Clearblue Fertility Monitor Support Group Buddies Vol 4!!

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Time for us to move home again ladies!

Thanks for encouragemnt Fedup ... it is quiet here, not sure why today! Ah, the key thing is Fedup that no-one at work knows apart from the person to authorise time off and he is sworn to confidentiality!! Couldn't cope there ... though if I do get fertility treatment I am not sure how to handle that with colleagues, as every female in my area has at least one child!

Hi Keziah yep you are right that it's best to have tests repeated. Fertility clinic where we are are strict too. DH (he's a GP in a town to the north of the city in which we live, but refers to the same fertility clinic) has had referrals rejected for his patients where tests have been inconclusive or not done correctly. He also added fertility clinics are so strict to keep the cost down! [Hmm] There is no reason why they can't do the tests, and they are more experienced in running them, BUT if you refer as much back to the GP as possible then it doesn't come out of their budget!

Am booked in for fasting blood glucose, thyroid function and rubella antibodies tomorrow. I will be on CD 21 of a 28 day cycle, so DH has told me to ask the nurse to do a day 21 progesterone, if the GP hasn't ordered it (he says this is a pre-requisite for our NHS fertility clinic). Not sure if I feel comfortable instructing nurse what to do. Wish DH could go with me!

Fedup With respect to your work and long hours, do you think that might be having a negative impact on ttc? Sorry if I am being too nosy. Just tell me to p**s off, I won't be offended. The reason why I ask is that I left work in May due to two factors. Very high stress levels (although I loved my job and was very good at what I did) and an absolutely manic diary (I travelled every week and was away from home on average 3 nights a week). With a DH who is required to do rolling on-calls at weekends we had very little opportunity to BD. Certainly my GP asked us about frequency of BDing when we went to see her. Official guidance is every two to three days, and that can be really really hard with modern working demands. Sorry - hope I haven't offeded you, or anybody else for that matter. I don't like being off work and I've become very, very down. This is not helped by the fact that DH hasn't told his parents the real reasons and I keep getting pressure on me by FIL to get a job. He insinuates I am being lazy. It's really hurtful and DH and I row about his father a lot. (I am doing voluntary work, but FIL told me that it was a "waste of time") Although the decision to give up work was a difficult one, it really was a chicken and an egg scenario. DH and I kept missing ovulation because I ovulate mid-week and I was always away!

Today's stats ladies

Hope everybody is well?

FlyingCat TTC#1, cycle 26, CBFM cycle 2, age 30, UCL 28-29, CD92
Rach879 TTC#1 cycle 7, CBFM cycle 1, age 30, UCL 30-34, CD59
BabyHoping TTC#1, CBM cycle 4, age 33, ucl 31-38, CD 57
Emmylou30 TTC #1, Cycle 2, CBFM cycle 1, age 30 UCL 35 CD49
Ses TTC#2, cycle 2 CBFM cycle 4, age 37, UCL 30 CD39
Jenni4 TTC#2, cycle 5 CBFM cycle 2, age 36, UCL 26 CD39
ljg TTC#3 Cycle 4, CBFM cycle 3 age 38 UCL 28-30 CD35
Starlet22 TTC#1; cycle 13; CBFM cycle 7; age 33; ucl 25; CD27
wantbaby TTC#1, cycle 9, CBFM cycle 3, age 38, UCL 30, CD 27
Hairytriangle TTC#1 cycle 10, CBFM cycle 1, age 42, UCL 28/29, CD25
Rosieposey TTC#5, Cycle 10, CBFM cycle 2, age 38, ucl 29-3, CD24
Keziah TTC#1, cycle25, CBFM cycle 13, age 35, ucl 28-31, CD 23
Missyraines TTC1, Cycle 11, CBFM cycle 6, age 33, UCL 32, CD23
KnackeredCow TTC#1, Cycle 12, CBFM cycle 1, age 31, UCL 28, CD21
PinkCustard TTC#2 Cycle9 CBFM Cycle4 age 33 UCL 30-35 CD 21
Stormbird TTC #1, Cycle #4, CBFM Cycle #4, age 28, UCL 28 CD17
TangoTime TTC #1, Cycle #6, CBFM Cycle #2, age 32, UCL 28 CD16
Boba82 TTC#1 cycle 16, CBFM cycle 3, age 28, UCL ?, CD16
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy, TTC#3 Cycle 2, CBFM cycle 2, age 34, UCL 28-29, CD12
chocciechip TTC#1 cycle 8, CBFM cycle 8, age 39, UCL29, CD4
Lychees TTC #2, Cycle 12, CBFM cycle 8, Aged 36, UCL 30-35, CD3
Headbanger TTC #1, Cycle #9, CBFM cycle #2, Aged 30

