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[DontlikeChristmas]

I’ll start. We’ve just opened presents. I couldn’t give a fig about presents for myself, but I think if you’re going to spend money on a gift for someone you’d may as well make sure it’s something they will like/use. DH has panic bought me a horrible tie dye jumper two sizes too big. I’ve never worn tie dye in my life. My mother has inexplicably bought me a truly awful outfit clearly meant for a teenager (I’m 50) in a colour I never wear, also in the wrong size. DH has also managed to buy DC a load of stuff they already have because he couldn’t be bothered to check. I feel so deflated by this & think it’s all such a massive waste of money (we probably could have gone out for dinner with the cost of the presents no one is going to wear/use, or made a charity donation).

We now have DHs family coming for dinner, who are lovely people but seem to have ever changing dietary requirements (none of which are due to diagnosed conditions) that it’s impossible to keep up with, so I’ve got to make about 15 different gluten-free/oil free/non-acidic/anti-inflammatory and whatever else dishes (DH ‘doesn’t do cooking’).

I’m over Christmas & it’s not even 8.30. Anyone else?

DH got me some random L’Oreal face cream as my “main present”. I’m not that arsed about presents but I know he has just been in the local cheap shop and picked up the nearest thing he could find. Then follwed a string of crap including a pair of Pepsi socks (?), a mug with a horse on it and a strip of Jaffa Cakes, which I have never expressed an interest in in my entire life, topped it off. I don’t meant to be ungrateful but fuck me rigid.

Merry Christmas, Everyone!

@ChronicallyMum On a positive note, my severely autistic 7 year old who’s non verbal made an attempt at saying “Santa’s been” at 06:55 when he burst into our bedroom, he also allocated himself as gift giver-outer from under the tree and gently helped his sister open gifts, that alone made my Christmas.

This is wonderful and has made my Christmas too!

My beautiful dog was put to sleep last week.

my DS is pissed off and moaning because my dad wants to go to the pub today and has asked my DS (18) to go. DS hates the pub and doesn’t drink but feels obliged. It’s for one hour.

Ive got a nasty viral chest/throat infection.

Im still healing from my partner of 8 years discarding me out of the blue.

My mother isn’t well at all and going for brain scan soon- constant worry about her.

I miss ny dog ❤️‍🩹

Me

My mother is here, she’s more or less the only family member I have left, and I’ve realised recently that I really don’t like her. She’s negative, moany, judgemental, snobby, no empathy for anybody, thinks shes better than everybody, boring, and just generally irritating. Done nothing her entire life but hang onto the coattails of my father who did 2.5 years ago.

She’s harassing my kids, wanting them to perform like performing monkeys on the gymnastics equipment they got from Father Christmas, taking non stop videos of them while barking out instructions, to send to all her friends who she doesn’t even like.

Husband currently playing with the kids while I’m cooking lunch, mum sitting on her bed playing Candy Crush.

I've got a chest infection and sciatica, had a little cry and now in a warm bath hoping it helps! However DH has for the first time in 20 yrs put effort into my Christmas presents and I am feeling very spoilt!

This morning was really tough for my DD (autism). She couldn’t sleep last night and was completely overwhelmed this morning despite most things being unwrapped and her getting what she asked for and no surprises.

She is calmer now, and relaxing with her earbuds in. It’s so tough for her.

On the plus side, I got thoughtful gifts from my DH for the first time EVER, and my son is thrilled with his things.

Merry Christmas everyone x

Please don’t give your mother such expensive presents again. Like for like from now on. Commiserations xx

Too many questions....WTF are Pepsi socks...unless...socks with the Pepsi logo on?? Surely not...

Strip of Jaffa Cakes??!!! Holy Christmas that is crazy...

Def entitled to be ungrateful....Where was he shopping, the local Petrol Station?😀

First Christmas without my 8yr old son, he's been at his (very unpleasant) dad's for a week. Dread to think how he'll be emotionally when he comes home tomorrow.

I've kept busy all week. It's been ok, I had a big DIY project and audio books. Had to go to sainsburys yesterday and cried at all the Christmas stuff, must have look totally deranged.

We'll have our Christmas on a few days, I'm bloody exhausted today and would happily just rest but I have to go to my (tricky) mothers. We could have spent the day with family, but she's refused, despite my offer to drive at her convenience, but no, she's refused. Gah. She wants me to spend lunch and dinner there.

Fuck me, I just want a rest!

What a complete knob!

I fucking hate my fil, hate the man.
He is the most selfish fucking arsehole ever.

One year he set up the dining room table in the middle of the living room. Mil invited us, her sister and her husband for dinner New Year’s Day. Nice!
No, the table was set up in the living room, him at the head, knife & fork in hand waiting to be served with the TV facing him and the football match on blaring while we all ate in silence because he wouldn’t miss the match.

Absolute cock.

So he arrived, got nothing for no one for Christmas, (usual) bil bought it all and this year for the first time has signed all the presents & cards from him alone, not fil on any of them. (Mil died)

He’s sat there, drinking tea after being dragged out of bed by bil to visit us as he doesn’t get up until 2pm most days.

Yes, a pair of blue trainer socks with the word “Pepsi” and the logo on. I don’t even drink it. It must be 20 years since I had a full sugar drink. Although we are ok for money, we did say we would not go mad on presents this year but I never expected this level of crap.

