I really hate it when you give people a gift for Christmas and they rudely hand it right back to you - has this happend to anyone?

[JacksFirstChristmasMama]

Right. My stepdad has done this on several occasions. Last year I spent quite a bit of time picking out a gift for him - a buckwheat-filled pillow because he's always complaining of neck pain from sleeping - and he opened it, looked at it, said "I don't like this" and handed it back to me. I was gobsmacked. Literally speechless. In the ensuing silence (because everyone else was as stunned as I was) he said, "you can get me a book instead".
WTF?????

Has this happened to anyone else???? What did you do??

Several days later I had a chance to talk to my mum about it alone, and even just talking to her completely lost the plot at his ignorant fuckwittery. All she could say was that she knew how I felt, that he's done it before, and no, she did not blame me in the least for not being arsed to worry about buying him a present next year.
It is now "next year".
I'm tempted to give him the proverbial lump of coal.

No one has ever done that to me either.

Don't buy him a gift at all - seriously - and then if he asks you can tell him that he can buy himself something he likes. With his own money.

my nasty evil step grandmother hasnt even got a card since she was so rude 3 birthdays ago

her evil son, my step dad, has now joined her and will never again get anything at all from me.... was his birthday last weekend and i havent mentioned it and im making a 'happy Xmas MUM' card and will exclude even his name as i DONT wish him a happy Xmas at all, and refuse to pretend i do...

i am even ensuring that anything i get for my mum cant be used at all or benefit him in the slightest and am writing my mum out of my will so that he cant get anything at all from me ever

some people arnt worth wasting time over.

OP, your stepdad was very rude and doesnt deserve anything from you ever again IMO!

I gave my elder bro a walking stick with a blue ribbon tied in a bow for his 21st. I got it back minus the bow for mine!

I am amazed that anyone buys gifts for other adults - surely if there is anything they need, they can buy it themselves?

I always lol at the magazine gift-ideas; -

For The man in your life ; how about a laptop? Only £700!

For your Mother - a weekend break away try Thailand! Or a diamante studded watch strap.

HAHAHAHAHHAAHA I dont think so.

Bloody hell. I buy for the DH, my kids, my bro's kids, my sisters kids and no-one else.

Bloody hell! What an ignoramus. Under no circumstances does he deserve a present with that kind of behaviour. Just tell him why you haven't bothered this year whilst everyone else is opening theirs if he asks. Good luck

fil found a bag after we had just been xmas shopping. he said 'is that shirt in the bag for me? I don't like it...'

absolutely bloody fumming dh and i were. we didn't change it as it was too late.

I'd get him nothing at all, unless you want to make a point in that case get him another pillow.

I have never heard of anyone doing that!

My MIL didn't talk to us for 3 weeks after we got her a baking set for Christmas. It was a cookie cutters and decorating thing, idea being she could have lovely baking sessions with her granddaughter who she looks after quite a bit.

Apparently the floods of tears on the phone to sone revolved around 'is that all I'm worth...'

Now had it been my mum I'd have screamed that no, but it's all we have and if you want to give us some money we'll be happy to go buy you some smellies or other tat, but as we are skint saving for our wedding and everyone got £10 pressi budget each, so we can't.

I kept well out of it and they came round a 3 weeks later and I just sort of smiled weakly at them .Have never actually looked her in the eye again however.

You've done well not to be more offended by this!

How very rude! Buy him a broomhead, he can attach it to the stick up his arse and be more useful round the house

Seriously, I have a buckwheat pillow and it's LOVELY!

You can get any message embroidered on pillow covers you know. I suggest 'complete twat' in fetching pink

Or better still get it in installments, each time he gives it you back, have another insult added. Soon you will have a litany of insults which qualifies as the book he requested!

I heard a great story about an old lady who decided to send all her family cheques in their cards one Christmas. She wrote out the cards with "you can buy your own present this year" written in them.

In February, she found the pile of cheques she'd written out and had forgotten to put in the cards.....

Bet her ears were burning over Christmas

LOL - I sent the babysitter a card with 'please accept this small token as thanks for your help this year' meaning to enclose a cheque for £50. Instead DD put a raisin in the envelope

OMG - you have all made me cry I'm laughing so hard. I really would follow the suggestion to give him back the buckwheat pillow but I'm using it and I love it!!
Thanks for all your posts, they're fab.

That is very rude don't buy him anything this year. I would not espect a child to do that.

oh dear me - I'm crying with laughter here! Some really funny stories (and suggestions..). Loving the raisin-in-envelope and the old lady with the cheques

OP - if it was me I'm not sure I'd buy him anything.

Gosh would you like some present suggestions?

A brick

An empty bottle

A piece of paper

A peg

A clothes hanger

An empty video/ dvd case

A cup

A hairnet

Have run out of ideas now

give him fuck all.

sorry, but that's pretty damn rude.

FWIW, my mother has fallen in love with my buckwheat pillow.

she's adopted it.

she has it on her right now.

i got her one in Lakeland and a bottle of lavender oil from my favourite essential oil supplier.

I would get him a card that says:

"considering how much you loved your present last year I put in a lot of thought to ensure that you would love this year's present even more."

And on the inside of the card I would write:

"as you see, I didn't get you anything, as I considered you would love that just as much as last year's present."

Oh it has to be a charity goat or something doesn't it?

the bags of fertiliser and latrines even better, jimjams.

basically, you're telling them you bought them shit.

Are you sure he's not Andy from Little Britian?

Give him the coal. Shove it in his gob. What a rude man!

Give him the buck wheat neck thingy again.
However unstitch it replace buckwheat for used cat litter and shove in a load of raw prawns into it too.

My MIL did something similar.

Years ago I bought her a really nice top that I thought was really 'her', based on what she usually wears. She unwrapped it in front of us, held it up and announced "Oh I won't wear that, you'd better have it".

Despite the fact that she's a size 16 and I was a size 8 and twice my age

I don't go to half as much effort now!

Oops meant she was twice my age.

oh yes a goat.

"as you didn't want my present last year I decided to give it to someone who would appreciate it this year."