If you spend Christmas alone what do you do for yourself?

[Twatalert]

I go first: I bought a winter landscape 1000 jigsaw and THREE kinder chocolate santas. I will make beef stew for myself with dumplings.

Also just had the idea to run myself my first bath in ages.

I'm estranged from abusive family and this is my 2nd Christmas alone, not including COVID Christmasses.

Exactly. Whilst she doesn’t explicitly ask for recommendations, it definitely wasn’t clear by the first post that she’d be so offended by them.

Its a shame really when people try and give a friendly suggestion and are a dick in their reply. Totally uncalled for.

@EmmyPankhurst I am in between. Because of my dysfunctional family Christmas is of course loaded with all sorts of emotional baggage. But I don't actually know if I wouldn't want to spend it alone. I quite like living into the day, not having to get ready to be somewhere etc. But it probably all depends on the company.

Good on you for standing you ground and spend it the way you want to!

No wonder you’re spending Christmas alone if you’re that rude.

@namethisbird @Goditsbad

You both said what I was thinking and didn’t want to write. 😂

Yes- after reading her username i think she may be not genuine! I felt sorry for that lovely poster giving her an idea and caring enough to respond - a lot of people would have been very grateful for that advice.

This thread is getting to be a pile-on in record time, @Twatalert hope it can be salvaged but prepare for a derail into anything other than 'if you are spending Christmas alone what do you do for yourself '!

@Abcdefghijklmh @Kibble29 @Goditsbad @namethisbird I spend it alone because I come from a family who would say the things you said and display double standards galore, just like you. And I'm glad for it, but how would you know. I don't get a sense at all that you have any idea whatsoever what this is about.

Would you say that to someone’s face if they made a recommendation you hadn’t asked for? I think you need to apologise to @Hohofortherobbers for that, it was pure nastiness.

@Pudmyboy yes you are right. I was looking forward to learn what others who are in the same boat are doing. There have been some lovely replies and I'm quite happy people have shared that here. I wished this thread could have gone on a bit longer in good spirit, but it was to be short lived and that's ok.

Jeez, stop bullying the OP. She’s not being rude, just saying she doesn’t want recommendations from people who haven’t been there. You sound like a bunch of mean girl bullies. Embarrassing.

You literally asked what do people get up to when on their own and then got snarky when people gave their suggestions!

Did you not read the OPs 2nd message?

@Justcallmebebes no, I was looking to connect with people in the same boat. I was curious about other people's plans for the Christmas period. You just made it blatantly clear that you are not in that boat.

She could have said it in a politer way. I have no issue at all with the OP not wanting recommendations, that is totally up to her but her response to that poster was rude and uncalled for.

@Justcallmebebes no, she asked what do people do at Christmas when they’re on their own. The first poster said she hadn’t been on her own but suggested park run. At which point the OP asked her to leave the thread. Slightly bluntly but fair enough as she wasn’t speaking from experience of being on her own at Christmas.

Double standards galore? Why were your family calling out your unnecessary rudeness??

Also where are the double standards in any of the posts. The only thing that stands out is your awful uncalled for replies 😊

@Ihatemondays1962 are you going to call out ALL rude comments or just the one?

@Ihatemondays1962 yes maybe, but it’s an emotional time for her I’m sure, so give her a bit of grace. The pile on that “no wonder she was on her own” was mean and uncalled for.

Exactly they’re absolutely awful! Especially the comments about “that’s why she’s alone”

Again your comment seems unnecessarily aggressive for some reason.

I was making direct responses to other people who had commented on your rudeness so that is why my comments relate only to what you have said.

Well, so far 13 people found my 2nd post hilarious. It far outweighs the Mumsnet police nightshift. 😘

lol!

I sometimes spend Christmas with close friends , which is great. Last year I took the train down and stayed with one of my uni besties and his wife and kids. He is a very old friend and I also know his family well (siblings, parents etc) who live in another country so I am kind of a family friend.

However, this year I’ve decided to just stay in alone partly because they (and most of my other friends) live in another part of the country. I don’t drive so if I went to theirs for Christmas again, I’d have to stay for a few days and I’d rather just spend this week off work at home sorting some stuff out.

I have some freelance work deadlines coming up, so I’ll probably do some of that on the 25th, bake a cake to go with the ice cream I got today and read, watch and eat anything I fancy!

Also I’ll start the day by sticking on some of my favourite tunes and dancing and doing some deep breathing exercises and journaling. Possibly do some goal setting/vision boarding type stuff for 2025. Might get on my Walking pad throughout the day too.

Because although I’ve chosen to spend it alone sometimes this time of year in general can be tough. I’m also no/low contact from most of my dysfunctional family. So I try and do things which are good for my mental health.

I’m hoping to pass my driving test next year and that will give me more flexibility regarding how/where I spend Christmas Day.

I’m not alone and never have been, but I’ve thought about what I’d do.
I’m not offering advice, but it’s something I’ve thought about as it’ll happen sooner or later.
I’ll watch watership down and the snowman (they were on every year when I was young), have smoked salmon and scrambled egg for breakfast. Go for a walk somewhere isolated. Light candles. Doze in front of the fire with the cats.Have a Baileys and a Christmas sandwich. Have a long bath. Put on cosy clothes or pyjamas I’ve bought myself as a treat and start a new book I’ve bought myself. Probably WhatsApp a few friends