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I really hate it when you give people a gift for Christmas and they rudely hand it right back to you - has this happend to anyone?

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JacksFirstChristmasMama · 29/11/2008 21:39

Right. My stepdad has done this on several occasions. Last year I spent quite a bit of time picking out a gift for him - a buckwheat-filled pillow because he's always complaining of neck pain from sleeping - and he opened it, looked at it, said "I don't like this" and handed it back to me. I was gobsmacked. Literally speechless. In the ensuing silence (because everyone else was as stunned as I was) he said, "you can get me a book instead".
WTF?????

Has this happened to anyone else???? What did you do??

Several days later I had a chance to talk to my mum about it alone, and even just talking to her completely lost the plot at his ignorant fuckwittery. All she could say was that she knew how I felt, that he's done it before, and no, she did not blame me in the least for not being arsed to worry about buying him a present next year.
It is now "next year".
I'm tempted to give him the proverbial lump of coal.

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HeinzSight · 29/11/2008 21:42

Lump of coal sounds like a fab idea.

He sounds like a complete tosser

moondog · 29/11/2008 21:42

Bloody rude.It is tradition to grit one's teeth and say 'Lovely!.

Even when presented with buckwheat pillow.

What were you thinking?? It's a shite present. You need to join this thread

LuckySalem · 29/11/2008 21:42

Try asking him specifically what he wants? Make a point of saying that last year's present wasn't good enough so youre checking what will be.

JustNobody · 29/11/2008 21:43

I think it's a great present! Twatto.

hester · 29/11/2008 21:43

That is such bizarre behaviour that I think I'd file it under: "Don't take personally - in at least one area of life, this person is STRANGE".

How does he behave outside of gift-giving situations? How is your relationship?

Personally, I'd be inclined to go the book token route...

princessmel · 29/11/2008 21:43

haha moondog!

OP he sounds very rude. Dont buy him anything this year.

NameChaanger · 29/11/2008 21:44

Get him a boomerang with an insult on it

AuraofDora · 29/11/2008 21:44

can you get a book shaped lump of coal?
double horror for him
what an complete selfish ass

NameChaanger · 29/11/2008 21:44

When he asks why, tell him

differentID · 29/11/2008 21:45

I wouldn't even bother. Put a fiver in a card for him and say why.

Shitemum · 29/11/2008 21:45

Definetly give him coal this year, a nice dusty piece that will roll onto his lap and stain his, hopefully, pale-coloured trousers so everyone spends the rest of the day asking him what happened...

MaryBS · 29/11/2008 21:46

Get him a book... dunno what this book is about, but I LOVE the title!

Fiveplusbump · 29/11/2008 21:46

Get him a book on common courtesy.

JacksFirstChristmasMama · 29/11/2008 21:46

Love the boomerang idea!!
I posted this because I saw the thread about shite presents

I actually kept the buckwheat pillow. It's my favourite now.

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JacksFirstChristmasMama · 29/11/2008 21:48

So has this happened to anyone else??
What did you do about it?

(I did PMSL at the shite presents thread...)

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NCbirdy · 29/11/2008 21:48

Give him £10 in a card with the words "choose your own f*in gift" (maybe not - you could try "for you to do with as you wish")

You are right, seriously bad form and YANBU to be peeved (to say the least)

Heated · 29/11/2008 21:49

Agree, give him a book token - job done. He doesn't deserve you putting in the time or effort and everyone will understand why.

moondog · 29/11/2008 21:49

No offence Jack
Glad you took it in spirit in which it was intended.

WotsThatSkippy · 29/11/2008 21:49

This has never happened to me. Your stepdad needs to learn some manners!

NCbirdy · 29/11/2008 21:49

Sorry DID, xposts - great minds though!

JacksFirstChristmasMama · 29/11/2008 21:53

Good thing I saw that thread first moondog

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PortAndLemon · 29/11/2008 21:53

Just don't buy him anything.

JacksFirstChristmasMama · 29/11/2008 21:54

Well between DID and NCbirdy we know who's more generous

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Heated · 29/11/2008 21:55

Not quite, but I did buy my SIL a Radley purse for her birthday since she likes the bags (they're not to my taste at all) and I got it back for my birthday, well passed the date for returning it. There was nobody else I could give it to so I've ended up with an expensive purse I don't like [sigh]

GentleOtter · 29/11/2008 21:57

He deserves this