How much do you spend on your adult kids of Chistmas

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I have an 18 year old and 22 year old and wondered what those of you with similar age children spend on presents for them?

I have 5 of the buggers so try to cap it at 200 each, though i don't always succeed.

Now that we are "proper" adults with children of our own we usually all only buy for the children or we do a token gift such as £30 per adult. At the ages of 18 and 20 my mum was probably still spending £150-200 ish.

42 here my own parents give me nothing. if they come for dinner om Xmas day they also bring nothing. we do kindle on our family so will get something from someone in my side of my family. my husband is 48 and his mother will give him 300e cash ( she does to all three of her kids who are older than my husband) we also do kris kindle on his side of the family aswell. if she comes to dinner will be landen down with flowers cake and tea towels ( always comes with teas towels 🤣) I don't mind no present but nothing at all from my family annoys me especially when I see what my inlaws are like might not have much but are very generous

34 year old (and DIL) will get £150 and GC gets £100.
Younger son, 23 will get some aftershave as that is what he told me (£80)... ill bung him some money too. They are no fun, I swear if either of them gave me longer lists (or told me because I do speak to them)... id buy anything that was on it !! Nope, I'm not buying them stuff this year hoping that they will like it!!

My parents spend about £500 on each of their adult children and £100 ish on our partners. £100 each on grandchildren
My pil spend about £10 on each child/grandchild Maybe a fiver on me, and probably the same for the other dil.

My dad now only buys for the grand children, not me or my sister. My mum spends about £50 on my sister and me.

We might spend up to £50 for tangible presents on them, but at our stage in life (and theirs), it will be more like £1000 deposited into their bank accounts.

I give cash/presents around £100 each, both DC in their twenties. Eldest has her own children now so around the same on them.
I also do a Christmas basket for each of my daughters with nice bits and bobs such as fancy hot chocolate etc that they might not buy themselves. This was a compromise as I stopped the stockings when they moved out (they almost called childline)

Mine are early 20s
We spend £500 each

We aim for £150 each but it often sneaks up a bit. There are ten of them (5 DCs and partners) and they all get the same.

I have a 16 and 23 year old and I spend £250 on each of them. The 23 year old probably spends similar back on me and DH which is nice.

We stop giving presents in our family when anyone reaches 18. It feels pointless.

I’d be horrified if my parents or worse still PIL bought me anything.

Early 20’s, around £800 each. We can afford it and they are good kids who appreciate it

My mum spends about £50 on her 2 adult children, more on my sister who is much younger than us and is still a student. Probably about £30 for partners. She also has grandkids to buy for so has had to cut back, understandably!

Under 18s 200 plus some things to open, 18 to 21 they get 100 and a few bits over 21 they get 50, my eldest I buy a few bits from my granddaughter to her x

About £500 each but it absolutely depends on how much you can afford. We’ll have less money once husband retires next year so the amount spent on Christmas will be going down from next year.

My boys are 25 and 21, both live at home.
I give them £100 cash each and give them both a stocking worth about £100.

DH and I spend around £300 on each of our sons who are 34 and 30. The eldest doesn’t have a girlfriend but DS2’s fiancée will get around £240. We don’t have much to buy for family so £250 will cover the other presents.

They are 17, 22 and 25. About £250 each, plus about £75 on my son-in-law.

18 and 19-year-olds don't usually earn much, but need all sorts. So I don't get this?

Wow, I'm shocked at most of these responses. Mine are 21 and 24 and I spend £50 each. I'm a low earner and couldn't afford more

This year both sons have had around £200 and their gf around £100. Then they get a joint gift of £150 for a hotel stay/voucher so £450 per couple.

Wow, we are quite comfortable but £300-£500 is a huge amount to spend on adult children. Can I ask the people that give cash why they do that, does it not feel transactional, lacking in thought, and totally devoid of joy?

We'll just make a nice day of it but no presents as I'm trying to declutter the house, not add more tat.

DD is 18 and at uni, so no own income. I think her wishlist will come to around £250, half of that is a pair of boots.
Other parts will be books, some jewellery and make up.

We had more expensive years when tech was involved but I think she won't need an upgrade until end of uni and then we go from there.