I also received a charm bracelet (no charms) from Pandora from an aunt. The only other person I know who has one is a 13 year old cousin I’m 50.

Our day won't be to everyone's taste but it suits us fine! Everyone's in their own homes. Several have this orrible lurgy that's going round so self care is happening. Mum will have little visits from granddaughters over the next few days, and I'll go in the new year - she's decided no more big christmasses, travelling etc as nearly 90 and that's fine.
We've agreed no presents because money is very tight and we're both in the decluttering Swedish Death Cleaning stage anyway. We don't want or need anything. We had a lovely dinner yesterday which he is currently washing up as CBA yesterday and I can hear him humming and and chatting to himself. We'll go for a walk as it's a very nice day here. Then I'll do the cooking while he wrangles the TV and recording schedule, taking all the adverts out ready to watch . Then later there will be cheese and crackers and the nice pickle. Very simple I know but it's nice.

I put a lot of thought into presents

Dp woke up,told us he'd 'open his presents through the day' (fair enough) and has reacted like I've given him dog shit every time hes opened one

It's really pissed me off-3 more presents to go

Next year I'm buying him socks

Didn't sleep well last night so not a good start to the day.

Dc came to get us at 6 so we got up to see if Santa came. I watched DC open their gifts as DH sat there scrolling through his phone 🙄

Got older DS a bit of tech. Asked DH in advance if he knew how to set it up and he said he did. They start setting it up and its more tricky than DH thinks. He takes it out on DS and DS ends up crying.

Spent about 250 on DH gifts. He spent about 50 on me in return. The cruel thing is that he asked me what else I wanted and I told him, so he led me to believe he was buying them and he just didn't bother. If I didn't spend the 250 on him, there would have been complaints that I don't care about him and don't make effort.

Dh also had a go at me about marks on a wall in the house. So far, he's made me and DS1 cry, only DS2 left to go.

He was late leaving to visit his Df this morning which probably means he will be late getting back for dinner which I have stayed behind to cook.

Last Christmas was crap due to family bereavement. This year, I spent months planning to make the day perfect for DC and DH is just putting a dampener on it all. I really think its time for me to leave him once and for all.

This Christmas can get in the bin.
DS (7) vomited and had diarrhoea last night so that's all our plans ruined. To make matters worse we all had gastroenteritis literally 2 weeks ago! I can't believe we've been hit by illness again so soon. DS went back to sleep after he was sick but I was up most of the night with Autistic DD (12) as she cannot handle people around her being sick, completely freaks her out, so the combination of that and knowing our plans would have to change sent her into a complete panic. I reckon I slept for about an hour and a half in the end. We were supposed to be going to PIL's today and to my side of the family tomorrow so we have nothing in for a Christmas lunch.
I'm doing my best to put on a happy face for the kids and I keep reminding myself people have much, much worse things to contend with but it's just a bit shit.

I think you’re absolutely right. Make this the very last Christmas he gets to spoil for you. Arsehole.

I think this will be the nicest post on Christmas this year.

I've got flu, or a good imitation of it, started yesterday evening as I came home from work. Luckily the children are old enough not to need too much doing.
Your post is just what I needed to read. Hope the day continues great for you.

My Df moans he doesn’t know what to buy people. He’s given me cash which I’m very greatful for, I gave him ideas for “small presents to open” as he wanted me to have something to unwrap. I’ve given him a list of ideas.

Ive had to smile and act being glad when it’s chocolate I’ve told him I didn’t want. Plus a clock for my bedroom when already got 2. He does this regularly.

That gives me rage. I have someone for Boxing Day with a nondairy. I have spent all week seeking out things for her to eat. I went to the local vegan cafe and got her chocolate brownie as I know she loves them and dairy free ice cream so she can have a special dessert while she is here. No one is sitting at my table with nothing to eat. I’m sorry.

The dc don't seem satisfied with their gifts this year, which are now all over the floor as if we have been ransacked. They are now complaining about what Santa forgot to bring them .

In the run up I'd asked dh several times what he would want and he never gave an answer. So he just got a little gift. He didn't ask me what I wanted and bought me a gift experience that I would have loved about 10 years ago when my situation was different but now it just seems like a chore. I feel like it is too late for that .

My neighbour has recently separated and her dc are at his this time for Christmas and I'm secretly rather envious.

My husband and I agreed to do stockings this year; just a few little bits for each other. I did one for him…he didn’t do one for me because “he didn’t get round to it”. I cried then he looked really sad and I ended up feeling guilty.

I'm hoping your DH's friend is single so that you can say to him "All I want for Xmas is a man like you"!

I feel really ungrateful but DH asked me a month or longer ago if there was anything I’d like, I sent him links to a few inexpensive things I would love but probably wouldn’t buy for myself. He got me a random book and said he’d left it too late to order the mug I’d asked for! It’s a book about London, we go to London maybe twice a year so no idea why he bought it for me! I got him everything he’d asked for plus a few surprises and something from the children! (I also asked for a beanie hat in a colour to match my coat which is now out of stock so I can’t even order it for myself). On the plus side he’s spent all morning building toys and playing with the children 🎅