How much do you spend on your adult kids of Chistmas

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I have an 18 year old and 22 year old and wondered what those of you with similar age children spend on presents for them?

This for us too. I’m really shocked at some of these figures. It’s insane.

People are different and have different budgets. I fail to see what’s shocking about that.

Around £50 for main present and £50 for the stockings (you only get stocking if you are at home w dad and I for Christmas)

It has changed some years there has been more if they have needed specific tec. Laptops and phones for example.

I have 3 adult DSC and my DD who is 9. We will spend approx £100-150 on the adult DC. I do spend a bit more on my DD with stocking etc but not significantly more and of course DSC will also get gifts from their mum too.

£100 cash/main present. About £50 bits. 20 and 23.

Our DDs are 22 & 21. I've spent a lot on experiences for them this year. I've taken them away to a European Christmas Market for 3 days, all expenses paid. Next week I'm taking them to the Mercatum Artisan Market at Haddon Hall followed by afternoon tea. Then I'm taking them to a Christmas bauble decorating workshop followed by a festive lunch.

On Christmas Day we're taking them out for lunch at a posh gastro-pub. I think I will have spent roughly £600 each on presents for them both? We're very privileged to be able to spend all this money on them, but it's only going to be for a few more years before they'll be super busy with their own children.

I have been getting about £300 from my parents for years.
In-laws just give me a token present but give us money throughout the year for big ticket items.

A 27 and an 18 year old. About £500 each this year

And lol at ‘really shocked’

we all have different budgets. What is shocking about 500 quid? For my eldest, that bought a kindle, an echo show and a coffee machine . Hardly an excess of extravagance

Well, I’m very well off and I am utterly amazed at some of these figures too!

I guess it depends on how adult and well off they are, but we only buy symbolic presents for ours - a book, a sweater, or something useful like biking gloves. And I mean just one present each Christmas, plus maybe a box of chocolates or a bottle of booze.

We focus more on hosting and family time at Christmas, and taking them to the Nutcracker or a play.

We put them through uni and helped with property deposits though. Also quite generous with our grandchildren, but mostly by funding their junior ISAs (for uni) rather than extravagant presents.

I think £500 is a lot tbh & not the norm amongst my peers, maybe because we are a bit older & out of touch?! I would say we have pretty privileged backgrounds too.

£0. No gifts for adults. Children only.

About £500 each.

I buy for my daughter throughout the year. Generally around a couple of thousand in various amounts for various things. No presents for adults at Christmas! Lots of food and love and laughs and time spent. But she's 34 FFS. Earns more than me!

Left home at 19...that was the end of Christmas and birthday gifts from my parents. 🙁

Mine too! Birthday and Christmas. My parents are still married to one another and each of their individual finanal salary pensions from professional careers are similar to my salary, my dad's a bit more, so they're well off for pensioners with no mortgage nor rent and no dependants - they give me £50, just as they always have (except for my 30th when they gave me a travel system because I was pregnant with my first baby - no present for myself).

My in-laws have always given me more than my parents although they are far less well off.

For a while I spent twice as much on my parents as they did on me, but realised after years that they didn't notice or appreciate the gifts so I put less thought and less money into their presents now and they don't appear to have noticed - I always send them something and I think it's just a token to them, they don't want to be forgotten but it's just a check box - sis we get anything from Rei? Yes, oh good, next...

We (DH and I) spend more on our own children at birthdays because they're about individual people specifically and about £100 per young adult on a main present or £100 into their bank at Christmas, plus about another £100 on small stuff.

I think it's family culture utterly unconnected to income.

I don’t think it’s the norm at all. I have a big frame of reference with friends and extended family from different socio-economic backgrounds and I don’t know any adult who gets £500 of Xmas gifts from their parents. Even those from privileged backgrounds who parents are bankrolling their holidays home improvements etc don’t get very expensive Christmas gifts.

That's understandable, but a completely different situation.

Have 3 still at home. £250 including about £50 on stockings. I always spend the same to the extent I’ll add the cash if one is coming up a bit short. It’s important to be fair and although my children are the loveliest I don’t want them feeling subliminally left out.
My main problem is what on earth to get them. They’re all working and buy their own stuff now. It’s a 3 month head scratcher every year. They’re not designer/ stuff oriented and have everything they need already.

If they are "not designer/ stuff oriented and have everything they need already", why not suggest you make a contribution to their preferred charities instead of spending "3 months head scratch(ing) every year" to figure out "what on earth to get them"?

About £300 which includes advent calendar.

My DM spends around £500 on me (only child) and £500 on my DD (only grandchild). I think a lot depends on how many you have to buy for. My stepDF meanwhile has 3 kids and 6 grandkids and so spends less per person (£50 for adults and £100 for kids maybe).

No set amount but this year I’ve bought my 23 year old DS a new coat (that he chose) which was £140 and a stocking full of decent non-tat things including nice Pyjamas which I spent about £160 on in total. So just over £300.

My parents spend around £70 on me and my adult brothers (in our 30s and 40s)

about £100 on my 18 year old (living at home, in school and no income due to complex SN). Not sure that qualifies as 'proper' adult though as not independent/not warning .