd comes my way huh!!?then that would be REALLY weird aye!!??
c.h:I'm araid when people haven't experienced a stillbirth or miscarriage,that just don't know how to react and rarely take on board how you are going to feel having all things 'baby' where ever you go!!!I got really angry with some of my friends who just didn't have a clue!!!...i had to spell it out to them and they just genuinly didn't know that i would be like that!!Its a truely personal heartache,that is like no other,and can only be truely felt by people like us on mn.xSo you rant as much as you like babe.x
How is everyone else???....
Oh,and hellkat,don't you DARE think you can't share any good news(when not 'if' you get it!),just because of peepee and me,i'm sure i can speak for both of us when i say it would be fantastic to hear!!!(silly!!).x.x.x
Oh,and hi to wills,welcome aboard.x.x.

Ch- Not sure hun. Af's are all over the place lasting from 1 and a half months to 2weeks. But if it's a 3weekly cycle, then due on Friday (that's what I was before) or if it's a 4 weekly one I'll be due next Friday.
Really freaking here! Even got dodgy taste in my mouth and headaches!
Ohhhhh Lidls!!! That swiss tasting one, big bar, cheap with the hazelnuts. YUMMMMMMMMM

Ch- Re-reading your post, your mates are really insensitive! If I were you and she asked me I'd say "No thankyou, incase you've forgotten I only lost my own baby a little while ago!" Then again I can be a gobby cow lol. But seriously, that's just not on! It's not like it was years ago fgs. Ohhhh proper narked me that has!

All, lidl's choc is fabby!!

So the earliest you would test is Friday - Hmmmmmm. Not sure what i would do myself. Think I would wait til Friday. If that was neg then wait til next friday. Really wishing hard for lots of luck and seding you (and everyone else here) loads and loads of babydust
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Hmm, babydust, everybodies favourite thing

How you doing Shelly? Are the pains coming from your lower back too? Im glad someone is there looking after you. xxxx

Chocolatecowboylegs ill test with you on Sunday.

Oh and Shelly, forget to say it happens to me all the time!!! everyone on here could be chatting like billio, but as soon as I post everyone buggers off!!!!!!! but don't take it personally, I don't.....or should I????.......

Its all around the front at the moment,like really intence period pains,just want to curl up in a ball!!!Just trying to relax on sofa and watching 'paul o'grady' on ITV,he makes me chuckle.x
How are you maddyd,i've got my fingers crossed for you this month.x.x