Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all, laughing. All welcome (Part4)

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Hello and welcome to all.
Grab your OPK and stash of POAS' and join us on this quest to many a BFP.
This ones going to be lucky!

Evening all!! Sorry you're here takethat-I was on one of the ttc threads with you a few months back, I mc my first pregnancy too. Hope the bleeding is easing up for you now. Congratulations to married mrs ivy, hope you had a fab day!

velvet I have no idea but I've been having weird pains which I thought might be my body gearing up for ov, although I guess it's a bit early in my cycle. My left boob hurts too!! I'm gong for it every other day, no idea if that's enough but I heard they can hang around for a few days so hopefully it'll do the trick!

The 40th birthday cake sounds lush but maybe a recipe for some serious hyperactivity with all the food colourings :) yum!

I'd like to know the answer to velvet's question too. i think DH is getting fed up with me dragging him off for random swi every night even when he gets home really late from work and v tired!

have decided to carry on trying and pretend the follicle thing is fine. if it doesn't happen on this cycle we're going to go ahead with the iui as planned and try to not be paranoid and worried.

so i'm officially being positive today and keeping my toe in this thread :)

(it may not last long, which is why i thought i'd better share before it wears off!)

congrats on the official marriedness ivy. MOH sounds crap. My MOH did something similar (on the hen night rather than the actual wedding though).

cake sounds yummy ladybee can i nick some?

owl - sorry for the nightmare honeymoon!

and hello to everyone i haven't officially namechecked today. still plenty of wine, chocolate and kleenex in the pantry if you want some!

Dachs really glad you seem so positive today...you've nothing to lose babe, oooh will be hoping for a happy ending for you :)
Hi TakethatLady sorry you're here. my #2 mc was early and was like a heavy period, with lots of clotting and lasted a bit longer than avg. Hope you are getting lots of tlc.

Hugs to all who needs 'em!

Hello ladies, I've been lurking for a few weeks and thought I'd say hello. I had a mmc followed by erpc in July after 18 months of trying and 3 cycles of clomid and I've got a 2 1/2 yr old dd. We're ttc at the mo but it's probably a bit pointless cos I rarely ov naturally. I've got a scan next week to check everything's ok and then I'll start taking clomid again and will be keeping all my fingers and toes crossed that it works!

takethat so sorry to hear your news, be kind to yourself. I cried in the toilets at work more than once.

Thanks mama

Not feeling all that positive inside, but I'm trying!

I'm not ready to give up on the idea of having a baby. It happened once even though it didn't work out, so it might happen again despite the odds.

I think I deserve a bit of luck after my honeymoons.

Although I'm a very unlucky person.

I was terrified of learning to drive, so I only learned about 3 years ago. On my second driving lesson, the instructor took me to a really quite country lane where there was a no through road leading into a country walking path. We were sitting in the car at the side of the road with him explaining to me how to do a 3 point turn, and a camper van came bombing up the lane at way over the speed limit. It caught an overhanging tree with its roof. The camper van was fine, it cleared the tree and then had to slam the brakes on because it hadn't realised it was a no through road. The tree fell on the car I was sitting in. Luckily the BSM sign deflected it enough that it didn't actually crush me and the instructor, but I wasn't very keen on going back for my lesson the following week!

The day we went to pick up our second puppy I was setting up the puppy crate in the kitchen and it slipped and caught my finger. For most people this would not be a big deal, but for me it caught it in such a way that it caused a spiral fracture and I needed an operation on it. And of course it was the finger I wear my rings on, so we had to cut them off. The wedding ring will never be the same again!

So you can see why I find it difficult to believe that it will all be fine and work out...

Evening all. Congratulations MrsIvy!! Glad you had a swell time. If it was me, the absence of an alcoholic beverage at any social function, nevermind my own nuptuals, would be a dead give away.

Welcome Takethatlady. No idea about what you are describing as I've had MMCs. However the emotions you are describing are spot on and its only natural you are feeling that way. Sorry you find yourself here but hope that it helps.

Dachs I'm liking your determination and optimism - good on you pal. Its happened before for you it could happen again.

Battery I'm raising an eyebrow at you. Your temps I had all 3 times and had a big vein appear before I got a positive for my 2nd pregnancy. Mystic moo predicts a BFP is afoot. Fingers crossed for you everyone reaching the end of the TWW. bee I'm with you, some more BFPs would cheer me up.

Penguins since you are about can I check something with you? Did you have a period after your ERPC - or have you conceived on your WTF? Just checking really, not that I would do anything stupid with this information.............

Lassies, I need all the sealife you can throw at me. I am getting OV twinges and EWCM. I was determined to wait but now that its happening every part of me is screaming to try. Even DH is egging me on, but not sure if that's out of common sense of lack of action talking. I've had no medical guidance on whether to wait until the recurrent MC clinic (which may takes months to get back to me on tests). I defintely didn't OV after the last ERPC so it might not even happen but I'm in a big quandry now. Help!

