Autistic/ADHD presents

[ZippyOpalCat]

My son is 21. ADHD and a bit of autism as well. Not bothered about Christmas at all. With presents he never knows what he wants and if I buy stuff that he’s not interested in it’s a total waste of money. He has suggested that I pay for his gym supplements and protein powder etc as it’s something he’d find useful and he wouldn’t have to spend his own money on it. Not very festive. Do I do it anyway as it’s what he’s asked for?

Yes. And his favourite food treats.

perfect gifts.

Other ideas
How good are you at selecting things for him? Are you good at finding the right clothing or items? If you are, maybe some clothes for the gym or a new gym bag.

If you want to splurge, does he wear headphones while he works out? Could he use an upgrade?

Could you make up a hamper for him with his favourite treats?

Always better to give a gift someone actually wants. Can you buy online and wrap them up? Do that to satisfy your gift giving/ Christmas urges if you like but trust him when he says he's happy not to have a surprise.

It's quite stressful to know there will be a surprise (which you may not like/ want) and you have to be ready to react to in an acceptable way! 😆

For an 21 year old - absolutely perfect. Hardly different to giving an adult a chocolate subscription.

You could ask him if he would like new gym clothes, bag, headphones maybe.

Having children with ADHD and autism ,not the same child and grandchildren with autism/ADHD we found its best to buy them what they want. My daughter's idea of heaven is book tokens so she can spend boxing day search out the best books .

Last year one of DS's presents was a box of stuff he uses throughout the year but slightly better quality or brands he likes but I find too pricey.
Hair gels, shower gels, power banks, aftershave etc.
Both my DS and DH have ADHD and if you buy them something they don't like it gets wasted. DS stocking is full of his fav snacks.