Ideas for presents for DS1 11yrs

[TheLadyEvenstarsRomanCandle]

I feel he is too old for toys but what else is there?

[TheLadyEvenstarsRomanCandle]

TWC, I Sent trinity a message to apologise for what I had put on the thread,she accepted it. I also have offered to help her as much as I possibly can.

I wish I could get a council place. At the moment the properties where I live are being given to the people who were victims of a fire.

[TheLadyEvenstarsRomanCandle]

Shine, the BMX came from Freecycle last year in July, and as he has not ridden it much I class it as new.

The days out in the summer were easy to cater for as dp had not only just started work or rather had not only just changed jobs.

I know I was wrong for posting the message on Trinitys thread and have apologised no end....I have not got any money, and I was not begging I was making a statement. Please do show me, as I am curius, where in my original thread, which is the one I have linked to, I ask for money as opposed to help with any of the items?

[TheLadyEvenstarsRomanCandle]

trips to the coast and museums are not that expensive unless you make them so.

I take packed lunches with me and drinks, avoid arcades.

[TerryWogansCock]

You dont desrve a council place if you can afford that much in rent every week you are not hard you you silly mare

Find a cheaper place to rent privately or get a job a pay your way like the rest of us

[TerryWogansCock]

Hard up

[teameric]

can I just ask whereabouts you live to be paying that much rent on a 2 bed flat????

[BecauseImWorthIt]

You asked for money on Trinity's thread. £180 to be precise.

Except that there's no point linking to it as your posts have been deleted.

I'm leaving this thread now, and will not post again.

You evidently cannot appreciate why this has made other posters so annoyed, so there's no point posting any more.

[TheLadyEvenstarsRomanCandle]

We cannot afford to pay that much in rent thats why we are seriously struggling and in arrears. When I first started renting privatly I was a single parent but the housing situation here is terrible. And now we are stuck in the private market.

Things are not always as clear cut as they seem. Becuase that is my rent doesn't mean it is easily affordable. Or that I am not in dispute with the landlord over the rent increase alongside the lack of repairs he refuses to carry out, or the fact that we pay for dss fortnightly as well.....Its not always as simple as things seem.

I get slated for coming on here and moaning about ds1, when I admit I am to blame in some ways I am then told, stop making excuses for him, when I don'tmake excuses I am told well it is your fault....it seems that nothing I say or do is ever going to satisfy people, and tbh I am not on here to satisfy others, I came onto MN to get advice regarding my DC.

actually I initially came on here to get support during my pregnancy with ds2 after such a gap between the 2 of them.

[teameric]

btw I live near Canary Wharf and could find you cheaper 2 bed flats than that!

[TerryWogansCock]

How many MNers sent you money after your thread?

Is that why your now doing your christmas shopping?

[TheLadyEvenstarsRomanCandle]

Tea, I live in South East London. not the most desirable part even! As I said in my last post, I am in debate with the landlord over the rent increase as it is ridiculously high given the state on the property. But I don't have the money for a deposit so am stuck in this situation.

[TheLadyEvenstarsRomanCandle]

TWC 1 lady

[TheLadyEvenstarsRomanCandle]

Tea, you are not a million miles away from where I am. And if I had the deposit for another property then I would be looking.

[teameric]

I know what you mean about lack of council housing in this area, I've been told I could wait years for a 3 bed, are you on the council waiting list by any chance?

[AboardtheAxiom]

I actually could say a lot on this matter but I won't.

[TheLadyEvenstarsRomanCandle]

Tea, we have been on the council list for 3 yrs now.

[TerryWogansCock]

There is no talking sense to you is there, i cant work out if its because you are really stupid or just a hard faced mare

You dont deserve a council house

[teameric]

I don't mean to sound harsh but you say you started to rent privately when you were a single mum? my DH works full time and I'm going back to work part time in Jan and we still wouldn't be able to afford private rent around here. how did you manage when you were a single parent? I just presumed you and DH must have been quite well off to have been able to rent private in the first place and had fallen on hard times am I right?

