Adult DCs that have moved out

[BearSoFair]

What do you get them? First year that DS1 (24) hasn't been at home and I'm not sure what is 'normal' to get for an adult DC who has left home!

He and his girlfriend moved into their own place in Feb so they're fairly well set-up now but thinking something for the kitchen as a joint gift as they're both into cooking, then a smaller individual gift - book or jumper etc. Is that pretty standard? We've been buying a little gift for GF for years and her parents do the same for DS - been together since they were 15 so we know her very well and consider her part of the family!

My eldest lives with his partner and they already have everything domestic that they might need so I get them separate presents. So ds is getting a book he wants and sweatshirt and a couple of toiletries. Getting his gf some cashmere fingerless gloves, warm lined slipper socks (she works from home), and a National Trust gift card.

Dc1 is 22 and lives alone but has a long-term partner. I buy partner a small gift. I give dc1 favourite chocolate, an item of clothing (last year a hoodie this year some tshirts), favourite bodywash/sprays etc and some money.
I wouldn't buy clothing for my other 2 as their particular but dc1 will wear clothes till they fall apart and I know what to stick too.

Are they coming to you for Xmas? I would possibly get them tickets to something, an annual membership (cinema ?) voucher for a fancy restaurant would assume that majority of their money goes on rent/mortgage and less left over for fun stuff.

Discuss with them what the budget for presents between adults should be. They may be happy to exchange £20 token presents with you.
Don't spend more on them than you spend on any other adult in the family, such as your parents or siblings. Don't spend more on them than they want/can afford to spend on you, otherwise you are building inequality into an adult-to-adult relationship.

When DH (then just boyfriend) and I moved together, we got joined gifts from both sides.

Often something we wanted for the house but just didn't want to buy ourselves or a nicer version of the budget one we bought when we moved in. We also got items for a booked holiday like a bag, boardgames, theatre tickets. We were asked what we would love to get.

My PIL always added a book for each of us as well. And always plenty of nice chocolates.

Dd and bf are keen cooks so I think attachments for the Kitchen aid(he wants a mincer/sausage maker, she wants pasta maker) But we buy the normal type of thing, she likes jewelry so I got some Atlas of Dreams earrings and he'll get a t-shirt or something similar. So joint present and smaller individual ones.