I really hate it when you give people a gift for Christmas and they rudely hand it right back to you - has this happend to anyone?

[JacksFirstChristmasMama]

Right. My stepdad has done this on several occasions. Last year I spent quite a bit of time picking out a gift for him - a buckwheat-filled pillow because he's always complaining of neck pain from sleeping - and he opened it, looked at it, said "I don't like this" and handed it back to me. I was gobsmacked. Literally speechless. In the ensuing silence (because everyone else was as stunned as I was) he said, "you can get me a book instead".
WTF?????

Has this happened to anyone else???? What did you do??

Several days later I had a chance to talk to my mum about it alone, and even just talking to her completely lost the plot at his ignorant fuckwittery. All she could say was that she knew how I felt, that he's done it before, and no, she did not blame me in the least for not being arsed to worry about buying him a present next year.
It is now "next year".
I'm tempted to give him the proverbial lump of coal.

give him a £5 note and tell him to buy his own bloody book!!!

get him a latrine or fertiliser, i'm tellin' ya!

better to spend a fiver for some good than some dicksmack like him.

Give him a buckwheat pillow again.

As my boyfriend really liked receiving massages from me (more than he liked to give them as I recall), I gave an expensive set of massage oils with massage IOU vouchers for his birthday, not as his only present either.

His face dropped and he said words along the lines of it being about the last thing he'd ever want from anyone.

I left him shortly afterwards.

I am sooooo tempted to do the buckwheat pillow again...

Go for it and keep giving him one every xmas - that's his pressie sorted!

How odd. Sometime I think some MN posters must live in an alternate universe, I've never come across anything so astoundingly ill mannnered as the bloke in the OP

give the old bugger a boomerang

buy him this
this
or
these

Give him the pillow back with a bit of creative profane embroidery on it.

Or perhaps a book about buckwheat pillows? He did say he wanted a book.

Um, have you thought of this maybe? Go for the be nasty tag.

I don't think I live in an alternate universe, what about the mother-in-law on the "shite presents" thread who handed a blouse back saying "I won't wear this, you'd better have it"?

But I will say I sometimes think he lives in an alternate universe!!

My DS on his last birthday did open a couple of presents and push them away saying 'Don't like this.'
However he was 3.
Once or twice among my family someone has been given something they have already got (book or CD or DVD) and said so but very nicely - but this bloke sounds a complete twat, and one of the few really worthy recpients of a Third World Latrine instead.

This thread has had me in stitches.
Don't know what I would give him tbh.

My mil did ask us to take back a cd we had bought for fil as even though he had specifically asked for the cd, apparently on listening to it he didn't much care for it. We also bought him several other things and he got my sil to ring oh and complain about the chocolates we had bought too!!

As I was expecting my first child imminently, my oh told her to sod off and try thinking about others for a change and the imminent birth of our child!
I was furiuos and never asked either of them what they would like as a present ever again. They get what they are given now.

I had this when I bought MIL and FIL a DVD player - MIL said 'hmph more instructions I wont read'! I was really shocked and very hurt too. I have gone the gift card route since.

I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one...

I have decided I am going to give him another buckwheat pillow!! (Am keeping the original one, love it to much to risk losing it in case he's had a personality transplant and wants to keep it!)

MIL often hands back presents she doesn't like. She has even taken photos of the children we have given her out of the frames and handed back the frames. And she handed back a scarf SIL gave her one year saying it wasn't something she would wear. I was as no one in my family has ever been quite that rude forthright.

Wow - that's even more horrible!! Taking the pictures out of frames and giving the frame back?? Holy cow.
Maybe my stepfather and your MIL should get together and start a "we're too rude to deserve presents" club.

LOL at buckwheat pillow

Well, I would (give him books only) but he loves books so that's not really the point of getting back at him, is it

You can tell I'm in the right Christmas spirit, LOL!

I bought my neighbour, who cat sits when we go away, a £30 voucher for a massage or pamper session locally last Christmas. A few days later she knocked and said "it's really nice of you but I really would never use it" and was visibly shuddering at the thought of anyone pampering her".

I was initially a bit shocked, but was then pleased that she'd had the guts to give it back so it wouldn't go to waste.

I had a fab massage a few weeks later .

And I now have a lovely buckwheat pillow

Hmmm... a book on manners was suggested...