[TheLadyEvenstarsRomanCandle]

TWC why don't we deserve a council place? what makes us less deserving than the next person? Am I to believe that every person in a council property is a single parent or out of work?

I know a lot of working couples who are in council housing.

I cannot see what any of this has to do with looking to the future and asking for ideas on xmas presents.

Notice, for all the things I am being called I am the one who is not throwing insults? I am not hard faced nor am I stupid, an apology is all I have to offer for my posting on trinitys thread and I have sent that to her already. What would make you happy? me leaving MN? well thats not going to happen, you do not determine who stays and who goes. Because at the end of the day this is an internet forum where we are all free to speak, there are people who I don't agree with and if I see they have a thread I stay off of it, I don't go hunting them and trying to brow beat them into never posting again.

I have said I made a mistake on posting on trinitys thread, I have apologised, yes I am in a situation atm where I am struggling for cash but there is always light at the end of the tunnel. And hopefully that is not too far away.

And your earlier posting of "You don't look hard up" well tell me what does hard up look like?

If you mean we live in a clean home or we have decent furniture well yes we do because when dp was made redundant 18m ago we bought these things. When ds1 started secondary school in September we bought the uniform with no worries BUT he is now starting a second school due to bullying. And thats where we were struggling, I asked for help with any of the items, I did not ask for money, I asked if anyone could help with the things I needed or anything they thought would be useful. That was not a begging thread. But I have already explained this far too many times, so maybe you are the one having difficulty in understanding what is plainly in front of you. An apology is what I can offer to those I offended and thats what I have given them. I have spoken to Trinity and have items to send her next week when I have the money for the courier.

I am not going to be bullied off of MN, by anyone just because I made a mistake...heres the thing....I AM HUMAN and we ALL yes you included do at some point make a mistake some more serious than others. I never actually did anything to anyone, I made a passing comment in jest just as I explained last night...."Anyone wanna send me £180 lol" was no more serious then "Anyone up for a bank job"

Neither actually had much meaning they were passing comments, however when I posted my thread asking if anyone could help with the items needed or anything else they thought would be useful that was serious. I was not asking for money, I was asking if anyone had the things I needed.

[TheLadyEvenstarsRomanCandle]

TEA when I first started renting privatly..well I had been living with now ex husband in his property, then my dad died and I moved us all back to my mums to give her support. But tbh it was too crowded with 4 of us in a 2 bed property. So I went to council but even then in 2005 the list was long. So I went and looked for a private property with my cousin and her son, ex h and ds1. Because I was at the time signed off of work with depression I had HB pay my share of the rent. Cousin moved with me and she refused to work, never worked out in the end she left, ex h and I split. DS1 and I stayed in the property but the HB would only pay for 2 of the rooms. So I got a lodger in (now dp) and he paid the extra rent.

We then had to find somewhere else and the job he was in meant he could afford the rent no worries. But then he was made redundant and we had to find somewhere to live. HB paid the rent on the current property for the first 6 months until dp found work and since we have struggled to get by. But this also means we don't have enough money to put any aside to save for a deposit on a cheaper property.

[teameric]

You have as much right to a council property as anyone else, Me and DH aren't that bad off but we can't afford to rent private or get a mortgage, not around here anyway and we are reluctant to move further out, do you do the bidding thing for property in your area?

[TheLadyEvenstarsRomanCandle]

Sorry didn't explain that very well. I had been renting privatly then moved in with ex-h, then when dad died we all moved in with my mum.

[VinegarTits]

If you werent asking for money then why did you state the price of each item? and then a grand total at the end of it (£161 something iirc)

And if you can afford £349 a week to rent private accomodation, then no, you shouldnt be given council accomodation

[TheLadyEvenstarsRomanCandle]

Tea, yes but we are quite low banded and won't move up banding wise unless I become a single parent or dp gives up work basically .