Big hello to everyone else that's about

PS, Hairy I've even got my ovulation spot which always appear down the left side of my face!

just popping in quickly to see how jolls is - and how the big housemove went? have been thinking about you...

congratulations to MrsIvy too!

moo I will take the role of the devil on your left shoulder and whisper, "do it, do it" ... But only cos I know I did exactly the same after my erpc. (although DH refused to comply! He's such a swot! ;-)

daschund - am going to try and feed off your positivity as am having a bit of a teary evening following 2 birth announcements and news of a friend's good 12 wk scan (which is wonderful news as there had been worries) all in the space of 24 hours. It just feels like everyone's having babies but me, you know?

(I'm not even thinking about whether my mental moodswing today is due to anything interesting. Oh no. )

Jeez - busy on here today.

TTL sorry you're here (great name btw). As has been suggested what you're getting is "normal"; but echo what has been suggested about requesting a scan when bleeding stopped (or really slowed) to ensure all gone :( (And BTW the Mark Owen thing... I mean didn't that just rank with finding out there was no Father Christmas...)

Welcome reallygrumpy we could be yin and yang!!! Again sorry you're here :(

moof I asked the EPU nurse about TTC and testing; she said no need to wait more than the standard one cycle... (though my blimmin acupuncturist said today she wanted me to recover for 3 cycles again.... SOD OFF!!!)

dachs think you're amazing!

velvet I have never temped or charted or CBFM or whetever it's called. I seem to fall pg very fast (3 of 4 pgs first month), mind you no bleedin good if they don't hang around, but anyway.... I start SWI a few days after finishing bleeding, and then every other day and then stop when I think I've oved. So usually on a 26 day cycle, prob swi 8, 10, 12, maybe 14... Am pretty CBA about SWI/SWOI....

Have stocked up on top strength ibuprofen, and those attractive big pads. Started a bit of bleeding today, am hoping things get going over the weekend, and I don't need surgery on Tues. But one way or another need action before next Weds, as house move starts then!!!

Hi to all - partic MrsIvy, and anything else I've missed. Must go, have Oyster Bay to quaff...

Oh viv have had a few FB moments myself today - scan photos, status updates etc.... babies everywhere :(

And thank you clareanna - move starts next week - though am very prepared in case I get laid low in the next few days. Sweet of you to say hi.

I shouldn't laugh Dachs but those stories were brilliant! You could look at it the other way round though, that you're lucky the tree didn't kill you and you're lucky they managed to operate on your finger and save it... So in fact, some would say, you're really lucky!! Bless you, more of the glass half full and less half empty...it's gotta help :) x

jollster if the pain gets really bad you can take paracetamol and ibuprofen together. I was alternating them so ibuprofen then paracetamol 2 hrs later then ibuprofen again 2 hours after the paracetamol which worked for me (I'm a wimp with a low pain threshold!)

viv I've had 2 friends announce pregnancies this wk and although I'm really happy for them I can't help feeing 'why isn't it me?' especially as one of them wasn't even trying (apparently it was a happy accident) and her due date is 2 days after mine would have been. I'm feeling v grumpy and fed up!

ps Viv & Jolls, I've stopped looking at fb status updates recently, last week was an all time low with 4 births and obligatory pic's and one announcement that one friends baby was due when mine would've been! it's really upsetting so I'm taking time out from looking for now!

moof just do it! unless you think you will get upset if you're not up-diffed when you get to the end of the cycvle. I reckon it's emotional more than anything? I totally agree re the drink in hand at special occasions. If I do get knocked-up before xmas everyone will know..

hey velvet! what made you think yoiu OV'd twice? I have been doing same as jolls, approx every day and a half (morning fan) from day 8 on this month, and i've stopped now, after mucus got sticky and drier on monday. (poor dp)

Ivy Congratulations Mrs! whit woo.

viv a squeeze for you, those days are dark.

daschs I thought i was clumsy, but i appear to have met my match! shouldn't giggle really! For a start it's bad Karma..

Hello to takethatlady. I was more of a Robbie man really. But not now.

Waves to all!! Sorry for lack of namechecking all, i really need a list- I'm sure theres one around here somewhere!

