Who do you wish could be with you this Christmas?

[NovemberMorn]

For me, my mother.
There will always be an empty space now around the Christmas table.
I would love just one more Christmas day for us to spend together.

Who (alive or dead) do you wish you could spend Christmas day with?

My Nan.
My friend.
Both long gone.

My grandad. RIP. I will always wish you could have met my DH.

My son

My best friend. She's not dead, she just lives a long way away and we have not spent a Christmas together in 25 years.

My Nanna, was looking through the last messages she sent me at Christmas time 2017 earlier. She went into hospital on NYE with sepsis and died on the 10th Jan 😢

My lovely DH who died two months ago. I'd give anything for another Christmas with him.

It's horrible when we lose loved ones over the Christmas period, so sorry for your loss. x

My Mum who died 2 months ago. She made Christmas for me.

Thinking of everyone at this time of year who has lost someone.

On a brighter note, I wouldn't mind Andy Garcia coming round for his Christmas dinner...I could always make room for him.

Too many to mention. My mum, my little brother, my 2nd parents who I spent every Christmas with growing up. If I could only choose one though it would be my sil who died suddenly 3 weeks ago, because I don’t know how my brother and their kids will get through this one without her.

My dog. I understand unconditional love because of him. I’ll never get over losing him.

Ditto for me

Our children and my MIL. We’ll see the children between 28th and 2nd Jan when they come for Christmas/New Year but Christmas Day just isn’t the same without them, DH & I are making new traditions now. I would never tell them this but we miss them terribly. The funny thing is it was me who was encouraging them to do their own thing and not give a second thought to us, I’d hate them to have to finish work and make a 4 hour journey to get to us on 23rd/24th and would never put guilt on our children to have to spend Christmas with us. I’m really missing my MIL this year though, she died last year and had spent every Christmas with us. We used to cook dinner together and I still can’t face cooking Christmas dinner without her here.

Oh without any doubt my absolutely adored mother. She died in 2021 and I miss her every day. Others too I would so love to see again; beloved grandparents and aunts and uncles and friends. But my mum, yes above all, I’d give anything for just 5 minutes more with her.

My partner and father of my children. He has been dead for many years now but never a day goes past that I don't think about him or speak to him. He has missed his daughters grow up, and all of our grandbabies 😢
I hope you can see us up there. I know you would be so proud of your girls 

My sister. She lives on the other side of the world and she made my childhood.
she was basically my second mom.

also, my great grandad. Lost him 10 years this December.

I’d love to spend my Christmas with my family - back 10 years ago where we were all together and I wasn’t married into a family where in-laws get jealous if I spend time with my family.

My nan, grandad, gran and my in laws

My mum and dad. I wish they were still here to see what an awesome young woman my daughter has become despite all the obstacles life has thrown at her. They loved my girl so much and would be so proud of her. They got such a relatively short period of time to know her before they died. I’d love to have them here this Christmas.

My grandad.

My mumma who died when I was two.

My lovely mum. She died last year, only 69. Cancer. She loved Christmas, always made such an effort, thoughtful gifts, stockings. She has two little granddaughters who she doted on and she loved seeing them at Christmas. She was the best gran.

I will have a little cry on Christmas Day at some point as I think of her, but not for too long as our Christmases were always so happy and I will try to channel that.

I dream sometimes about being on sort of a game show; some versions of it, and you get to have 5 minutes more with a deceased loved one (maybe courtesy of Elon Musk?!) if you win. It’s so stressful and I always get to the final. But never win. I so long for just a few minutes more with my DM. Sorry, OP I think maybe this was a bit more emotional than you had intended by way of response.

Merry Christmas to all. And to those missing loved ones I hope you find peace.

My parents as they used to be, before they developed dementia, and my late grandparents.

@doodleschnoodle your lovely mum sounds very similar to mine. Especially about making such an effort at Christmas and doting on her grand daughters. I shall probably have a little cry like you but then channel my mum’s relentless positivity and get on with enjoying a lovely day with my beautiful daughter. I feel very lucky to have had her as my mum

❤️ Here's to our lovely mums