GRADUATES

Harry2007 BFP 01/08/10
Vnewmummy BFP 19/08/10
Row78 BFP 07/09/10

KC: not offended at all. I am a QC, and DO work long hours and stress is definitely an inherent feature. However, on the plus side, we are home in the evenings together, and all weekends. I did take a three month break in January, but was a like a fish out of water. I have been doing my present job for fifteen years now. Without it I am completely lost.
We BD infrequently throughout the month. However, when the smiley face shows up DO IT for 3 days consecutively. The last cycle we did it 2 days before the smiley face and 3 days after. I did have the symtomms, accompanied by cystitis, only for AF to rear its ugly head with a vengeance.
Without children, I can just about manage, as I have not known any different;without my career, I feel like I've lost a limb. Completely out of my depth.
The regularity of my cycle and ovulation like clockwork is what baffles the medical community as well as us; on top of all the test coming back ship shape. I DO believe that stress may be hampering my chances; but sat at home, I stress more. I cannot sit still. When I had the three months 'out', I managed to draw up some plans for extending our house, and managed to carry them out:in our break:even more stressful than being at work:trying to get the materials and builders in the same place at the same time:nightmare. But it did come good in the end. I hope this ttc comes good in the end too. It is THE one thing I have failed to achieve:hence my life choices haunting me constantly:on a daily basis.

Hi Everybody,

Hope you are all well. Been reading through the posts - my there is a lot to get through.

Welcome to fedup Izzy Want & Attenborough

So CD17 for me and still no Peak. Had highs since Friday (I think). Can't really understand it as usually OV around CD15. If I OV late according to the CBFM I'm hoping for a long cycle like the last one otherwise my luteal phase will be short and as I understand it thats not great for implantation. The strange thing is I've had positive OPK's since Saturday (I know I shouldn't be doing these too but I can't help POAS). Still haven't had that all important and significant temp rise though. I do hope that I get a peak tomorrow or I think I'll be worrying about it!!!

On the plus side we have BD'd everyday since CD9 (we even managed it twice in one day ).

TMI ALERT DP however has complained that he has noticed he's not producing as much semen as usual, but I said to just put that down to way too much BDing. I hope I'm right!!!

Must dash......will post again soon.

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thanks for the welcome stormbird. how long you been trying? you certainly seem to have covered all bases. I've been told not to take the opks too seriously:just as a rough guide. as you have done the main thing:BDing all over the ovulation days, just keep fingers crossed that this will be your month.x

Hi Fedup and thanks, this is our 4th month of trying for #1 and 4th month actually TTC.

We were expecting but our first baby had a fatal neural tube disorder and we terminated at 15wks back in may. So as soon as we could we started trying again. I'm getting really fed up of these BFN's just lately though.

Fingers crossed and good luck with your TTC adventure.

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Hello ladies, long time no post. Have had some RL worries to be contending with and i havent felt much like posting tbh but am just poking my head in to catch up generally and say hello.

This is my second month on the CBFM and charting and so far both seem to be working. Last month i didnt get a single peak on my CBFM and i thought that was because whenever i have had a positive opk its always in the afternoon so i set my M button this month to 3pm and tested after midday, sure enough on day 16 i got my peak (at about 2.30pm) and my temps went up the day after so fingers crossed this two week wait comes to something (probably not though) I have the worlds shortest lh surges though because when i tested again (for fun) at 8pm it was gone on and the opk that i tested with was neg, same next morning so it just goes to show that i would miss my surge if i tested in the morning as my surges seem to happen in the afternoon and literally only for a few hours - temps have confirmed that ov took place though.