Mine weren't even on FB! Basically, there are six of us in my closest group of friends - we've known each other since we were 11. One had a nephew arrive on Mon, another a niece this morning and the third (who was the one who announced her pg at my birthday party) had the 12 week scan. We're all getting together on Sat for the first time in 6 weeks and I feel apprehensive and nervous about it - which is awful as they are truly my best friends in all the world and are all amazing. So then I get even more upset that I could possibly ever feel this way about them. Sigh. I know it'll be fine but I feel like I'll be the elephant in the room, IYSWIM.

awww viv that sucks

hectic here because we exchanged ... yay
but now we have a water leak that needs fixing .... timing is awful

oh and RTD started yesterday - 3 days early I think because of stress so CD1 today - if someone does the list please dump me unceremoniously at the bottom of it!

probably for the best with everything going on right now!

sorry to all in a bad place - hope you get to a better place soon

I am in such a bad place in non ttc land that ttc is seeming like a walk in the park ..but its all relative

keep telling myself I could be living in Pakistan, small mercies and all that

dachs good on you girl! It's lucky you splashed out on BSM lessons rather than some cheapo company without a sign on the roof!!! I'm assuming they cut your rings off rather than your finger??!?! I agree with Mamapower - glass half full!!

All - feeling your pain about babies everywhere, I'm quite lucky that not many of my friends are trying yet as I'm dreading the announcements starting... I've had to 'unfriend' several FB friends that aren't really friends in the real world, especially the ones that insist on giving daily running updates to complain that their pregnancy is so dreadful

Anyway I'm off to try to convince DH that he's not too tired to practice babymaking..... hehehehehe, how the tables have turned :-D

Why oh why oh why oh why oh why did I just go on the Jan 2011 New Year New Baby thread??? :-( I am such a moron, I have no idea why I just did it - was never on it when I was pg and was in a perfectly good mood before :-( I can only conclude that I enjoy upsetting myself in some sick and twisted way.... sob

Hug for cheepz - congratualations on exchanging! When do you reckon you'll move house?

Blimey it's been busy this evening. A girl slips off for a bite to eat and when she checks back in there are pages and pages of new messages. (Well, three quarters of a page anyway!)

welcome grumpy

moof consider yourself sharked. I seem to have mislaid the haddock! I'm with you on the people would know there was something up if I wasn't drinking!

viv know how you feel. everyone i know is having babies except me. have some supersoft kleenex and a large glass of wine from my pantry

jolls sorry you're going through this again. hope the drugs help. enjoy the quaffing! :)

mama even if i were a glass half full girl i think I'd have trouble interpreting those stories as 'lucky'

cheepz glad to hear you've exchanged.

pinkff I was indeed glad for the BSM sign. And yes, it was the rings... Good luck with convincing DH. I suggested it to DH earlier and he was 'What?!?!?! Again?!?!?!?!? NO, KEEP THIS CRAZY TTCer OFF ME!!!' He has, however, gone to do the washing up instead, so at least I don't have to do that. Glass half full, see!

Ladybee thanks for the message. I do find support in between isolation which is why I continue to lurk.

Viv - I know what you mean. They always come in spates. Today I was just surrounded by pregnant women wherever I walked. They'd obviously decided to stalk me.

I made the mistake when I was pg of buying some maternity clothes in Paris. I never wore them and they've been sitting in my cupboard ever since. I finally have a friend/acquaintance (she'd really dh's friend but I'm friendly with her too)who has got pg and is around my size (14/16) so have someone to pass these onto completely unworn. Maybe that will remove the failing to conceive evil eye. Who knows. I've mixed them up with the other stuff so she'll never know.

hah moof see my posts of, oh, about a week ago - I held off, you know I'm in no state to go into a 2ww with any ammunition. Feel ok about the decision although still seeing a bit of EWCM, not sure what that's about but quite happy to know that there's no chance.

What do you reckon? Can you cope with a BFN? more importantly, can you cope with a BFP?

jolls Oyster bay...v nice...I've just downed a glass of NZ Sauv B but not quite in that league, still nice enough for me to order suggest to DH that another glass might not go amiss.

Oh by the way, I found this article when I was obsessing over the whys of MC last time. I think it's probably my problem as I have so far gotten pg reasonably quickly so far and twice it's been when I would have thought the window of opportunity was over. I reckon having an indiscriminate uterus (or welcoming as I prefer to think of it), means a successful pregnancy is just a numbers game. If you're going to accept more fertilised eggs then chances are you're going to get more duff ones. So got to just keep on trying until you get a good one. Let's see though, my tests might show something else up that needs treatment, who knows?

here's the link the text appeared in the New Scientist first, but isn't available online there unless you subscribe.

pinkff I was on the Jan 2011 thread, I said goodbye to them and have not been back...don't do it!

Viv I know how you feel, I have two best friends that I have known since I was 5 and one of them had her baby week before last...I burst into tears but they have both been sooooo lovely. Your friends will understand that even though you are happy for them you are sad for you and if they are anything like my two gorgeous girls they will be so supportive.

Dachs nice demonstration of glass half full!! hee hee!

Damn it, I thought I wouldn't miss anything in the last 60 seconds of mistress's by typing this and i've just looked up and there's been a crash! Iplayer here I come...