Welcome to the newbies :) really hope you get your bfp's soon - ive been trying since January and i guess in the grand scheme of things 8 months isnt long but considering we do it at the right time every month and im about to hit 39 i am beginning to wonder ... i think i had a chemical pg in Feb as i got a few positives really early on then they turned neg at about 10dpo followed by three day late AF so who knows maybe there was success but a sticky one would be great.

stormbird:so sorry about your termination. hope it happens for you soon.do remember though that sometimes it takes a few months for your body to return to normal after something so traumatic. on a positive note, as your body has got pregnant before, it will do so again, just as soon as it is ready; this time, fingers crossed, you'll have a healthy, happy nine months with a healthy baby at the end, please God.
hi rosie, nice to 'meet' you. hope everything in RL resolves itself soon, and you can get to grips with charting,etc. all this business is stressful in itself if you ask me.x

Hello Fedup, I was surprised to find that charting is quite good - im a bit crap on timings and sometimes am an hour or more out in taking my temps but used in conjunction with the monitor its a really good way to tell when you are about to ovulate and when you actually have, Still hasnt got me up the duff yet though

stormbird the same happens to us, after too many days BDing DH says he feels that not so much is coming out. When that happens to us we tend to wait a day without doing it to build back but we do not worry with that at all.

KC - great you getting all those bloods done. I agree with asking the nurse (she could always check with a dr there and then ) for the day 21 progesterone test .. it was a pre-requisite before referral sent for me. Also the day 3 one for comparison and a prolactin blood test (as if that is too high, dont' ovulate!) - mine is too high but apparently not high enough for medication!!Yes, annoying about other tests, but having bloods etc takes time anyway! Also if going for NHS funding both of your BMI has to be below 30 (mine was 31, now 28) - though am sure that will be ok for you. Can be above 30 for testing etc, but not for IUI or IVF etc.

It is weird, go to fertility clinic - new one, so 4th apt in reality this week and I am symptom spotting (lots of trips to loo, sore breasts etc!) - I know it is most unlikely, but should I take a pg test before I go? I will be 11dpo then?

Hi Girls,

Just a short post to let you know that at my scan today I have been told that I have had a missed miscarriage at 8 weeks. So upset and heartbroken. i have to go to hospital next week for an operation.

We have decided to give up completely as this was are last chance.

xx

Oh vnewmummy I am so very sorry for your loss. I really don't know what to say to you except that I am sure that everybody on this thread is thinking of you. You must be devastated.

Viewmummy I am so very sorry for your loss, totally heartbreaking and so unfair...My heart goes out to you and your family, thinking of you at this very sad time. XXX

vnewsmummy I´m so, so sorry... I hope you recover soon

nbewsmummy I'm so sorry to hear your devastating news. Thinking of you and your family xx

vnewmummy i am so so sorry :( had really high hopes for you ... please take care of yourselves :(

vnewmummy - I am so so sorry . Thinking of you xx

vnewmummy I'm thinking of you hunny and your family. I am so sorry about your sad news. Devastating isn't the word when it comes to this kind of news but I hope you have great support in RL. Big Hugs xxxxx

vnewmummy, I am so sorry about what has happened, hun. Life can be so unfair. You are in my thoughts.

Vnewmummy, please accept my heartfelt sympathies. I am so sorry for your loss. Hope your family take care of you at such a sad time in your life. Take care of your health honey, I know it's easy to say....xxx

vnewmumy am sorry to hear your devastating news. x

vnewmummy I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. My thoughts are with you, take care xxx

Hello everyone, hope all ok?

I've started spotting today, have high temp and bad cramps, so just waiting for it kick in and come away...kinda new It would happen as my pregnancy symptoms vanished two days ago and have been having lower back pain like last time.
Thankfully my gp is excellent and has already put the wheels in motion to try and find out whats going on? firstly bloods for hcg levels( 30 yesterday) and because I'm rhesus neg, he's checking for anti bodies...may just need more anti-D ?.

Really shitty day for all this to happen too! it's my little boys 6th birthday!

Take care ladies...probably going to have a break from ttc for a while, and try and find out why this is happening again x